Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Your Medical condition is just that YOURS. If you choose to share it with them that is up to you, but take it from me, I wouldn't. I have been on my current job as a temp since april 2001, another girl that was brought in 2 weeks after me has been hired by the company and I have not been hired as an employee. They know about my condition, and I think that is why I am not yet on their payrole. The company is self insured( they pay the medical bills them self and just have an administrator take care of the paperwork. I don't think that they want the cost of my medical bills. Joan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Your Medical condition is just that YOURS. If you choose to share it with them that is up to you, but take it from me, I wouldn't. I have been on my current job as a temp since april 2001, another girl that was brought in 2 weeks after me has been hired by the company and I have not been hired as an employee. They know about my condition, and I think that is why I am not yet on their payrole. The company is self insured( they pay the medical bills them self and just have an administrator take care of the paperwork. I don't think that they want the cost of my medical bills. Joan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Nobody at my job knows my illnesses and I will never tell them. Luckily for me I have a doctor who doesn't fill in the blanks on my doctor's note, so they never know why I call out. I usually just fill in cold or stomach flu. My boss is not an understanding man and can't understand why I can't lift things like I use to. I told him I had arthritis, this is reasonable cause I use to be a ballet dancer so he understands that but there is no way anybody here would understand my being sick all the time, in pain and tired cause of FM and CFS. Luckily I have a desk job as an admin asst. so I sit at my desk all day but I do the most I have to do which I must admit is not helping me in getting promotions and moving up the ladder. I don't think I could handle more pressure. The more stressed out I get the worse the pain is. Tara > I already know the answer to this, but I'm curious as to how you guys feel > about this question. > > IF I get this job -- big ' " if " -- just how honest can I be about my medical > conditions? I won't even ask about the psychological ones; I don't even > talk to my PARENTS about those. > > Here's the thing, though. Since I would only be changing departments, not > become a new hire again, my anniversary of working with this hospital will > still fall on March 26. That is when I become eligible to take FMLA days > off. But in a managerial position, I know I will not be able to take > advantage of that. > > I'm getting the cart before the horse, since I haven't had my interview yet > (1.75 hours and counting). I have no intention of broaching the subject > during my interview. But the naggingly honest part of me is going, Em, > what if the Kenalog doesn't work as well this time? What if you continue > to feel as you do now? And that just scares me to death, because the steep > learning curve of a new job and the MUCH higher level of responsibility in > this position are going to be very tiring. > > It's just hard to weigh the two issues against one another. With the job, > I have more satisfying duties, a job that fits my skills MUCH better, and a > pay scale that will allow me to be able to afford maybe payments on a new > car (which I *desperately* need, mine is 12 years old and falling apart), > and so on. Without it, I'm stuck in a dead-end position, but I can do > FMLA, without worrying about the fact that if I'm gone, there is no one to > step in for me. > > Any thoughts? Like I said, won't mention it in my interview. But a part > of me just feels like it's a lie. And that part of me isn't wrong. > > *worried* > Em > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > It is the tale, not he who tells it. > > I no longer need to punish, deceive or compromise myself. > Unless, of course, I want to stay employed. > > Broccoli is bigger than all of us. > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Nobody at my job knows my illnesses and I will never tell them. Luckily for me I have a doctor who doesn't fill in the blanks on my doctor's note, so they never know why I call out. I usually just fill in cold or stomach flu. My boss is not an understanding man and can't understand why I can't lift things like I use to. I told him I had arthritis, this is reasonable cause I use to be a ballet dancer so he understands that but there is no way anybody here would understand my being sick all the time, in pain and tired cause of FM and CFS. Luckily I have a desk job as an admin asst. so I sit at my desk all day but I do the most I have to do which I must admit is not helping me in getting promotions and moving up the ladder. I don't think I could handle more pressure. The more stressed out I get the worse the pain is. Tara > I already know the answer to this, but I'm curious as to how you guys feel > about this question. > > IF I get this job -- big ' " if " -- just how honest can I be about my medical > conditions? I won't even ask about the psychological ones; I don't even > talk to my PARENTS about those. > > Here's the thing, though. Since I would only be changing departments, not > become a new hire again, my anniversary of working with this hospital will > still fall on March 26. That is when I become eligible to take FMLA days > off. But in a managerial position, I know I will not be able to take > advantage of that. > > I'm getting the cart before the horse, since I haven't had my interview yet > (1.75 hours and counting). I have no intention of broaching the subject > during my interview. But the naggingly honest part of me is going, Em, > what if the Kenalog doesn't work as well this time? What if you continue > to feel as you do now? And that just scares me to death, because the steep > learning curve of a new job and the MUCH higher level of responsibility in > this position are going to be very tiring. > > It's just hard to weigh the two issues against one another. With the job, > I have more satisfying duties, a job that fits my skills MUCH better, and a > pay scale that will allow me to be able to afford maybe payments on a new > car (which I *desperately* need, mine is 12 years old and falling apart), > and so on. Without it, I'm stuck in a dead-end position, but I can do > FMLA, without worrying about the fact that if I'm gone, there is no one to > step in for me. > > Any thoughts? Like I said, won't mention it in my interview. But a part > of me just feels like it's a lie. And that part of me isn't wrong. > > *worried* > Em > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > It is the tale, not he who tells it. > > I no longer need to punish, deceive or compromise myself. > Unless, of course, I want to stay employed. > > Broccoli is bigger than all of us. > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Nobody at my job knows my illnesses and I will never tell them. Luckily for me I have a doctor who doesn't fill in the blanks on my doctor's note, so they never know why I call out. I usually just fill in cold or stomach flu. My boss is not an understanding man and can't understand why I can't lift things like I use to. I told him I had arthritis, this is reasonable cause I use to be a ballet dancer so he understands that but there is no way anybody here would understand my being sick all the time, in pain and tired cause of FM and CFS. Luckily I have a desk job as an admin asst. so I sit at my desk all day but I do the most I have to do which I must admit is not helping me in getting promotions and moving up the ladder. I don't think I could handle more pressure. The more stressed out I get the worse the pain is. Tara > I already know the answer to this, but I'm curious as to how you guys feel > about this question. > > IF I get this job -- big ' " if " -- just how honest can I be about my medical > conditions? I won't even ask about the psychological ones; I don't even > talk to my PARENTS about those. > > Here's the thing, though. Since I would only be changing departments, not > become a new hire again, my anniversary of working with this hospital will > still fall on March 26. That is when I become eligible to take FMLA days > off. But in a managerial position, I know I will not be able to take > advantage of that. > > I'm getting the cart before the horse, since I haven't had my interview yet > (1.75 hours and counting). I have no intention of broaching the subject > during my interview. But the naggingly honest part of me is going, Em, > what if the Kenalog doesn't work as well this time? What if you continue > to feel as you do now? And that just scares me to death, because the steep > learning curve of a new job and the MUCH higher level of responsibility in > this position are going to be very tiring. > > It's just hard to weigh the two issues against one another. With the job, > I have more satisfying duties, a job that fits my skills MUCH better, and a > pay scale that will allow me to be able to afford maybe payments on a new > car (which I *desperately* need, mine is 12 years old and falling apart), > and so on. Without it, I'm stuck in a dead-end position, but I can do > FMLA, without worrying about the fact that if I'm gone, there is no one to > step in for me. > > Any thoughts? Like I said, won't mention it in my interview. But a part > of me just feels like it's a lie. And that part of me isn't wrong. > > *worried* > Em > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > It is the tale, not he who tells it. > > I no longer need to punish, deceive or compromise myself. > Unless, of course, I want to stay employed. > > Broccoli is bigger than all of us. > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 For those of you holding down full time jobs... How many sick days a year do you end up taking? Ruth >>> u2tree2000@... 01/04/02 06:43AM >>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 For those of you holding down full time jobs... How many sick days a year do you end up taking? Ruth >>> u2tree2000@... 01/04/02 06:43AM >>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 For those of you holding down full time jobs... How many sick days a year do you end up taking? Ruth >>> u2tree2000@... 01/04/02 06:43AM >>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Last year 8, I only get a max of ten I got in trouble last year so I am up to like 5 right now. Sometimes I force myself to come in even when I am in lots of pain. I know my boss doesn't like me but I come in do my work and go home. I think the fog has made me worse though, I have a very bad short- term memory and my boss also has one so if I don't write something down when he tells me to do something I will forget and he gets irritated when I go back to ask him to remind me. The reason why I stay working is that I work for a university and my pension plan in incredible and so is my health insurance. Also I am in a union position so my boss can't really do anything about me and he hates that. I think that is why I work and do a good job but that I really don't go over the call of duty. I do my job to get paid so I can go home and rest. FM is becoming my prison. I don't really go out anymore once and while at the least, Dating & socializing its non- existent. Girls who have husbands you are lucky its worse when you are single with this, it takes your social life away. A lady I work with has FM and she says swimming is the best thing to curb the pain in her FM. So with my Yoga I will try swimming in the spring at the University's gym and let you know if it works. Its a calming way of exercising the water is easier on your joints. Tara Tara > For those of you holding down full time jobs... > > How many sick days a year do you end up taking? > > Ruth > > >>> u2tree2000@y... 01/04/02 06:43AM >>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Last year 8, I only get a max of ten I got in trouble last year so I am up to like 5 right now. Sometimes I force myself to come in even when I am in lots of pain. I know my boss doesn't like me but I come in do my work and go home. I think the fog has made me worse though, I have a very bad short- term memory and my boss also has one so if I don't write something down when he tells me to do something I will forget and he gets irritated when I go back to ask him to remind me. The reason why I stay working is that I work for a university and my pension plan in incredible and so is my health insurance. Also I am in a union position so my boss can't really do anything about me and he hates that. I think that is why I work and do a good job but that I really don't go over the call of duty. I do my job to get paid so I can go home and rest. FM is becoming my prison. I don't really go out anymore once and while at the least, Dating & socializing its non- existent. Girls who have husbands you are lucky its worse when you are single with this, it takes your social life away. A lady I work with has FM and she says swimming is the best thing to curb the pain in her FM. So with my Yoga I will try swimming in the spring at the University's gym and let you know if it works. Its a calming way of exercising the water is easier on your joints. Tara Tara > For those of you holding down full time jobs... > > How many sick days a year do you end up taking? > > Ruth > > >>> u2tree2000@y... 01/04/02 06:43AM >>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Last year 8, I only get a max of ten I got in trouble last year so I am up to like 5 right now. Sometimes I force myself to come in even when I am in lots of pain. I know my boss doesn't like me but I come in do my work and go home. I think the fog has made me worse though, I have a very bad short- term memory and my boss also has one so if I don't write something down when he tells me to do something I will forget and he gets irritated when I go back to ask him to remind me. The reason why I stay working is that I work for a university and my pension plan in incredible and so is my health insurance. Also I am in a union position so my boss can't really do anything about me and he hates that. I think that is why I work and do a good job but that I really don't go over the call of duty. I do my job to get paid so I can go home and rest. FM is becoming my prison. I don't really go out anymore once and while at the least, Dating & socializing its non- existent. Girls who have husbands you are lucky its worse when you are single with this, it takes your social life away. A lady I work with has FM and she says swimming is the best thing to curb the pain in her FM. So with my Yoga I will try swimming in the spring at the University's gym and let you know if it works. Its a calming way of exercising the water is easier on your joints. Tara Tara > For those of you holding down full time jobs... > > How many sick days a year do you end up taking? > > Ruth > > >>> u2tree2000@y... 01/04/02 06:43AM >>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Tara, I also get 10 days. Does your boss know you have FMS? At my last job, everyone knew. I started a new job about 9 months ago and haven't told anyone about the fibro yet. They know that I leave early once a week for physical therapy, but don't know my neck pain is caused by FM. I drag myself to work on bad days too, but sometimes I just can't force myself. Ruth >>> u2tree2000@... 01/04/02 08:20AM >>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Tara, I also get 10 days. Does your boss know you have FMS? At my last job, everyone knew. I started a new job about 9 months ago and haven't told anyone about the fibro yet. They know that I leave early once a week for physical therapy, but don't know my neck pain is caused by FM. I drag myself to work on bad days too, but sometimes I just can't force myself. Ruth >>> u2tree2000@... 01/04/02 08:20AM >>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Tara, I also get 10 days. Does your boss know you have FMS? At my last job, everyone knew. I started a new job about 9 months ago and haven't told anyone about the fibro yet. They know that I leave early once a week for physical therapy, but don't know my neck pain is caused by FM. I drag myself to work on bad days too, but sometimes I just can't force myself. Ruth >>> u2tree2000@... 01/04/02 08:20AM >>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Hi Ruth, Have you had an MRI done on your neck? The reason I ask is that for 10 years the docs blamed all my head, neck and shoulder pain on my fibro and on my migraine history. Then I had an MRI done and it showed that the stenosis in my neck is so bad that my spinal column is half squashed. I have had two steroid injections in the past two months. (The second one was yesterday, so I'm more than a little under the weather and can't go to the office today :-). The first injection made a huge difference to my head and neck pain. I was able to cut my pain med use in half. The orthopaedic surgeon, the rheumatoglogist, and the pain management doc, all believe that surgical intervention is likely to relieve about half of the pain that has been consistently blamed on my fibro. I am meeting with a neurosurgeon in two weeks. Just a thought. Lyndi Ruth wrote: > Tara, > > I also get 10 days. Does your boss know you have FMS? At my last job, everyone knew. I started a new job about 9 months ago and haven't told anyone about the fibro yet. They know that I leave early once a week for physical therapy, but don't know my neck pain is caused by FM. > > I drag myself to work on bad days too, but sometimes I just can't force myself. > > Ruth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Hi Ruth, Have you had an MRI done on your neck? The reason I ask is that for 10 years the docs blamed all my head, neck and shoulder pain on my fibro and on my migraine history. Then I had an MRI done and it showed that the stenosis in my neck is so bad that my spinal column is half squashed. I have had two steroid injections in the past two months. (The second one was yesterday, so I'm more than a little under the weather and can't go to the office today :-). The first injection made a huge difference to my head and neck pain. I was able to cut my pain med use in half. The orthopaedic surgeon, the rheumatoglogist, and the pain management doc, all believe that surgical intervention is likely to relieve about half of the pain that has been consistently blamed on my fibro. I am meeting with a neurosurgeon in two weeks. Just a thought. Lyndi Ruth wrote: > Tara, > > I also get 10 days. Does your boss know you have FMS? At my last job, everyone knew. I started a new job about 9 months ago and haven't told anyone about the fibro yet. They know that I leave early once a week for physical therapy, but don't know my neck pain is caused by FM. > > I drag myself to work on bad days too, but sometimes I just can't force myself. > > Ruth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Hi Ruth, Have you had an MRI done on your neck? The reason I ask is that for 10 years the docs blamed all my head, neck and shoulder pain on my fibro and on my migraine history. Then I had an MRI done and it showed that the stenosis in my neck is so bad that my spinal column is half squashed. I have had two steroid injections in the past two months. (The second one was yesterday, so I'm more than a little under the weather and can't go to the office today :-). The first injection made a huge difference to my head and neck pain. I was able to cut my pain med use in half. The orthopaedic surgeon, the rheumatoglogist, and the pain management doc, all believe that surgical intervention is likely to relieve about half of the pain that has been consistently blamed on my fibro. I am meeting with a neurosurgeon in two weeks. Just a thought. Lyndi Ruth wrote: > Tara, > > I also get 10 days. Does your boss know you have FMS? At my last job, everyone knew. I started a new job about 9 months ago and haven't told anyone about the fibro yet. They know that I leave early once a week for physical therapy, but don't know my neck pain is caused by FM. > > I drag myself to work on bad days too, but sometimes I just can't force myself. > > Ruth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Lyndi wrote Have you had an MRI done on your neck? I've never had an MRI. My rheumy did order x-rays for my neck because she thought that I had osteo arthritis. The x-rays came back normal and she concluded that the fibro was causing the pain. The neck and shoulder area has always been especially bad for me (bad posture and I work at a computer all day). I've been doing therapy for about 3 months now and am noticing improvement. What is stenosis? Ruth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Lyndi wrote Have you had an MRI done on your neck? I've never had an MRI. My rheumy did order x-rays for my neck because she thought that I had osteo arthritis. The x-rays came back normal and she concluded that the fibro was causing the pain. The neck and shoulder area has always been especially bad for me (bad posture and I work at a computer all day). I've been doing therapy for about 3 months now and am noticing improvement. What is stenosis? Ruth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 The type of stenosis I was referring to, is a narrowing of the spinal column due to either arthritis or injury. Disc problems in that region can sometimes cause the same symptoms. My neck problems did not show up on any x-rays I've had, but were glaringly obvious when I had the MRI. Within two weeks of getting the MRI results, I went from having no doctors particularly concerned about my fibro, to having five specialists all working as a team to help relieve my pain. Go figure :-) Lyndi Ruth wrote: > Lyndi wrote > > Have you had an MRI done on your neck? > > I've never had an MRI. My rheumy did order x-rays for my neck because she thought that I had osteo arthritis. The x-rays came back normal and she concluded that the fibro was causing the pain. The neck and shoulder area has always been especially bad for me (bad posture and I work at a computer all day). I've been doing therapy for about 3 months now and am noticing improvement. > > What is stenosis? > > Ruth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 The type of stenosis I was referring to, is a narrowing of the spinal column due to either arthritis or injury. Disc problems in that region can sometimes cause the same symptoms. My neck problems did not show up on any x-rays I've had, but were glaringly obvious when I had the MRI. Within two weeks of getting the MRI results, I went from having no doctors particularly concerned about my fibro, to having five specialists all working as a team to help relieve my pain. Go figure :-) Lyndi Ruth wrote: > Lyndi wrote > > Have you had an MRI done on your neck? > > I've never had an MRI. My rheumy did order x-rays for my neck because she thought that I had osteo arthritis. The x-rays came back normal and she concluded that the fibro was causing the pain. The neck and shoulder area has always been especially bad for me (bad posture and I work at a computer all day). I've been doing therapy for about 3 months now and am noticing improvement. > > What is stenosis? > > Ruth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 I have spinal stenosis in my lower back from a fall I took at work 3 years ago... it causes some good pain down in that area and I have trouble walking at times because of that and other pain in that area... It showed up on an MRI as well.. there was a bit of controversy over it for me, however, because it was a worker's comp case... I'm so sorry you have it in your neck! Someryn --- Outgoing mail is certified Vermin Free Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.313 / Virus Database: 174 - Release Date: 1/3/2002 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 I have spinal stenosis in my lower back from a fall I took at work 3 years ago... it causes some good pain down in that area and I have trouble walking at times because of that and other pain in that area... It showed up on an MRI as well.. there was a bit of controversy over it for me, however, because it was a worker's comp case... I'm so sorry you have it in your neck! Someryn --- Outgoing mail is certified Vermin Free Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.313 / Virus Database: 174 - Release Date: 1/3/2002 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 I have spinal stenosis in my lower back from a fall I took at work 3 years ago... it causes some good pain down in that area and I have trouble walking at times because of that and other pain in that area... It showed up on an MRI as well.. there was a bit of controversy over it for me, however, because it was a worker's comp case... I'm so sorry you have it in your neck! Someryn --- Outgoing mail is certified Vermin Free Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.313 / Virus Database: 174 - Release Date: 1/3/2002 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 Thanks Someryn (or is it Someryn :-) I had stenosis and ruptured discs in my lower back when I was younger. (due to injury) It was awful. I had met with several 'young' orthopaedic surgeons and they all said that the damage was inoperable. Then in January of 1992, I had the good fortune of being introduce to a wonderful, elderly ish orthopaedic surgeon. I think he was 71 years old at the time. He told me that he could operate, but that there was only about a 40% chance it would help me and that there was also a risk it could make it worse. I went for the surgery anyway. I didn't have a whole lot to lose if it didn't work. The recovery was slow and painful, but it was worth it. I no longer have sciatic type pain in my legs or backside. I don't get a feeling like fire ants are biting the " h " out of my legs. I still trip over dustmites and I still get lower back pain, but it's not anything like the excruciating pain that I had before surgery. I can knock this pain out with a couple of tylenol 3. The before surgery pain couldn't even be dulled by morphine. If these young hot shot doctors that I have now are even half as good as that old Scotsman, I will be happy. Lyndi Someryn wrote: > I have spinal stenosis in my lower back from a fall I took at work 3 years ago... it causes some good pain down in that area and I have trouble walking at times because of that and other pain in that area... > It showed up on an MRI as well.. there was a bit of controversy over it for me, however, because it was a worker's comp case... > I'm so sorry you have it in your neck! > Someryn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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