Re: Please pray for my daughters..

[Guest guest]

SUE, MY PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOUR DAUGHTERS. ALWAYS KNOW THERE IS A REASON EVEN THOUGH WE DON'T UNDERSTAND. PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF DURING THIER TIME OF NEED AS THEY MAY NEED YOU MORE LATER. I HAVE NEVER HAD THIS EXPERIENCE AND CAN'T EVEN IMIAGE IT. HANG IN THERE AND HUGS TO YOU AND YOURS!

JEANI

[Guest guest]

SUE, MY PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOUR DAUGHTERS. ALWAYS KNOW THERE IS A REASON EVEN THOUGH WE DON'T UNDERSTAND. PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF DURING THIER TIME OF NEED AS THEY MAY NEED YOU MORE LATER. I HAVE NEVER HAD THIS EXPERIENCE AND CAN'T EVEN IMIAGE IT. HANG IN THERE AND HUGS TO YOU AND YOURS!

JEANI

[Guest guest]

Sue,

I am so sorry to hear about your daughters' friend. I will keep

them in my prayers. I know how hard it is to go through something

like this. I have a sister who committed suicide 7 years ago. She

had gone through a lot of tough things in her life and got involved

in drugs and alcohol and other things that messed her up. We tried

to help her as a family several times. I took her into my home and

let her live with me for a while, I also took her to rehab and

other things. I had hopes she would be able to pull herself out of

the mess and have a good life. The night she took her life she had

gone out to dinner and played darts with a friend. When she got

home to her place she had an argument over the phone with a

boyfriend she had broken up with. We really don't know what it was

all about but she got drunk that night and locked herself in the

garage with the car running. I have never been so devastated in my

life. I felt responsible like maybe I hadn't done enough. I had so

many mixed feeling and for the next year I felt I walked around in a

daze. The thing that helped me was first of all to get involved

with a grief group and a survivors of suicide group. I learned to

look at the things that I had done to help her and realize I had

done my best. I was also very glad I had tried taking her into my

home for awhile because it helped me to feel I had done everything I

could. I think the thing that is hardest is trying to understand

how a person could get so low as to take their life. I thought I

really knew my sister and I was positive she would never do

something like that but I was wrong. I have learned to be more

cautious since then and to take warnings more seriously. I did take

her warnings serious when she threatened and we even called the

police once but she always said " I wouldn't really do it I just feel

that way sometimes. " I believed her but what else could I do.

I also started a group of survivors of suicide myself and learned a

lot about what others feel. I would be happy to share any

information I have with you. I have a pamphlet and a whole binder

of information if any of it would help. There is also a National

group on Suicide that is really helpful. I can get you any

information you need just let me know. Your daughters may need to

talk and if they aren't comfortable with talking sometimes

encouraging them to write down their feelings is helpful. They will

probably just need a lot of time to heal. My grief group leader

often made a comparison when she was doing the groups. She said if

you were hit by a train and were all busted up and bleeding people

would run to help you. However, when you experience a death it is a

lot like being hit by a train but all the injuries are on the inside

and can't be seen. Thus we need to take care of ourselves and allow

ourselves time to heal and recover and it isn't going to take just a

few days or weeks. I'm sorry I'm making this so long but just one

other thing. I found that a lot of people avoided talking to me

after my sister died. They felt they didn't know what to say or

even if they should say anything. This made me feel alienated and

like no one cared. I know everyone is different but I think it is

okay to acknowledged what happened at least and let them know you

care and are there to talk about it if they feel the need. I think

that at least opens up a door to communication and letting the

person know someone does know and care about what they are going

through. I'm sorry this is such a passion of my since my sister

died and I feel it so important for people to understand suicide. I

hope I don't sound like I am preaching. I hope your daughters are

able to find the strength and help they need to heal from this

terrible tradgedy. I will keep all of you in my prayers and again

if you need anything please feel free to e-mail me. Hugs of comfort

to you and your daughters. Carol

> I have twin daughters who are sharing an apartment with 2 other

> friends..one of those friends named , who is only 21,

killed

> herself last night!!

[Guest guest]

Sue, Being the mother of a teenage boy who tried to do that very thing last year, I am closer to the

issue than some. These kids reach a point where they can see no alternatives at all. They feel totally trapped in their situation, without an avenue of escape. I will certainly pray for the repose of

her soul and the healing of your daughters' hearts over this devastating incident. Loving hugs, MM

[Guest guest]

Oh Sue that is so SAD! My family will be praying for them all.

a C

[Guest guest]

Sue I am so sorry to hear what happen I will keep them in my prayers and thougths. don't forget when i get back from vacation me you robyn and cindi will meet up for lunch one weekend ok.

Love Kimi