Guest guest Posted May 25, 2004 Report Share Posted May 25, 2004 Hi everyone, I just need to vent alittle. I have been under so much stress lately, and of course my lupus is very active, cause that just goes hand in hand!!! It all started last Decemeber when my dad passed away. He was 80 and was in good health, but was lost with out my mom, who passed away in 2001, on my 40th birthday. I knew how sad and lonely he was and I could see that he was losing weight and kept complaining about how terrible the world has become.... I knew that he just missed my mom, and there wasn't much for him anymore with out her. He got a cold and it turned into pneumonia (can't spell) and he never recovered. Now comes the real stress!!!! His estate......... I am the youngest of 5, and a twin, I have 3 sisters and a brother. My sisters all live in other states and my brother and I live here. I was the one who took care of my parents as they got older, especially when my mom died, I was the one who had to teach my dad how to do everything to run a household, plus take of my own family, and learn to deal with this lupus thing!!! But, I did it and I never complained because I loved them. My parents were not " RICH " but they where " upper middle class " , and through the years there 5 acre homesite became very valuble. Before my dad passed he wanted to get his will changed to leave me his house and the others to have his cash assets, well he didn't live long enough to get this done, but he told everyone his wishes and they were all fine with it. The day after the funeral, my sisters said that there wasn't enough cash assets and that I wasn't his only child! So the house is to be sold and everything divided up evenly. My brother was upset with this because he felt that I should have it and how much money is enough. Well I got tired of all the fighting and said just let it go. We will make it fair and everyone will get an equal share and that should be it. But, no it's not. They change ther minds and tell me to move into the house and put my house on the market. I do, and they change there minds again and i have to move out after 2 months, thank god my house didn't sell. I am back in my house and I hope to never move again because it was horrible......I guess this is why I have been so sick lately. Well I know this is long, but I need to get this off my chest. I have no idea of how this is all gonna play out, but I have told them all that I forgive them and don't blame them for any of this...... Thanks for listening!!!! Barbara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2004 Report Share Posted May 25, 2004 Barbara, I could never understand why people did that and I think all parents should leave wills that specify exactly how they want their assets taken care of. I understand your dad didn't get enough time to do that and I'm really sorry your siblings are making this difficult for you. Hope this is all resolved soon and that you will get some peace and quiet so that you can take care of yourself. Mojo need to talk!!!! > Hi everyone, > > I just need to vent alittle. I have been under so much stress > lately, and of course my lupus is very active, cause that just goes > hand in hand!!! > > It all started last Decemeber when my dad passed away. He was 80 > and was in good health, but was lost with out my mom, who passed > away in 2001, on my 40th birthday. I knew how sad and lonely he was > and I could see that he was losing weight and kept complaining about > how terrible the world has become.... I knew that he just missed my > mom, and there wasn't much for him anymore with out her. He got a > cold and it turned into pneumonia (can't spell) and he never > recovered. Now comes the real stress!!!! His estate......... > > I am the youngest of 5, and a twin, I have 3 sisters and a brother. > My sisters all live in other states and my brother and I live here. > I was the one who took care of my parents as they got older, > especially when my mom died, I was the one who had to teach my dad > how to do everything to run a household, plus take of my own family, > and learn to deal with this lupus thing!!! But, I did it and I never > complained because I loved them. My parents were not " RICH " but > they where " upper middle class " , and through the years there 5 acre > homesite became very valuble. Before my dad passed he wanted to get > his will changed to leave me his house and the others to have his > cash assets, well he didn't live long enough to get this done, but > he told everyone his wishes and they were all fine with it. The day > after the funeral, my sisters said that there wasn't enough cash > assets and that I wasn't his only child! So the house is to be sold > and everything divided up evenly. My brother was upset with this > because he felt that I should have it and how much money is enough. > Well I got tired of all the fighting and said just let it go. We > will make it fair and everyone will get an equal share and that > should be it. But, no it's not. They change ther minds and tell me > to move into the house and put my house on the market. I do, and > they change there minds again and i have to move out after 2 months, > thank god my house didn't sell. I am back in my house and I hope to > never move again because it was horrible......I guess this is why I > have been so sick lately. Well I know this is long, but I need to > get this off my chest. I have no idea of how this is all gonna play > out, but I have told them all that I forgive them and don't blame > them for any of this...... > > Thanks for listening!!!! > Barbara > > > > > > " The LUPIES Store " Come check out our store... > http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies > > " The LUPIES Web Page " > http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html > > " The LUPIES online photo albums! " > Check out what your fellow Lupies look like... > http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2004 Report Share Posted May 25, 2004 Barbara, I could never understand why people did that and I think all parents should leave wills that specify exactly how they want their assets taken care of. I understand your dad didn't get enough time to do that and I'm really sorry your siblings are making this difficult for you. Hope this is all resolved soon and that you will get some peace and quiet so that you can take care of yourself. Mojo need to talk!!!! > Hi everyone, > > I just need to vent alittle. I have been under so much stress > lately, and of course my lupus is very active, cause that just goes > hand in hand!!! > > It all started last Decemeber when my dad passed away. He was 80 > and was in good health, but was lost with out my mom, who passed > away in 2001, on my 40th birthday. I knew how sad and lonely he was > and I could see that he was losing weight and kept complaining about > how terrible the world has become.... I knew that he just missed my > mom, and there wasn't much for him anymore with out her. He got a > cold and it turned into pneumonia (can't spell) and he never > recovered. Now comes the real stress!!!! His estate......... > > I am the youngest of 5, and a twin, I have 3 sisters and a brother. > My sisters all live in other states and my brother and I live here. > I was the one who took care of my parents as they got older, > especially when my mom died, I was the one who had to teach my dad > how to do everything to run a household, plus take of my own family, > and learn to deal with this lupus thing!!! But, I did it and I never > complained because I loved them. My parents were not " RICH " but > they where " upper middle class " , and through the years there 5 acre > homesite became very valuble. Before my dad passed he wanted to get > his will changed to leave me his house and the others to have his > cash assets, well he didn't live long enough to get this done, but > he told everyone his wishes and they were all fine with it. The day > after the funeral, my sisters said that there wasn't enough cash > assets and that I wasn't his only child! So the house is to be sold > and everything divided up evenly. My brother was upset with this > because he felt that I should have it and how much money is enough. > Well I got tired of all the fighting and said just let it go. We > will make it fair and everyone will get an equal share and that > should be it. But, no it's not. They change ther minds and tell me > to move into the house and put my house on the market. I do, and > they change there minds again and i have to move out after 2 months, > thank god my house didn't sell. I am back in my house and I hope to > never move again because it was horrible......I guess this is why I > have been so sick lately. Well I know this is long, but I need to > get this off my chest. I have no idea of how this is all gonna play > out, but I have told them all that I forgive them and don't blame > them for any of this...... > > Thanks for listening!!!! > Barbara > > > > > > " The LUPIES Store " Come check out our store... > http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies > > " The LUPIES Web Page " > http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html > > " The LUPIES online photo albums! " > Check out what your fellow Lupies look like... > http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2004 Report Share Posted May 25, 2004 Barbara, I could never understand why people did that and I think all parents should leave wills that specify exactly how they want their assets taken care of. I understand your dad didn't get enough time to do that and I'm really sorry your siblings are making this difficult for you. Hope this is all resolved soon and that you will get some peace and quiet so that you can take care of yourself. Mojo need to talk!!!! > Hi everyone, > > I just need to vent alittle. I have been under so much stress > lately, and of course my lupus is very active, cause that just goes > hand in hand!!! > > It all started last Decemeber when my dad passed away. He was 80 > and was in good health, but was lost with out my mom, who passed > away in 2001, on my 40th birthday. I knew how sad and lonely he was > and I could see that he was losing weight and kept complaining about > how terrible the world has become.... I knew that he just missed my > mom, and there wasn't much for him anymore with out her. He got a > cold and it turned into pneumonia (can't spell) and he never > recovered. Now comes the real stress!!!! His estate......... > > I am the youngest of 5, and a twin, I have 3 sisters and a brother. > My sisters all live in other states and my brother and I live here. > I was the one who took care of my parents as they got older, > especially when my mom died, I was the one who had to teach my dad > how to do everything to run a household, plus take of my own family, > and learn to deal with this lupus thing!!! But, I did it and I never > complained because I loved them. My parents were not " RICH " but > they where " upper middle class " , and through the years there 5 acre > homesite became very valuble. Before my dad passed he wanted to get > his will changed to leave me his house and the others to have his > cash assets, well he didn't live long enough to get this done, but > he told everyone his wishes and they were all fine with it. The day > after the funeral, my sisters said that there wasn't enough cash > assets and that I wasn't his only child! So the house is to be sold > and everything divided up evenly. My brother was upset with this > because he felt that I should have it and how much money is enough. > Well I got tired of all the fighting and said just let it go. We > will make it fair and everyone will get an equal share and that > should be it. But, no it's not. They change ther minds and tell me > to move into the house and put my house on the market. I do, and > they change there minds again and i have to move out after 2 months, > thank god my house didn't sell. I am back in my house and I hope to > never move again because it was horrible......I guess this is why I > have been so sick lately. Well I know this is long, but I need to > get this off my chest. I have no idea of how this is all gonna play > out, but I have told them all that I forgive them and don't blame > them for any of this...... > > Thanks for listening!!!! > Barbara > > > > > > " The LUPIES Store " Come check out our store... > http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies > > " The LUPIES Web Page " > http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html > > " The LUPIES online photo albums! " > Check out what your fellow Lupies look like... > http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2004 Report Share Posted May 25, 2004 Hi Barbara, I'm so sorry that you have had to deal with the stress of your familie's squabbling over your Dad's estate. You know I think about this a lot.....I am on disability, and barely make ends meet. The only assets I have are my furniture,and my clothes, ......I don't even own my car....My two oldest sons are making payment on a decent car for me to drive...and it is registered in my son's name... Yet I know that when I go.....there will be a sqabble over what lillle I do own......How do I sit down and name each piece of furniture or knick-knack and who gets what? I had never thought about it because I didn't really own anything of any value untill My daughter recently told me of a dream that she had had, that I had died ....and when she got over to my appartment........there was her brother with his truck loading all my stuff up.....and how angry she was in her dream that he was taking my stuff without asking her permission. It seems that too often something that should pull a family together will drive a wedge in between them . I am glad that you have forgiven them for what they have put you through.....That says a lot about what kind of person you are. I' m glad also that you chose to vent your frustrations here ......We will always understand,and support you......and I hope your Lupus flare calms down soon. need to talk!!!! Hi everyone,I just need to vent alittle. I have been under so much stress lately, and of course my lupus is very active, cause that just goes hand in hand!!!It all started last Decemeber when my dad passed away. He was 80 and was in good health, but was lost with out my mom, who passed away in 2001, on my 40th birthday. I knew how sad and lonely he was and I could see that he was losing weight and kept complaining about how terrible the world has become.... I knew that he just missed my mom, and there wasn't much for him anymore with out her. He got a cold and it turned into pneumonia (can't spell) and he never recovered. Now comes the real stress!!!! His estate.........I am the youngest of 5, and a twin, I have 3 sisters and a brother. My sisters all live in other states and my brother and I live here. I was the one who took care of my parents as they got older, especially when my mom died, I was the one who had to teach my dad how to do everything to run a household, plus take of my own family, and learn to deal with this lupus thing!!! But, I did it and I never complained because I loved them. My parents were not "RICH" but they where "upper middle class", and through the years there 5 acre homesite became very valuble. Before my dad passed he wanted to get his will changed to leave me his house and the others to have his cash assets, well he didn't live long enough to get this done, but he told everyone his wishes and they were all fine with it. The day after the funeral, my sisters said that there wasn't enough cash assets and that I wasn't his only child! So the house is to be sold and everything divided up evenly. My brother was upset with this because he felt that I should have it and how much money is enough. Well I got tired of all the fighting and said just let it go. We will make it fair and everyone will get an equal share and that should be it. But, no it's not. They change ther minds and tell me to move into the house and put my house on the market. I do, and they change there minds again and i have to move out after 2 months, thank god my house didn't sell. I am back in my house and I hope to never move again because it was horrible......I guess this is why I have been so sick lately. Well I know this is long, but I need to get this off my chest. I have no idea of how this is all gonna play out, but I have told them all that I forgive them and don't blame them for any of this......Thanks for listening!!!!Barbara "The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2004 Report Share Posted May 25, 2004 Hi Barbara, I'm so sorry that you have had to deal with the stress of your familie's squabbling over your Dad's estate. You know I think about this a lot.....I am on disability, and barely make ends meet. The only assets I have are my furniture,and my clothes, ......I don't even own my car....My two oldest sons are making payment on a decent car for me to drive...and it is registered in my son's name... Yet I know that when I go.....there will be a sqabble over what lillle I do own......How do I sit down and name each piece of furniture or knick-knack and who gets what? I had never thought about it because I didn't really own anything of any value untill My daughter recently told me of a dream that she had had, that I had died ....and when she got over to my appartment........there was her brother with his truck loading all my stuff up.....and how angry she was in her dream that he was taking my stuff without asking her permission. It seems that too often something that should pull a family together will drive a wedge in between them . I am glad that you have forgiven them for what they have put you through.....That says a lot about what kind of person you are. I' m glad also that you chose to vent your frustrations here ......We will always understand,and support you......and I hope your Lupus flare calms down soon. need to talk!!!! Hi everyone,I just need to vent alittle. I have been under so much stress lately, and of course my lupus is very active, cause that just goes hand in hand!!!It all started last Decemeber when my dad passed away. He was 80 and was in good health, but was lost with out my mom, who passed away in 2001, on my 40th birthday. I knew how sad and lonely he was and I could see that he was losing weight and kept complaining about how terrible the world has become.... I knew that he just missed my mom, and there wasn't much for him anymore with out her. He got a cold and it turned into pneumonia (can't spell) and he never recovered. Now comes the real stress!!!! His estate.........I am the youngest of 5, and a twin, I have 3 sisters and a brother. My sisters all live in other states and my brother and I live here. I was the one who took care of my parents as they got older, especially when my mom died, I was the one who had to teach my dad how to do everything to run a household, plus take of my own family, and learn to deal with this lupus thing!!! But, I did it and I never complained because I loved them. My parents were not "RICH" but they where "upper middle class", and through the years there 5 acre homesite became very valuble. Before my dad passed he wanted to get his will changed to leave me his house and the others to have his cash assets, well he didn't live long enough to get this done, but he told everyone his wishes and they were all fine with it. The day after the funeral, my sisters said that there wasn't enough cash assets and that I wasn't his only child! So the house is to be sold and everything divided up evenly. My brother was upset with this because he felt that I should have it and how much money is enough. Well I got tired of all the fighting and said just let it go. We will make it fair and everyone will get an equal share and that should be it. But, no it's not. They change ther minds and tell me to move into the house and put my house on the market. I do, and they change there minds again and i have to move out after 2 months, thank god my house didn't sell. I am back in my house and I hope to never move again because it was horrible......I guess this is why I have been so sick lately. Well I know this is long, but I need to get this off my chest. I have no idea of how this is all gonna play out, but I have told them all that I forgive them and don't blame them for any of this......Thanks for listening!!!!Barbara "The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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