Guest guest Posted January 5, 2006 Report Share Posted January 5, 2006 PJ I tend to agree with Deborah in that the little 5 yr old who destroyed your puzzle is going to have some problems. I don't think he is necessarily a delinquent in the making just yet, but if the parents don't set some boundaries for him and help him to learn right from wrong, he will be a miserable adult. You know the parents---do you think they tend to spoil him and let him get away with unacceptable things? I tried to think if or ever acted that way and the only thing close was when was in a mood and he deliberately broke one of 's action figures. cried about it and then said he was not mad at anymore. maintained it was an " accident " , but I saw his face when he did it and it was NO accident. At the time, I sent him to his room for a time out and then went upstairs to talk to him and he was still not particularly remorseful. So, I took one of his favorite stuffed animals and asked him if it would be OK if I ripped one of it's ears off. He was shocked that I would even ssuggest such a thing. I asked him how he would feel if I did that to his pig and he said he would feel very sad and awful. I asked him how he thought felt when he did that to 's spider man. He got the point loud and clear. He has never done anything to deliberately destroy his brother's things since then. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2006 Report Share Posted January 5, 2006 It's a mess. The mom comes from a family where both parents abused her. Her mom is insane, but has a PhD in psychology - what a joke. Tonight the mom is in the hospital because of DVTs that went to her lungs but now she keeps overdosing on pain meds. Yes, this child is in a pecarious situation. I am talking with the husband to get her in Rehab so she doesn't die. For those who pray this mom could use your prayers. PJ PJ I tend to agree with Deborah in that the little 5 yr old who destroyed your puzzle is going to have some problems. I don't think he is necessarily a delinquent in the making just yet, but if the parents don't set some boundaries for him and help him to learn right from wrong, he will be a miserable adult. You know the parents---do you think they tend to spoil him and let him get away with unacceptable things? I tried to think if or ever acted that way and the only thing close was when was in a mood and he deliberately broke one of 's action figures. cried about it and then said he was not mad at anymore. maintained it was an " accident " , but I saw his face when he did it and it was NO accident. At the time, I sent him to his room for a time out and then went upstairs to talk to him and he was still not particularly remorseful. So, I took one of his favorite stuffed animals and asked him if it would be OK if I ripped one of it's ears off. He was shocked that I would even ssuggest such a thing. I asked him how he would feel if I did that to his pig and he said he would feel very sad and awful. I asked him how he thought felt when he did that to 's spider man. He got the point loud and clear. He has never done anything to deliberately destroy his brother's things since then. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2006 Report Share Posted January 6, 2006 Jean, I agree with you -- boundaries for kids are so important. I am pleased with how far you've come dealing with Kirsten and your grandboys. They sound like fine boys. Your son being a role model for them is critical. I am disturbed that my daughter is not setting boundaries for my granddaughter. I worry about her behavior sometimes. If and when they move back near us, I will have to start the teaching process all over again. When she was 2 and they lived with us, it took over 2 months for her behavior to become acceptable in our home. I feel for her. Unfortunately, she doesn't know what she lacks, Carol -------------- Original message -------------- From: cascorsam@... > PJ > > I tend to agree with Deborah in that the little 5 yr old who destroyed your > puzzle is going to have some problems. I don't think he is necessarily a > delinquent in the making just yet, but if the parents don't set some boundaries > for him and help him to learn right from wrong, he will be a miserable adult. > > You know the parents---do you think they tend to spoil him and let him get > away with unacceptable things? > > I tried to think if or ever acted that way and the only > thing close was when was in a mood and he deliberately broke one of > 's action figures. cried about it and then said he was not mad at > anymore. maintained it was an " accident " , but I saw his > face when he did it and it was NO accident. At the time, I sent him to his > room for a time out and then went upstairs to talk to him and he was still not > particularly remorseful. So, I took one of his favorite stuffed animals and > asked him if it would be OK if I ripped one of it's ears off. He was shocked > that I would even ssuggest such a thing. I asked him how he would feel if I > did that to his pig and he said he would feel very sad and awful. I asked > him how he thought felt when he did that to 's spider man. He got > the point loud and clear. He has never done anything to deliberately > destroy his brother's things since then. > > Jean > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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