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The Bible in 2 3 has the answer to what’s

wrong with the kids.” 3 But know this, that in the last days critical times hard to

deal with will be here. 2 For

men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, self-assuming, haughty,

blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, disloyal, 3 having no natural affection,

not open to any agreement, slanderers, without self-control, fierce, without

love of goodness, 4 betrayers,

headstrong, puffed up [with pride], lovers of pleasures rather than lovers of

God,”

Reading 2 Tim. Is like reading today’s paper. All that demon

stuff and everything. With a lot of kids, it doesn’t matter what you do

or don’t do, it’s never good enough.

From:

Sent: Friday, May 21, 2004 5:25 AM

To: LUPIES

Subject: Re: a &

Lorra

I

just wanted to tell you both that you are in my prayers.

Lorra,

your 17 yr old sounds just like ours! Actually, we thought things were

getting better. At 15 he was drawing the Hitler things, demons &

such. Now he's turned his artistic abilities to things more

appropriate. He has a very sweet girlfriend who tries to help keep his

attitude in line. But his attitude is really getting me down. He has

always had this " everyone owes me " attitude. But lately it has

been severely worse. He thinks we should buy him a car, all his clothes

should be American Eagle brand, He should have money to blow, etc.

Heaven forbid we ask him to work for it!

Well,

that's not how it works here! So right now things are very strained.

We can't afford a decent car for ourselves, much less 1 for him to run around

in. He blames us for not having a job because he " doesn't have a

car to get there " , doesn't want to be caught dead with parents driving

him. (can't let him take the only operating vehicle when we both have

health problems) He was on a roll yesterday & made a

point ot say we were bad parents because we didn't provide for him

" appropriately " !

You

know, I really don't know where these kids get this. He was NOT

raised this way! His older sisters & older brother (who has

multiple learning problems) don't act this way. They all work.

The sad part is, he is soooo smart. But he doesn't try in

school. He has decided lately that he wants to go to an art

school in Atlanta.

He has taken it hard because over the course of the last 4 yrs, his father

became ill & disabled with Parkinson' Disease & then I got sick with

the lupus, fibro & my back got worse. During that time, my husband

lost his job, we had to move, & what savings we had are gone from the

lost ability to work. I know that has been rough. Financially, our

standard of living has decreased dramatically. But through

it all, he has had parents who supported him & always been there for him.

And he's not grateful for any of it. He doesn't believe I'm sick, I'm

just lazy. I think he knows better, he's just so frustrated! Our

kids always referred to their dad as superman. He worked 2 jobs, yet

was always there for the kids to. It has been hard on them, especially

the boys, to see him like he has been over the last few yrs.

a,

I can sympathize with you because of our older boy. He is almost 20

now. We have been thru H*ll & back with him. He has multiple

learning disabilities, emotional problems that seem to go with that

& the whole family has thought for years that he is bi-polar.

I wish I had some words of wisdom for you. Unfortunately, we are still

dealing with him! He got so hard to deal with that he is living with

his uncle. He has moved out several times because of our house

rules. At least right now he is working! He was into trouble

& tried the drug thing also. He does still drink. Our 17 yr.

old tried all that but didn't much care for it & quit, thank God! We

have tried counseling, with Josh, but didn't get anywhere. I hope your

dr.'s are more help than the ones here. Josh (20 yr. old) has been

dismissed, passed on, not taken seriously so much, it's no wonder he has no

faith in the " system " .

And of

course all this just keeps my lupus roaring! And right now I'm back on

the prednisone & my attitude is approaching theirs!! I am down to 1/4th

of a 10mg tablet a day & trying desperately to get off it!

I guess

I haven't been much help. lol I just wanted you both to know that you

aren't alone with these problems & at least we can all pray for each

other!

Sorry

for rambling & I really do wish I was more help.

Lots of

love & prayers,

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