Re: Really need a hug - bit OT

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In a message dated 4/22/04 7:30:44 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

sicklizard@... writes:

<< Greg was one of the kindest, loving, generous men I

have ever known, and I still believe his final and best gift to me

came when he left - the courage to keep living and enjoying life no

matter what it throws at me. A precious gift indeed. >>

Oh, Jo, sometimes the most precious gifts cannot be recognized until we

really have time to think about things and understand how life works.

Everything

is not always what it seems. Know that Greg is with you always......love like

this never ends and will carry on forever.

So sorry you are feeling so blue tonight. Hang in there and I am thinking of

you.

Hugs,

Sue

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(((((((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))))))))))))

And Blessings from me Jo.

Debbi

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{{{{{Jo}}}}} unfortunately that is the best hug i can give you.

somone needs to invent a virtual hug!

Greg sounds like a really great guy and you were very lucky to love

him. He is still loving you and watching you live your life for

ever moment.

I know it is so much easier to cope with things during the day

because you can use things as distractions. At night is there

anything you can use to help you through the tough times, a book or

movie or something.

It must have been very difficult to have witnessed the accident, i

would have been very messed up after seeing that. but you survived

and just try to remember how Greg would want you to live your life.

you don't need to appologize for any thing. this message board is

for people who need to talk about what they are going through.

don't ever appologize for expressing yourself.

hang in there.

HUG!!

Jen

EDS III

Phoenix, AZ

> I really apologise for this, but I think the night-time is getting

> the better of me and I just really need to talk and hug someone. I

> have managed pretty well through the day when there have been

> distractions, but now that I'm alone with only the empty, lonely

> night my sadness and bitter sweet memories are getting the better

of

> me.

>

> Today should have been the birthday of the man I love, but in 1999

I

> actually saw him die in a horendous car accident. It's almost five

> years now since I lost him, but I still miss him so much. His

death

> hit me incredibly hard as he was so full of live and epitomised

the

> future, yet here at 24 he was gone and I no longer had one of the

> most wonderful, driving forces in my life. I did a hell of a lot

of

> crying and almost had a nervous breakdown after his death, until I

> started remembering everything he stood for especially his way of

> loving every minute of life. I realised that Greg wouldn't want me

> to waste time crying, he would want me to use the gift that had

been

> cruelly taken form him - life.

>

> The best memorial I could give him would be to continue living and

> making the most of every moment, a lesson that has helped me

acheive

> some very special things and has been crucially important to me in

> fighting my health induced restriction, pain and frustrations. He

> may have died far too young, but he achieved more in those tender

> years than most people I know in their 70's...and his legacy will

> live on too. Greg was one of the kindest, loving, generous men I

> have ever known, and I still believe his final and best gift to me

> came when he left - the courage to keep living and enjoying life

no

> matter what it throws at me. A precious gift indeed.

>

> Gosh I'm so sorry for this waffle, you don't need to know any of

> this, I guess I just needed to talk about the person who was my

> beloved friend while with me and is my constant inspiration even

now

> he's not. Thank you for letting me remember and sit here crying

for

> all I lost and all I gained.

>

> Love and hugs....Jo

> xxx

[Guest guest]

Hi Jo

I am so sorry for your loss and that you are alone....at least you have this

list and we don't mind a bit. You are right in that you have a very precious

gift...life. Your man sounds like he was very special indeed. Big hugs are

being sent your way.

Betty

Really need a hug - bit OT

> I really apologise for this, but I think the night-time is getting

> the better of me and I just really need to talk and hug someone. I

> have managed pretty well through the day when there have been

> distractions, but now that I'm alone with only the empty, lonely

> night my sadness and bitter sweet memories are getting the better of

> me.

>

> Today should have been the birthday of the man I love, but in 1999 I

> actually saw him die in a horendous car accident. It's almost five

> years now since I lost him, but I still miss him so much. His death

> hit me incredibly hard as he was so full of live and epitomised the

> future, yet here at 24 he was gone and I no longer had one of the

> most wonderful, driving forces in my life. I did a hell of a lot of

> crying and almost had a nervous breakdown after his death, until I

> started remembering everything he stood for especially his way of

> loving every minute of life. I realised that Greg wouldn't want me

> to waste time crying, he would want me to use the gift that had been

> cruelly taken form him - life.

>

> The best memorial I could give him would be to continue living and

> making the most of every moment, a lesson that has helped me acheive

> some very special things and has been crucially important to me in

> fighting my health induced restriction, pain and frustrations. He

> may have died far too young, but he achieved more in those tender

> years than most people I know in their 70's...and his legacy will

> live on too. Greg was one of the kindest, loving, generous men I

> have ever known, and I still believe his final and best gift to me

> came when he left - the courage to keep living and enjoying life no

> matter what it throws at me. A precious gift indeed.

>

> Gosh I'm so sorry for this waffle, you don't need to know any of

> this, I guess I just needed to talk about the person who was my

> beloved friend while with me and is my constant inspiration even now

> he's not. Thank you for letting me remember and sit here crying for

> all I lost and all I gained.

>

> Love and hugs....Jo

> xxx

>

>

>

>

> To learn more about EDS, visit our website: http://www.ehlersdanlos.ca

>

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Jo,

I am so sorry that you are upset and alone on this anniversary of

Greg's Brithday. I know that you miss him very much and loved him

dearly. I am sorry that I missed you post when you sent it but at

least I can post now, just to give you a huge GENTLE

((((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))))))))))))) and to say I know

it is hard, when these memorials come by and the memories can be very

overwealming especailly seeing that you saw his tragic fatal accident

(i too would have been a TOTAL wreck).

Good Luck and nknow that Greg is looking out for you even though he

isn't with you physically.

Sharon

> I really apologise for this, but I think the night-time is getting

> the better of me and I just really need to talk and hug someone. I

> have managed pretty well through the day when there have been

> distractions, but now that I'm alone with only the empty, lonely

> night my sadness and bitter sweet memories are getting the better

of

> me.

>

> Today should have been the birthday of the man I love, but in 1999

I

> actually saw him die in a horendous car accident. It's almost five

> years now since I lost him, but I still miss him so much. His death

> hit me incredibly hard as he was so full of live and epitomised the

> future, yet here at 24 he was gone and I no longer had one of the

> most wonderful, driving forces in my life. I did a hell of a lot of

> crying and almost had a nervous breakdown after his death, until I

> started remembering everything he stood for especially his way of

> loving every minute of life. I realised that Greg wouldn't want me

> to waste time crying, he would want me to use the gift that had

been

> cruelly taken form him - life.

>

> The best memorial I could give him would be to continue living and

> making the most of every moment, a lesson that has helped me

acheive

> some very special things and has been crucially important to me in

> fighting my health induced restriction, pain and frustrations. He

> may have died far too young, but he achieved more in those tender

> years than most people I know in their 70's...and his legacy will

> live on too. Greg was one of the kindest, loving, generous men I

> have ever known, and I still believe his final and best gift to me

> came when he left - the courage to keep living and enjoying life no

> matter what it throws at me. A precious gift indeed.

>

> Gosh I'm so sorry for this waffle, you don't need to know any of

> this, I guess I just needed to talk about the person who was my

> beloved friend while with me and is my constant inspiration even

now

> he's not. Thank you for letting me remember and sit here crying for

> all I lost and all I gained.

>

> Love and hugs....Jo

> xxx

[Guest guest]

Jo,

I am so sorry that you are upset and alone on this anniversary of

Greg's Brithday. I know that you miss him very much and loved him

dearly. I am sorry that I missed you post when you sent it but at

least I can post now, just to give you a huge GENTLE

((((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))))))))))))) and to say I know

it is hard, when these memorials come by and the memories can be very

overwealming especailly seeing that you saw his tragic fatal accident

(i too would have been a TOTAL wreck).

Good Luck and nknow that Greg is looking out for you even though he

isn't with you physically.

Sharon

> I really apologise for this, but I think the night-time is getting

> the better of me and I just really need to talk and hug someone. I

> have managed pretty well through the day when there have been

> distractions, but now that I'm alone with only the empty, lonely

> night my sadness and bitter sweet memories are getting the better

of

> me.

>

> Today should have been the birthday of the man I love, but in 1999

I

> actually saw him die in a horendous car accident. It's almost five

> years now since I lost him, but I still miss him so much. His death

> hit me incredibly hard as he was so full of live and epitomised the

> future, yet here at 24 he was gone and I no longer had one of the

> most wonderful, driving forces in my life. I did a hell of a lot of

> crying and almost had a nervous breakdown after his death, until I

> started remembering everything he stood for especially his way of

> loving every minute of life. I realised that Greg wouldn't want me

> to waste time crying, he would want me to use the gift that had

been

> cruelly taken form him - life.

>

> The best memorial I could give him would be to continue living and

> making the most of every moment, a lesson that has helped me

acheive

> some very special things and has been crucially important to me in

> fighting my health induced restriction, pain and frustrations. He

> may have died far too young, but he achieved more in those tender

> years than most people I know in their 70's...and his legacy will

> live on too. Greg was one of the kindest, loving, generous men I

> have ever known, and I still believe his final and best gift to me

> came when he left - the courage to keep living and enjoying life no

> matter what it throws at me. A precious gift indeed.

>

> Gosh I'm so sorry for this waffle, you don't need to know any of

> this, I guess I just needed to talk about the person who was my

> beloved friend while with me and is my constant inspiration even

now

> he's not. Thank you for letting me remember and sit here crying for

> all I lost and all I gained.

>

> Love and hugs....Jo

> xxx

[Guest guest]

Jo,

I am so sorry that you are upset and alone on this anniversary of

Greg's Brithday. I know that you miss him very much and loved him

dearly. I am sorry that I missed you post when you sent it but at

least I can post now, just to give you a huge GENTLE

((((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))))))))))))) and to say I know

it is hard, when these memorials come by and the memories can be very

overwealming especailly seeing that you saw his tragic fatal accident

(i too would have been a TOTAL wreck).

Good Luck and nknow that Greg is looking out for you even though he

isn't with you physically.

Sharon

> I really apologise for this, but I think the night-time is getting

> the better of me and I just really need to talk and hug someone. I

> have managed pretty well through the day when there have been

> distractions, but now that I'm alone with only the empty, lonely

> night my sadness and bitter sweet memories are getting the better

of

> me.

>

> Today should have been the birthday of the man I love, but in 1999

I

> actually saw him die in a horendous car accident. It's almost five

> years now since I lost him, but I still miss him so much. His death

> hit me incredibly hard as he was so full of live and epitomised the

> future, yet here at 24 he was gone and I no longer had one of the

> most wonderful, driving forces in my life. I did a hell of a lot of

> crying and almost had a nervous breakdown after his death, until I

> started remembering everything he stood for especially his way of

> loving every minute of life. I realised that Greg wouldn't want me

> to waste time crying, he would want me to use the gift that had

been

> cruelly taken form him - life.

>

> The best memorial I could give him would be to continue living and

> making the most of every moment, a lesson that has helped me

acheive

> some very special things and has been crucially important to me in

> fighting my health induced restriction, pain and frustrations. He

> may have died far too young, but he achieved more in those tender

> years than most people I know in their 70's...and his legacy will

> live on too. Greg was one of the kindest, loving, generous men I

> have ever known, and I still believe his final and best gift to me

> came when he left - the courage to keep living and enjoying life no

> matter what it throws at me. A precious gift indeed.

>

> Gosh I'm so sorry for this waffle, you don't need to know any of

> this, I guess I just needed to talk about the person who was my

> beloved friend while with me and is my constant inspiration even

now

> he's not. Thank you for letting me remember and sit here crying for

> all I lost and all I gained.

>

> Love and hugs....Jo

> xxx

[Guest guest]

Hey Jo

((((((((((((((((((((JO))))))))))))))))))))

Sending you the biggest and safest hug humanly possible!! And I know

that he would be so proud of all your accomplishments through all your

trials and tribulations! We all are!!

Stacey

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Jo, I am so, so sorry for your loss! I think you are incredible and that

you do a fantastic job at living and making the most of life! So you are

paying tribute to him every single day. I wish so that I could be with you

in person, Jo, to give you that big, gentle hug! But know I AM sending it

to you, along with lots of prayers and good wishes!

Love Lana

> Today should have been the birthday of the man I love, but in 1999

I

> actually saw him die in a horendous car accident. It's almost five

> years now since I lost him, but I still miss him so much.

[Guest guest]

Oh Jo,

I feel terrible for your loss. What a tragedy, what a huge loss!! Not many

could go on after what you've witnessed, it must be an open wound for you

many times. I am so sorry for that.

Please find peace and comfort knowing that he is with you always and that

daily, he is watching over you.

Here is my hug to you (((((((((HUG)))))))))

Jill

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Really big hug here

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