Guest guest Posted May 23, 2004 Report Share Posted May 23, 2004 Thanks Mike, I talked to our pastor tonight for a couple of hours and we have a meeting in the morning with his DR's and casemanager so hopefully we will have some answers. We are finding out little bits and pieces of information from the other kids the longer he is gone. Apparently he threatened to kill our oldest daughter if she told on him for having the drawings and stuff in his back pack. I didn't realize how much tension he was generating in the house until yesterday and today. It's like the calm after a storm is gone. We just didn't see it because we were to close to him but the picking at the other kids and defiance to all adults was just consuming the entire house. We would never disrupt his adoption but we may have to love him from a distance until he gets better. a C Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2004 Report Share Posted May 24, 2004 a C., I was forced to put my eldest son into therapeutic residential treatment for two years, and then into therapeutic foster group home for his safety and the safety of others. He is now labeled a sociopath, and is out on his own in a distant large city. He has refused any contact with us or the foster parents, but I still carry life insurance on him so that we can afford to bury him if something bad happens to him. He is incapable of returning love to anyone, and never bonded with his birth family or with me. Too badly damaged before he ever left the birth mother's "care" at 14 months of age. So much potential ruined by drugs, alcohol and stupidity. The weird thing is, like a birth child who turns out wrong, I still love him, worry over his welfare, and about his soul. Mothers are funny creatures, aren't we? I found that in order to love him enough, I had to let go and let those who were trained to handle his problems, do so. Most difficult thing I ever had to do was put him in hospital. But, he is alive today and working on being a productive human being because I kept custody, but allowed those who could to actually raise him. I became more of a social advocate for him than a direct parent, but I think it was for his best interest in the long run. I wish you the strength of love to do what is best for your son. Loving hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2004 Report Share Posted May 24, 2004 Thank you Mike. They told us today that the best thing for us to do is sign him back to the state for at least 90 days. Now that the other kids are feeling safe enough, they are coming forward one at a time and letting us know that he threatened their lives as well. It may never be safe for him to come home, but we will always be his parents wether he wants us or not. He is stuck with us a C I became more of a social advocate for him than a direct parent, but I think it was for his best interest in the long run. I wish you the strength of love to do what is best for your son. Loving hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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