Re: Birth control question

March 23, 2006

I'd say that the IUD is probably not a good idea. I had them for

several years before having my tubes tied. They can make your periods

much heavier and very painful, so she probably wouldn't like that,

either. (And I had already had 2 children.) Do they still do those

rods under the skin, or have they been taken off the market?

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> Do any of your daughters use the IUD method of birth control? If

so, are there any daughters who are using this method and have not

ever had a child? Some of the info indicate that women who have never

had a child should not consider the IUD as the method of choice. We

have just gone through our first, and I hope our last abortion. We

have tried other methods, but this is a girl who cannot remember to

brush her own teeth. She has already tried the Depo shot for two

years, gained 25 lbs., refused to take it again. She was pregnant

immediately after resuming her first period. Also, info is saying they

may be taking the Depo off the market because it is harming the heart

and bones. Any information or feedback on this birth control method

would be appreciated. Our daughter is 20, very immature,

argumentative, lacking in social skills and self-control. We need a

breather from this pregnancy problem because we have so many other

problems with her on a daily/hourly basis.

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March 24, 2006

In a message dated 3/23/2006 11:04:04 PM Eastern Standard Time,

gabfwb@... writes:

Our daughter is 20, very immature, argumentative, lacking in social skills

and self-control. We need a breather from this pregnancy problem because we have

so many other problems with her on a daily/hourly basis.

Hi Gab? and Welcome. You have come to the right place. My daughter, now 19

has had two abortions one at 15 one at 17. I myself don't like the IUD's and

my daughter doesn't have one, but she is on birth control pills. Ortho

something. She has had no problems with them and is doing alright with them.

Although my daughter is much further along than yours, reading my past posts to

others here will help you. Your daughter is still living at home with you?

Does she have a job?

Hugs,

DebbieL

March 24, 2006

In a message dated 3/24/2006 11:05:28 AM Eastern Standard Time,

gabfwb@... writes:

Our daughter was asked to leave the home last Dec. and she was gone for 23

days. At that point she said she did not want to live like a homeless person,

wanted to come home and get a job

Okay, you sit her down at the table, one on one, or you and hubby and her.

Stand your ground, be stern. Don't get pulled in to any arguing, this is your

house, your rules. She wants to stay, she can abide by them. You will be

surprised at her reaction when you have sat her down. Yes, do put it in

writing.

If I may, I will send you my contract. I have to email it direct to you

with your permission as we cant send attachements here in the group.

Change the contract to fit your situation. Make it clear to you expect that

she uphold her stay there, doing chores, etc. They dote on structure so

listing things for them on a daily basis is good. Remind her of what she said

when

she was out on her own. She doesn't like it away from home, so remind her

she has to earn her keep. If would like to also, you may call me, I have an

800# here at work if you would like to chat. Let me know about the contract.

DebbieL

March 24, 2006

Hi Gabfwb,

I used three IUDs, all for several years, two taken out for planned

pregnancies. The third one after menopause. My first one was before I

had any children (or pregnancies).

I never had any problems, no cramping, no heavy bleeding (after the

first month or two), no pain, no infections, etc.

I feel that since I never had menstrual cramps to begin with I never

had any problems. Other woman I know that had cramps before the IUD

had a difficult time with them.

I would recommend an IUD for any woman who doesn't have cramping. Both

the birth control shot and the one under the skin STOPS the monthly

menstrual flow and both have many problems.