Re: Re: telling people about surgery

[Guest guest]

Uh, that's a great thought, but not my mom. I called her from the dealer when I

bought my first car, and by the time I got home from the dealership I had six

messages from family all over the country congratulating me on my purchase.

jrmcswain2000 jrmcswain2000@...> wrote: It's possible that she thinks if

you want people to know, then you

will tell them. She might be waiting on you to say it's okay to

tell them. Just a thought. I could be totally wrong also.

Good luck!!!

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> Now that I have a surgery date, I'm working on getting some of my

ducks in a row, so to speak. I asked my mom if she could come up to

stay with me and the baby because when I have the procedure, I'm not

sure how easy it will be for me to get around and get her to school

and things like that. She's 4. So my mom said no problem and didn't

really discuss the procedure with me at all, I hadn't told her about

it previously. She called me back and told me that she was booking a

flight and wanted to reassure me that she wouldn't tell the family

that I was doing this....she would just tell them that I needed her

because of the divorce. Now, I wonder why she would feel that having

gastric bypass is more embarassing than getting a divorce? I hadn't

thought to deeply about discussing this with people, because the

people I love and talk to regularly are pretty supportive of me now

matter how crazy they may think my decision is. However, it never

occurred to me that my mother would

> think this is embarrasing and something to keep a " secret " . I'm

not embarrassed....I'm excited. And when I next see family members,

and they ask how I lost all the weight, I'll tell them I had wls. I

never contemplated, making up a story or something. Anyone else have

experience with this?

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[Guest guest]

- I think your mom is respecting your privacy. It is YOUR BUSINESS and

if you want to share it with people it is your doing. Health issues are private

to people. There are different trains of thought out there.

I know I am selectively telling people cause even with the ones I chose to

tell - I have skeptics. One friend is really freaking out (she knows of someone

whose is not doing well - I think he went to a quack). Some people are asking

me WHY? am I having it done - you are not that fat.

As is - I have Diabetes police on me all the time...it comes from people who

should be watching their own diet.

Jackie in CA

jrmcswain2000 jrmcswain2000@...> wrote:

It's possible that she thinks if you want people to know, then you

will tell them. She might be waiting on you to say it's okay to

tell them. Just a thought. I could be totally wrong also.

Good luck!!!

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> Now that I have a surgery date, I'm working on getting some of my

ducks in a row, so to speak. I asked my mom if she could come up to

stay with me and the baby because when I have the procedure, I'm not

sure how easy it will be for me to get around and get her to school

and things like that. She's 4. So my mom said no problem and didn't

really discuss the procedure with me at all, I hadn't told her about

it previously. She called me back and told me that she was booking a

flight and wanted to reassure me that she wouldn't tell the family

that I was doing this....she would just tell them that I needed her

because of the divorce. Now, I wonder why she would feel that having

gastric bypass is more embarassing than getting a divorce? I hadn't

thought to deeply about discussing this with people, because the

people I love and talk to regularly are pretty supportive of me now

matter how crazy they may think my decision is. However, it never

occurred to me that my mother would

> think this is embarrasing and something to keep a " secret " . I'm

not embarrassed....I'm excited. And when I next see family members,

and they ask how I lost all the weight, I'll tell them I had wls. I

never contemplated, making up a story or something. Anyone else have

experience with this?

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[Guest guest]

shelly i agree with this, she may not want to upset you and waiting for you to

say its ok. You'll never know unless you talk with her about it.

jrmcswain2000 jrmcswain2000@...> wrote: It's possible that she

thinks if you want people to know, then you

will tell them. She might be waiting on you to say it's okay to

tell them. Just a thought. I could be totally wrong also.

Good luck!!!

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> Now that I have a surgery date, I'm working on getting some of my

ducks in a row, so to speak. I asked my mom if she could come up to

stay with me and the baby because when I have the procedure, I'm not

sure how easy it will be for me to get around and get her to school

and things like that. She's 4. So my mom said no problem and didn't

really discuss the procedure with me at all, I hadn't told her about

it previously. She called me back and told me that she was booking a

flight and wanted to reassure me that she wouldn't tell the family

that I was doing this....she would just tell them that I needed her

because of the divorce. Now, I wonder why she would feel that having

gastric bypass is more embarassing than getting a divorce? I hadn't

thought to deeply about discussing this with people, because the

people I love and talk to regularly are pretty supportive of me now

matter how crazy they may think my decision is. However, it never

occurred to me that my mother would

> think this is embarrasing and something to keep a " secret " . I'm

not embarrassed....I'm excited. And when I next see family members,

and they ask how I lost all the weight, I'll tell them I had wls. I

never contemplated, making up a story or something. Anyone else have

experience with this?

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[Guest guest]

Thanks . I guess I should have prefaced this by saying that my mom is the

mouth of the south so I know that she isn't trying to maintain my privacy. I

haven't really thought about who I will or will not tell. I suppose if anyone

asks me I'll tell them. I probably won't send out an announcement though. LOL.

I'm not ashamed and not interested in what other people think. I've worried

about what other people think for much too long. Now, it's about me! I'm

exercising a new selfish streak and loving it.

W akwalker13@...> wrote: Hi ,

She's probably just wanting to let it be your decision as to whom to

tell. If you are getting a divorce, that is something you can't

exactly hide so maybe she figures everyone is going to know about that

anyway.

I told my friends and several coworkers. All of my coworkers are very

cool, but I only told the ones I am closest to (university research

lab so everyone is pretty open minded). If they find out, that's fine.

It's just not something that comes up in casual conversation. I

actually was hoping that some don't get told just to see what they

think as the weight starts to drop. Might be kind of fun watching them

try to figure it out.

Even healthy eating habits couldn't cause the kind of weight loss you

are going to have. That explanation would work for people you only see

occasionally but others will definitely wonder. However, I'm not

saying that you should feel obligated to tell anyone anything if you

aren't comfortable with it.

A lot of people think it's the " easy way out " . I figure if they know

I've had the surgery and they see that I'm eating healthy and small

portions and not relying on the surgery to be the cure, then it

educates them that it isn't really a cop out but a tool.

in MI

Lap RNY 12/04/06

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> telling people about surgery

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> > Now that I have a surgery date, I'm working on getting some of my

ducks in

> > a row, so to speak. I asked my mom if she could come up to stay

with me

> > and the baby because when I have the procedure, I'm not sure how

easy it

> > will be for me to get around and get her to school and things like

that.

> > She's 4. So my mom said no problem and didn't really discuss the

procedure

> > with me at all, I hadn't told her about it previously. She called

me back

> > and told me that she was booking a flight and wanted to reassure

me that

> > she wouldn't tell the family that I was doing this....she would

just tell

> > them that I needed her because of the divorce. Now, I wonder why

she would

> > feel that having gastric bypass is more embarassing than getting a

> > divorce? I hadn't thought to deeply about discussing this with

people,

> > because the people I love and talk to regularly are pretty

supportive of

> > me now matter how crazy they may think my decision is. However, it

never

> > occurred to me that my mother would

> > think this is embarrasing and something to keep a " secret " . I'm not

> > embarrassed....I'm excited. And when I next see family members,

and they

> > ask how I lost all the weight, I'll tell them I had wls. I never

> > contemplated, making up a story or something. Anyone else have

experience

> > with this?

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