Update on Deb (VA)

[Guest guest]

It's been kinda a rough spring. I caved in and went back on a 2-week

round of prednisone. Only 10 mg, but still I didn't want to do it.

I needed to take Nikki out touring colleges and I just couldn't the

way I felt before. I feel so much more alive and functioning. I

hope research can soon come up with something to help without doing

harm. I still have my fingers crossed. I haven't been on the board

lately. It is so much work to keep up with all the mails. Work is

same old same old. Two steps forward and one back, there's nothing

like feeling helpless to stress you out. Boss doesn't understand, he

assumes everything is going as planned. Maybe I just need to have a

little more faith that people want to do their jobs?? Sigh... Today I

had to sit out a meeting because one girl brought 4-5 different

scented lotions and invited everyone to try them. When I said I

couldn't stay her comment was " It's fruit scented! YOu can't be

sensitive to fruit scents! How do you eat a pear... Holding your

nose??? " What a snotty bi...ch! She is allergic to wheat, maybe

I'll slip a little wheat gluten into her next food and say " You can't

suffer from just a little wheat! Especially if it's fruit

flavored???! " Ha! I'm two migraine pills down now. Insurance only

allows 12 per month.

I did swing my stick a bit at work today and it felt better! I

called the lady who was so rude and she apologized. She said she was

trying to make a joke and didn't realize how it sounded. Probably a

load of crap, knowing the source, but just by calling I let her know

how much it offended me and how insensitive she was. It also made an

impact for the next time we have to have a meeting. I told her I

thought if anyone would understand sensitivity she would, since she

has the whole wheat-wheat gluten thing going on! She admitted she

just wasn't thinking, she was just excited about sharing the new

product. Standing up for onself in a nice way feels good! And I got

a laugh venting in the office.

I tried to find a support site for raising teenagers, but all I can

find is a site for troubled teenagers, and I don't have one of

those! I just need advice on how to help her put her best foot

forward (which I never got from my alcoholic mom, therefore had to

stumble thru - I dropped out of reg high school, married an

alcoholic, got beat up, left him, lost him and child in accident,

then went back to school at a small private christian HS). Suffice

it to say I never got " raised right " and I'm kicking myself for not

keeping Nikki in modeling, or dance, or something! I know there is

nothing shabby about her getting a retail job (she was hired first

application, first try!) but her job doesn't relate to animals and

that is where she wants to work. Nikki is my only child, so I didn't

have anyone to " practice " on. She is not doing very well in school.

Her test scores are always high, but she is late with almost all her

assignments and that brings her average way down I just keep my

deadlines on an organizer and BOOM they're done. She puts them off.

Anyone have any awesome organizational tools that might help? I keep

coming up with ideas, but it's like trying to build a better

mousetrap, someone has already done it better than I could and I'd

like to benefit from their experience.

Back to the parenting websites! Over half of those listed wanted

photos of " discipline " and " spanking " ! One said Photos of Mom's

spanking daughters wanted. No sickos allowed. Uh, excuse me, but

how could you want photos of that and NOT be a sicko? I was afraid

to log in to any of them and be spammed with more porn than I already

get with Yahoo... sucks.

That's about my routine the past few days. Nikki & I went " college

shopping " last week. She likes the small town rural college Radford

University. It's really nice and not too restrictive, but 6 hours

away from here, not near any major airport or anything. So far

everyone I've known has lived within 1-2 hours of a major airport so

I'm not too sure how I'd handle that. I guess Roanoke has a fairly

decent size airport though, so I'm probably ok. (In case of

emergency I'd like to know I could get there) It's still a little

far for weekend visits. Local colleges just don't have

the " independence " factor though. But regardless of the location we

all think it's best if she lives on campus her freshman year. Course

she is only a junior in hs right now, but I just discovered that her

senior year grades will not be considered on her application, so she

is pretty much screwed unless she goes for a late admission. I don't

know her GPA, but it is around a " C " . Competitive colleges are

looking at 3.5 or higher. Oh well, if we try hard enough I'm sure we

will find something that will help.

Now I get the lovely prednisone reduction withdrawal starting tomorrow

I'm down to 7.5 mg right now. I'm only breaking the 5 mg tabs in

half - I haven't done this for awhile and I hope I do ok without

having to call the doc for the 1mg tabs. But for the past couple of

weeks I've been GREAT!

Hi to everyone, and I'm sorry I missed so much. You all who write

everyday have my respect and gratitude for keeping up with all this!

Hope everyone is enjoying lovely spring weather like we are!

Hugs........Deb VA

[Guest guest]

Oh gosh, that's a whole lot to go through.

I wish I could address your whole message and there's a few issues in it,

but I need to get some rest and I just popped in to check msgs. I know I

won't get a chance within the next few days to write much, so at least I

want to send a few word.

First of all. I once read an article. It said that the only way you can

become a good parent is if you close your own childhood period and not do

things because they were that way or opposite when you were a child.

Meaning... do your best as a parent regardless of whether your parents did

right by you. If you read a book at night to your child don't do it because

your parents read to you, or worse, because they didn't. Whatever you do do

it believing this is the best you can do regardless of your past. I think

that is very smart and I find so many parents trying harder only because

they were not given the love when they were young.

I think you are doing right to help your daughter as much as possible, but

also don't be disappointed if she goes this way or that. You can still lead

her some, but she's at an age where she will have to make her own choices as

well. I can tell you are a good parent, your thoughts are with your

daughter, and it should be that way. You're doing just fine.

Now, if I can only imagine myself when one of my boys is going away to

college.......

I am so sorry you have to deal with some uncaring people at work. It must

be real difficult dealing with it on a daily basis. I wish I could tell you

what to do but I am drawing a complete blank. I mean it's totally different

when you have attitude issues alone, I've dealt with those and if all else

fails you can just try and disassociate yourself from such a co-worker. But

when it comes to your health that's another issue. Any way you can maybe

speak with someone in the Human Resources. I know you really can't complain,

but maybe if you would ask them to speak with her and ask her not to do that

in the future.... I don't know. I wish I could somehow help. I remember

commuting to work. There was this one lady who got in a few stops after me

and somehow she always wind up sitting next to me. She wore very strong

perfume that would give me a headache. I tried getting into a different car

of the train, but somehow she still wound up next to me..... It was awful

and I really suffered. I couldn't take another train. I took the earliest

one and the next one would get me to work late.

Anyway, hope all this somehow works out. I will have you in my thoughts

for a more considering work place and a good college close by for Nikki.

Mojo

Update on Deb (VA)

> It's been kinda a rough spring. I caved in and went back on a 2-week

> round of prednisone. Only 10 mg, but still I didn't want to do it.

> I needed to take Nikki out touring colleges and I just couldn't the

> way I felt before. I feel so much more alive and functioning. I

> hope research can soon come up with something to help without doing

> harm. I still have my fingers crossed. I haven't been on the board

> lately. It is so much work to keep up with all the mails. Work is

> same old same old. Two steps forward and one back, there's nothing

> like feeling helpless to stress you out. Boss doesn't understand, he

> assumes everything is going as planned. Maybe I just need to have a

> little more faith that people want to do their jobs?? Sigh... Today I

> had to sit out a meeting because one girl brought 4-5 different

> scented lotions and invited everyone to try them. When I said I

> couldn't stay her comment was " It's fruit scented! YOu can't be

> sensitive to fruit scents! How do you eat a pear... Holding your

> nose??? " What a snotty bi...ch! She is allergic to wheat, maybe

> I'll slip a little wheat gluten into her next food and say " You can't

> suffer from just a little wheat! Especially if it's fruit

> flavored???! " Ha! I'm two migraine pills down now. Insurance only

> allows 12 per month.

> I did swing my stick a bit at work today and it felt better! I

> called the lady who was so rude and she apologized. She said she was

> trying to make a joke and didn't realize how it sounded. Probably a

> load of crap, knowing the source, but just by calling I let her know

> how much it offended me and how insensitive she was. It also made an

> impact for the next time we have to have a meeting. I told her I

> thought if anyone would understand sensitivity she would, since she

> has the whole wheat-wheat gluten thing going on! She admitted she

> just wasn't thinking, she was just excited about sharing the new

> product. Standing up for onself in a nice way feels good! And I got

> a laugh venting in the office.

>

> I tried to find a support site for raising teenagers, but all I can

> find is a site for troubled teenagers, and I don't have one of

> those! I just need advice on how to help her put her best foot

> forward (which I never got from my alcoholic mom, therefore had to

> stumble thru - I dropped out of reg high school, married an

> alcoholic, got beat up, left him, lost him and child in accident,

> then went back to school at a small private christian HS). Suffice

> it to say I never got " raised right " and I'm kicking myself for not

> keeping Nikki in modeling, or dance, or something! I know there is

> nothing shabby about her getting a retail job (she was hired first

> application, first try!) but her job doesn't relate to animals and

> that is where she wants to work. Nikki is my only child, so I didn't

> have anyone to " practice " on. She is not doing very well in school.

> Her test scores are always high, but she is late with almost all her

> assignments and that brings her average way down I just keep my

> deadlines on an organizer and BOOM they're done. She puts them off.

> Anyone have any awesome organizational tools that might help? I keep

> coming up with ideas, but it's like trying to build a better

> mousetrap, someone has already done it better than I could and I'd

> like to benefit from their experience.

>

> Back to the parenting websites! Over half of those listed wanted

> photos of " discipline " and " spanking " ! One said Photos of Mom's

> spanking daughters wanted. No sickos allowed. Uh, excuse me, but

> how could you want photos of that and NOT be a sicko? I was afraid

> to log in to any of them and be spammed with more porn than I already

> get with Yahoo... sucks.

>

> That's about my routine the past few days. Nikki & I went " college

> shopping " last week. She likes the small town rural college Radford

> University. It's really nice and not too restrictive, but 6 hours

> away from here, not near any major airport or anything. So far

> everyone I've known has lived within 1-2 hours of a major airport so

> I'm not too sure how I'd handle that. I guess Roanoke has a fairly

> decent size airport though, so I'm probably ok. (In case of

> emergency I'd like to know I could get there) It's still a little

> far for weekend visits. Local colleges just don't have

> the " independence " factor though. But regardless of the location we

> all think it's best if she lives on campus her freshman year. Course

> she is only a junior in hs right now, but I just discovered that her

> senior year grades will not be considered on her application, so she

> is pretty much screwed unless she goes for a late admission. I don't

> know her GPA, but it is around a " C " . Competitive colleges are

> looking at 3.5 or higher. Oh well, if we try hard enough I'm sure we

> will find something that will help.

>

> Now I get the lovely prednisone reduction withdrawal starting tomorrow

> I'm down to 7.5 mg right now. I'm only breaking the 5 mg tabs in

> half - I haven't done this for awhile and I hope I do ok without

> having to call the doc for the 1mg tabs. But for the past couple of

> weeks I've been GREAT!

>

> Hi to everyone, and I'm sorry I missed so much. You all who write

> everyday have my respect and gratitude for keeping up with all this!

> Hope everyone is enjoying lovely spring weather like we are!

> Hugs........Deb VA

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