Re: unexpected death in the family and med tests this week

[Guest guest]

Sorry your family did not convey this info to you. I

take it they lived far away and were not in contact

often? it is too bad our families are not closely

connected in this day where people move all over the

globe. I hope there is no hard feelings. Lovingly,

Star

--- Laeaurra Flamehawk-

L4@...> wrote:

> I did a net search yesterdaaay trying to find out if

> my uncle had a wweb pagee for his jewelry making

> business. I found instead my paternal grandmother's

> obituary and that my family had neglected to mention

> or in any way inform me of her passingon Jan, 19,

> 2002. I am a bit shaken up and could use some extra

> energy this week as I also have a ton of medical

> tests to attend to.

>

> Laeaurra

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Sorry your family did not convey this info to you. I

take it they lived far away and were not in contact

often? it is too bad our families are not closely

connected in this day where people move all over the

globe. I hope there is no hard feelings. Lovingly,

Star

--- Laeaurra Flamehawk-

L4@...> wrote:

> I did a net search yesterdaaay trying to find out if

> my uncle had a wweb pagee for his jewelry making

> business. I found instead my paternal grandmother's

> obituary and that my family had neglected to mention

> or in any way inform me of her passingon Jan, 19,

> 2002. I am a bit shaken up and could use some extra

> energy this week as I also have a ton of medical

> tests to attend to.

>

> Laeaurra

>

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Sorry your family did not convey this info to you. I

take it they lived far away and were not in contact

often? it is too bad our families are not closely

connected in this day where people move all over the

globe. I hope there is no hard feelings. Lovingly,

Star

--- Laeaurra Flamehawk-

L4@...> wrote:

> I did a net search yesterdaaay trying to find out if

> my uncle had a wweb pagee for his jewelry making

> business. I found instead my paternal grandmother's

> obituary and that my family had neglected to mention

> or in any way inform me of her passingon Jan, 19,

> 2002. I am a bit shaken up and could use some extra

> energy this week as I also have a ton of medical

> tests to attend to.

>

> Laeaurra

>

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

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[Guest guest]

hi~ i hope all goes well for you this week. you'll be

in my thoughts and prayers

ali

--- Laeaurra Flamehawk-

L4@...> wrote:

> I did a net search yesterdaaay trying to find out if

> my uncle had a wweb pagee for his jewelry making

> business. I found instead my paternal grandmother's

> obituary and that my family had neglected to mention

> or in any way inform me of her passingon Jan, 19,

> 2002. I am a bit shaken up and could use some extra

> energy this week as I also have a ton of medical

> tests to attend to.

>

> Laeaurra

>

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss and that your family didn't notify you.

Sometimes families think they're " protecting " you (don't know if this is

the case or not), but in any event, it's not a protection, and isn't

good.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

Thanks. It is hard I think for families these days, especaailly ones with

significant health problems, to handle all the stresses and to figure out how

much stress their ill memebers can take withoutit further damaging their health.

I think we are dancing to new musics here and there is no pattern of steps to

rely on. We all have to improv.

Laeaurra

Re: unexpected death in the family and med tests

this week

I'm sorry to hear of your loss and that your family didn't notify you.

Sometimes families think they're " protecting " you (don't know if this is

the case or not), but in any event, it's not a protection, and isn't

good.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

Laeaurra Flamehawk- wrote:

>

> Thanks. It is hard I think for families these days, especaailly ones with

significant health problems, to handle all the stresses and to figure out > how

much stress their ill memebers can take withoutit further damaging > their

health.

This is true, but my rule of thumb for me, is I get to decide what is

too much stress for me. Don't withhold information from me " for your

own good " . Dh and I have already talked about it many times, if either

of us gets really bad, we don't want to be lied to, have information

withheld, or any other excuse people come up with. Nothing pisses me

off faster than other people trying to make decisions for me. You, of

course, maybe feel differently or it make work better for someone else

to have someone else decide things for them, just not me.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

Actually, I agree with you.

laeaurra

Re: unexpected death in the family and med tests

this week

Laeaurra Flamehawk- wrote:

>

> Thanks. It is hard I think for families these days, especaailly ones with

significant health problems, to handle all the stresses and to figure out > how

much stress their ill memebers can take withoutit further damaging > their

health.

This is true, but my rule of thumb for me, is I get to decide what is

too much stress for me. Don't withhold information from me " for your

own good " . Dh and I have already talked about it many times, if either

of us gets really bad, we don't want to be lied to, have information

withheld, or any other excuse people come up with. Nothing pisses me

off faster than other people trying to make decisions for me. You, of

course, maybe feel differently or it make work better for someone else

to have someone else decide things for them, just not me.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

Actually, I agree with you.

laeaurra

Re: unexpected death in the family and med tests

this week

Laeaurra Flamehawk- wrote:

>

> Thanks. It is hard I think for families these days, especaailly ones with

significant health problems, to handle all the stresses and to figure out > how

much stress their ill memebers can take withoutit further damaging > their

health.

This is true, but my rule of thumb for me, is I get to decide what is

too much stress for me. Don't withhold information from me " for your

own good " . Dh and I have already talked about it many times, if either

of us gets really bad, we don't want to be lied to, have information

withheld, or any other excuse people come up with. Nothing pisses me

off faster than other people trying to make decisions for me. You, of

course, maybe feel differently or it make work better for someone else

to have someone else decide things for them, just not me.

Darcy