Being (long distance) Family Support

[Guest guest]

Hello All,

I found your group while searching for ways to help support my

daughter (Bridgette) and son-in-law ().

Hope you can give some suggestions on how to be supportive to them.

Logan's story: He was born on June 5th (at Camp Pendleton Military

Hospital - Daddy is Lcpl in the marines)

He was born with bilateral club foot, it was a shock to all. He was

referred to Dr. Cassidy at San Diego Military Hospital. Received

first casts on July 7th. He had the tendon snipped this past Friday

August 13th.

We, their whole family, live in Michigan. My husband and I were

there the week he got his first casts.

I know that my daughter blames herself for Logan not

being " perfect " . And even tho everyone tells her it is not her

fault, we have not " been there " .

Logan has a big sister (Meegan). She is 2 1/2.

I have tried to be as supportive as possible via long distance phone

calls, but am not there for " on hand " help.

Please send any suggestions that you may have.

Thanks,

Sally

(Logan & Meegan's Grandma " Boo " )

[Guest guest]

Hi, Sally,

First of all, you're a terrific grandma to take the time to try to

research and seek help for your daughter & grandson!

I actually received an email from Bridgette earlier this month after

she read one of my posts on another board. I emailed her back but

haven't heard from her again yet. I invited her to this board since

we have lots of CA families here and some military families who know

the ropes with Tri-care and how to deal with the system in seeking

the best clubfoot care.

Hopefully Bridgette will join us here soon. Hopefully by reading the

various posts from the different families here, you'll know what to

expect with Logan's treatment. Just understanding the different

protocols and having a gut feel as to when to " tough out " difficult

times during treatment versus " questioning " if something isn't

right.....those are the things that a lot of moms and dads struggle

with. So by educating yourself, you can help your daughter and son-

in-law through the *potentially* difficult days ahead when she might

call you asking advice. I had to do all that myself, but it would

have been great to have another relative researching clubfoot

treatment to compare notes to! There's a ton of info on this board

in the files, links, and photos sections. Have you been to Dr.

Ponseti's website yet? Also, here's another site geared toward

internet research of the Ponseti method:

http://pages.ivillage.com/ponseti_links

Welcome aboard!

& (3-16-00)

left clubfoot, switched to Ponseti method at 4 mo. old

http://ponseticlubfoot.freeservers.com/