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Hi everyone. I just joined; my husband has had Type 2 Diabetes for

about 3 years now. He is your typical couch potato and only on rare

occasions can I get him to go for a walk with me ( " it's too

hot/cold/windy " " I'm too tired " etc). He will not eat things he

doesn't like. And he only really eats 1 meal a day. He works 2nd

shift (4-midnight) so doesn't get up til 11am or so. I do my best to

make him low-carb meals but sometimes all he wants to eat is

spaghetti, and when corn-on-the-cob comes in season, he'll want 4 ears

(plus bread) for a meal! I am just beside myself; I can't do this for

him and am hoping you all can encourage me and advise me on what to

do. I'm really afraid he's gonna need a wake-up call before he really

starts taking better care of himself.

I hope to make lotsa new friends here!

Peni Jo

[Guest guest]

>

> Hi everyone. I just joined; my husband has had Type 2 Diabetes for

> about 3 years now. He is your typical couch potato and only on rare

> occasions can I get him to go for a walk with me ( " it's too

> hot/cold/windy " " I'm too tired " etc). He will not eat things he

> doesn't like. And he only really eats 1 meal a day. He works 2nd

> shift (4-midnight) so doesn't get up til 11am or so. I do my best to

> make him low-carb meals but sometimes all he wants to eat is

> spaghetti, and when corn-on-the-cob comes in season, he'll want 4 ears

> (plus bread) for a meal! I am just beside myself; I can't do this for

> him and am hoping you all can encourage me and advise me on what to

> do. I'm really afraid he's gonna need a wake-up call before he really

> starts taking better care of himself.

> I hope to make lotsa new friends here!

> Peni Jo

>

Hi Peni Jo,

Are you the one doing the shopping and cooking? Then you can just not

buy those foods. Make an appt for him with diabetes education and you

go with him. If he won't go then you read some books on it and figure

out the meal plans for healthy meals for a diabetic. Most couples end

up with both having Type 2 diabetes because of the foods eaten and

lifestyle. So you can prevent yourself from this condition by

changing what you cook and eat yourself. That's my advice.

Look at it this way if he were an alcoholic would you be making him

cocktails or buying alcohol to keep around the house just because he

liked it? I hope that doesn't sound too harsh but reality is he is

using you to eat what he wants. I'm not blaming you in any way, just

refuse to play the game. After all you can't hope he does better if

you provide the way for him not to. If he still goes out and eats

what he wants elsewhere at least you are not responsible for it. I

hope that makes sense. His wake up call just might be you finding out

what he's not supposed to eat and then changing what you cook or buy

for around the house. You can say you don't want to end up having

diabetes in the future so you are following the program yourself. It

is kind of a family thing. It hardly works when you have to cook all

separate meals for each person. What's good for one is good for all.

If he's the one who shops and gets the food around the house then

that's a different story. It's really hard I know to watch a spouse

just ignore dr's advice. By being here maybe it won't be so stressful

for you. Have you discussed how you felt about all of this with him?

Maybe it just is not sinking in and is in denial still. If he has

not gone to diabetes education that can be a real eye opener to reality.

I'm glad you are here. It sounds like those hours he works are hard

to deal around meals and such. I'm not sure how he makes it with one

meal a day at times. That kind of messes up how the body responds to

BG levels and insulin levels. It's really important that he eat every

4 hrs. Normally that involves just eating smaller amounts more often.

Easy to say, hard to to sometimes.

As far as pasta goes, have you ever tried using spaghetti squash with

the same type of sauce instead of pasta? You could always do half

pasta and half spaghetti squash as a way to ease into it as an

experiment.

I think if he had to write down what he ate and list the carb counts

that would really shock him. Please try to get him into diabetic

education if he is willing. Maybe his dr would just write an order

for it if you mentioned it to him. Just trying to come up with

several ideas as a start. Not sure if they apply or not.

[Guest guest]

>

> Hi everyone. I just joined; my husband has had Type 2 Diabetes for

> about 3 years now. He is your typical couch potato and only on rare

> occasions can I get him to go for a walk with me ( " it's too

> hot/cold/windy " " I'm too tired " etc). He will not eat things he

> doesn't like. And he only really eats 1 meal a day. He works 2nd

> shift (4-midnight) so doesn't get up til 11am or so. I do my best to

> make him low-carb meals but sometimes all he wants to eat is

> spaghetti, and when corn-on-the-cob comes in season, he'll want 4 ears

> (plus bread) for a meal! I am just beside myself; I can't do this for

> him and am hoping you all can encourage me and advise me on what to

> do. I'm really afraid he's gonna need a wake-up call before he really

> starts taking better care of himself.

> I hope to make lotsa new friends here!

> Peni Jo

>

Hi Peni Jo,

Are you the one doing the shopping and cooking? Then you can just not

buy those foods. Make an appt for him with diabetes education and you

go with him. If he won't go then you read some books on it and figure

out the meal plans for healthy meals for a diabetic. Most couples end

up with both having Type 2 diabetes because of the foods eaten and

lifestyle. So you can prevent yourself from this condition by

changing what you cook and eat yourself. That's my advice.

Look at it this way if he were an alcoholic would you be making him

cocktails or buying alcohol to keep around the house just because he

liked it? I hope that doesn't sound too harsh but reality is he is

using you to eat what he wants. I'm not blaming you in any way, just

refuse to play the game. After all you can't hope he does better if

you provide the way for him not to. If he still goes out and eats

what he wants elsewhere at least you are not responsible for it. I

hope that makes sense. His wake up call just might be you finding out

what he's not supposed to eat and then changing what you cook or buy

for around the house. You can say you don't want to end up having

diabetes in the future so you are following the program yourself. It

is kind of a family thing. It hardly works when you have to cook all

separate meals for each person. What's good for one is good for all.

If he's the one who shops and gets the food around the house then

that's a different story. It's really hard I know to watch a spouse

just ignore dr's advice. By being here maybe it won't be so stressful

for you. Have you discussed how you felt about all of this with him?

Maybe it just is not sinking in and is in denial still. If he has

not gone to diabetes education that can be a real eye opener to reality.

I'm glad you are here. It sounds like those hours he works are hard

to deal around meals and such. I'm not sure how he makes it with one

meal a day at times. That kind of messes up how the body responds to

BG levels and insulin levels. It's really important that he eat every

4 hrs. Normally that involves just eating smaller amounts more often.

Easy to say, hard to to sometimes.

As far as pasta goes, have you ever tried using spaghetti squash with

the same type of sauce instead of pasta? You could always do half

pasta and half spaghetti squash as a way to ease into it as an

experiment.

I think if he had to write down what he ate and list the carb counts

that would really shock him. Please try to get him into diabetic

education if he is willing. Maybe his dr would just write an order

for it if you mentioned it to him. Just trying to come up with

several ideas as a start. Not sure if they apply or not.