What a roller coaster ride!

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Here is the update on my daughter:

Yesterday Liz called on the phone, and told us that she had her gallbladder

removed this week, on Wed. She is taking pain meds, so she is feeling

chirpy. When I asked how things were with her husband, she said they are

friends, and he goes over often, so things are good. It seems to me that she

did her usual thing of blowing her top off big, having a spectacular fit,

and now that he is on the bad end of things, she is doing fine. I remember

her high school counselor telling us that is her mechanism for getting rid

of her bad feelings: dump them on someone else, create a crisis that they

have to take care of, and then you are fine. You gave somebody else your

garbage, and they get to deal with it. I wish I could convince him to see a

counselor. I gave him a phone number, but I doubt he will do that. She will

convince him that she is sorry and this will never happen again, that it was

just because of the physical pain of her gallstones, and he will be back.

We'll see. Especially when she gets a full time job, she will need 's

help, so she will just convince him to come back.

Life is a challenge - and we refuse to get on her roller coaster rides. I

really don't know how to answer the question " how is she? " because she is

such a roller coaster and drama queen combined.

I remember when she was in high school she would get in deep trouble, we'd

have a major scene, she would be disciplined about it, and then she would be

incredibly sweet for a while. Then I would think there was light at the end

of the tunnel and be encouraged - until the next crisis hit, even bigger

then the last one. I am so sorry for !

Helen

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From: WTOParentsOfBPs

[mailto:WTOParentsOfBPs ] On Behalf Of Helen Eby

Sent: Thursday, March 30, 2006 1:16 PM

To: WTOParentsOfBPs

Subject: After a few months of no excitement, things start

up again for us.

I got a phone call from my son in law today. He told me that our daughter is

kicking him out. She wants to lead a promiscuous lifestyle, and doesn't want

to be limited by marriage. The fact that they have a little boy (3 years

old) doesn't seem to matter.

Back in October or so she had taken him to court for abuse and got a

restraining order. I saw what she wrote, and it was just rantings on

official paper. At that point, she kicked him out and he said he would never

set foot there again. Well, a few weeks later they kissed and made up, and

she had the court order rescinded. Now she just says she wants him out

because she wants to be " free " .

When she got the R.O., she got signed up for a class through the welfare

dept, so she is taking a secretarial skills course, and she is supposed to

start looking for a job soon. Through this she met other guys, and that is

what is getting her going.

I am sure I will get a phone call from our daughter today, and she will play

victim and tell us how bad her situation is.

By the way, she also has gallstones, and they plan to do surgery on her. The

interesting is a few weeks ago she was taken to the emergency room, and when

they didn't get to her soon enough she just stormed out of there and left.

Her rages seem to be pretty real at this point. I guess she will tell us how

ill she is. Her husband tells us that the gallstones give her pain once in a

while, every few weeks, when she eats very high in fat foods.

Oh, well, it should be interesting in the next week. I guess our line will

be the same as usual:

- Oh, really?

That's intersting, L.

Sorry, but I can't give you a ride. Can you walk or take the bus?

Hmmm....

That's about what my input is limited to on the phone.

At least our younger kids are doing well. I just went on a long bike ride

with them as part of their PE for homeschooling, and they were fun!

I'm sorry for our grandkid. says he will bring him over for us to see

him. That will be good.

Helen