I am not against the idea of cremation, but ...

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In a message dated 4/8/2004 2:58:12 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

Mdmssmile@... writes:

> Are you totally against cremation?

> Did bill have any expressed views?

Not really. He was happy to be with me. He totally trusted his doctors and me

to do the right thing.

>You can still have a little service for him even with the cremation.

Yes, my friend Lynn told me that. The worse choice, is from hospital to

cremation with time for me and MIL to see him. The next is cremation and

memorial

service. The next highest basic service would be a wake, service and choice of

cremation or burial in the military plot ... where I could/would be when the

time came.

I am not against the idea of cremation it just feels bad with reference to my

" honey-bunch " -- I know emotions. But I do know I got to do something and

soon. I did think of have him prepared, I see him, cremation and memorial

services later. His Mom however said she is okay with that because he is my

husband

but I see her struggle to help me have a decent affair.

I am also frustrated over how I was NOT informed about Bill actual level of

illness. IMHO there is a big difference between lung cancer controlled and

double lung cancer with metastatic to the brain and liver and bone. The latter

explains his personality change and depression. How can they " forget " to tell me

that? They said, sorry, we thought you knew. So, what did they expect me to do

with two days notice? Everyone knows what brain and Liver cancer means. With

all three, of course things got bad quickly. I was envisioning things going a

wee bit slower. Sorry, I get emotional. Caro.