Vent: In Law Saga Visit/Saga Continues.... Did I mention they brought an gift? The FLU!!!!e

[Guest guest]

I'm sure you are all just waiting on baited breath for my story.. Seriously, I do appreciate this outlet. I tried to write you yesterday, but my husband has been following me around constantly like a puppy and sits behind me.

You will also have to forgive me because I haven't slept in my own bed for two night, but I have had 4 hours of sleep on an air mattress. Now, it is a nice air mattress, but it is no bed, and it had to be topped off in the middle of the night.

They never did call and tell me when they were coming. I waited around all day Friday. They just show up around 6:30 pm. No apologies. When they did show up MIL mentioned she didn't feel so good and her throat was sore! Spectacular!!!! They knew I wasn't well. I told them that.

Yesterday was not only me feeling like crap, but also the pleasure of sitting one couch all day staring at them. They don't like to anything....... they just sat in our living room with the TV off staring at us. You think I'm joking? No, they do this all the time. This is one of the reason we don't visit them. We have a very small house, and I had no where to go. She is spitting and coughing all over the place.

I can't go see my own mother for M-Day because I don't want to expose my mom and dad to this (my mom - lupus / dad diabetes/heart). ARGHHH.

To put it mildly...... THEY ARE WEIRD!

I'm going to try to dodge them today. I don't know how. I hurt and feel like crap, and now I see that next time I'm just going to have to be a Big Bitch.

Kelley/Okidoll

kuselton@...

[Guest guest]

Wait a second!!!! Why are you sleeping on an air mattress??? I sure hope you didn't give away your bed. I never do, unless I can't sleep myself and go on the couch. Everyone knows I'm not well, and they all know I need my rest. They come to visit me and stay overnight they sleep wherever there is space.

Mojo

Vent: In Law Saga Visit/Saga Continues.... Did I mention they brought an gift? The FLU!!!!e

I'm sure you are all just waiting on baited breath for my story.. Seriously, I do appreciate this outlet. I tried to write you yesterday, but my husband has been following me around constantly like a puppy and sits behind me.

You will also have to forgive me because I haven't slept in my own bed for two night, but I have had 4 hours of sleep on an air mattress. Now, it is a nice air mattress, but it is no bed, and it had to be topped off in the middle of the night.

They never did call and tell me when they were coming. I waited around all day Friday. They just show up around 6:30 pm. No apologies. When they did show up MIL mentioned she didn't feel so good and her throat was sore! Spectacular!!!! They knew I wasn't well. I told them that.

Yesterday was not only me feeling like crap, but also the pleasure of sitting one couch all day staring at them. They don't like to anything....... they just sat in our living room with the TV off staring at us. You think I'm joking? No, they do this all the time. This is one of the reason we don't visit them. We have a very small house, and I had no where to go. She is spitting and coughing all over the place.

I can't go see my own mother for M-Day because I don't want to expose my mom and dad to this (my mom - lupus / dad diabetes/heart). ARGHHH.

To put it mildly...... THEY ARE WEIRD!

I'm going to try to dodge them today. I don't know how. I hurt and feel like crap, and now I see that next time I'm just going to have to be a Big Bitch.

Kelley/Okidoll

kuselton@...

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[Guest guest]

Wait a second!!!! Why are you sleeping on an air mattress??? I sure hope you didn't give away your bed. I never do, unless I can't sleep myself and go on the couch. Everyone knows I'm not well, and they all know I need my rest. They come to visit me and stay overnight they sleep wherever there is space.

Mojo

Vent: In Law Saga Visit/Saga Continues.... Did I mention they brought an gift? The FLU!!!!e

I'm sure you are all just waiting on baited breath for my story.. Seriously, I do appreciate this outlet. I tried to write you yesterday, but my husband has been following me around constantly like a puppy and sits behind me.

You will also have to forgive me because I haven't slept in my own bed for two night, but I have had 4 hours of sleep on an air mattress. Now, it is a nice air mattress, but it is no bed, and it had to be topped off in the middle of the night.

They never did call and tell me when they were coming. I waited around all day Friday. They just show up around 6:30 pm. No apologies. When they did show up MIL mentioned she didn't feel so good and her throat was sore! Spectacular!!!! They knew I wasn't well. I told them that.

Yesterday was not only me feeling like crap, but also the pleasure of sitting one couch all day staring at them. They don't like to anything....... they just sat in our living room with the TV off staring at us. You think I'm joking? No, they do this all the time. This is one of the reason we don't visit them. We have a very small house, and I had no where to go. She is spitting and coughing all over the place.

I can't go see my own mother for M-Day because I don't want to expose my mom and dad to this (my mom - lupus / dad diabetes/heart). ARGHHH.

To put it mildly...... THEY ARE WEIRD!

I'm going to try to dodge them today. I don't know how. I hurt and feel like crap, and now I see that next time I'm just going to have to be a Big Bitch.

Kelley/Okidoll

kuselton@...

"The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies

[Guest guest]

Wait a second!!!! Why are you sleeping on an air mattress??? I sure hope you didn't give away your bed. I never do, unless I can't sleep myself and go on the couch. Everyone knows I'm not well, and they all know I need my rest. They come to visit me and stay overnight they sleep wherever there is space.

Mojo

Vent: In Law Saga Visit/Saga Continues.... Did I mention they brought an gift? The FLU!!!!e

I'm sure you are all just waiting on baited breath for my story.. Seriously, I do appreciate this outlet. I tried to write you yesterday, but my husband has been following me around constantly like a puppy and sits behind me.

You will also have to forgive me because I haven't slept in my own bed for two night, but I have had 4 hours of sleep on an air mattress. Now, it is a nice air mattress, but it is no bed, and it had to be topped off in the middle of the night.

They never did call and tell me when they were coming. I waited around all day Friday. They just show up around 6:30 pm. No apologies. When they did show up MIL mentioned she didn't feel so good and her throat was sore! Spectacular!!!! They knew I wasn't well. I told them that.

Yesterday was not only me feeling like crap, but also the pleasure of sitting one couch all day staring at them. They don't like to anything....... they just sat in our living room with the TV off staring at us. You think I'm joking? No, they do this all the time. This is one of the reason we don't visit them. We have a very small house, and I had no where to go. She is spitting and coughing all over the place.

I can't go see my own mother for M-Day because I don't want to expose my mom and dad to this (my mom - lupus / dad diabetes/heart). ARGHHH.

To put it mildly...... THEY ARE WEIRD!

I'm going to try to dodge them today. I don't know how. I hurt and feel like crap, and now I see that next time I'm just going to have to be a Big Bitch.

Kelley/Okidoll

kuselton@...

"The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies

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Give away my bed? Not Me!... Not my husband...... His parents helped themselves, yet my husband didn't do anything about it. These people are social clots... Meaning they just barge in and my husband just didn't

I didn't say anything because my husband has always accused me of "hating his parents". I don't hate them, I just dislike them. .... and I hate to say it, but he has said I'm bitchy. Oh, well.. I'm bitchy. I guess I should have been bitchy.

They decided they were going to stay last night .... Sunday.. Didn't ask. Never said when they were leaving . Last night .. Sunday, we ordered some pizza ... we paid... and we were sitting there eating when she makes some comment about wanting Chinese food.. I had to keep from laughing as my husband jerked his head up with this look on his face... It was so funny. See, they will offer to take you out to eat, but they make it very clear they aren't intending to spend much. These people are not poor by any means. They just paid to have their kitchen remodeled with all new appliances and granite. He's retired from the Fed. Govn. They saddled my husband with dept from college after they paid completely for the other two kids. (Now, I know that you can't expect a parent to completely or even partially pay for college, but when they completely pay for the other two????... And his brother didn't even finish...)

They are gone ... finally. But my stomach leapt to my throat after 10 minutes they pulled back into the driveway, because she forgot her frieking sewing bag. I can't sew... I can't even button my blouse or put on a bra sometimes.

Did I mention she was sick!!! She has the flu~~! My husband ask me why I was hiding into he computer room all day yesterday.... DUH?! I told him I didn't want to get sick, and he didn't say anything else.

I had nowhere to go.. They hogged our bedroom and bathroom.....and then they started using MY BATHROOM!! Why? I asked my husband why they had our bedroom and bathroom why were they taking a DUMP in my bathroom. There is no fan in there, and they didn't even open the window. They just let the pooh drifted through the house.

Oh, and they also plopped themselves down in the living room....where they stayed for two days.... with the TV OFF. They just sat there ... and stared. I can't take that crap.. Sit and stare at each other for two frieking days! This won'[to happen again. My husband said lets go away next weekend, and I said.. I probably won't feel like it. I didn't have anywhere to go and really needed to lay down.

I feel like crap. I also feel like a FOOL!. I feel Used! I didn't even get to talk to my own Mother. She and Dad ran off to escape my sister and two kids ..... After all this, my sister called me last night and wanted to know if she could bring over her two kids (almost 3 and 1 !!))).. She does this to Mom and Dad all the time. Mom has Lupus too. She has seizures, and my sister will take those kids over there anyways. She sends the little girls in first so they will feel guilty.

What is with people? Do you have to be a jerk just to keep people from steamrolling you? I mean, this is family... not outside people. These are supposed to be your loved ones?

Kelley/Okidoll

[Guest guest]

Give away my bed? Not Me!... Not my husband...... His parents helped themselves, yet my husband didn't do anything about it. These people are social clots... Meaning they just barge in and my husband just didn't

I didn't say anything because my husband has always accused me of "hating his parents". I don't hate them, I just dislike them. .... and I hate to say it, but he has said I'm bitchy. Oh, well.. I'm bitchy. I guess I should have been bitchy.

They decided they were going to stay last night .... Sunday.. Didn't ask. Never said when they were leaving . Last night .. Sunday, we ordered some pizza ... we paid... and we were sitting there eating when she makes some comment about wanting Chinese food.. I had to keep from laughing as my husband jerked his head up with this look on his face... It was so funny. See, they will offer to take you out to eat, but they make it very clear they aren't intending to spend much. These people are not poor by any means. They just paid to have their kitchen remodeled with all new appliances and granite. He's retired from the Fed. Govn. They saddled my husband with dept from college after they paid completely for the other two kids. (Now, I know that you can't expect a parent to completely or even partially pay for college, but when they completely pay for the other two????... And his brother didn't even finish...)

They are gone ... finally. But my stomach leapt to my throat after 10 minutes they pulled back into the driveway, because she forgot her frieking sewing bag. I can't sew... I can't even button my blouse or put on a bra sometimes.

Did I mention she was sick!!! She has the flu~~! My husband ask me why I was hiding into he computer room all day yesterday.... DUH?! I told him I didn't want to get sick, and he didn't say anything else.

I had nowhere to go.. They hogged our bedroom and bathroom.....and then they started using MY BATHROOM!! Why? I asked my husband why they had our bedroom and bathroom why were they taking a DUMP in my bathroom. There is no fan in there, and they didn't even open the window. They just let the pooh drifted through the house.

Oh, and they also plopped themselves down in the living room....where they stayed for two days.... with the TV OFF. They just sat there ... and stared. I can't take that crap.. Sit and stare at each other for two frieking days! This won'[to happen again. My husband said lets go away next weekend, and I said.. I probably won't feel like it. I didn't have anywhere to go and really needed to lay down.

I feel like crap. I also feel like a FOOL!. I feel Used! I didn't even get to talk to my own Mother. She and Dad ran off to escape my sister and two kids ..... After all this, my sister called me last night and wanted to know if she could bring over her two kids (almost 3 and 1 !!))).. She does this to Mom and Dad all the time. Mom has Lupus too. She has seizures, and my sister will take those kids over there anyways. She sends the little girls in first so they will feel guilty.

What is with people? Do you have to be a jerk just to keep people from steamrolling you? I mean, this is family... not outside people. These are supposed to be your loved ones?

Kelley/Okidoll

[Guest guest]

Give away my bed? Not Me!... Not my husband...... His parents helped themselves, yet my husband didn't do anything about it. These people are social clots... Meaning they just barge in and my husband just didn't

I didn't say anything because my husband has always accused me of "hating his parents". I don't hate them, I just dislike them. .... and I hate to say it, but he has said I'm bitchy. Oh, well.. I'm bitchy. I guess I should have been bitchy.

They decided they were going to stay last night .... Sunday.. Didn't ask. Never said when they were leaving . Last night .. Sunday, we ordered some pizza ... we paid... and we were sitting there eating when she makes some comment about wanting Chinese food.. I had to keep from laughing as my husband jerked his head up with this look on his face... It was so funny. See, they will offer to take you out to eat, but they make it very clear they aren't intending to spend much. These people are not poor by any means. They just paid to have their kitchen remodeled with all new appliances and granite. He's retired from the Fed. Govn. They saddled my husband with dept from college after they paid completely for the other two kids. (Now, I know that you can't expect a parent to completely or even partially pay for college, but when they completely pay for the other two????... And his brother didn't even finish...)

They are gone ... finally. But my stomach leapt to my throat after 10 minutes they pulled back into the driveway, because she forgot her frieking sewing bag. I can't sew... I can't even button my blouse or put on a bra sometimes.

Did I mention she was sick!!! She has the flu~~! My husband ask me why I was hiding into he computer room all day yesterday.... DUH?! I told him I didn't want to get sick, and he didn't say anything else.

I had nowhere to go.. They hogged our bedroom and bathroom.....and then they started using MY BATHROOM!! Why? I asked my husband why they had our bedroom and bathroom why were they taking a DUMP in my bathroom. There is no fan in there, and they didn't even open the window. They just let the pooh drifted through the house.

Oh, and they also plopped themselves down in the living room....where they stayed for two days.... with the TV OFF. They just sat there ... and stared. I can't take that crap.. Sit and stare at each other for two frieking days! This won'[to happen again. My husband said lets go away next weekend, and I said.. I probably won't feel like it. I didn't have anywhere to go and really needed to lay down.

I feel like crap. I also feel like a FOOL!. I feel Used! I didn't even get to talk to my own Mother. She and Dad ran off to escape my sister and two kids ..... After all this, my sister called me last night and wanted to know if she could bring over her two kids (almost 3 and 1 !!))).. She does this to Mom and Dad all the time. Mom has Lupus too. She has seizures, and my sister will take those kids over there anyways. She sends the little girls in first so they will feel guilty.

What is with people? Do you have to be a jerk just to keep people from steamrolling you? I mean, this is family... not outside people. These are supposed to be your loved ones?

Kelley/Okidoll

[Guest guest]

, I just think they take advantage of the fact that you cannot say "no". They will use it and abuse it until you tell them otherwise or do something to stop it. I'm not saying it is your fault. It isn't. People shouldn't have to be told that they are abusing one's kindness. I think you should just draw a line somewhere.

This was my mother. I'll never forget coming from the hospital after I gave birth to my second son. It was late afternoon, my hubby picked me up from the hospital after a C-section. I walk in through the kitchen door and there's my mom, in a nightgown, cooking dinner. I couldn't recognize my kitchen. Then when I tried to let my mom as well as my sister that they should not stay the night because it is difficult as is, my mom said she had a right to be there (HA). Then she would make me completely uncomfortable. She would come and sit so close to me she was touching me. I was loosing 5 - 8 pounds of fluids each day from all the IV's they gave me. I was sweating really bad and I asked her on numerous occasions not to do that. It was the same situation as two years earlier when I had my oldest. Still, she had the right to sit as close to her grandson as she wanted to, screw my rights. Well, when I gave birth to my third I told my hubby - no family when we get back from the hospital! They can visit us the next day for an hour or so. He was hesitant, but I told him he should be more worried about the way I feel than about what they will say. It was so peaceful coming home with the newborn and just having my other boys with me.

Bottom line, I think you should draw a line somewhere. Tell them, listen, I'm sick I need my bed. If you wish to come for a visit you can sleep on the sofa. Please don't come for a full weekend, we have plans.

Mojo

Re: Vent: In Law Saga Visit/Saga Continues.... Did I mention they brought an gift? The FLU!!!!e

Give away my bed? Not Me!... Not my husband...... His parents helped themselves, yet my husband didn't do anything about it. These people are social clots... Meaning they just barge in and my husband just didn't

I didn't say anything because my husband has always accused me of "hating his parents". I don't hate them, I just dislike them. .... and I hate to say it, but he has said I'm bitchy. Oh, well.. I'm bitchy. I guess I should have been bitchy.

They decided they were going to stay last night .... Sunday.. Didn't ask. Never said when they were leaving . Last night .. Sunday, we ordered some pizza ... we paid... and we were sitting there eating when she makes some comment about wanting Chinese food.. I had to keep from laughing as my husband jerked his head up with this look on his face... It was so funny. See, they will offer to take you out to eat, but they make it very clear they aren't intending to spend much. These people are not poor by any means. They just paid to have their kitchen remodeled with all new appliances and granite. He's retired from the Fed. Govn. They saddled my husband with dept from college after they paid completely for the other two kids. (Now, I know that you can't expect a parent to completely or even partially pay for college, but when they completely pay for the other two????... And his brother didn't even finish...)

They are gone ... finally. But my stomach leapt to my throat after 10 minutes they pulled back into the driveway, because she forgot her frieking sewing bag. I can't sew... I can't even button my blouse or put on a bra sometimes.

Did I mention she was sick!!! She has the flu~~! My husband ask me why I was hiding into he computer room all day yesterday.... DUH?! I told him I didn't want to get sick, and he didn't say anything else.

I had nowhere to go.. They hogged our bedroom and bathroom.....and then they started using MY BATHROOM!! Why? I asked my husband why they had our bedroom and bathroom why were they taking a DUMP in my bathroom. There is no fan in there, and they didn't even open the window. They just let the pooh drifted through the house.

Oh, and they also plopped themselves down in the living room....where they stayed for two days.... with the TV OFF. They just sat there ... and stared. I can't take that crap.. Sit and stare at each other for two frieking days! This won'[to happen again. My husband said lets go away next weekend, and I said.. I probably won't feel like it. I didn't have anywhere to go and really needed to lay down.

I feel like crap. I also feel like a FOOL!. I feel Used! I didn't even get to talk to my own Mother. She and Dad ran off to escape my sister and two kids ..... After all this, my sister called me last night and wanted to know if she could bring over her two kids (almost 3 and 1 !!))).. She does this to Mom and Dad all the time. Mom has Lupus too. She has seizures, and my sister will take those kids over there anyways. She sends the little girls in first so they will feel guilty.

What is with people? Do you have to be a jerk just to keep people from steamrolling you? I mean, this is family... not outside people. These are supposed to be your loved ones?

Kelley/Okidoll

"The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies

[Guest guest]

, I just think they take advantage of the fact that you cannot say "no". They will use it and abuse it until you tell them otherwise or do something to stop it. I'm not saying it is your fault. It isn't. People shouldn't have to be told that they are abusing one's kindness. I think you should just draw a line somewhere.

This was my mother. I'll never forget coming from the hospital after I gave birth to my second son. It was late afternoon, my hubby picked me up from the hospital after a C-section. I walk in through the kitchen door and there's my mom, in a nightgown, cooking dinner. I couldn't recognize my kitchen. Then when I tried to let my mom as well as my sister that they should not stay the night because it is difficult as is, my mom said she had a right to be there (HA). Then she would make me completely uncomfortable. She would come and sit so close to me she was touching me. I was loosing 5 - 8 pounds of fluids each day from all the IV's they gave me. I was sweating really bad and I asked her on numerous occasions not to do that. It was the same situation as two years earlier when I had my oldest. Still, she had the right to sit as close to her grandson as she wanted to, screw my rights. Well, when I gave birth to my third I told my hubby - no family when we get back from the hospital! They can visit us the next day for an hour or so. He was hesitant, but I told him he should be more worried about the way I feel than about what they will say. It was so peaceful coming home with the newborn and just having my other boys with me.

Bottom line, I think you should draw a line somewhere. Tell them, listen, I'm sick I need my bed. If you wish to come for a visit you can sleep on the sofa. Please don't come for a full weekend, we have plans.

Mojo

Re: Vent: In Law Saga Visit/Saga Continues.... Did I mention they brought an gift? The FLU!!!!e

Give away my bed? Not Me!... Not my husband...... His parents helped themselves, yet my husband didn't do anything about it. These people are social clots... Meaning they just barge in and my husband just didn't

I didn't say anything because my husband has always accused me of "hating his parents". I don't hate them, I just dislike them. .... and I hate to say it, but he has said I'm bitchy. Oh, well.. I'm bitchy. I guess I should have been bitchy.

They decided they were going to stay last night .... Sunday.. Didn't ask. Never said when they were leaving . Last night .. Sunday, we ordered some pizza ... we paid... and we were sitting there eating when she makes some comment about wanting Chinese food.. I had to keep from laughing as my husband jerked his head up with this look on his face... It was so funny. See, they will offer to take you out to eat, but they make it very clear they aren't intending to spend much. These people are not poor by any means. They just paid to have their kitchen remodeled with all new appliances and granite. He's retired from the Fed. Govn. They saddled my husband with dept from college after they paid completely for the other two kids. (Now, I know that you can't expect a parent to completely or even partially pay for college, but when they completely pay for the other two????... And his brother didn't even finish...)

They are gone ... finally. But my stomach leapt to my throat after 10 minutes they pulled back into the driveway, because she forgot her frieking sewing bag. I can't sew... I can't even button my blouse or put on a bra sometimes.

Did I mention she was sick!!! She has the flu~~! My husband ask me why I was hiding into he computer room all day yesterday.... DUH?! I told him I didn't want to get sick, and he didn't say anything else.

I had nowhere to go.. They hogged our bedroom and bathroom.....and then they started using MY BATHROOM!! Why? I asked my husband why they had our bedroom and bathroom why were they taking a DUMP in my bathroom. There is no fan in there, and they didn't even open the window. They just let the pooh drifted through the house.

Oh, and they also plopped themselves down in the living room....where they stayed for two days.... with the TV OFF. They just sat there ... and stared. I can't take that crap.. Sit and stare at each other for two frieking days! This won'[to happen again. My husband said lets go away next weekend, and I said.. I probably won't feel like it. I didn't have anywhere to go and really needed to lay down.

I feel like crap. I also feel like a FOOL!. I feel Used! I didn't even get to talk to my own Mother. She and Dad ran off to escape my sister and two kids ..... After all this, my sister called me last night and wanted to know if she could bring over her two kids (almost 3 and 1 !!))).. She does this to Mom and Dad all the time. Mom has Lupus too. She has seizures, and my sister will take those kids over there anyways. She sends the little girls in first so they will feel guilty.

What is with people? Do you have to be a jerk just to keep people from steamrolling you? I mean, this is family... not outside people. These are supposed to be your loved ones?

Kelley/Okidoll

"The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies

[Guest guest]

, I just think they take advantage of the fact that you cannot say "no". They will use it and abuse it until you tell them otherwise or do something to stop it. I'm not saying it is your fault. It isn't. People shouldn't have to be told that they are abusing one's kindness. I think you should just draw a line somewhere.

This was my mother. I'll never forget coming from the hospital after I gave birth to my second son. It was late afternoon, my hubby picked me up from the hospital after a C-section. I walk in through the kitchen door and there's my mom, in a nightgown, cooking dinner. I couldn't recognize my kitchen. Then when I tried to let my mom as well as my sister that they should not stay the night because it is difficult as is, my mom said she had a right to be there (HA). Then she would make me completely uncomfortable. She would come and sit so close to me she was touching me. I was loosing 5 - 8 pounds of fluids each day from all the IV's they gave me. I was sweating really bad and I asked her on numerous occasions not to do that. It was the same situation as two years earlier when I had my oldest. Still, she had the right to sit as close to her grandson as she wanted to, screw my rights. Well, when I gave birth to my third I told my hubby - no family when we get back from the hospital! They can visit us the next day for an hour or so. He was hesitant, but I told him he should be more worried about the way I feel than about what they will say. It was so peaceful coming home with the newborn and just having my other boys with me.

Bottom line, I think you should draw a line somewhere. Tell them, listen, I'm sick I need my bed. If you wish to come for a visit you can sleep on the sofa. Please don't come for a full weekend, we have plans.

Mojo

Re: Vent: In Law Saga Visit/Saga Continues.... Did I mention they brought an gift? The FLU!!!!e

Give away my bed? Not Me!... Not my husband...... His parents helped themselves, yet my husband didn't do anything about it. These people are social clots... Meaning they just barge in and my husband just didn't

I didn't say anything because my husband has always accused me of "hating his parents". I don't hate them, I just dislike them. .... and I hate to say it, but he has said I'm bitchy. Oh, well.. I'm bitchy. I guess I should have been bitchy.

They decided they were going to stay last night .... Sunday.. Didn't ask. Never said when they were leaving . Last night .. Sunday, we ordered some pizza ... we paid... and we were sitting there eating when she makes some comment about wanting Chinese food.. I had to keep from laughing as my husband jerked his head up with this look on his face... It was so funny. See, they will offer to take you out to eat, but they make it very clear they aren't intending to spend much. These people are not poor by any means. They just paid to have their kitchen remodeled with all new appliances and granite. He's retired from the Fed. Govn. They saddled my husband with dept from college after they paid completely for the other two kids. (Now, I know that you can't expect a parent to completely or even partially pay for college, but when they completely pay for the other two????... And his brother didn't even finish...)

They are gone ... finally. But my stomach leapt to my throat after 10 minutes they pulled back into the driveway, because she forgot her frieking sewing bag. I can't sew... I can't even button my blouse or put on a bra sometimes.

Did I mention she was sick!!! She has the flu~~! My husband ask me why I was hiding into he computer room all day yesterday.... DUH?! I told him I didn't want to get sick, and he didn't say anything else.

I had nowhere to go.. They hogged our bedroom and bathroom.....and then they started using MY BATHROOM!! Why? I asked my husband why they had our bedroom and bathroom why were they taking a DUMP in my bathroom. There is no fan in there, and they didn't even open the window. They just let the pooh drifted through the house.

Oh, and they also plopped themselves down in the living room....where they stayed for two days.... with the TV OFF. They just sat there ... and stared. I can't take that crap.. Sit and stare at each other for two frieking days! This won'[to happen again. My husband said lets go away next weekend, and I said.. I probably won't feel like it. I didn't have anywhere to go and really needed to lay down.

I feel like crap. I also feel like a FOOL!. I feel Used! I didn't even get to talk to my own Mother. She and Dad ran off to escape my sister and two kids ..... After all this, my sister called me last night and wanted to know if she could bring over her two kids (almost 3 and 1 !!))).. She does this to Mom and Dad all the time. Mom has Lupus too. She has seizures, and my sister will take those kids over there anyways. She sends the little girls in first so they will feel guilty.

What is with people? Do you have to be a jerk just to keep people from steamrolling you? I mean, this is family... not outside people. These are supposed to be your loved ones?

Kelley/Okidoll

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