Guest guest Posted December 31, 2006 Report Share Posted December 31, 2006 I think it would have to be my mom. She has always horribly over protected me since they found out about my eye condition that has rendered me legally blind, but it has not slowed me down, but she thinks that even now she has to run my life and has even said that it looks like I am gaining weight when I have actually lost it. The funny thing is that she and my sister who are really thin are always talking about being on a diet. I think that they are not happy with themselves and frankly are quite jealous of the weight that I have lost since July and I really enjoyed sticking the weight amount in my mom's face after the last time I went to see the surgeon and think I have even lost more weight since then. I do understand where you are are coming from there and it is really maddening for a parent that cannot ever let go of something in their child's life and that even includes weight. I have been nagged, cajoled and even been told that my weight problem was some sort of a spiritual problem, when in actuality I was eating just to show them and got tired of always hearing about it, so I just did not care. I know that my mom was not really please when I told her that I was having my surgery and it really shocked her, but I was having the surgery anyway and there was nothing that was going to stop me from having it so she could either come and support me or not come at all because my wife and her family totally supported what I was doing and knew that they would be there. Finally she came around and now does support me, but still I get these little digs and I absolutely hate it. Lin 422-338-250 Lhsh@... American by birth, Saved by the grace of God. Who would it be? Hi Team, Is there someone in your life that you would want to face now over your weight issues? There is actually a couple people in my life, but my dad is one. He never could accept my weight growing up. He always gave me a hard time about it. This lead me to believe that he could not appreicate me. It is hard when one of your parents makes you feel inadequate. One of these days when the time is right, I will have to tell him so. Anyone else fighting this type of issue? Thanks for sharing! Shauna __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2006 Report Share Posted December 31, 2006 I'm a bit confused on the questions, Is this someone that we haven't told we are having the surgery or someone that we want to say to them, you made me feel inadequate while I was over weight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2006 Report Share Posted December 31, 2006 Someone who made you feel inadequate. magnoliamouth karenostrom@...> wrote: I'm a bit confused on the questions, Is this someone that we haven't told we are having the surgery or someone that we want to say to them, you made me feel inadequate while I was over weight. __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2006 Report Share Posted December 31, 2006 There is not much I would want to say to anybody.....I only hope that I run into a couple of people when I reach my goal weight....Just them seeing me would be enough for me.....And if I have a Lakers cheerleader on each arm, that wouldn't hurt anything either!! LOL........ Not trying to make light of this subject, but people that did not support me or stand by me at my worst times, are no longer in my life. I don't want to re-hash or get into some emotional talk with these people, I have no desire to restart any kind of relationship with them...... Mike T Who would it be? > Hi Team, > > Is there someone in your life that you would want to face now over > your weight issues? > > > There is actually a couple people in my life, but my dad is one. He > never could accept my weight growing up. He always gave me a hard time > about it. This lead me to believe that he could not appreicate me. It is > hard when one of your parents makes you feel inadequate. One of these days > when the time is right, I will have to tell him so. > > Anyone else fighting this type of issue? > > > Thanks for sharing! > > Shauna > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2006 Report Share Posted December 31, 2006 -I don't know if this applies, but I've got 4 younger brothrs, and all my life if I've gained one pound they seem to know and don't care who else is listening will call me quite the few names. They play it off as a joke. But at times when I've been very slender they have also really noticed that too and acted very proud so I'm not sure now. One has a wife that is such a bit**, she started gaining weight right after they were married, then she was PG, and gained more, then gained more this year with another child. At Xmas she looked like she had lost some and I'm glad for her. But she is a Bit** because she thinks her and her families stuff don't stink. she acts like since she married my brother he know longer has a family. Most of you may know this but Mobile Has a Mardi gras that is even older than the one that is done in New Orleans. My brothers and my hsuband are part of one of the groups that do it so we always have a big ball. The ball this year is the 9th so I'm hoping to lose enough from my surgery to fit into one of the gowns I have in my closet. It has been very hard for me the last 4 years getting sick with IC and giong up and down with weight, but I do think when I get it off again I intend to wear the dang sexiest but classy gown I can and stick my nose straight up in the hair at my sister in law. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2006 Report Share Posted December 31, 2006 I'd like to see all the faces of the guys who wouldn't give me the time of day because of my weight in high school. LOL! I can't wait to go to my high school reunion. Too bad it's 7 years away. LOL W 380/254/160 Shauna Thalman wrote: > Hi Team, > > Is there someone in your life that you would want to face now over your weight issues? > > > There is actually a couple people in my life, but my dad is one. He never could accept my weight growing up. He always gave me a hard time about it. This lead me to believe that he could not appreicate me. It is hard when one of your parents makes you feel inadequate. One of these days when the time is right, I will have to tell him so. > > Anyone else fighting this type of issue? > > > Thanks for sharing! > > Shauna > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2006 Report Share Posted December 31, 2006 I tend to agree w/ you on the last part of your email. I just would like to see the looks on their faces. LOL W 380/254/160 Mike Tune wrote: > There is not much I would want to say to anybody.....I only hope that I run > into a couple of people when I reach my goal weight....Just them seeing me > would be enough for me.....And if I have a Lakers cheerleader on each arm, > that wouldn't hurt anything either!! LOL........ > > Not trying to make light of this subject, but people that did not support me > or stand by me at my worst times, are no longer in my life. I don't want to > re-hash or get into some emotional talk with these people, I have no desire > to restart any kind of relationship with them...... > > Mike T > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2006 Report Share Posted December 31, 2006 I agree with Mike T. Just to have people see me, that have known me as fat....either not recognize me, or notice and have them gush about how great I look. I'd be satisfied with that! Hugs, Cathy butterfly in training > > There is not much I would want to say to anybody.....I only hope that I run > into a couple of people when I reach my goal weight....Just them seeing me > would be enough for me.....And if I have a Lakers cheerleader on each arm, > that wouldn't hurt anything either!! LOL........ > > Not trying to make light of this subject, but people that did not support me > or stand by me at my worst times, are no longer in my life. I don't want to > re-hash or get into some emotional talk with these people, I have no desire > to restart any kind of relationship with them...... > > Mike T > > > Who would it be? > > > > Hi Team, > > > > Is there someone in your life that you would want to face now over > > your weight issues? > > > > > > There is actually a couple people in my life, but my dad is one. He > > never could accept my weight growing up. He always gave me a hard time > > about it. This lead me to believe that he could not appreicate me. It is > > hard when one of your parents makes you feel inadequate. One of these days > > when the time is right, I will have to tell him so. > > > > Anyone else fighting this type of issue? > > > > > > Thanks for sharing! > > > > Shauna > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2006 Report Share Posted December 31, 2006 Hi , by then you should be down to your goal weight and they will definitely need to look out for you. Lin 422-338-250 Lhsh@... American by birth, Saved by the grace of God. Re: Who would it be? I'd like to see all the faces of the guys who wouldn't give me the time of day because of my weight in high school. LOL! I can't wait to go to my high school reunion. Too bad it's 7 years away. LOL W 380/254/160 Shauna Thalman wrote: > Hi Team, > > Is there someone in your life that you would want to face now over > your weight issues? > > > There is actually a couple people in my life, but my dad is one. He > never could accept my weight growing up. He always gave me a hard time > about it. This lead me to believe that he could not appreicate me. It is > hard when one of your parents makes you feel inadequate. One of these days > when the time is right, I will have to tell him so. > > Anyone else fighting this type of issue? > > > Thanks for sharing! > > Shauna > -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.432 / Virus Database: 268.16.1/611 - Release Date: 12/31/2006 12:47 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2006 Report Share Posted December 31, 2006 I hear you there. When we had our family portrait done at Christmas, my brother and sister in law from Atlanta had not seen me since before my surgery and they were astounded and that made me feel great. Lin 422-338-250 Lhsh@... American by birth, Saved by the grace of God. Re: Who would it be? I tend to agree w/ you on the last part of your email. I just would like to see the looks on their faces. LOL W 380/254/160 Mike Tune wrote: > There is not much I would want to say to anybody.....I only hope that I > run > into a couple of people when I reach my goal weight....Just them seeing me > would be enough for me.....And if I have a Lakers cheerleader on each arm, > that wouldn't hurt anything either!! LOL........ > > Not trying to make light of this subject, but people that did not support > me > or stand by me at my worst times, are no longer in my life. I don't want > to > re-hash or get into some emotional talk with these people, I have no > desire > to restart any kind of relationship with them...... > > Mike T > > -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.432 / Virus Database: 268.16.1/611 - Release Date: 12/31/2006 12:47 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2006 Report Share Posted December 31, 2006 I have a picture that Tim & I had done in Daytona 3 years ago that I put next to the one of us at Christmas. It was like looking at 2 different people! W 380/254/160 Lin Hunnicutt wrote: > I hear you there. When we had our family portrait done at Christmas, my > brother and sister in law from Atlanta had not seen me since before my > surgery and they were astounded and that made me feel great. > Lin > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2006 Report Share Posted December 31, 2006 I wasn't really large in high school. I wore maybe a 14 or 16 but I had no self confidence and was a " brain " and a " band geek " . I had the typical issues with the " popular " people like cheerleaders and football jocks. They were so arrogant and acted like they were better than everyone and I guess I let it get to me. I got my PhD and have a good job at the University of Michigan whereas most of them are still in my hometown doing squat with their lives. My 20th reunion is this summer and I think I'm going to it. I am proud that I've done something with my life but if I hadn't had the surgery, I would be too self conscious to attend the reunion. in MI > > Hi Team, > > Is there someone in your life that you would want to face now over your weight issues? > > > There is actually a couple people in my life, but my dad is one. He never could accept my weight growing up. He always gave me a hard time about it. This lead me to believe that he could not appreicate me. It is hard when one of your parents makes you feel inadequate. One of these days when the time is right, I will have to tell him so. > > Anyone else fighting this type of issue? > > > Thanks for sharing! > > Shauna > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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