Re: Re: Miserable childhood

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In a message dated 1/19/2006 6:11:37 PM Eastern Standard Time,

minamimuki2004@... writes:

Another thing that is truly painful is that she can't

remember any of the good stuff from her childhood. As

far as she is concerned she had a lousy childhood in

every aspect.

Deborah,

My daughter too at one time could not remember anything from her

childhood. Like there was a block to the past. Mind you, they can't remember

five

minutes ago the rage they caused or what caused it. The past to them is

whatever

bad that recently happened to them to blame for why they are feeling so

miserable. So they won't remember the past. But time will heal that, my

daughter

now concedes she did not have a bad childhood, and remembers all the good

times now. She will get better, don't give up hope.

What combo of meds did he put her on?

DebbieL

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My daughter and son are 2 years apart in age. To this day, my son always

tells me what a great childhood he had and he tells my grandsons that they

should enjoy being kids because I am trying to give the same type of childhood

to

them as what he and his sister had. Yet my daughter, on the other hand,

when she firest started going thru this, always said she had a miserable

childhood. But she now concedes that she too had a great childhood, it just

got

" sucky " for her as a teenager because I was very strict. But she maintains

that

she will not allow the boys to do the same things I didn't allow her to do

when they are teenagers. For instance, she doesn't want them sleeping over at

their friends' houses unless she knows the parents very well. That was one

of my rules for my kids. And there are other things she has said that

indicate that what I did with her, is what she is planning on doing with her

kids

when they are teenagers. GO FIGURE.

Jean

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In a message dated 1/20/2006 2:11:28 PM Eastern Standard Time,

cascorsam@... writes:

And there are other things she has said that

indicate that what I did with her, is what she is planning on doing with her

kids

when they are teenagers. GO FIGURE.

Jean

Funny how mom knows best! They never understand our intentions until they

become mothers themselves.

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In a message dated 1/20/2006 3:18:20 PM Eastern Standard Time,

kerk0522@... writes:

She won't be coming back to live with us (very long story) but she had

completely forgotten about her behavior on Sunday when she was speaking with her

dad

this past Wednesday

night.

I just find that bizarre.

Kelley C.

Kelley,

They don't remember anything. My daughter was the same way, except of

course, when it was me or hubby or someone else that did the bad, THEN she

remembers. But she won't remember the bad behavior she expressed herself. But

now,

she remembers everything.

And during her bad time, would yell and scream at me if I said I didn't

recall her telling me something she adamantly states she told me. I would

always

be sure that she hadn't told me, but she would say she couldn't believe I

didn't remember. Funny how it all worked.

I'm sure she had intended telling me, or maybe told someone else thinking she

told me.

But I would not normally forget anything she said. In some instances, later

on she would say she was wrong and remember NOT telling me.

They are in their own little world. I don't think there is any feasible way

that you or I could possibly know what they are feeling or thinking. They

live in the present, act in the present.

And not remember what you told them five minutes ago, let alone their entire

childhood. This is why I did the contract, so that it was written loud and

clear and in black and white, so there was no cause for excuse.

Hope you have a better weekend.

Your Cyber Sis

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Hey Sis --

Do they really not remember or is a coping mechanism for them or what? My

sdtr does this and it drives me absolutely crazy. We had an incident this past

Sunday -- we were going to church and she had to go with us b/c we don't leave

her at the house alone b/c we don't trust her. She was spouting her mother's

beliefs about church (all they care about is taking your money and how you look)

and she didn't want to go and threw a fit like a 4-yr. old. I told her to get

back into the car and I was taking her back to her mothers b/c I wasn't going to

tolerate her behavior. And that's exactly what I did. This is a very

abbreviated version of the things that she said and how she acted. It was very

hurtful to her dad, who had just gotten out of the hospital 4 days previously

from a pretty extensive hand surgery. She won't be coming back to live with us

(very long story) but she had completely forgotten about her behavior on Sunday

when she was speaking with her dad this past Wednesday

night.

I just find that bizarre.

Kelley C.

funnygirl1154@... wrote:

In a message dated 1/19/2006 6:11:37 PM Eastern Standard Time,

minamimuki2004@... writes:

Another thing that is truly painful is that she can't

remember any of the good stuff from her childhood. As

far as she is concerned she had a lousy childhood in

every aspect.

Deborah,

My daughter too at one time could not remember anything from her

childhood. Like there was a block to the past. Mind you, they can't remember

five

minutes ago the rage they caused or what caused it. The past to them is

whatever

bad that recently happened to them to blame for why they are feeling so

miserable. So they won't remember the past. But time will heal that, my

daughter

now concedes she did not have a bad childhood, and remembers all the good

times now. She will get better, don't give up hope.

What combo of meds did he put her on?

DebbieL

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Dear Debbie,

Thank you for that!! I'll tell my husband, he'll be

thrilled. I don't have the list of meds, but some are

for epilepsy as mentioned in SWOE.

Deborah

> my daughter

> now concedes she did not have a bad childhood, and

> remembers all the good

> times now. She will get better, don't give up hope.

> What combo of meds did he put her on?

>

> DebbieL

>

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>

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My grandsons did not want to go home today. The older one made a stink

about having to go back to his house and he did this infront of his mother.

She

said she was renting him Spider Man 2 and my older grandson said he was sick

of Spider Man 2, becuase my son bought it for him last August for his

Birthday and has watched it many many times here at my house. But Will

had

wanted this particular movie (because he too has the mental capacity of an 8

yr old). SO she couldn't understand why my grandson was not happy with her

renting this movie. SHe in turn got mad at me cause she says I spoil them.

And that now that she has no money to buy them everything they want, they don't

like her and the soap opera went on and on.

If a child has seen a movie numerous times WHY would one expect him to be

excited over seeing it yet again? I could understand 't point of view.

I told him that Mommy was trying to do something nice for him so to please

not hurt her feelings. (In reality I am sure she didn't give a damn what he

thought as long as hubby was happy). I really wish she could be an adult as

well as the child she is married to.

I just don't wat her feeling threatened by me and my son and preventing me

from taking the boys. God knows it could never be anything wrong she does.

Also, the boys have both told me their mother never just talks to them like

people and my son and I always " talk " with the boys. I would rather be here

than with my daughter too if I were the boys. Actually, she is probably pretty

well matched with her husband because both their emotional and sometmes I

think intellectual IQ's are that of a child.

Jean

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Jean,

The good things we taught them are there! That's always encouraging.

Carol

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From: cascorsam@...

> My daughter and son are 2 years apart in age. To this day, my son always

> tells me what a great childhood he had and he tells my grandsons that they

> should enjoy being kids because I am trying to give the same type of childhood

> to

> them as what he and his sister had. Yet my daughter, on the other hand,

> when she firest started going thru this, always said she had a miserable

> childhood. But she now concedes that she too had a great childhood, it just

> got

> " sucky " for her as a teenager because I was very strict. But she maintains

> that

> she will not allow the boys to do the same things I didn't allow her to do

> when they are teenagers. For instance, she doesn't want them sleeping over at

> their friends' houses unless she knows the parents very well. That was one

> of my rules for my kids. And there are other things she has said that

> indicate that what I did with her, is what she is planning on doing with her

> kids

> when they are teenagers. GO FIGURE.

>

> Jean

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Jean,

I've said before...I'm convinced she showed her anger

to you mainly because you were the safe person to show

it too.

Keep observing those clues...and smile when you see

more of them.

--- cascorsam@... wrote:

> My daughter and son are 2 years apart in age. To

> this day, my son always

> tells me what a great childhood he had and he tells

> my grandsons that they

> should enjoy being kids because I am trying to give

> the same type of childhood to

> them as what he and his sister had. Yet my

> daughter, on the other hand,

> when she firest started going thru this, always said

> she had a miserable

> childhood. But she now concedes that she too had a

> great childhood, it just got

> " sucky " for her as a teenager because I was very

> strict. But she maintains that

> she will not allow the boys to do the same things I

> didn't allow her to do

> when they are teenagers. For instance, she doesn't

> want them sleeping over at

> their friends' houses unless she knows the parents

> very well. That was one

> of my rules for my kids. And there are other

> things she has said that

> indicate that what I did with her, is what she is

> planning on doing with her kids

> when they are teenagers. GO FIGURE.

>

> Jean

>

>

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