Re: 38 yr old daughter Bipolar/BPD

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 5/31/2006 8:25:28 PM Eastern Standard Time,

lolxoxo444@... writes:

The neurotransmitters are firing differently for them than for us. But if

this is so...then why aren't they able to test for it??

,

I never worried about anyone testing my daughter and her brain. The

traits told the story, we knew what was wrong. I feel it hits more teens

because

at the start of puberty, their bodies are going through some tremendous

chemical and hormonal changes. Something traumatic happens in their lives that

triggers the chemicals to go haywire, imbalance, hence the disorders. The brain

chemistry is out of whack. Thinking, talking, changing reactions on our behalf

and I feel lots of serotonin replacement helps immensely. Changing our

reactions to them lets them see that their behaviors are no longer working on

us, so

they change them, hopefully for the better so they can get on the road to

recovery.

DebbieL

[Guest guest]

I am reading the Eggshells book and it's really opened my eyes.

Reading all these posts and the help-books has enlightened me but I am

still pretty much in overload.

Shanara

>

> Helen:

Should I send my sisters the " Eggshells " book?

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Debbie. I am new here too. It's good that you are here...you will

learn so much and there is so much support here.

I have seen some here offer their personal email addresses. Mine is

Shadoweve@... and would welcome any and all personal

contact. I dont know much about BPD as I am learning still. But I

enjoy exchanging experiences and will be a friend.

Shanara

> >

> > Milena

> >

> > My daughter was self assured and stubborn in her ways all thru

> high school.

> > She didn't start being a follower until the summer after

> graduation and thru

> > college and now. And each year, it got worse. But to this

day,

> she is

> > still blaming me. The topic came up last night that she wasn't

> popular witrh

> > boys (even though she is and was beautiful) in high school and

> college (now she

> > dormed or had her own apt all thru college). But she said it

was

> my fault

> > because I was too overly protective. I said, " How can this be

my

> fault when

> > you dormed? " and she said, :It just was " . Once again, I

shook

> my head and

> > told her I was going home. There is no reasoning with

> unreasonableness.

> >

> > She has recently told me it is all my fault that she ends up

with

> people

> > like Will.

> >

> > Jean

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Start picking out a date. I am leaving on July 29 on a week long vacation. Other

than that I am open. need to know well in advance though so i can take leave

from my job. (You know, we librarians are irreplacable).

Milena

funnygirl1154@... wrote: In a message dated 5/31/2006 5:17:24 PM Eastern

Standard Time,

milenaoh@... writes:

Anyway; I feel I should visit with all of you in RI this summer so that we

can trash it in person.

Milena

This would be awesome, Milena! A whole bunch of us, could we all possibly

get a word in edgewise????????? LOL

DebbieL

[Guest guest]

Shanara,

it is pretty overwhelming when your eyes are first open. It will get better.

Heed the advice given on this board and take care of yourself. Do something for

yourself and take a " vacation " from thinking about your daughter all the time.

it gets exhausting. You need to be strong and calm and happens only if you work

at it.

You are living in a beautiful part of this world. Do you enjoy outdoors?

Walking, hiking, gardening, horse back riding? Or arts? Something is telling me

you are artisric.

Milena

Summer Sunderland shadoweve@...> wrote: I am reading the

Eggshells book and it's really opened my eyes.

Reading all these posts and the help-books has enlightened me but I am

still pretty much in overload.

Shanara

>

> Helen:

Should I send my sisters the " Eggshells " book?

>

Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help, @....

SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT RESPOND ONLINE.

Essential reading to help you feel better and understand the BP in your life

are:

� SWOE ( " Stop Walking on Eggshells�) and the SWOE Workbook (for

everyone)

� HOPE FOR PARENTS

Call 888-35-SHELL () to order your copies.

From Randi Kreger, Owner of BPDCentral and the WTO Online Community

[Guest guest]

I am a published creative writer. And I just finished editing a

recently published book called " Rescued Tails " volume I. I also

write for one of the local newspapers. Also, I am a ceramic

artist...having just recently closed up shop (I owned a small store

in town). And I am the President of the local Chamber of Commerce

where I live. And trying to pick back up on playing the piano. I

teach beginner computing skills. I am constantly busy.

I am no longer a practicing counselor and I don't miss it one bit. I

find I automatically use my processing skills when interacting with

others but it's too draining to be honest, as a career. Furthermore,

its even harder when your own life is in chaois. I never was very

good at not feeling my clients' pain. (which is really a " no-no " )

And I have no illusions about, or desires to " heal the world " as

life makes it pretty clear....everybody has to be responsibile for

their own healing. And believe me, counselors are no different from

anybody else when all hell breaks lose in their private lives. All

that education is almost an albatross around their necks because

others expect them to be able to handle all of life's crisis with a

snap of their fingers. It never works that way. NEVER! When our own

world is dealing with an emotional emergency, we are just as fragile

as the next person. Enough said.

Today I identify myself as a writer and a retired, very tired mom.

LOLOL

Shanara

> >

> > Helen:

> Should I send my sisters the " Eggshells " book?

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help, @...

SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT RESPOND ONLINE.

>

> Essential reading to help you feel better and understand the BP

in your life are:

>

> � SWOE ( " Stop Walking on Eggshells�) and the SWOE

Workbook (for everyone)

> � HOPE FOR PARENTS

>

> Call 888-35-SHELL () to order your copies.

>

> From Randi Kreger, Owner of BPDCentral and the WTO Online

Community

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

.......addendum....

having a counseling degree meant to me that I should have recognized

what was going on and I had no idea. It meant to me that I had the

ability and the skills to do better for my daughter, and I didn't

realize what was going on. For me, it means I was very remiss....so

getting over the shock of it, has really taken me a long time.

I really appreciate all of you. I feel like I really have so much in

common with all of you. Thank you again for being here. I just wish

I had known you were all here a year ago. Or the year before that.

Shanara

> >

> > Helen:

> Should I send my sisters the " Eggshells " book?

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help, @...

SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT RESPOND ONLINE.

>

> Essential reading to help you feel better and understand the BP

in your life are:

>

> � SWOE ( " Stop Walking on Eggshells�) and the SWOE

Workbook (for everyone)

> � HOPE FOR PARENTS

>

> Call 888-35-SHELL () to order your copies.

>

> From Randi Kreger, Owner of BPDCentral and the WTO Online

Community

>

>

>

>

>