Guest guest Posted May 27, 2004 Report Share Posted May 27, 2004 You know, as I was reading this message I was actually thinking to myself. This could happen to anyone who has a child. In many cases these things have nothing to do with a mental disability. At least you know there is a reason for this. Some kids just turn evil no matter how good they had it going from day 1. I know it is as hard for you as it would be for a birth mother, but as you damn well know some birth mothers don't give a damn. So, I don't see it that way. I think it must be really, really hard for you to go through this. I hope he is stable and can get on a treatment plan that will work for him. I know sometimes it is very difficult to match the drugs for each individual. Then, lets hope he stays on them. Good luck a. Mojo Re: a C Oh I am so sorry. Sadly, I have found quite a few people, like Mike, who know just exactly what this feels like. Thankfully they said today that the risperdol is helping him to have clearer thinking and he is getting settled in the group home. I just keep thinking about the day his adoption was final. He had lived with us for a year beforehand because of his special needs, and it was a long road to get there. Now seven years later we are the meanest people he ever met. His casemanager said today that Justen did admit last night that he had a good thing going here and that he messed up big time. This is the hard part because we have been told that even if he calls wanting to come home, he can't until he has been stable for a while and has a long term treatment plan. People keep saying that if this is hard for us, imagine if it was a birth child and I want to smack them because we love Justen just as if he WAS a birth child. He is our son wether he likes it or not, he is stuck with us! lola C I know how it feels to have your child hate you. Adam hasn't talked to me since Christmas. Well actually I've called him a couple of time to ask him something and he will answer my questions but that is it. If I see him anywhere, he won't speak to me or even acknowledge that I'm alive. "The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 27, 2004 Report Share Posted May 27, 2004 a C., Some people never get it that a child, is a child, is a child. Birth child or not, I remember a poem I read when I was first exploring adoption. One of the lines was..."Not of my body, but of my heart." So true, and so hard for some people to fathom. You know I understand. Hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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