Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 Janae? Are you guys doing spring break too?? lol I hope its not too serious. What's going on? Tamara mom to Ebony, 5 years old, asd, adhd, bipolar and , 2, polish (lol) wife to Terry > >Reply-To: parenting_autism >To: parenting_autism > >Subject: grrr >Date: Mon, 24 Mar 2003 18:00:10 -0700 > >I hate life. (Hit head against the wall.) >I hate life. (Hit head against the wall.) >I hate life. (Hit head against the wall.) >I hate life. (Hit head against the wall.) >I hate life. (Hit head against the wall.) > >Janae >, 10, ADD >Jake, 7, autism > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 In a message dated 3/24/03 11:42:31 PM Eastern Standard Time, jvandekerk@... writes: > . DH got mad and told me that if I had done this, the psychiatrist would > have taken me more seriously. Well maybe if HE had made all the lunches you would have had time to think about it. Damn... it sounds like an overwhelming day with the only highlight being at least the dog only ate half your sandwich. Hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 In a message dated 3/24/03 11:42:31 PM Eastern Standard Time, jvandekerk@... writes: > . DH got mad and told me that if I had done this, the psychiatrist would > have taken me more seriously. Well maybe if HE had made all the lunches you would have had time to think about it. Damn... it sounds like an overwhelming day with the only highlight being at least the dog only ate half your sandwich. Hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2003 Report Share Posted March 24, 2003 In a message dated 3/24/03 11:42:31 PM Eastern Standard Time, jvandekerk@... writes: > . DH got mad and told me that if I had done this, the psychiatrist would > have taken me more seriously. Well maybe if HE had made all the lunches you would have had time to think about it. Damn... it sounds like an overwhelming day with the only highlight being at least the dog only ate half your sandwich. Hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2003 Report Share Posted March 25, 2003 DH comes in and asked, " Where's breakfast? Where's lunch? " He had 1/2 hour to get himself dressed and teeth brushed and he expected me to make his lunch. Well, he is a MAN! They do think like that unless you go through a re-training school for them and those are very hard to find. > > OK, I get to school. Both buses were waiting for me and the other aides to get our kids off of them. (Surprise, I was a little late). The morning wasn't too bad except that the student I work with had her home worker there to help me and give me suggestions. She was nice, but it's still a bit stressful to have someone tell you everything you do is wrong. The teacher also had his wife there observing. She's an autism consultant. Very nice, but I don't like having people looking over my shoulder. I can so understand this! > > I left for a couple of hours to take to the psychiatrist. Her first visit. He doesn't seem to know why she's there and doesn't like my explanation that the psychologist saw (once so far) wanted her to see a pediatic psychiatrist. You know, usually they have been given a file or something. I often wonder why they don't read it. Things don't go well from the beginning. I'm not the most articulate of people, so there were these odd pauses as I tried to gather my thoughts. He didn't seem to like that, thought there was something going on with me. Fool! He didn't like that 's pediatrician was overseeing her meds. No, of course, not; it's HIS territory. Then he started asking questions. > > cannot answer a question if he life depended on it. She babbles, she wanders, dogs and the Titanic creep into the conversation. It gets rather painful listening to it. Anyways, he asked if she ever thinks of dying. She responded that yes, she does, that sometimes she wishes she was on the Titanic and was one of those who drowned. He likened drowning in freezing waters to torture. doesn't care. He thought she's saying that for the shock value, for negative attention. is too literal to even think of doing something like that. Sounds to me like a romantic image for her actually. > > Next question. Things got even more interesting. He asked if her parents abuse her, beat her black and blue, things like that. Um, why? answered that we do hit her, that we spank her, that it hurts. He wanted to know if we spank her too much or don't stop. 's reply, " I don't know. " He rephrased the question several times. Each time said that she didn't know. He told her that he'd have to call Children Protective Services if she said yes. She said she didn't know. I thought of my filthy house and how I would have to deal with CPS. Finally, said that she gets spanked once or twice a year. He decided that she is not abused. No, but I think you were. I can just imagine how you felt sitting and waiting and wondering if would give the " right " answer. > > The guy's a jerk, but I can deal with him. We're going to be changing insurances soon and then I'll get someone I can work with better. > > The rest of the day was run, run, run. I took back to school, raced back to my school and got there in time for the last hour. Raced home to pick up the kids. I have a friend that's out there to get Jake off the bus if I'm not there so I don't worry too much. I dropped my friend and the kids off at the library, raced over to this medical clinic for a 3:00 appt for blood to be drawn and the last of my hep b shots, courtesy of a bite I received from a student 6 months ago. Fun, fun, fun. For the first time, I had to wait, so it's almost 4 by the time I got back to the library. I have had no lunch. We needed to go to the grocery store. They won't take the coupon I have which was the main reason I went there. I dropped my friend off and went home. > > I fixed a sandwich for me, set it down by my computer as I turned to change clothes. One dog came in, then left. The other dog came in and sat and watched me. I turned back to the computer and there's only 1/2 a sandwich. More fun, fun, fun. It isn't just dogs either. Dartie the Cat would do this also. > > DH came home. I tried to tell him about 's appt and he wanted to know if I gave the psychiatrist the family medical/mental history. Sure, I told him, he had asked and I answered. Wrong answer. DH wanted to know if I had printed a copy of the family medical/mental history which he had made up and given it to the psychiatrist. No I had not. I had not even thought about it. DH got mad and told me that if I had done this, the psychiatrist would have taken me more seriously. Have you shot him yet? Or still just thinking about it? > > I should have stayed in bed. And that's the story of my day which no one wanted to hear. > Sorry, Janae. And actually, after you sent that nice cryptic head-banging message, I think we all very MUCH wanted to hear it. Nothing like building up suspense! Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2003 Report Share Posted March 25, 2003 DH comes in and asked, " Where's breakfast? Where's lunch? " He had 1/2 hour to get himself dressed and teeth brushed and he expected me to make his lunch. Well, he is a MAN! They do think like that unless you go through a re-training school for them and those are very hard to find. > > OK, I get to school. Both buses were waiting for me and the other aides to get our kids off of them. (Surprise, I was a little late). The morning wasn't too bad except that the student I work with had her home worker there to help me and give me suggestions. She was nice, but it's still a bit stressful to have someone tell you everything you do is wrong. The teacher also had his wife there observing. She's an autism consultant. Very nice, but I don't like having people looking over my shoulder. I can so understand this! > > I left for a couple of hours to take to the psychiatrist. Her first visit. He doesn't seem to know why she's there and doesn't like my explanation that the psychologist saw (once so far) wanted her to see a pediatic psychiatrist. You know, usually they have been given a file or something. I often wonder why they don't read it. Things don't go well from the beginning. I'm not the most articulate of people, so there were these odd pauses as I tried to gather my thoughts. He didn't seem to like that, thought there was something going on with me. Fool! He didn't like that 's pediatrician was overseeing her meds. No, of course, not; it's HIS territory. Then he started asking questions. > > cannot answer a question if he life depended on it. She babbles, she wanders, dogs and the Titanic creep into the conversation. It gets rather painful listening to it. Anyways, he asked if she ever thinks of dying. She responded that yes, she does, that sometimes she wishes she was on the Titanic and was one of those who drowned. He likened drowning in freezing waters to torture. doesn't care. He thought she's saying that for the shock value, for negative attention. is too literal to even think of doing something like that. Sounds to me like a romantic image for her actually. > > Next question. Things got even more interesting. He asked if her parents abuse her, beat her black and blue, things like that. Um, why? answered that we do hit her, that we spank her, that it hurts. He wanted to know if we spank her too much or don't stop. 's reply, " I don't know. " He rephrased the question several times. Each time said that she didn't know. He told her that he'd have to call Children Protective Services if she said yes. She said she didn't know. I thought of my filthy house and how I would have to deal with CPS. Finally, said that she gets spanked once or twice a year. He decided that she is not abused. No, but I think you were. I can just imagine how you felt sitting and waiting and wondering if would give the " right " answer. > > The guy's a jerk, but I can deal with him. We're going to be changing insurances soon and then I'll get someone I can work with better. > > The rest of the day was run, run, run. I took back to school, raced back to my school and got there in time for the last hour. Raced home to pick up the kids. I have a friend that's out there to get Jake off the bus if I'm not there so I don't worry too much. I dropped my friend and the kids off at the library, raced over to this medical clinic for a 3:00 appt for blood to be drawn and the last of my hep b shots, courtesy of a bite I received from a student 6 months ago. Fun, fun, fun. For the first time, I had to wait, so it's almost 4 by the time I got back to the library. I have had no lunch. We needed to go to the grocery store. They won't take the coupon I have which was the main reason I went there. I dropped my friend off and went home. > > I fixed a sandwich for me, set it down by my computer as I turned to change clothes. One dog came in, then left. The other dog came in and sat and watched me. I turned back to the computer and there's only 1/2 a sandwich. More fun, fun, fun. It isn't just dogs either. Dartie the Cat would do this also. > > DH came home. I tried to tell him about 's appt and he wanted to know if I gave the psychiatrist the family medical/mental history. Sure, I told him, he had asked and I answered. Wrong answer. DH wanted to know if I had printed a copy of the family medical/mental history which he had made up and given it to the psychiatrist. No I had not. I had not even thought about it. DH got mad and told me that if I had done this, the psychiatrist would have taken me more seriously. Have you shot him yet? Or still just thinking about it? > > I should have stayed in bed. And that's the story of my day which no one wanted to hear. > Sorry, Janae. And actually, after you sent that nice cryptic head-banging message, I think we all very MUCH wanted to hear it. Nothing like building up suspense! Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Guest guest Posted March 25, 2003 Report Share Posted March 25, 2003 Yuck yuck yuck. Hope the rest of the week is better. Tuna ===== mom to: , 8, ASD , 4, NT Normal is just a setting on the washing machine. - Whoopi Goldberg ______________________________________________________________________ Post your free ad now! http://personals.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2003 Report Share Posted March 25, 2003 Yuck yuck yuck. Hope the rest of the week is better. Tuna ===== mom to: , 8, ASD , 4, NT Normal is just a setting on the washing machine. - Whoopi Goldberg ______________________________________________________________________ Post your free ad now! http://personals.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2003 Report Share Posted March 25, 2003 Yuck yuck yuck. Hope the rest of the week is better. Tuna ===== mom to: , 8, ASD , 4, NT Normal is just a setting on the washing machine. - Whoopi Goldberg ______________________________________________________________________ Post your free ad now! http://personals.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2003 Report Share Posted March 25, 2003 Well, I agree that you should have stayed in bed. The psychiatrist is a jerk...get away from him, quickly! Your dh should have printed out the medical history and given it to you if he wanted you to take it. The rest, well...blah. Hope today was MUCH better. Penny Re: grrr It was one of those days where I should have stayed in bed..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2003 Report Share Posted March 25, 2003 Well, I agree that you should have stayed in bed. The psychiatrist is a jerk...get away from him, quickly! Your dh should have printed out the medical history and given it to you if he wanted you to take it. The rest, well...blah. Hope today was MUCH better. Penny Re: grrr It was one of those days where I should have stayed in bed..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2003 Report Share Posted March 25, 2003 Well, I agree that you should have stayed in bed. The psychiatrist is a jerk...get away from him, quickly! Your dh should have printed out the medical history and given it to you if he wanted you to take it. The rest, well...blah. Hope today was MUCH better. Penny Re: grrr It was one of those days where I should have stayed in bed..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2003 Report Share Posted March 25, 2003 (((((Janae))))) Definitely a head banging day! The psych appointment and the questions he asked her would have scared my shitless! I don't know how you could sit through that! Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2003 Report Share Posted March 25, 2003 (((((Janae))))) Definitely a head banging day! The psych appointment and the questions he asked her would have scared my shitless! I don't know how you could sit through that! Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2003 Report Share Posted March 25, 2003 (((((Janae))))) Definitely a head banging day! The psych appointment and the questions he asked her would have scared my shitless! I don't know how you could sit through that! Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2003 Report Share Posted March 25, 2003 Penny, he forgot that yesterday was 's appt. I, of course, have to remember these things. Thanks all who responded. Today has been a much better day. It all just builds up, though, until I explode. (The psychiatrist would have called this a vague sentence, jerk.) Janae , 10, ADD Jake, 7, autism Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2003 Report Share Posted March 25, 2003 Penny, he forgot that yesterday was 's appt. I, of course, have to remember these things. Thanks all who responded. Today has been a much better day. It all just builds up, though, until I explode. (The psychiatrist would have called this a vague sentence, jerk.) Janae , 10, ADD Jake, 7, autism Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2003 Report Share Posted March 25, 2003 Penny, he forgot that yesterday was 's appt. I, of course, have to remember these things. Thanks all who responded. Today has been a much better day. It all just builds up, though, until I explode. (The psychiatrist would have called this a vague sentence, jerk.) Janae , 10, ADD Jake, 7, autism Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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