Doing things for yourself - was Re: YEAH!!! Shauna is back!!!!

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YOUR head hurts?? Youchie! I'm not even sure what you just said!!

> > > > >

> > > > > Welcome home Shauna. It is so good to see your name online.

> > > > >

> > > > > We all have busy lives and we owe it to ourselves to place

> our

> > > needs

> > > > > first, If we can't take care of ourselves we can't be there

> for

> > > anyone

> > > > > else. You have been and continue to be a terrific Moderator.

> We

> > > know

> > > > > you have a job, school, family and personal life. We have

> missed

> > > you

> > > > > but also know your plate is very full these days.

> > > > >

> > > > > Shauna, I don't have any words of wisdom for you. I too tried

> > > to " do it

> > > > > all " and my house of cards came tumbling down. I have

> accepted my

> > > > > limitations and do the best I can. I maintain a household in

> two

> > > > > cities as well as the myriad of stressors in my family and

> > > personal and

> > > > > professional lives. I have medical issues and good days and

> bad

> > > days

> > > > > that accompany those maladies.

> > > > >

> > > > > It was very hard, but I had to stop being the " caregiver. " I

> also

> > > ended

> > > > > unhealthy relationships with people who were takers and never

> > > gave to

> > > > > me when I needed their time and attention. Friendships should

> be

> > > a two

> > > > > way street. People who are takers are " Draino " friends. I

> don't

> > > have

> > > > > the time or energy to fix other peoples lives. I have seen

> too

> > > many

> > > > > people in our WLS community have surgery to " fix " their

> broken

> > > lives

> > > > > without wanting to do the work that comes with having a

> healthy

> > > life in

> > > > > the physical and emotional sense. I am glad to see you are

> > > tending to

> > > > > your needs and creating a foundation for a more successful

> > > future. You

> > > > > are blessed!

> > > > >

> > > > > An important factor in finding some semblance of peace in my

> life

> > > was

> > > > > setting BOUNDARIES. When I say NO, I mean NO!!! I don't

> answer

> > > email,

> > > > > phone calls or faxes after the close of normal business

> hours.

> > > When so

> > > > > called friends call me for legal advice, I remind them that I

> > > don't

> > > > > call them for FREE professional services unless they want to

> > > trade or

> > > > > barter. One hour of my legal help for a free

> > > > > haircut/color/highlights....you get the point. Time is money

> and

> > > my

> > > > > time is limited.

> > > > >

> > > > > As you can see, I am seldom online these days. My personal

> > > priorities

> > > > > come first. Don't worry about the boards. You take care of

> you

> > > first.

> > > > > That's what post op life is about. Don't worry about catching

> up.

> > > Just

> > > > > jump in when and if you have the spare time.

> > > > >

> > > > > My best to you always.

> > > > >

> > > > > Robyn

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

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