Betty

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Hugs Betty

Definitely know how you feel. Kenny's classmates all wanted me to come to a

concert ( Kenny played sax - and was in first chair ) - they asked me to please

show up. Hard as it was, I did go------ talk about tears------ even just

walking into the building where my son went spent his last days...... Luckilly

he did like school.

The concert was dedicated in Kennys Memory- they put a picture of him and the

dedication on the back of the pamphlet they give all as you go in...... Plus the

teacher did a bit of talking about him........ Also ( they held another

dedication and had me come to it, and it was a tree planting ceremony- they

planted a garden type deal by the school and put a plaque there with Kenny's

name on it. ) So sweet of all to do such but really hard to go through.

There was another boy that passed on in his building not too long after he

did....... actually 2............ and both in about the same grade. Both

incidents were of being hit by a car- one of these boys went across the road and

was not paying attention...... horrible horrible scene....... then they had it

on the front page of the town paper- I still can't believe they did it the way

they did........ they showed the road and the childs tennis shoe- and people

standing around- why ,,, why did they have to put that type of picture in the

paper- those poor parents were hurting enough........ and the other child was

upset with his parents- took off walking in the dark and was hit by a drunk

driver.

All of these deaths occurred within a years time and many of the children at

the school were having a hard year- dealing with these losses........ I do

believe Kenny's shocked them the most- as he was not hit or anything- just there

one day- in pain the next and gone the next........ I heard that there were many

children, ( this was seventh grade - mind you ) these children began to worry

they too would pass--------- many slept with parents and/or on their parents

bedroom floors for a while.........

It is hard for parents to deal with a loss indeed- and when I sit here

thinking how hard it is on me and my other sons that Kenny is no longer in our

physical presence to speak to-------- and most parents never think of a child

going before themselves------ its usually parents then the child------ it runs

through my mind - how these kids in his grade must have been shocked.........

into thinking of the reality of life........ most kids live daily without giving

the possibility of perhaps not being there the next day another thought - and

these 3 incidents made them all have to look at their own lives upfront........

Big hugs to you for offering help to the family............. and I know the

anniversaries of each year are hard as well........ You will be in my prayers

through all of these situations.

A suicide is a tough one------ how to explain that to anyone- it is something

adults cant even understand......... I don't believe that has happened up here

at the school system so far anyhow but have seen teens ( relatives ) that have

taken their lives and there is no way to make anyone understand how-or why

anyone could do such a thing except for saying that the person was very ill and

did not receive the proper emotional help most likely due to not seeking the

proper help. Your so right................ " Very sad indeed. "

Hugs- TJ

Hi all

Just wanted to share a story----- nothing to do with EDS but sad . I found out

yesterday that a classmate of my late son took his life, he was only 14. I went

to my son's school (a very difficult thing to do) and talked to the principal to

offer any help to the family that I could. He was in Danny's class last year so

this is the second year that the classmates have to deal with the death of a

friend. It is soon coming up to the one year anniversary of Danny's death (May

30 2003) so it is brought to the forefront again. I sure wish kids didn't have

to go through this, its hard at any age but early teens is really tough. I have

to say that it has been pretty tough for me too I saw the picture of Danny that

now resides on a wall in the school library for all to see and reads " In memory

of our friend Danny Cammack " Very touching. I just wanted to share this and

wonder if any have experienced a suicide and how kids dealt with it.

Thanks

Betty