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So true Robyn,

They can only take so much crabbing about the thing. It is

stressful for them. Men prefer to be told about something they can fix. Since

they can’t fix us, it just makes them feel bad. This is a good

place for complaining, we know how you feel.

From: jrtrobyn

Sent: Saturday, May 22, 2004 4:27

PM

To: LUPIES

Subject: Re: Ronika,

again from Robyn

One thing I've learned over the years is that I can't dump every

single thing

on my husband. I think he has his limits at times, as

to how

much he can handle. So I try to turn to others sometimes

when I'm

really having a rough time, my sisters or a friend, or a

support

group such as this. I can't expext them to fix it all. I

just ask

that they listen. And if they can't, I try someone else.

I'm 49 and I

used to be too proud for that. I always thought that I

could handle

it all myself. And then when I married I expected my

husband to

be my only sounding board. Well, he has his stresses,

anxieties,

fears too. And I have to be honest here, I never truly

understood

chronic illness and pain and how it effects people until

I've had to

experience this myself. So, I can't expect anymore from

anyone

else.... just thought I'd share this for what its' worth.

Hang in

there, lu, Robyn