Guest guest Posted December 24, 2006 Report Share Posted December 24, 2006 I don't consider this a diet. You are exactly right, it's a lifestyle change. Hard to get through to people that are just so ignorant. Molly > > well there is this person every time he see s me. he says how s your > diet going are ya sticking to it. he knows i had surgury.. i do not > call this a diet.. it was a life change to me..a way to lose weight. i > reply i,m not on a diet.. do you guys consider it a diet? or am i being > to picky or defensive? c ya donna > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 24, 2006 Report Share Posted December 24, 2006 I think the answer to this question is yes and no. We are on a " diet " so to sopeak at first until we get the weight off. Then afterwards, we don't necessarily " diet " we have by then had a change in our lifestyles where we may eat whatever we want, but we do it with a different mindset......say for instance you want a cookie, ok eat one, but not the whole package. You want pizza, ok, have a piece, but not the whole pizza (like I used to do). Yes, we have to stay away from those things at first so we can get all the weight off we want off and then after we can SLOWLY get back to eating normal things, not for the love of food, but to maintain our goal weight, cause we do want to eventually stop losing. So yes we are dieting, but we aren't on a " diet " ....does that make any sense? H. > > well there is this person every time he see s me. he says how s your > diet going are ya sticking to it. he knows i had surgury.. i do not > call this a diet.. it was a life change to me..a way to lose weight. i > reply i,m not on a diet.. do you guys consider it a diet? or am i being > to picky or defensive? c ya donna > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 24, 2006 Report Share Posted December 24, 2006 Donna, no it is not a diet. It is a complete life over haul, and anyone who has had the surgery knows that information. For the rest of the world, you do not owe anyone an explanation of your diet. I am amazed by the fact that people think they have a right to question WLS people about their diets, and yet I can remember when I was putting down four to six slices of pizza at one setting, and NO ONE said anything to me about it. I guess, if you want to respond, I would tell this person that You work very hard, and you have completely changed your lifestyle... do not be shy to point out this is not the " easy " way out and you have committed yourself to healthy eating and living which includes a balanced diet and plenty of exercise. If it bothers you about this person, I would politely explain the above and then tell that person that this is the last time you will be discussing this issue with them as it is a boundary, and he does not have the right to question you about it. You have the right to reserve your own privacy. Do not feel bad about not wanting to explain your whole life away to people... take care lisamathis Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 24, 2006 Report Share Posted December 24, 2006 Hi Donna, It's NOT a diet! It's a life-altering way you have to eat. Not hardly a diet, though " we " have to eat a different way.....this is forever! Hugs, Cathy > > well there is this person every time he see s me. he says how s your > diet going are ya sticking to it. he knows i had surgury.. i do not > call this a diet.. it was a life change to me..a way to lose weight. i > reply i,m not on a diet.. do you guys consider it a diet? or am i being > to picky or defensive? c ya donna > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 24, 2006 Report Share Posted December 24, 2006 Technically diet means more than one thing. It can be regulated eating but it can also mean simply WHAT you, a group, everyone else eats. I would say though, that what this person thinks it to be, isn't what you think it is. Dieting alone rarely works. Exercise alone too helps but doesn't work long term without diet. It's a total package. If you're sitting down with this guy all casual like and it's part of the converstation then you can explain your thoughts. But don't do it from the standpoint that he's wrong or ignorant just tell him that is how you view it and that when he asks about diet in the future you're going to assume he really would be saying, " How's EVERYTHING going? " Mike in GR > > well there is this person every time he see s me. he says how s your > diet going are ya sticking to it. he knows i had surgury.. i do not > call this a diet.. it was a life change to me..a way to lose weight. i > reply i,m not on a diet.. do you guys consider it a diet? or am i being > to picky or defensive? c ya donna > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 24, 2006 Report Share Posted December 24, 2006 Nah it's not that hard. If they are that ignorant then I just adapt their questions to suit my understanding along with a little bit of ignoring their ignorance. It works well, for me at least. Mike in GR > > > > well there is this person every time he see s me. he says how s your > > diet going are ya sticking to it. he knows i had surgury.. i do not > > call this a diet.. it was a life change to me..a way to lose weight. > i > > reply i,m not on a diet.. do you guys consider it a diet? or am i > being > > to picky or defensive? c ya donna > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 24, 2006 Report Share Posted December 24, 2006 Being too picky? Anything said would probably be wrong. " How's your surgery workin' for you? " Not a good choice. You could reply " How's your liquid diet going? Are ya sticking to it! " No, you won't get any points for that one. It would be nice if 'they' could learn to say something like " Your looking good. How are things going? " Then you could get him for sexual harrassment as him noticing your looks could be misconstrued as sexual in nature. Granted some people are rude and some just don't know the proper way to ask. How about educating him kindly? " My progress after surgery is going well or great(pick one). Thank you for asking. " or " How do I look? " or " I would prefer not to discuss this with you. " or " I would prefer you ask me ....... you fill in the way you want to be asked. " Is it a major issue that will destroy your life style change? Is it worth the energy you used to discuss it? Enjoy the fact that you are changing for the positive and look for that in everything in your life! Be Happy that your changes are happening. My metamorphosis will begin on December 27! May you have a Merry Christmas! And a partridge in a pear tree! skmo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 24, 2006 Report Share Posted December 24, 2006 Donna, I totally agree with you. We are not on a diet. This is a tool and it's part of a whole new way of life/eating. I don't know why people ask questions like that anyway. I have this friend and every time she see me she asks me what I am down to. How much do you weigh now? I don't mind saying the numbers, 132!!!!! but every time she sees me? Now she is bigger than me and she seems to make it some sort of competition. I am not competing with anyone, I am just happy to have lost the weight and I am off my blood pressure meds too. Now if I could get rid of my pain, I'd be in business!!!!!!!!! Take Care Donna and don't let people like that bother you. in CA > > well there is this person every time he see s me. he says how s your > diet going are ya sticking to it. he knows i had surgury.. i do not > call this a diet.. it was a life change to me..a way to lose weight. i > reply i,m not on a diet.. do you guys consider it a diet? or am i being > to picky or defensive? c ya donna > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 25, 2006 Report Share Posted December 25, 2006 That irony for ya. You shouldn't have the surgery but once you do tell me what you eat. It's hilarious my kids tell me, " Yeah but dad not everyone is all about what they eat like you are " when I complain about the woman I'm dating and what she eats/feeds her family, my folks, or their friends eat. Seriously? I'm freaking 270lbs and I was almost 500 in August of 2005. People think I'm into eating healthy? Please. I do have people stopping by my office for advice though. They invite me for walks and stuff too. Sometimes they'll invite me to lunch and I'll suggest a different place like Subway or Noodles instead of a pizza place. It's really cool. Mike in GR > > > > well there is this person every time he see s me. he says how s your > > diet going are ya sticking to it. he knows i had surgury.. i do not > > call this a diet.. it was a life change to me..a way to lose weight. > i > > reply i,m not on a diet.. do you guys consider it a diet? or am i > being > > to picky or defensive? c ya donna > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 27, 2006 Report Share Posted December 27, 2006 I agree that it is not a diet it is a lifestyle change. However, It probably isn't wise to take it so offensively unless they do it intentionally. He may just be making conversation. Or may be trying to be nice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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