Guest guest Posted April 22, 2004 Report Share Posted April 22, 2004 I have been in the same situation with a friend who had gotten " in trouble " . We moved to a new house with room enough for her and her baby with the understanding that she would have chores and that she would contribute her food stamps toward the household expenses. And that she continue college That was all that was expected. Eventually, she started slacking off on her chores and then she didn't get her food stamps renewed. Finally we had to tell her that is was time to move on and get her own apartment. I know this is more like a parent child situation but I think if you are supporting someone then they are asking for a parent. Two weeks ago a got accepted in to a Radiological Tech program. Out of 250 applicant they took 9. I have never been so proud. I told her she needed to send thank you notes to the folks who interviewed. A few days later she came by with a Thank You note. It was for me. She was thanking me for giving her a chance and for kicking her out. She says she needed to get out and make it on her own, otherwise she would not have had the confidence to get her BS in Biology and get into the RT program. I swear I have never felt so my pride. So throwing your friends out doesn't make you a bad guy. It makes you someone who cares enough about them and your friendship to put a stop to a ugly situation. Good luck. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2004 Report Share Posted April 22, 2004 , this is very good advice......sometimes the people you help tend to become compalacent........it takes a good boot in the butt to get them going again! I'm glad your friend had you when she needed help......and I'm glad you had the good sense to know when enough is enough The fact that she came back to thank you is a compliment to you and herself! C. RE: Digest Number 5114 I have been in the same situation with a friend who had gotten "introuble" . We moved to a new house with room enough for her and herbaby with the understanding that she would have chores and that shewould contribute her food stamps toward the household expenses. And thatshe continue college That was all that was expected.Eventually, she started slacking off on her chores and then she didn'tget her food stamps renewed. Finally we had to tell her that is wastime to move on and get her own apartment.I know this is more like a parent child situation but I think if you aresupporting someone then they are asking for a parent.Two weeks ago a got accepted in to a Radiological Tech program. Outof 250 applicant they took 9. I have never been so proud. I told hershe needed to send thank you notes to the folks who interviewed. A fewdays later she came by with a Thank You note. It was for me. She wasthanking me for giving her a chance and for kicking her out. She saysshe needed to get out and make it on her own, otherwise she would nothave had the confidence to get her BS in Biology and get into the RTprogram. I swear I have never felt so my pride.So throwing your friends out doesn't make you a bad guy. It makes yousomeone who cares enough about them and your friendship to put a stop toa ugly situation.Good luck. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done."The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/gallery/view?username=lupies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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