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[Guest guest]

Becky, actually we are thinking that he might be thinking that he could move in with his birth brother. He has never forgotten how very bad it was in the home with them but we have been able to keep in touch with his year younger brother that lives in Flagstaff. What he doesn't understand is that dad is very sick with a brain aneurysm that he hasn't recovered from and even if he offered, Justen has been our son for seven years, and was the first person to call me Mom. He lived in a group home four all the time he was in care before we got him so we where his first opportunity to live in a "real family." He has done extremely well until now. I am trying hard not to take this personally put it sure is hard. Okay, my meds are starting to work and I keep falling asleep typing, lol, guess I better finish reading these tomorrow!

a C.

Is he missing his Mom? This is a biggie with jeremy. Even though the woman is scum and he doesn't see her he is mad at her for giving him up and he misses her and doesn't know why. Boys seem to be attached to Mom no matter how bad she is. It's a hard issue to get past especially with teens.

Well there's my 2 cents worth. I don't know if I have helped, but I'll keep you in our prayers. Love ya,

Becky

[Guest guest]

a C., I have found, with my kids, that their need to know their birth families is so strong, even if

they remember being abused in that environment, it can override their affection for the adoptive

family. My boys all want to meet their birth parents, especially to ask them why they didn't keep

them. This is a very important question to our kids. Sometimes it is never going to be answered and

the hole it leaves in their souls is so painful to see. When my Randy starts in on the "you're not my

REAL mom" routine, I just remind him of who it was who sat by him for days on end in the hospital

when he was sick, who does for him every day of his life. Being a REAL mom means a lot more than

the physical act of procreation. REAL moms are there for their children, no matter what. He is just

now seeing the difference, and STILL has visions of being rescued by his birth parents when he is

unhappy with me.

My eldest son told everyone he met that Whitney Houston was his birth mother. He never saw his

birth mother after he was fourteen months old, but he was terrified she would come and take him

away from me after he was placed. Every cemetery we passed, he would look anxiously at me and

say, "My mama's dead, right?" These kids are all a bundle of insecurities, pain, and questions.

I hope your boy comes around right again, and is able to have a good life. I pray for my boys for the

same. Love you, MM

[Guest guest]

a C., I have found, with my kids, that their need to know their birth families is so strong, even if

they remember being abused in that environment, it can override their affection for the adoptive

family. My boys all want to meet their birth parents, especially to ask them why they didn't keep

them. This is a very important question to our kids. Sometimes it is never going to be answered and

the hole it leaves in their souls is so painful to see. When my Randy starts in on the "you're not my

REAL mom" routine, I just remind him of who it was who sat by him for days on end in the hospital

when he was sick, who does for him every day of his life. Being a REAL mom means a lot more than

the physical act of procreation. REAL moms are there for their children, no matter what. He is just

now seeing the difference, and STILL has visions of being rescued by his birth parents when he is

unhappy with me.

My eldest son told everyone he met that Whitney Houston was his birth mother. He never saw his

birth mother after he was fourteen months old, but he was terrified she would come and take him

away from me after he was placed. Every cemetery we passed, he would look anxiously at me and

say, "My mama's dead, right?" These kids are all a bundle of insecurities, pain, and questions.

I hope your boy comes around right again, and is able to have a good life. I pray for my boys for the

same. Love you, MM

[Guest guest]

a C., I have found, with my kids, that their need to know their birth families is so strong, even if

they remember being abused in that environment, it can override their affection for the adoptive

family. My boys all want to meet their birth parents, especially to ask them why they didn't keep

them. This is a very important question to our kids. Sometimes it is never going to be answered and

the hole it leaves in their souls is so painful to see. When my Randy starts in on the "you're not my

REAL mom" routine, I just remind him of who it was who sat by him for days on end in the hospital

when he was sick, who does for him every day of his life. Being a REAL mom means a lot more than

the physical act of procreation. REAL moms are there for their children, no matter what. He is just

now seeing the difference, and STILL has visions of being rescued by his birth parents when he is

unhappy with me.

My eldest son told everyone he met that Whitney Houston was his birth mother. He never saw his

birth mother after he was fourteen months old, but he was terrified she would come and take him

away from me after he was placed. Every cemetery we passed, he would look anxiously at me and

say, "My mama's dead, right?" These kids are all a bundle of insecurities, pain, and questions.

I hope your boy comes around right again, and is able to have a good life. I pray for my boys for the

same. Love you, MM