Re: Caretaking /

[Guest guest]

Oh boy, I think I've heard everything now....!

LOL, taping them while they had sex! It's certainly all about THEM isn't

it?

Man, they can think up some real hum-dingers can't they?

I am so sorry that she is keeping your grandchildren as hostages from you!

I know that has got to be tearing your heart out. I can only believe that

things will work out in this situation somehow. Maybe later she will realize

that you would be 'useful' as their Grandmother.

I think sometimes we only matter to them if we can serve useful purposes to

them. It's so messed up!

{{{{ }}}}} Big hugs to you.

Blondie

In a message dated 3/6/2006 10:59:57 A.M. Central Standard Time,

catfile49709@... writes:

Hi Blondie!

Thanks for the thumbs up! It seems to be a standard for a BPD mother is

assign roles for their children, I ended up being the caretaker, blame holder,

in

our family. (foo)

So, I'm a bad girl for shaking up Nada's world. After all, she's my mother,

how can I be sooooo mean!!? lol, I mean really, I was defending them as well

and I still ended up being the blameholder.....lol.

I believe my daughter may be borderline, yes....some things are so simular

to what I grew up and around it isn't even funny. And yes, she has two

children and one on the way. She is due in July and has yet to tell me herself.

She believes that I was taping her and her husband while having sex. For

pete's sake!!

I took her and her family in after the house they lived in had burned to the

ground. They lived here three weeks and then found my video camera on the

mantle, plugged in and on.....This was so that I could tape my grandbabies

doing something cute and precious....It was ON not RECORDING. But now I'm not

allowed to see my grandchildren, and the stories she's been spreading around

have escalated and gotten worse. I hold no hope out for hearing an apology from

her or my family. As we know, borderlines never are wrong, it's always

someone else's fault....Yeck!