Re: Hi Everybody!!!! - Please Welcome Colleen!

[Guest guest]

Hi Colleen. Please do not get discouraged. I was supposed to lose before surgery

and had such a hard time and gained 12 lbs. They thought 5 lbs in one month was

from the sleep apnea, I think I just couldn't handle the stress of knowing I was

never going to get certain things again and well... ate them. I had my surgery

and am now -110 lbs and living life better then I ever thought. You can do this.

I thought I was a failure too when I seen the look in my dr's eyes going in

GAINING! It was so difficult for me. I thought I would be that one person it

wouldn't work for. Just don't give up if this is something you really want, you

will make it. You have to also remember that through this journey there is so

much more then just the physical part of dealing with this. You have to begin to

heal and prepare yourself mentally. Talk out what's bothering you, journal, see

a therapist, whatever it is that can help you and do it. Build a great support

system too, It all is going to make

a difference. YOU CAN DO IT

Welcome to the board, we are here to help you in anyway we can. Move over

everyone another Loser is joining us soon.

Best Wishes,

Shauna

Ask me! angeleyes12189@...> wrote:

Hi All!

My name is Colleen and I am new here. I am scheduled to have vertical

Sleeve gastrectomy at the end of January and I am totally freaking out

right now. I thought I was so prepared and ready, and now all of a

sudden I am this weepy worrying mess! I lost 14 lbs prior to the

holidays and have gained back 8! Am I just not ready? I think this has

me down more than anything. Things got busy and I slipped back into

bad old habits. Holidays in my family have always revolved around

food. I did awesome at Thanksgiving in fact I lost 2 lbs! But

Christmas sent me over the edge. I am trying to get back on track but

I am afraid I blew it. My next appt. is my pre op on the 24th. I have

done so well and now I feel like such a failure. Any suggestions?

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the group Colleen. My advice...forget about it & move on!

Don't worry about what you've done just focus on what you are going to

do! :-)

W

380/255/160

Ask me! wrote:

> Hi All!

> My name is Colleen and I am new here. I am scheduled to have vertical

> Sleeve gastrectomy at the end of January and I am totally freaking out

> right now. I thought I was so prepared and ready, and now all of a

> sudden I am this weepy worrying mess! I lost 14 lbs prior to the

> holidays and have gained back 8! Am I just not ready? I think this has

> me down more than anything. Things got busy and I slipped back into

> bad old habits. Holidays in my family have always revolved around

> food. I did awesome at Thanksgiving in fact I lost 2 lbs! But

> Christmas sent me over the edge. I am trying to get back on track but

> I am afraid I blew it. My next appt. is my pre op on the 24th. I have

> done so well and now I feel like such a failure. Any suggestions?

>

>

[Guest guest]

Wow Shauna! You made me cry! This has been so hard and it feels so

WONDERFUL to finally have someone to talk to about all of this who

knows. I haven't told my best friend about this yet and my surgery

is in 4 weeks! She has said again and again in the past that gastric

bypass is the easy way out (she is morbidly obese also)and I just

can't deal with the drama! I told my husband I will call her from

recovery that way she can't say anything. I am getting my tubes tied

during my bypass surgery so as far as she knows I am just getting

that done. Pretty bad huh. I really just needed someone to talk to I

guess!

Thanks,

Colleen

> Hi All!

> My name is Colleen and I am new here. I am scheduled to have

vertical

> Sleeve gastrectomy at the end of January and I am totally freaking

out

> right now. I thought I was so prepared and ready, and now all of a

> sudden I am this weepy worrying mess! I lost 14 lbs prior to the

> holidays and have gained back 8! Am I just not ready? I think this

has

> me down more than anything. Things got busy and I slipped back

into

> bad old habits. Holidays in my family have always revolved around

> food. I did awesome at Thanksgiving in fact I lost 2 lbs! But

> Christmas sent me over the edge. I am trying to get back on track

but

> I am afraid I blew it. My next appt. is my pre op on the 24th. I

have

> done so well and now I feel like such a failure. Any suggestions?

>

>

>

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

welcome to the group Colleen, Hope to hear of your success soon. Sherry

>

> Hi All!

> My name is Colleen and I am new here. I am scheduled to have

vertical

> Sleeve gastrectomy at the end of January and I am totally freaking

out

> right now. I thought I was so prepared and ready, and now all of a

> sudden I am this weepy worrying mess! I lost 14 lbs prior to the

> holidays and have gained back 8! Am I just not ready? I think this

has

> me down more than anything. Things got busy and I slipped back into

> bad old habits. Holidays in my family have always revolved around

> food. I did awesome at Thanksgiving in fact I lost 2 lbs! But

> Christmas sent me over the edge. I am trying to get back on track but

> I am afraid I blew it. My next appt. is my pre op on the 24th. I have

> done so well and now I feel like such a failure. Any suggestions?

>

[Guest guest]

There were very few people who I told before my surgery. My biggest

reason was because I went to Mexico. I waited till after it was over &

done w/ before I told anyone. That way I didn't have to deal w/ the

drama also. I understand where you are coming from. Even afterwards

there was only 1 person who gave me grief & it was the one person I knew

would. LOL

W

380/255/160

Ask me! wrote:

> Wow Shauna! You made me cry! This has been so hard and it feels so

> WONDERFUL to finally have someone to talk to about all of this who

> knows. I haven't told my best friend about this yet and my surgery

> is in 4 weeks! She has said again and again in the past that gastric

> bypass is the easy way out (she is morbidly obese also)and I just

> can't deal with the drama! I told my husband I will call her from

> recovery that way she can't say anything. I am getting my tubes tied

> during my bypass surgery so as far as she knows I am just getting

> that done. Pretty bad huh. I really just needed someone to talk to I

> guess!

> Thanks,

> Colleen

>

[Guest guest]

Colleen, relax. Most us fell off the wagon at Christmas and got back

on it. You can turn it around right now with your next meal. You are

not a failure, and you don't have to be perfect.

[Guest guest]

I lost some good friends because I had this surgery. They actually told me to go

and find a group like myself, and my future sister-in-law said to me " Why

couldn't you just lose weight the right way " . I'm tired of people saying I

should have done it the old fashion way instead of the easy way. They say I

cheated. They are all jealous and are still the same size as always. Their old

fashion way isn't working! Some people make me sick.

There, I feel better!

I like you people, We think alike.

Judy

P.S. The wedding cake is done I can now relax. YEA

Re: Hi Everybody!!!! - Please Welcome Colleen!

Wow Shauna! You made me cry! This has been so hard and it feels so

WONDERFUL to finally have someone to talk to about all of this who

knows. I haven't told my best friend about this yet and my surgery

is in 4 weeks! She has said again and again in the past that gastric

bypass is the easy way out (she is morbidly obese also)and I just

can't deal with the drama! I told my husband I will call her from

recovery that way she can't say anything. I am getting my tubes tied

during my bypass surgery so as far as she knows I am just getting

that done. Pretty bad huh. I really just needed someone to talk to I

guess!

Thanks,

Colleen

> Hi All!

> My name is Colleen and I am new here. I am scheduled to have

vertical

> Sleeve gastrectomy at the end of January and I am totally freaking

out

> right now. I thought I was so prepared and ready, and now all of a

> sudden I am this weepy worrying mess! I lost 14 lbs prior to the

> holidays and have gained back 8! Am I just not ready? I think this

has

> me down more than anything. Things got busy and I slipped back

into

> bad old habits. Holidays in my family have always revolved around

> food. I did awesome at Thanksgiving in fact I lost 2 lbs! But

> Christmas sent me over the edge. I am trying to get back on track

but

> I am afraid I blew it. My next appt. is my pre op on the 24th. I

have

> done so well and now I feel like such a failure. Any suggestions?

>

>

>

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Judy,

That is why I didn't tell anybody......and wont if I can help it.......I

just don't want to hear peoples shit, its none of their business!

Mike T

Re: Hi Everybody!!!! - Please Welcome

> Colleen!

>

>

>

> Wow Shauna! You made me cry! This has been so hard and it feels so

> WONDERFUL to finally have someone to talk to about all of this who

> knows. I haven't told my best friend about this yet and my surgery

> is in 4 weeks! She has said again and again in the past that gastric

> bypass is the easy way out (she is morbidly obese also)and I just

> can't deal with the drama! I told my husband I will call her from

> recovery that way she can't say anything. I am getting my tubes tied

> during my bypass surgery so as far as she knows I am just getting

> that done. Pretty bad huh. I really just needed someone to talk to I

> guess!

> Thanks,

> Colleen

>

>

> > Hi All!

> > My name is Colleen and I am new here. I am scheduled to have

> vertical

> > Sleeve gastrectomy at the end of January and I am totally freaking

> out

> > right now. I thought I was so prepared and ready, and now all of a

> > sudden I am this weepy worrying mess! I lost 14 lbs prior to the

> > holidays and have gained back 8! Am I just not ready? I think this

> has

> > me down more than anything. Things got busy and I slipped back

> into

> > bad old habits. Holidays in my family have always revolved around

> > food. I did awesome at Thanksgiving in fact I lost 2 lbs! But

> > Christmas sent me over the edge. I am trying to get back on track

> but

> > I am afraid I blew it. My next appt. is my pre op on the 24th. I

> have

> > done so well and now I feel like such a failure. Any suggestions?

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

You know, then they were not friends to begin with and no loss in all honesty.

As for the family, you are right, jealousy!!! Let them live in their own misery

and it is a shame they cannot share this journey with you and be happy for you.

There are going to be so many more people in your furure.

Glad you got the wedding cake done YAY!!!

judy oswald judy.34@...> wrote:

I lost some good friends because I had this surgery. They actually

told me to go and find a group like myself, and my future sister-in-law said to

me " Why couldn't you just lose weight the right way " . I'm tired of people saying

I should have done it the old fashion way instead of the easy way. They say I

cheated. They are all jealous and are still the same size as always. Their old

fashion way isn't working! Some people make me sick.

There, I feel better!

I like you people, We think alike.

Judy

P.S. The wedding cake is done I can now relax. YEA

Re: Hi Everybody!!!! - Please Welcome Colleen!

Wow Shauna! You made me cry! This has been so hard and it feels so

WONDERFUL to finally have someone to talk to about all of this who

knows. I haven't told my best friend about this yet and my surgery

is in 4 weeks! She has said again and again in the past that gastric

bypass is the easy way out (she is morbidly obese also)and I just

can't deal with the drama! I told my husband I will call her from

recovery that way she can't say anything. I am getting my tubes tied

during my bypass surgery so as far as she knows I am just getting

that done. Pretty bad huh. I really just needed someone to talk to I

guess!

Thanks,

Colleen

> Hi All!

> My name is Colleen and I am new here. I am scheduled to have

vertical

> Sleeve gastrectomy at the end of January and I am totally freaking

out

> right now. I thought I was so prepared and ready, and now all of a

> sudden I am this weepy worrying mess! I lost 14 lbs prior to the

> holidays and have gained back 8! Am I just not ready? I think this

has

> me down more than anything. Things got busy and I slipped back

into

> bad old habits. Holidays in my family have always revolved around

> food. I did awesome at Thanksgiving in fact I lost 2 lbs! But

> Christmas sent me over the edge. I am trying to get back on track

but

> I am afraid I blew it. My next appt. is my pre op on the 24th. I

have

> done so well and now I feel like such a failure. Any suggestions?

>

>

>

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Colleen,

You have come to the right place.....Im sorry your best friend cant be

more of your support system, But you will do great and she will see that

this is NOT the easy way, anything but.......Good luck to you

Mike T

Re: Hi Everybody!!!! - Please Welcome

Colleen!

>

> Wow Shauna! You made me cry! This has been so hard and it feels so

> WONDERFUL to finally have someone to talk to about all of this who

> knows. I haven't told my best friend about this yet and my surgery

> is in 4 weeks! She has said again and again in the past that gastric

> bypass is the easy way out (she is morbidly obese also)and I just

> can't deal with the drama! I told my husband I will call her from

> recovery that way she can't say anything. I am getting my tubes tied

> during my bypass surgery so as far as she knows I am just getting

> that done. Pretty bad huh. I really just needed someone to talk to I

> guess!

> Thanks,

> Colleen

>

>

>

>

>> Hi All!

>> My name is Colleen and I am new here. I am scheduled to have

> vertical

>> Sleeve gastrectomy at the end of January and I am totally freaking

> out

>> right now. I thought I was so prepared and ready, and now all of a

>> sudden I am this weepy worrying mess! I lost 14 lbs prior to the

>> holidays and have gained back 8! Am I just not ready? I think this

> has

>> me down more than anything. Things got busy and I slipped back

> into

>> bad old habits. Holidays in my family have always revolved around

>> food. I did awesome at Thanksgiving in fact I lost 2 lbs! But

>> Christmas sent me over the edge. I am trying to get back on track

> but

>> I am afraid I blew it. My next appt. is my pre op on the 24th. I

> have

>> done so well and now I feel like such a failure. Any suggestions?

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>> __________________________________________________

>>

[Guest guest]

I agree Mike.

Judy

Re: Hi Everybody!!!! - Please Welcome

> Colleen!

>

>

>

> Wow Shauna! You made me cry! This has been so hard and it feels so

> WONDERFUL to finally have someone to talk to about all of this who

> knows. I haven't told my best friend about this yet and my surgery

> is in 4 weeks! She has said again and again in the past that gastric

> bypass is the easy way out (she is morbidly obese also)and I just

> can't deal with the drama! I told my husband I will call her from

> recovery that way she can't say anything. I am getting my tubes tied

> during my bypass surgery so as far as she knows I am just getting

> that done. Pretty bad huh. I really just needed someone to talk to I

> guess!

> Thanks,

> Colleen

>

>

> > Hi All!

> > My name is Colleen and I am new here. I am scheduled to have

> vertical

> > Sleeve gastrectomy at the end of January and I am totally freaking

> out

> > right now. I thought I was so prepared and ready, and now all of a

> > sudden I am this weepy worrying mess! I lost 14 lbs prior to the

> > holidays and have gained back 8! Am I just not ready? I think this

> has

> > me down more than anything. Things got busy and I slipped back

> into

> > bad old habits. Holidays in my family have always revolved around

> > food. I did awesome at Thanksgiving in fact I lost 2 lbs! But

> > Christmas sent me over the edge. I am trying to get back on track

> but

> > I am afraid I blew it. My next appt. is my pre op on the 24th. I

> have

> > done so well and now I feel like such a failure. Any suggestions?

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

Colleen, I am glad that Robyn created this board for us to be here for each

other and although I am off and on, I really do love everyone here... they are

AWESOME! We are all in this together.

As for your best friend, you know, I was her once. My girlfriend had

the surgery and I was scared for her and did not know enough about the surgery

to really support her right. You know, she walked through this whole thing with

me and in the end, I told her how much I appreciated her and I was sorry I

didn't understand it enough to support her properly... she understood, but it

didn't make up for it. I mean I supported her in ways, but not in an

understanding way. I thought it could be done without surgery because what was

expected was no different then what was expected without surgery. NOW I GET IT!

Ask me! angeleyes12189@...> wrote:

Wow Shauna! You made me cry! This has been so hard and it feels so

WONDERFUL to finally have someone to talk to about all of this who

knows. I haven't told my best friend about this yet and my surgery

is in 4 weeks! She has said again and again in the past that gastric

bypass is the easy way out (she is morbidly obese also)and I just

can't deal with the drama! I told my husband I will call her from

recovery that way she can't say anything. I am getting my tubes tied

during my bypass surgery so as far as she knows I am just getting

that done. Pretty bad huh. I really just needed someone to talk to I

guess!

Thanks,

Colleen

> Hi All!

> My name is Colleen and I am new here. I am scheduled to have

vertical

> Sleeve gastrectomy at the end of January and I am totally freaking

out

> right now. I thought I was so prepared and ready, and now all of a

> sudden I am this weepy worrying mess! I lost 14 lbs prior to the

> holidays and have gained back 8! Am I just not ready? I think this

has

> me down more than anything. Things got busy and I slipped back

into

> bad old habits. Holidays in my family have always revolved around

> food. I did awesome at Thanksgiving in fact I lost 2 lbs! But

> Christmas sent me over the edge. I am trying to get back on track

but

> I am afraid I blew it. My next appt. is my pre op on the 24th. I

have

> done so well and now I feel like such a failure. Any suggestions?

>

>

>

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Judy,

I tried the old fashioned way and it sucked so I went on my doctor's

recommendation and now I have lost over 84 pounds in a little over five

months and would do it again in a heartbeat.

Lin

422-338-250

Lhsh@...

American by birth,

Saved by the grace of God.

Re: Hi Everybody!!!! - Please Welcome

Colleen!

Wow Shauna! You made me cry! This has been so hard and it feels so

WONDERFUL to finally have someone to talk to about all of this who

knows. I haven't told my best friend about this yet and my surgery

is in 4 weeks! She has said again and again in the past that gastric

bypass is the easy way out (she is morbidly obese also)and I just

can't deal with the drama! I told my husband I will call her from

recovery that way she can't say anything. I am getting my tubes tied

during my bypass surgery so as far as she knows I am just getting

that done. Pretty bad huh. I really just needed someone to talk to I

guess!

Thanks,

Colleen

> Hi All!

> My name is Colleen and I am new here. I am scheduled to have

vertical

> Sleeve gastrectomy at the end of January and I am totally freaking

out

> right now. I thought I was so prepared and ready, and now all of a

> sudden I am this weepy worrying mess! I lost 14 lbs prior to the

> holidays and have gained back 8! Am I just not ready? I think this

has

> me down more than anything. Things got busy and I slipped back

into

> bad old habits. Holidays in my family have always revolved around

> food. I did awesome at Thanksgiving in fact I lost 2 lbs! But

> Christmas sent me over the edge. I am trying to get back on track

but

> I am afraid I blew it. My next appt. is my pre op on the 24th. I

have

> done so well and now I feel like such a failure. Any suggestions?

>

>

>

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

That is very true and I was not perfect during Christmas, but am pretty much

back on track and every now and then you need to reward yourself with

something that you have not eaten in a while and see if it will stay down as

a treat.

Lin

422-338-250

Lhsh@...

American by birth,

Saved by the grace of God.

Re: Hi Everybody!!!! - Please Welcome

Colleen!

Colleen, relax. Most us fell off the wagon at Christmas and got back

on it. You can turn it around right now with your next meal. You are

not a failure, and you don't have to be perfect.

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8:22 AM

[Guest guest]

Hi Everyone, I know that alot of people say that the surgery is the

easy way out. Do any of you think it is true? I personally would have

to say it was easy, I never could have lost 160 lbs any other way. It

was the easiest 160 lbs I have ever lost, not to mention the ONLY 160

lbs I have ever lost! and I have not had any complications. It doesn't

bother me of people think that because like someone said, the people

who say that are all still big people! Conventional weight loss hasn't

worked for most people. Take Care in CA

[Guest guest]

I was really worried about telling my family, and mom especially and when it

was all over, they were really excited for me.

My brother's and sister told me that was the best thing that I could do for

myself and my parents were in shock, but afterwards were and have been

really supportive.

Lin

422-338-250

Lhsh@...

American by birth,

Saved by the grace of God.

Re: Re: Hi Everybody!!!! - Please Welcome

Colleen!

There were very few people who I told before my surgery. My biggest

reason was because I went to Mexico. I waited till after it was over &

done w/ before I told anyone. That way I didn't have to deal w/ the

drama also. I understand where you are coming from. Even afterwards

there was only 1 person who gave me grief & it was the one person I knew

would. LOL

W

380/255/160

Ask me! wrote:

> Wow Shauna! You made me cry! This has been so hard and it feels so

> WONDERFUL to finally have someone to talk to about all of this who

> knows. I haven't told my best friend about this yet and my surgery

> is in 4 weeks! She has said again and again in the past that gastric

> bypass is the easy way out (she is morbidly obese also)and I just

> can't deal with the drama! I told my husband I will call her from

> recovery that way she can't say anything. I am getting my tubes tied

> during my bypass surgery so as far as she knows I am just getting

> that done. Pretty bad huh. I really just needed someone to talk to I

> guess!

> Thanks,

> Colleen

>

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8:22 AM

[Guest guest]

Hi Mike,

I can definitely understand where you are coming from there and I guess we

all have different reasons for either telling people or not telling them and

that is all right too.

Lin

422-338-250

Lhsh@...

American by birth,

Saved by the grace of God.

Re: Hi Everybody!!!! - Please Welcome

> Colleen!

>

>

>

> Wow Shauna! You made me cry! This has been so hard and it feels so

> WONDERFUL to finally have someone to talk to about all of this who

> knows. I haven't told my best friend about this yet and my surgery

> is in 4 weeks! She has said again and again in the past that gastric

> bypass is the easy way out (she is morbidly obese also)and I just

> can't deal with the drama! I told my husband I will call her from

> recovery that way she can't say anything. I am getting my tubes tied

> during my bypass surgery so as far as she knows I am just getting

> that done. Pretty bad huh. I really just needed someone to talk to I

> guess!

> Thanks,

> Colleen

>

>

> > Hi All!

> > My name is Colleen and I am new here. I am scheduled to have

> vertical

> > Sleeve gastrectomy at the end of January and I am totally freaking

> out

> > right now. I thought I was so prepared and ready, and now all of a

> > sudden I am this weepy worrying mess! I lost 14 lbs prior to the

> > holidays and have gained back 8! Am I just not ready? I think this

> has

> > me down more than anything. Things got busy and I slipped back

> into

> > bad old habits. Holidays in my family have always revolved around

> > food. I did awesome at Thanksgiving in fact I lost 2 lbs! But

> > Christmas sent me over the edge. I am trying to get back on track

> but

> > I am afraid I blew it. My next appt. is my pre op on the 24th. I

> have

> > done so well and now I feel like such a failure. Any suggestions?

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

I'm kinda wishy washy on the whole it's the easy way out thing. I still

feel it's a struggle even if you have the surgery. We're constantly

having to be just as conscious of what we eat or we can gain the weight

back just like anyone else. But, the surgery does make it easier to

lose the weight because you are forced into portion control and watching

what you eat out of fear of dumping.

W

380/255/160

iamthinnow wrote:

> Hi Everyone, I know that alot of people say that the surgery is the

> easy way out. Do any of you think it is true? I personally would have

> to say it was easy, I never could have lost 160 lbs any other way. It

> was the easiest 160 lbs I have ever lost, not to mention the ONLY 160

> lbs I have ever lost! and I have not had any complications. It doesn't

> bother me of people think that because like someone said, the people

> who say that are all still big people! Conventional weight loss hasn't

> worked for most people. Take Care in CA

>

[Guest guest]

I have found it easy and the hardest thing I have ever done all at the very

same time.

I think it takes real courage to do something like this as well.

Lin

422-338-250

Lhsh@...

American by birth,

Saved by the grace of God.

Re: Hi Everybody!!!! - Please Welcome

Colleen!

Hi Everyone, I know that alot of people say that the surgery is the

easy way out. Do any of you think it is true? I personally would have

to say it was easy, I never could have lost 160 lbs any other way. It

was the easiest 160 lbs I have ever lost, not to mention the ONLY 160

lbs I have ever lost! and I have not had any complications. It doesn't

bother me of people think that because like someone said, the people

who say that are all still big people! Conventional weight loss hasn't

worked for most people. Take Care in CA

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8:22 AM

[Guest guest]

Yup I fell off bad more than once. Heck probably was off more than on

the wagon. Shameful. I weighed myself yesterday and I was 267 lbs. I

think that's about the same I weighed before xmas, maybe a couple less.

I think my lack of weight gain or slight loss is due to my metabolism

being able to cope with some non regular abuse.

I just feel I should concentrate on the whole me, the whole health, the

whole metabolism, exercise and diet. That way these cheats or times of

temptation have less of an effect, less guilt, and, most importantly,

less dramatic appeal to me. It also means that any times of the year I

choose to diet more strictly/heavily I don't get to brag about it

either but I'm willing to accept the mundane commonality if it keeps me

healthy.

Mike in GR

>

> Colleen, relax. Most us fell off the wagon at Christmas and got back

> on it. You can turn it around right now with your next meal. You

are

> not a failure, and you don't have to be perfect.

>

[Guest guest]

The whole concept of easy or hard way out is retarded on it's face.

What moron takes the hard way out of things? Are you telling me if

these fools were faced with something they wouldn't take the easiest

route out? I mean do these jokers fill up their gas tanks when they get

to a few gallons left or do they wait until their car runs out of gas

and they have to push the car into the station or walk a few miles for

gas? How dare they take the easy way out!

I'd really like to find a business that complains or doesn't reward a

person, team, supplier for finding the " easy way out " in providing a

complete and quick solution to a major issue.

I wouldn't even bother addressing these hypocritical ignorant fools and

trying to defend that surgery is hard or easy. I would, however, be on

the lookout for them to injure themselves, get a cold/flu, whatever and

ask why they took time off from work, got surgery, or whatever instead

of just " walking it off " . Why'd they feel it was okay to take the easy

way out?

I'm not sure if I really know if the 220lbs I've lost since August of

2005 was easy or hard. I've never done it before. I guess I feel it was

easy in the sense that it did happen and I'm happy. I guess for most

normal weight people it seems hard because they'd pretty much NOT EXIST

if they lost that much. So much for them thinking it's the easy way out

eh?

Mike in GR

>

> Hi Everyone, I know that alot of people say that the surgery is the

> easy way out. Do any of you think it is true? I personally would have

> to say it was easy, I never could have lost 160 lbs any other way. It

> was the easiest 160 lbs I have ever lost, not to mention the ONLY 160

> lbs I have ever lost! and I have not had any complications. It

doesn't

> bother me of people think that because like someone said, the people

> who say that are all still big people! Conventional weight loss

hasn't

> worked for most people. Take Care in CA

>

[Guest guest]

OMG, boy do I feel a sister (and brother) connection on took the easy

way out story. These folks don't realize that once a certain weight

is there it is not going to budge. They also don't realize, that most

of us have been dieting all our lives, we may have lost 40 or 60 or

even more pounds for a little while, then it came back and brought

some of its relatives.

easy way, I think not. I have an obese family, some times it does run

in the gene's. I've been the lucky one of about 40 female cousins.

I've had to lose as much as 80 pounds at times, and for as much as 20

years in my youth I had to watch every single little thing I put in my

mouth to keep it from coming back. Then other issues came up and then

I gained, then lost, then gained, then lost. This is what the doctors

say will keep the body overweight. It is true some folks can lose it,

but the majority can not with out a tool. That is all gastric by pass

or a lapband is a tool, we still have to do the hard work, we can

still undo the hard work we've done. We still have to exercise to get

it toned up or see a plastic surgeon for those places that just won't

do what they are told.

WE also have to live the rest of our lives sipping and taking little

bites and chew, chew, chew, and then chew some more if we want our

tool to help us keep the body we worked hard for.

easy way, tell them to really take a walk in our shoes.

If I hear you are taking the easy way one more time (keep in mind

also I'm the 11th in my family to have the gastric by pass) but if I

hear easy way one more time, someone is going to hear me tell them to

kiss my grits!

[Guest guest]

GO KAREN GO KAREN! lol! I agree... although I was not as supportive of my friend

as I would liked to have been when she had the surgery, I never really thought

it was the " easy " way just the " scary " way. Well Said!

magnoliamouth karenostrom@...> wrote: OMG, boy do I feel a

sister (and brother) connection on took the easy

way out story. These folks don't realize that once a certain weight

is there it is not going to budge. They also don't realize, that most

of us have been dieting all our lives, we may have lost 40 or 60 or

even more pounds for a little while, then it came back and brought

some of its relatives.

easy way, I think not. I have an obese family, some times it does run

in the gene's. I've been the lucky one of about 40 female cousins.

I've had to lose as much as 80 pounds at times, and for as much as 20

years in my youth I had to watch every single little thing I put in my

mouth to keep it from coming back. Then other issues came up and then

I gained, then lost, then gained, then lost. This is what the doctors

say will keep the body overweight. It is true some folks can lose it,

but the majority can not with out a tool. That is all gastric by pass

or a lapband is a tool, we still have to do the hard work, we can

still undo the hard work we've done. We still have to exercise to get

it toned up or see a plastic surgeon for those places that just won't

do what they are told.

WE also have to live the rest of our lives sipping and taking little

bites and chew, chew, chew, and then chew some more if we want our

tool to help us keep the body we worked hard for.

easy way, tell them to really take a walk in our shoes.

If I hear you are taking the easy way one more time (keep in mind

also I'm the 11th in my family to have the gastric by pass) but if I

hear easy way one more time, someone is going to hear me tell them to

kiss my grits!

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

oh I have to add this. One of my friends, I love her dearly but she

is forever saying to me I don't need to have the by pass. Now, keep

in mind she is carrying more weight than I am and 2 inches shorter.

Just last night she said to me, You know you could really lose that

weight if you wanted to by dieting, even with the restrictions you

have, and working out at the gym. Now she does work out, she goes

about 3 to 5 days a week. She has claimed for the last 9 months she

has been dieting and she has only lost 5 lbs.

I was very polite and nice, and I just looked at her and said, would

you say it has really been effective for you?

I got a funny look, and she didn't say anymore. I hated to do her

like that, but I'm tired of her using her excuses and rationaliztions

on my decisions.

[Guest guest]

Judy, you might mention to those people that if there truly was

an " old fashioned right way to lose weight " , then we probably wouldn't

have an obesity problem in this country... I would cut them out of my

life; they are not your friends.