Re: Two Year Update

[Guest guest]

Congratualtions Mel!

Cripes was it really two years ago? I remeber your posts like it was

yesterday, I'm hanging in there just like you

Send best wishes to your wife also

Mandi in UK

But that is the history. Today my son is a different child.

Today my son says “good morning daddy†nearly every day. He sees me off

to

work by saying bye bye and blowing me a kiss. He then goes to the front

window to watch me drive away.

This last weekend when my parents were visiting, he sang Happy Birthday to

his Grandmother-what a wonderful gift indeed! He walks, he talks, he

climbs.

He will look us in the eye to tell us that he has an owee. I am so proud

of my son and thankful for my Gift of God.

[Guest guest]

Outstanding and inspirational.

Thank you.

>From: skelvin@...

>Reply-

>

>Subject: [ ] Two Year Update

>Date: Thu, 26 Aug 2004 03:48:16 EDT

>

>Two year update;

>

>It passes far more quickly than I could have ever imagined. And I have a

>pretty good imagination.

>Two years ago I came on this list asking for help just to try and convince

>my

>wife that something was wrong with our son and we needed to do something

>about it. She was in complete denial so I requested personal stories from

>people

>that I could then pass along to my wife to help persuade her. It took far

>longer than it should have and we missed a lot of valuable time because of

>her

>stubbornness. But eventually we got before enough professionals who

>confirmed that there was a problem and the sooner we took action the better

>off our

>son would be.

>

>For those who are just starting out, let me tell you that I cried many

>tears

>just as you have. For what seemed like three months straight I cried. The

>worst part was that I wept those tears alone, or worse, in anger. I did so

>because

>my own wife, the mother of my son, was arguing with me every step of the

>way.

>She was far more of a hindrance than a partner.

>It has been a long continuos struggle. I can not count the times we were

>so

>close to divorce that checks were signed. But I believe that my son was

>aptly named - , meaning gift of God. If it were not for him our

>family

>would no longer be together.

>Every night for more than a year ( and I do mean every single night) I was

>researching for 2 to 6 hours a night. reading e-mails, scanning this and

>other

>listserves, going through every good book I could find. But I had to do it

>alone. I still do it alone.

>

>Two years ago my son would not even look at me. I thought it was my fault

>for

>spending too much time at work. Two years ago my son could not even walk.

>Heck, he could barely crawl at 10 months. He could spin though. He could

>spin a

>top, a can, the lid of a can! Sometimes he would look at an object for

>great periods of time, just studying that object. And once he had deduced

>the best

>point at which to spin the object, he would spin it forever.

>More than spinning, he would also dangle. Dangle, swing, rotate. Anything

>to

>watch go round and round or back and forth. Then there were the

>reflections.

>Reflections in windows, reflections in water, reflections off of chrome.

>I

>think the reason my son never looked at me is because he was just too

>occupied

>with all the fascinating little reflections, danglings and spinning

>objects.

>

>When he was diagnosed at 18 months we were told he was fixed at moderate

>level autism. Of course we were also told that he would never recover

>because that

>is an impossibility. Once that happen, when the news at last hit home, my

>wife finally broke down and cried too. Then the process of healing began.

>

>But that is the history. Today my son is a different child.

>Today my son says “good morning daddy†nearly every day. He sees me

>off to

>work by saying bye bye and blowing me a kiss. He then goes to the front

>window to watch me drive away.

>This last weekend when my parents were visiting, he sang Happy Birthday to

>his Grandmother-what a wonderful gift indeed! He walks, he talks, he

>climbs.

>He will look us in the eye to tell us that he has an owee. I am so proud

>of my son and thankful for my Gift of God.

>

>It is not all sunshine and roses. There is plenty left to do. But I have

>more

>free time now. I spend most of it with my son. I only read the e-mails

>every

>other day, if that. I have not ordered a new book in months. Sure, any one

>on

>this list could easily tell he is still on the spectrum. But he is in

>preschool and no one there seems the wiser at this point.

>

>It has been tough. The most difficult process in my life. But I can only

>encourage all of you to keep moving forward. For the parents just taking

>their

>first steps down this road I would like to say: keep learning, keep

>studying,

>keep testing your own child. Realize that all kids are not the same and

>what

>works for one, may actually do harm to another. So take it slow. Keep good

>notes. Don’t give up. Don’t give in to your fears. Don’t try to

>push too hard,

>but keep on pushing.

>And please try not to let some of the people on this list who have no

>regard

>for anything but their own political agendas keep you from reading the

>important notes on this list. Those people are selfish, self centered and a

>disgrace

>to all the say they hold dear. Just remember that their hearts are filled

>with

>anger spite and hatred( as there e-mails constantly demonstrate) and anger

>spite and hatred never solves anything. Instead, show love to the special

>someone who needs all the love you have to give.

>

>Update from Mel Lindstrom

>Proud father of .

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Mel, could I e mail you offlist to ask you something about your wonderful

letter??? Tahnks, Cheri****

[Guest guest]

--I know! TIme flies when your trying to save your kid! It was 4 years

ago that I was in the same crying/searching phase. My son was just 2

and now he is going to start 1st grade! Back then I never would have

thought he would have even been in regular school ever. NEVER stop trying.

Patti

- In , Mum231ASD@a... wrote:

>

> Congratualtions Mel!

> Cripes was it really two years ago? I remeber your posts like it was

> yesterday, I'm hanging in there just like you

> Send best wishes to your wife also

> Mandi in UK

>

> But that is the history. Today my son is a different child.

> Today my son says “good morning daddy†nearly every day. He

sees me off

> to

> work by saying bye bye and blowing me a kiss. He then goes to the

front

> window to watch me drive away.

> This last weekend when my parents were visiting, he sang Happy

Birthday to

> his Grandmother-what a wonderful gift indeed! He walks, he talks, he

> climbs.

> He will look us in the eye to tell us that he has an owee. I am

so proud

> of my son and thankful for my Gift of God.

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Congratulations on your success! I also have a wife who took two

years of prodding before I could begin chelation. I finally started

in May. We were also close to divorce and it has been a difficult 7

years since we learned our family had been afflicted with autism. My

son has made some minor progress but I now have hope for him.

I'm also one of those angry people who posts political stuff. I

publish articles about autism and mercury and I meet with state

government officials when it's possible. The anger of Blacks in this

country gained them their civil rights and the anger that drives

people like me to fight our governmental looniness about autism will

benefit others. The things I publish help inform people who don't

learn from their doctors that they have been poisoned by their

doctors.

> Two year update;

>

> It passes far more quickly than I could have ever imagined. And I

have a

> pretty good imagination.

> Two years ago I came on this list asking for help just to try and

convince my

> wife that something was wrong with our son and we needed to do

something

> about it. She was in complete denial so I requested personal

stories from people

> that I could then pass along to my wife to help persuade her. It

took far

> longer than it should have and we missed a lot of valuable time

because of her

> stubbornness. But eventually we got before enough

professionals who

> confirmed that there was a problem and the sooner we took action

the better off our

> son would be.

>

> For those who are just starting out, let me tell you that I cried

many tears

> just as you have. For what seemed like three months straight I

cried. The

> worst part was that I wept those tears alone, or worse, in anger. I

did so because

> my own wife, the mother of my son, was arguing with me every step

of the way.

> She was far more of a hindrance than a partner.

> It has been a long continuos struggle. I can not count the times

we were so

> close to divorce that checks were signed. But I believe that my

son was

> aptly named - , meaning gift of God. If it were not for him

our family

> would no longer be together.

> Every night for more than a year ( and I do mean every single

night) I was

> researching for 2 to 6 hours a night. reading e-mails, scanning

this and other

> listserves, going through every good book I could find. But I had

to do it

> alone. I still do it alone.

>

> Two years ago my son would not even look at me. I thought it was my

fault for

> spending too much time at work. Two years ago my son could not even

walk.

> Heck, he could barely crawl at 10 months. He could spin though.

He could spin a

> top, a can, the lid of a can! Sometimes he would look at an

object for

> great periods of time, just studying that object. And once he had

deduced the best

> point at which to spin the object, he would spin it forever.

> More than spinning, he would also dangle. Dangle, swing, rotate.

Anything to

> watch go round and round or back and forth. Then there were the

reflections.

> Reflections in windows, reflections in water, reflections off of

chrome. I

> think the reason my son never looked at me is because he was just

too occupied

> with all the fascinating little reflections, danglings and spinning

objects.

>

> When he was diagnosed at 18 months we were told he was fixed at

moderate

> level autism. Of course we were also told that he would never

recover because that

> is an impossibility. Once that happen, when the news at last hit

home, my

> wife finally broke down and cried too. Then the process of healing

began.

>

> But that is the history. Today my son is a different child.

> Today my son says “good morning daddy†nearly every day. He

sees me off to

> work by saying bye bye and blowing me a kiss. He then goes to the

front

> window to watch me drive away.

> This last weekend when my parents were visiting, he sang Happy

Birthday to

> his Grandmother-what a wonderful gift indeed! He walks, he talks,

he climbs.

> He will look us in the eye to tell us that he has an owee. I am

so proud

> of my son and thankful for my Gift of God.

>

> It is not all sunshine and roses. There is plenty left to do. But I

have more

> free time now. I spend most of it with my son. I only read the e-

mails every

> other day, if that. I have not ordered a new book in months. Sure,

any one on

> this list could easily tell he is still on the spectrum. But he is

in

> preschool and no one there seems the wiser at this point.

>

> It has been tough. The most difficult process in my life. But I can

only

> encourage all of you to keep moving forward. For the parents just

taking their

> first steps down this road I would like to say: keep learning, keep

studying,

> keep testing your own child. Realize that all kids are not the

same and what

> works for one, may actually do harm to another. So take it slow.

Keep good

> notes. Don’t give up. Don’t give in to your fears. Don’t

try to push too hard,

> but keep on pushing.

> And please try not to let some of the people on this list who have

no regard

> for anything but their own political agendas keep you from reading

the

> important notes on this list. Those people are selfish, self

centered and a disgrace

> to all the say they hold dear. Just remember that their hearts are

filled with

> anger spite and hatred( as there e-mails constantly demonstrate)

and anger

> spite and hatred never solves anything. Instead, show love to the

special

> someone who needs all the love you have to give.

>

> Update from Mel Lindstrom

> Proud father of .

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Those people are selfish, self centered and a disgrace

to all the say they hold dear.

Nice letter up to this point.

Bill Frist is a selfish, self-centered disgrace to the U.S. Constitution and he

needs to be addressed by Senate ethics hearings and impeached for his Homeland

Security Eli Lilly rider.

The White House said that Frist did it. His office said they did it because the

White House asked for it. When the media types began to inquire both stopped

pointing the fingers at each other and used the retiring Dick Armey as a

scapegoat. Any way you look at it Frist directly usurped We the People of the

United States because nobody had agreed to the Lilly rider, and it was slapped

on the very end of the bill just before it was sent over to the White House at

ten o'clock at night.

His Columbia Healthcare (now HCA) hospitals have used and may still be using

thimerosal-laced vaccines on new-born infants which presents a great-big, huge,

glaring mega-sized conflict of interest every time he pushes his liability

protection for mercury-loaded medical products manufacturers before Congress. He

will not recuse (: to remove (oneself) from participation to avoid a conflict of

interest) himself either.

Bill Frist is President Bush's right hand man.

[Guest guest]

Mel, as I wrote you off-list, I still remember your early posts quite

clearly. It has also been two years for us. What really struck me

about your post is your situation with your wife, which is exactly

the same as mine with my husband. Sadly, I have been in this fight

alone for the most part and continue to be. Now that my son is doing

well and recovery is in sight, I wonder if my own long marriage can

be healed too. Anyways, I send you a heartfelt congratulations and

hope for continued healing! Kim

> Those people are selfish, self centered and a disgrace

> to all the say they hold dear.

>

> Nice letter up to this point.

>

> Bill Frist is a selfish, self-centered disgrace to the U.S.

Constitution and he needs to be addressed by Senate ethics hearings

and impeached for his Homeland Security Eli Lilly rider.

>

> The White House said that Frist did it. His office said they did it

because the White House asked for it. When the media types began to

inquire both stopped pointing the fingers at each other and used the

retiring Dick Armey as a scapegoat. Any way you look at it Frist

directly usurped We the People of the United States because nobody

had agreed to the Lilly rider, and it was slapped on the very end of

the bill just before it was sent over to the White House at ten

o'clock at night.

>

> His Columbia Healthcare (now HCA) hospitals have used and may still

be using thimerosal-laced vaccines on new-born infants which presents

a great-big, huge, glaring mega-sized conflict of interest every time

he pushes his liability protection for mercury-loaded medical

products manufacturers before Congress. He will not recuse (: to

remove (oneself) from participation to avoid a conflict of interest)

himself either.

>

> Bill Frist is President Bush's right hand man.

>

>

[Guest guest]

<<And please try not to let some of the people on this list who have

no regard

for anything but their own political agendas keep you from reading

the

important notes on this list. Those people are selfish, self

centered and a

disgrace

to all the say they hold dear. Just remember that their hearts are

filled with

anger spite and hatred( as there e-mails constantly demonstrate) and

anger

spite and hatred never solves anything. Instead, show love to the

special

someone who needs all the love you have to give.>>

Thank you for your insight. As a conservative, a republican and a

Bush supporter as well as the parent of an autistic child, this list

can feel like a very hostile place.

Deborah