/ My 7 Yr. Old Daughter Assaulted

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My heart goes out to you and your daughter. What a horrible thing to have happen to her! I'd love to personally slap the little bastard and very nicely choke him! Just hug your daughter as often as she lets you and make sure she knows that she didn't do anything wrong. There are sick people out there and she unfortunatly ran into one. You will both be in my thoughts and prayers.

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hi , i'm new here and i hope it's all right for me to express to you, i'm so very sorry your seven year old daughter was sexual abused. it all happened so recently, no wonder you are/were in shock. yet, i hope you will awake from the shock to find your own feelings about this and express them, talk about them as much as you can and want to. i could imagine your feelings might change from devastation until aggression.

it's your daughter who's a victim, yet you as her mother you are secondary victimized. sorry, it sounds so cold to put it in these terms. so many before said good things, and i just like to add this and bring under your attention, to think of yourself as well.

it will help your daughter when you find a good way to deal with your feelings, as her example and also for her future.

children can heal from abuse. they don't need to get traumatized for the rest of their lives if they get the chance you listen to them and be honest about your own feelings as well.

i hope you will keep talking as a family, also about what happened.

it's all so recently, yet if it turns out you don't know how to deal with your own feelings, i hope you will not be shy to turn for help to a counselor for your daughter, and next to this, for yourself or as a family together.

i was about many times to call an American hotline, i never did, but if the hot-line in your area is good, i hope you will make use of it.

as far as i hear of adult survivors, i can confirm the laws vary much from state till state, even within states the state-laws seem to change. it's what i hear and what i conclude.

so i hope there are helpful organizations in your area, specialized in child abuse. there are several organizations on sexual child abuse you could turn to, to ask for the best help if you need to.

please, keep talking for your own sake too, to your family here - to adult friends, neighbors or to anyone you feel okay with.

you didn't give full enclosure about all and i don't ask you to, but have you thought of informing the school of your daughter about what happened? i'm not a law person, i'm a me person - grin - law and the social issues of things sometimes conflicts. from heavy adult perpretators the law mostly don't want to be exclusive about criminal sex offenders, yet in regard of your daughter and other children, as the young age of the sex offender, it might be perhaps a good thing to do if the school is a socializing school.

i just wondered. please, ask people around you, ask people here, ask your attornities, personal friends, all sources.

in all crisis situations there are choices to make for the best, even in the middle of world falling in pieces.

in these choices there are more than one to choose. i hope you find your heart to follow the choices you think are the best.

all is so much depending on your own values and issues. have you ever wondered before about sexual abuse in general?

my heart goes out to your daughter and your family.

micha.

auroraskyward

To: <LUPIES >

Sent: Thursday, June 17, 2004 11:30 PM

Subject: My 7 Yr. Old Daughter Assaulted

> My 7 yr. old daughter was sexually assaulted by a 13 yr. old "boy"> (Tuesday). I am still in a state of shock. I cannot sleep, depressed,> and my Lupus is in a MAJOR flare. The doctor that examined her messed> up ALL the "evidence." I need ALL the prayers my daughter (and the> rest of our family) can get. We are prosecuting civil and criminally.> If anyone has any advice (legal, emotional, etc.) it would be greatly> appreciated. I need my "Lupie family" now more then ever.> > Blessings,> > > > In California