Re: Re: Debbi - Back to MIKE Here's a note from the roommate

[Guest guest]

I can't believe this!!! I roomed with Deb before & did not know. Hmmmm. I

thought I was a lot more aware then this. Hmmmm.. Well, now it's me that's

maybe gonna get slapped.

Hey Mike.....................................

Deb & I are rooming together again. I wonder what would happen if I " lost "

my room, gosh I hope I don't.

Now, to quote someone I know & love......... should I post this?

" OK gonna post "

P.S. Hey Deb: should I bring you a Hooters T shirt for you?

You know I'm joking & love & respect you, no worries. But, I really didn't

know, you do look great, you're beautiful & perfectly well balanced, at least

to me.

In a message dated 4/28/2004 7:31:11 PM Eastern Standard Time,

JETSKIDEB@... writes:

In a message dated 4/28/2004 13:23:22 PM Pacific Daylight Time,

mike@... writes:

And at the risk of getting my face slapped, the psychological component has

to do with the post surgery phenomonom known as " standing proud. "

*********

No face slapping here.You are right. It is funny I can spot a recently

post-op woman a mile away ... tight tank top with shoulders back so far she will

fall if she is not careful! LOL!

The odd thing is that it is just the opposite with me! My first several days

" out " I had the strangest experiences. You might say they were

" head-snapping " experiences! LOL!

Mind you I did not go from a VERY modest B to a jaw dropping DDDD cup but

heads were snapping non the less. For many reasons I choose to let my

surgeon

decide on " size " but mostly because size was not what I was after...I have

very broad shoulders and a small waist. At 5'3 " and no chest I felt well, just

not finished! The surgery was decided on and the sized left to the surgeon

because I wanted to be proportioned correctly and felt he had the best eye for

that.

Looking back I think it was, as you say, " standing proud " that may have made

heads turn at first but it was not intentional. I was not out there in a

Hooters T-shirt and the reaction I got was, upsetting.. I guess you would say.

Funny ... typing it sounds strange but it is true.

Now I am not going to lie and say it was, " oh my gosh ... just so awful to

see those guys slam the sides of their heads into light stands " . LOL! But

what

I will say is that it was such a change from what I had been used to for 35

years it took me back. A second glance everyone and a while at my gorgeous

ballerina legs was not too uncommon.

***she says modestly**

But for some reason that was a complement and I loved it. Since I have had

my augmentation my legs are simply what my boobs stand on!

Aughhhhhhhhhhhhh!

I HATE that!

Men!

I digress...

I had an augmentation before it was " fashionable " . It has been so many years

now I cant even count. Obviously the initial reaction memory lingers on and

because of this I do not " stand proud " all the time as you would expect. My

Rheumy was concerned about my bad posture and how it had effected and would

continue to effect my EDS issues. I now sort of cave in my chest which makes

my

shoulders kind of move up and in toward my ears. This, I am sure, evolved

unconsciously.

So anyway.... I did not catch on to this evolution of my compromising posture

over the first year or so after my surgery and it sort of stuck. Kind of

like when your mom tells you if you keep your eyes crossed they will stay

that

way! LOL!

Well,... I now have to constantly think about standing up straight like I

should normally.

My dad is so funny ... you would think that dad's would not want their

daughter to " be out there " but he constantly gives me glances that I know he

means

to stand up straight and be proud of my terrifically now balanced body!

Funny

huh?

Well,... I just reread this ... hum... I am debating if I should post. I

wonder if there are others out there that have had the same experience as I

and

now have crappie posture without knowing it? Maybe and this might trigger

something... OK gonna post!

Debbi