A reply I saved from from about a year ago.

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I thought you all would like to read a reply of 's to one of my posts about a year ago. I said it because it was so very beautiful and I am so glad that I saved this. I am sure her words will be an encouragement to everyone!

Love,

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..I have been married 29 and a half years. For me .. being married hasbeen neither a boon or a hurt in my health issues..my hubby worked out of town nearly every week the whole time we havebeen married .. he came home on weekends .. this past year is the firstfull year that he has not had to work out of town for a whole week (justa couple of days at a time).So most of my married life, I dealt with life as a single mom of two.Sick or not .. my sons needed to be raised ..the dogs needed tending to ..bills needed to be paid ..house needed to be clean .. and so on and so on!The one thing I can say is this ..I knew that if I asked him .. he would have dropped everything and cometo my side.Love is different things to people ..love to me is knowing that if I ask a question .. I will get arespectful answer ..if I need a hug .. I will get it ..if I need to cry .. he will hand me the tissue box ..if I am sick .. he will be there to help (but only if I ask .. or we endup in a group barf).Marriage to me is more than just taking on someone elses name ..having sex .. and living in the same household.In a relationship, a marriage, or a friendship, many people believe itis a 50/50 proposition. I am here to tell you there are times when youwill pull 90% and they will pull 10%. Then, the day comes when he/shewill pull 100% and you 0 %. These are the times when we feel the mosthelpless.Never be afraid to ask for help though, for trust is behind the act ofasking and trust is a large part of a relationship. Trust is the heartwithin the body of love.Respect for the other person's feelings, respect for their right to abit of privacy, respect for their right to be angry, or happy, or sad,or jubilant without taking offense or holding their feelings againstthem is the backbone of any relationship. If you take that respect away,the relationship crumbles for there is nothing to help hold it together.The success of a marriage or a relationship depends upon three things:.. love.. respect.. trust.. take any one away .. and the marriage will crumble.Trust in yourself to find the right person .. dont rush into somerelationship because you feel "you are running out of time". You willknow when you meet the right partner.hugs..