Guest guest Posted May 21, 2004 Report Share Posted May 21, 2004 I am so very sorry to hear whats going one in your home. My 17yr old has drawn pics on hitler and other things. He dresses weird but I just let it go cause he has a pretty smart head on his shoulders at least for the moment he is in love or lust I am not sure which. LOL You know how everyone tells you that boys will be boys , well I dont buy that crap at all. He has tried drinking and drugs and cigs. but has stopped. But his attuitde is that he is right and never wrong. He is so much like my ex it anit even funny. He never gets in a hurry to do anything and walks around aimless half the time. But then again he is a faithfull church member and prides himself on that and I too am proud of that. Now that he has meet this girl he has changed his dress code a little. But I also have a 12 yr old that has major attitude and most of the time walks around mad at the world. They are both ungrateful little shits. I let them know that on ocassion when they dont get what they want. They seem to think that we owe them everything their heart desires. But allen is in councling and I have not seen much help there yet but hope to. His dad has just pushed him away and wont visit nor will his dads family and then we here on the home front get the maddness from his hurt feelings. Raising kids is really hard work and sometimes I would love to drop them on their dads door but that not the place for them to be. He is a very negative man and puts them down all the time. I realize they are better off with me and my brother and his wife. We have formed a united front where my boys go. There is nothing but postive, willingness to listen to them anytime, uncondictional love. We wants what best for them but they think we are yelling and we arent even raising our voices. I have not had a flare in so long and now its came back to play with me and the kids just dont get that I am tired, moody and stressed. I am on 60mg of predisone a day and that gets to me alot. I feel like my head never catches up with my ass. LOL I know my problems with my boys are not as bad as what you are going through but I will keep you and your family in my prayers and hope things get better in your home. I dont know if any of what I said helped but I just wanted to send you my love and prayers. LOVE LORRAazToy2@... wrote: Well, guys we had a pretty tough night here last night. Our oldest son Justen has been bringing home an attitude from school lately. Everyone kept telling us not to worry that it was a typical teen attitude. Justen has a severe learning disability as well as having been dx'd with psychosis before he came to live with us. After a year in our home he was able to go off of his meds and has done extremely well. Then he turned 15 and it's like he lost his mind. Anyway, lately he has been bringing home artwork from his school that is devils. He keeps making them out of various materials. I told him that we don't believe in that and asked if he had some friends that were maybe into this stuff as he learned about things that he never saw in our home. Anyway he just kept yelling at me that it wasn't his friends and I told him that he couldn't bring that stuff in our home. He stomped into our living room, I thought to cool off. About half an hour later we realized that he had run away. I called the police while my dad drove up and down the streets for two hours. As it was getting dark I was scared out of my mind because of his learning disabilities he doesn't know our phone number or address. As the police woman was driving up, his school called. It was seven thirty and they said that they had had him the whole time! I asked why the you know what they hadn't called and let us know he was safe and they said that they were more worried about him because he was threatening to kill himself as well as my husband. Anyway, when it was all said and done, he is now at the children's psych hospital and they are saying that he is delusional and psychotic among other things. Now he has to go back on the meds and he is having a hard time. I am at a loss for what to do. He can't come back here with so many little ones until he is well managed and the DR today told me that he may need to go to a residential home for a while. I don't understand how this kid went from my loving wonderful kind son one month and then the next, he is suspended from school three times, detentions, fired from his job, disrespectful at home among other things. I don't know what part of this is normal teen stuff and what is not so we are having to trust the DR's and that is not a good feeling. Anyway, I don't know what to do with him. We would never disrupt his adoption, yet we can't jeopardize the other kids. Anyway, advice is welcome on this one!a C"The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies Hugs & Kisses Lorra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2004 Report Share Posted May 21, 2004 I am doing well. We had a hard time this week because our oldest son Justen ran away and has ended himself up in a mental health hospital for kids. They say that he is having a lot of mental health issues and is dillusional and hearing voices again. He hasn't had this happen for three years and was off all his meds for that time. It is hard to put him back on them but he keeps saying that he is going to kill himself or me and so it is scary. Anyway,they are optimistic and say that after some time he shoud be fine. I hope so, we have had him for seven years so it will break our hearts if he can't function as an adult. a C Hello and welcome back! How are you doing? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 22, 2004 Report Share Posted May 22, 2004 a C., I know what you are going through, honey, having been there with two of my boys. You will weather this storm, and I will pray that your boy is treatable, and can come home to you and the loving safety of your family. Hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2004 Report Share Posted May 24, 2004 you know what Cheryl? He does, and I had to remind myself of that today. We have 7 kids, plus my nephew that ARE doing well and also, just because Justen isn't doing so hot now, we have at least been able to give him seven years of a life that he would never have had if left in that group home all of that time. We want to give him so much more but the sad truth is that he is fighting the fight of his life right now and all that we can do is try to support him. It is nice to know that there are people like Mike and some others here who I not only have lupus in common with but who also know right where we are standing with this child.It means an awful lot. a C It takes a very special person like yourself to carry such a load. God bless you for it, as I know he does. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2004 Report Share Posted May 24, 2004 you know what Cheryl? He does, and I had to remind myself of that today. We have 7 kids, plus my nephew that ARE doing well and also, just because Justen isn't doing so hot now, we have at least been able to give him seven years of a life that he would never have had if left in that group home all of that time. We want to give him so much more but the sad truth is that he is fighting the fight of his life right now and all that we can do is try to support him. It is nice to know that there are people like Mike and some others here who I not only have lupus in common with but who also know right where we are standing with this child.It means an awful lot. a C It takes a very special person like yourself to carry such a load. God bless you for it, as I know he does. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2004 Report Share Posted May 24, 2004 you know what Cheryl? He does, and I had to remind myself of that today. We have 7 kids, plus my nephew that ARE doing well and also, just because Justen isn't doing so hot now, we have at least been able to give him seven years of a life that he would never have had if left in that group home all of that time. We want to give him so much more but the sad truth is that he is fighting the fight of his life right now and all that we can do is try to support him. It is nice to know that there are people like Mike and some others here who I not only have lupus in common with but who also know right where we are standing with this child.It means an awful lot. a C It takes a very special person like yourself to carry such a load. God bless you for it, as I know he does. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 27, 2004 Report Share Posted May 27, 2004 HAPPY ANNIVERSARY PAULA! I HOPE THE TWO OF YOU HAVE A GREAT DAY! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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