Guest guest Posted June 12, 2006 Report Share Posted June 12, 2006 Hi, welcome to the group. My daughter raged, rarely does now but keeps it more in check. I guess I would be worried too, after she has the babies her hormones are going to go whacko and could really affect her depression. Will she even talk about this? Is she seeing a doctor throughout the pregancy. It is something her doctor should know about. I've been there, it's ugly. It seems that this is all out of your hands, but not out of your heart. That's the hard part. Keep up with this group, they are a Godsend. nlslovesme nlslovesme@...> wrote: Hello Jean, It is all a very long story but I will try to keep it as short as possible. Just over a year and a half ago, 's school counselor (we attend church with him so we know him really well) called my husband at work and informed him that had been cutting herself. When my husband called and told me, I had no idea what he was talking about. I had never heard of someone cutting themselves. We both took off work and went and picked her up from school. When we got home, I started calling around trying to find someone...anyone...to get her in to see about it. I finally reached someone at a crisis center and we were told to bring her in right away. We got there and we were talked to and then she was talked to then the counselor told us that she was severly depressed and they were advising she be admitted to a hospital for treatment. We were given several choices of hospitals in larger cities to take her to. We picked one and off we went. She was admitted that night and stayed for a week. Before she could be released, we had to have an appointment with a therapist and a doctor that could treat her. She was seeing the therapist and really making progress until this guy stepped into the picture (by the way, he was 19 at the time and is 20 now). To answer your question, yes, she has been physical with my husband (kicking, hitting, etc). There were several times that I almost called the sheriffs department to have them come pick her up, but my pride wouldn't let me. She has always been closer to her dad than to me. I have always been the one to take her verbal abuse and now I find myself afraid to even try to contact her...I let my husband get in touch with her for me. Believe me, I have tried to reach out to her, but... She does not work and he works part-time making $6.50 an hour. They buy stuff like they have nothing else to spend the money on. Their phone has been cut off yet they can afford to buy an entertainment center. They can't afford to run the air conditioner (we live in a HOT southern state)yet they can afford to have Direct TV hooked up. It goes on and on. Donna > > Donna > > Welcome to our group. I am sure you will find comfort and support here. > > How old is the guy who your daughter is living with? Are they both working? > Have they both completed high school, GED? > > She seems excited about the baby. Why do you think she will be abusive? > Plenty of kids have babies even younger than your daughter and put their lives > back together. If she is not asking for help from you, it would appear she > is showing some signs of taking responsibility. > > What was she doing that you made her see a therapist? Was she abusive to you > or your husband? > > Jean > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 12, 2006 Report Share Posted June 12, 2006 She is seeing a doctor with her pregnancy but not with the depression. She was seeing a child psychiatrist but when she left our home, back in January, she has not been back to him...or her therapist. She was on medication before she left but she said that it didn't help. We could sure see a difference when she wasn't taking it. In fact, we knew when she had stopped taking it just by the way she acted towards us. I really don't know what all she has told her doctor. I can't find out because of the doctor/patient confidentiality. It is all so frustrating. I feel like we run into a brick wall with every turn we make. Donna Jamal Jilao somalitamale@...> wrote: Hi, welcome to the group. My daughter raged, rarely does now but keeps it more in check. I guess I would be worried too, after she has the babies her hormones are going to go whacko and could really affect her depression. Will she even talk about this? Is she seeing a doctor throughout the pregancy. It is something her doctor should know about. I've been there, it's ugly. It seems that this is all out of your hands, but not out of your heart. That's the hard part. Keep up with this group, they are a Godsend. nlslovesme nlslovesme@...> wrote: Hello Jean, It is all a very long story but I will try to keep it as short as possible. Just over a year and a half ago, 's school counselor (we attend church with him so we know him really well) called my husband at work and informed him that had been cutting herself. When my husband called and told me, I had no idea what he was talking about. I had never heard of someone cutting themselves. We both took off work and went and picked her up from school. When we got home, I started calling around trying to find someone...anyone...to get her in to see about it. I finally reached someone at a crisis center and we were told to bring her in right away. We got there and we were talked to and then she was talked to then the counselor told us that she was severly depressed and they were advising she be admitted to a hospital for treatment. We were given several choices of hospitals in larger cities to take her to. We picked one and off we went. She was admitted that night and stayed for a week. Before she could be released, we had to have an appointment with a therapist and a doctor that could treat her. She was seeing the therapist and really making progress until this guy stepped into the picture (by the way, he was 19 at the time and is 20 now). To answer your question, yes, she has been physical with my husband (kicking, hitting, etc). There were several times that I almost called the sheriffs department to have them come pick her up, but my pride wouldn't let me. She has always been closer to her dad than to me. I have always been the one to take her verbal abuse and now I find myself afraid to even try to contact her...I let my husband get in touch with her for me. Believe me, I have tried to reach out to her, but... She does not work and he works part-time making $6.50 an hour. They buy stuff like they have nothing else to spend the money on. Their phone has been cut off yet they can afford to buy an entertainment center. They can't afford to run the air conditioner (we live in a HOT southern state)yet they can afford to have Direct TV hooked up. It goes on and on. Donna > > Donna > > Welcome to our group. I am sure you will find comfort and support here. > > How old is the guy who your daughter is living with? Are they both working? > Have they both completed high school, GED? > > She seems excited about the baby. Why do you think she will be abusive? > Plenty of kids have babies even younger than your daughter and put their lives > back together. If she is not asking for help from you, it would appear she > is showing some signs of taking responsibility. > > What was she doing that you made her see a therapist? Was she abusive to you > or your husband? > > Jean > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 12, 2006 Report Share Posted June 12, 2006 >...I let my > husband get in touch with her for me. Believe me, I > have tried to > reach out to her, but... Hi Donna, What a difficult situation! And complicated with a pregnancy to boot. I haven't had quite this situation to deal with, but I did want to say that it is NOT a cop-out to have your husband doing the contacting. We've done this, too. After years and years of grief and fighting, my husband finally took over the communications with our daughter. We are doing much better these days, and she is delighted to have communication going with both of us--so it really did pay off in the end. It forced my husband into having more direct contact with her, which she has really appreciated. Not to mention that I really needed it! While your husband is handling that, you take care of yourself. I am praying for you all and for the baby, too! Deborah __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 29, 2006 Report Share Posted December 29, 2006 1. Name: Carol Guyer 2. City and state: Lowell MI 3. Are you a Southern California resident? No 4. Would you like to be added to our in person luncheon guest list? No 3. Email address:carol-guyer@... 4. Obesity Help Profile name and/or OH URL: 5. Are you: Considering Surgery, Pre Op or Post Op Between Considering and pre op 6. Date of WLS: unknown at this time 7. Surgeon's Name: Dr Foote 8. Type of Surgery: Unknown at this time 9. Highest Pre Surgery Weight: 330 10. Insurance or self pay: Insurance 11. What is the name of your insurance company that covered your WLS: BCBS and Medicare 12.Birthdate: 07/21/1951 13.Occupation:diabled 14.Hobbies:llamas, goats, sheep, and fiber arts like spinning, weaving and carding my own fiber 15.Anything you would like the other members to know about you? Iwork in Llama rescue I am a member of the SELR. I have a broken back Please feel free to omit any information you don't wish to share. Your privacy is respected! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2006 Report Share Posted December 30, 2006 LOWELL? That's only 20 miles from where I live and 10 miles from where I work! Ah yes, Dr. Foote at MMPC! I had Dr. Kemmeter at MMPC. Looks like we have a lot in common Carol. Let me know if you have any MMPC questions. So far they've been pretty awesome for/with me. I had my surgery Jan 20, 2006. A broken back? Ouch, that can't be fun. Your a bit older than I am (38) but I can try to relate things in a general sense and maybe give some ideas that you can alter a bit to fit your unique situation. I'll bet you might have a daughter in her late 20s or early 30s though right? I'm such a dog!! Seriously though if you ever need a Costco shopping trip or want someone to visit you at Spectrum Health's Blodgett campus if you decide to have surgery I'll be happy to help out. Heck I can even walk or bike from Heritage Hill to Blodgett Hospital now. If you wait until summer I'll try jogging it. I love goat cheese. Do you make it? Mike in GR (NEIGHBORS!) > > 1. Name: Carol Guyer > > 2. City and state: Lowell MI > > 3. Are you a Southern California resident? No > > 4. Would you like to be added to our in person luncheon guest list? No > > 3. Email address:carol-guyer@... > > 4. Obesity Help Profile name and/or OH URL: > > 5. Are you: Considering Surgery, Pre Op or Post Op Between > Considering and pre op > > 6. Date of WLS: unknown at this time > > 7. Surgeon's Name: Dr Foote > > 8. Type of Surgery: Unknown at this time > > 9. Highest Pre Surgery Weight: 330 > > 10. Insurance or self pay: Insurance > > 11. What is the name of your insurance company that covered your WLS: > BCBS and Medicare > > 12.Birthdate: 07/21/1951 > > 13.Occupation:diabled > > 14.Hobbies:llamas, goats, sheep, and fiber arts like spinning, > weaving and carding my own fiber > > 15.Anything you would like the other members to know about you? Iwork > in Llama rescue I am a member of the SELR. I have a broken back > > Please feel free to omit any information you don't wish to share. > Your privacy is respected! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2006 Report Share Posted December 30, 2006 Mike, you're such a dog! What a lucky guess. Watch out Carol. Mike loves to sweet talk the girls around here. in MI (Howell) > > WOW thank you Mike > > Yes I have a daughter that will be 27 next month.. Her name is Trisha and she has a twin named .. > This is an awesome group. > > How did you know I had a daughter? She is such a wonderful lady NOW but when she was younger she was a pain in my butt. :0) > Thank you for your wonderful note .. > > I have so many questions about this whole WLS thing but I have alot of support.. I am lucky there.. > All my friends, our church members , and my family are behind me but is it id nice to know there are more people out there to help me through this whole thing > > Thank you > Carol > Re: hello > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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