Re: Cris---other's jealousy

[Guest guest]

Hey Cris,

At least it isn't just a nurse thing. My mom is a nurse and doesnt' have a clue

as to how anything in the body works or even where it is located in most places.

She knows your heart is in your chest, your brain is in your head but not much

else. I dropped out of nursing school because I couldn't take the blatant

favoriteism toward some of the students....usually the ones whos parents had

given lots of money to the school and none of whom should have been in the

nursing program and also the number of doctors who were drug addicts. It was

totally amazing to me.

Anyway before I go off on that...my mom throws a lot of insults my way too from

what my husband and I constrew as jealousy. Not as bad as some and I can hold

my own there....in fact I am taking my boys out to see their grandmother at

Easter. My sisters on the other hand are jealous to the extreme to the point

that they are extremely malicious and nearly froth at the mouth when my name is

even hinted at. The things they have tried to do over the years (the are 28 and

26 now) would make your hair curl. They have chosen to do nothing with their

lives, I have my degree, allbeit I started after it later due to no money, I

have a great job that I love, a family who, even though they drive me NUTS as a

hobby, that I love and that loves me dearly, I have a beautiful new home (not

new new, but we bought a new house for more space) and if you ask them then we

are rolling in $$$. We aren't, we are just barely, barely making it...but their

perception is all that matters to them. No matter

how incorrect it is. But the fact of the matter is that I am the only one of

my mothers four children to ever accomplish anything and they HATE it to the

point, like I said above, that is drives them to froth at the mouth. I haven't

seen them in nearly six years.....and that was only because I had to because my

grandmother died.

I do have a brother, but he isn't like that. He's pretty much bitter at

everything because he also hasn't finished school (he's 30) due to the fact that

he doesn't want to take his last three math classes. He's a little jealous not

because he doesn't like me, but because I finish what I set out to do and he

doesn't have the gumption to get up and do it himself.

I had a friend, we had been friends since babyhood, that I haven't seen or heard

from since I got married six years ago. She's mad because I did things that she

still hasn't done. The only thing she has done that I couldn't was to have baby

after baby after baby. Last I heard from a family member who lives near her was

that she was up to about 7 kids. No, she has no means of support, no education

and most of her children have different fathers. The huge welfare checks she

gets after having a new baby keep her at it. Also, none of her children are

healthy but it's the one thing she can do and do well and she is rewarded for

it. She'd say rude things about me not being able to have children (I had

fertility treatments for two years) and was not at all happy when I got married,

got my degree or bought my first house. As children and teens we were there for

everything for each other, good or bad, we were pretty much joined at the hip

and I was baffled by her change and I can only

put it up to the fact that I was doing things that she maybe wanted to do but

kept putting herself in a position that she couldn't. But then, she hates her

sister for getting a scholarship for premed school too....so maybe she is just a

jealous, jealous person. I cried for over a week when I realized that the

friendship had pretty much ended.....I really was upset because we had been best

friends all our lives....I was 26 then so it was a long time.

Sorry for rambling....but your post about your friend bought up some of the same

stuff for me. And I do tend to ramble.

Hugs,

Deb :-)

Cris wrote:

you could be right. I get put downs from her all of the time. And since she

moved, she has either really become a snob, or I never let it bother me before.

Actually, about 4 months before she moved, she was getting really bad. I figured

she was subconsciously trying to distance herself from her friends that she was

moving away from. I figured, at that time, I was glad she was moving, and didn't

plan on worrying about ever seeing her again.

She didn't go to nursing school until she was older - and yes, her nursing

degree is better than my BS degree!! and true - even her cars are better than my

cars -

I grew up with a father who was verbally abusive - I really don't need a friend

who is too -

Cris

Re: doctors recommend page

>

> well - we had a discussion - she needs a bike helmet. I commented how hard

it was for me to find one that fit my head - she said, small head, small

brain. Sometimes she says the rudist things to me - I wonder how we're

friends! so - I said - big head - big ego - then said I had to go. she said,

oh, you're mad at me now>.. duh.

>

> I'm not sure why the attitude of the internet. I'm sure you're right tho -

because had I mentioned I learned it from the books I had, they wouldn't be

as good as medicial books that she and doctor's learned from.

> I've had discussions in the past - my major in college was nutrition -

ticked me when I was young, because nurses got jobs that I applied for, with

no nutritional training.

> Cris

[Guest guest]

Hey Cris,

At least it isn't just a nurse thing. My mom is a nurse and doesnt' have a clue

as to how anything in the body works or even where it is located in most places.

She knows your heart is in your chest, your brain is in your head but not much

else. I dropped out of nursing school because I couldn't take the blatant

favoriteism toward some of the students....usually the ones whos parents had

given lots of money to the school and none of whom should have been in the

nursing program and also the number of doctors who were drug addicts. It was

totally amazing to me.

Anyway before I go off on that...my mom throws a lot of insults my way too from

what my husband and I constrew as jealousy. Not as bad as some and I can hold

my own there....in fact I am taking my boys out to see their grandmother at

Easter. My sisters on the other hand are jealous to the extreme to the point

that they are extremely malicious and nearly froth at the mouth when my name is

even hinted at. The things they have tried to do over the years (the are 28 and

26 now) would make your hair curl. They have chosen to do nothing with their

lives, I have my degree, allbeit I started after it later due to no money, I

have a great job that I love, a family who, even though they drive me NUTS as a

hobby, that I love and that loves me dearly, I have a beautiful new home (not

new new, but we bought a new house for more space) and if you ask them then we

are rolling in $$$. We aren't, we are just barely, barely making it...but their

perception is all that matters to them. No matter

how incorrect it is. But the fact of the matter is that I am the only one of

my mothers four children to ever accomplish anything and they HATE it to the

point, like I said above, that is drives them to froth at the mouth. I haven't

seen them in nearly six years.....and that was only because I had to because my

grandmother died.

I do have a brother, but he isn't like that. He's pretty much bitter at

everything because he also hasn't finished school (he's 30) due to the fact that

he doesn't want to take his last three math classes. He's a little jealous not

because he doesn't like me, but because I finish what I set out to do and he

doesn't have the gumption to get up and do it himself.

I had a friend, we had been friends since babyhood, that I haven't seen or heard

from since I got married six years ago. She's mad because I did things that she

still hasn't done. The only thing she has done that I couldn't was to have baby

after baby after baby. Last I heard from a family member who lives near her was

that she was up to about 7 kids. No, she has no means of support, no education

and most of her children have different fathers. The huge welfare checks she

gets after having a new baby keep her at it. Also, none of her children are

healthy but it's the one thing she can do and do well and she is rewarded for

it. She'd say rude things about me not being able to have children (I had

fertility treatments for two years) and was not at all happy when I got married,

got my degree or bought my first house. As children and teens we were there for

everything for each other, good or bad, we were pretty much joined at the hip

and I was baffled by her change and I can only

put it up to the fact that I was doing things that she maybe wanted to do but

kept putting herself in a position that she couldn't. But then, she hates her

sister for getting a scholarship for premed school too....so maybe she is just a

jealous, jealous person. I cried for over a week when I realized that the

friendship had pretty much ended.....I really was upset because we had been best

friends all our lives....I was 26 then so it was a long time.

Sorry for rambling....but your post about your friend bought up some of the same

stuff for me. And I do tend to ramble.

Hugs,

Deb :-)

Cris wrote:

you could be right. I get put downs from her all of the time. And since she

moved, she has either really become a snob, or I never let it bother me before.

Actually, about 4 months before she moved, she was getting really bad. I figured

she was subconsciously trying to distance herself from her friends that she was

moving away from. I figured, at that time, I was glad she was moving, and didn't

plan on worrying about ever seeing her again.

She didn't go to nursing school until she was older - and yes, her nursing

degree is better than my BS degree!! and true - even her cars are better than my

cars -

I grew up with a father who was verbally abusive - I really don't need a friend

who is too -

Cris

Re: doctors recommend page

>

> well - we had a discussion - she needs a bike helmet. I commented how hard

it was for me to find one that fit my head - she said, small head, small

brain. Sometimes she says the rudist things to me - I wonder how we're

friends! so - I said - big head - big ego - then said I had to go. she said,

oh, you're mad at me now>.. duh.

>

> I'm not sure why the attitude of the internet. I'm sure you're right tho -

because had I mentioned I learned it from the books I had, they wouldn't be

as good as medicial books that she and doctor's learned from.

> I've had discussions in the past - my major in college was nutrition -

ticked me when I was young, because nurses got jobs that I applied for, with

no nutritional training.

> Cris