supervision

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the feed back about my being the supervisor. I was really ticked off

that the decsion was taken. apparently the judge said Sundays for visits with

supervsion and dgter said oh my Mom has her and she will do it the judge said

fine. I think it was a lousy thing to do as I wasn't there, I am not neutral and

it puts me in the middle. next court is dec 19th and beleive me I won't be doing

this after that.

Elaine

WTOParentsOfBPs wrote:

There are 6 messages in this issue.

Topics in this digest:

1. Re: New member

From: " blu_cricket "

2. RE: Nons are " Compulsive Caretakers " ?

From: bosoxfan199@...

3. Re: Holidays and boundaries

From: bosoxfan199@...

4. Re: Twenty six years of chaos/to Anita

From: bosoxfan199@...

5. Re: New member

From: bosoxfan199@...

6. Re: supervision

From: bosoxfan199@...

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Message: 1

Date: Tue, 15 Nov 2005 19:18:05 -0000

From: " blu_cricket "

Subject: Re: New member

Hello Laptwo,

Welcome to the board. This is a very safe place to share your day and

the experiences your daughter has. You are not alone and you will find

we all have similar fustrations.

My dau, age 17, also felt she was stupid and ugly at 15. Just keep

complimenting your daughter, find one thing you think is beautiful and

let her know. I tell my dau she has a perfect nose. Give her something

to latch on to. I hope you are able to join in your daughter's

counseling and that her counselor is familiar with BPD. If you can

not, I liked the idea, write a letter to counselor. I wish I had never

let my dau see one on her own... giving her privacy. My dau fooled

them all and I am sure she made me look like a bad guy.

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> Hello. I have a 15 year-old daughter who is currently in counseling.

> She has displaying most of the signs of BPD. I have been trying to

> educate myself on the disorder. It is like living with two different

> people. One minute she is my little girl and the next, she can be

> totally out of control. At first, I didn't want to face reality with

> the cutting and her mood swings, but my goal now is to do what I have

> to do to save her before it is too late. I think (not only because

> she is my daughter) she is very intelligent and beautiful. She is

> always downgrading herself as stupid, fat and ugly.

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> I am hoping with some support, I can help her.

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> Thanks for listening.

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Message: 2

Date: Wed, 16 Nov 2005 01:14:33 +0000

From: bosoxfan199@...

Subject: RE: Nons are " Compulsive Caretakers " ?

Of course you try to fix them. What kind of person would you

be if you did not?

I think first time around in relationships some of us try to " fix " or " change "

the other person. As we mature, we learn that is not possible. You take what you

get.

Carol

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> I've written this before, but I don't think you have to be a compulsive

> caretaker to fall in love with someone you learn later is abusive or

> damaged. Often these people hide this very well. Then, if you do love and

> care you stay. Of course you try to fix them. What kind of person would you

> be if you did not? I must admit I hate the term " codependent. " The only

> thing I hate as much is " enabler. "

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> PJ

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> Hi all....this was posted on my other BP list....I found it a very

> interesting observation! - (non)

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> In a message dated 11/10/2005 11:46:03 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

> cckidsinc@... writes:

> My bpt tossed this one at just as the session was ending...Is that what we

> nons are? Well that would explain a lot!

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