Re: Denied a Reversal

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Apparently if a person is " overly " emotional the surgeon has the " right " to

deny a person. I have been rejected by two surgeons to have my WLS reversed

and the reason given was because I got too emotional and cried (out of

frustration) and they feel that another surgery will be too stressful for me

I wonder if anyone has ever gotten denied WLS because of feeling

frustrated and hopeless or is this form of medical denial just for the

people looking to have their original surgery corrected or reversed. So

apparently it is very bad to get emotional or to ask questions, I guess we

just have to let the surgeons play GOD and listen to what they say and not

have any questions or comments.

Lacy

-- Clearance? HA!

In a message dated 11/9/06 4:38:55 AM Pacific Standard Time,

GastricBypass-LOSERS writes:

> I and my wife have both been labeled a

> little combative by my surgeon for not taking his pat answers as gospel. I

> am really frustrated with this kind of attitude and will go on asking

> questions and do not be afraid to ask them and go over their heads like I

> have done if necessary.

I'd be careful with that ... I was just REFUSED surgery by the group I've

been dealing with because their director (not even a medical person) felt I

was

" confrontational " because I dared to ask for clarification for five

different

pieces of information from five different people that all conflicted and I

didn't know who to listen to. When she called me to tell me I would " not be

accepted as a patient " yesterday I really felt horrible. I even asked if it

was

legal for me to pass medical hurdles and then for them to refuse me

treatment

because they didn't like me. She said oh no, it wasn't that at all, it just

" wasn't a good fit " ... she couldn't define that when I pressed her. I also

had

the opportunity to tell her she was in the wrong field, she was the least

caring person I'd ever dealt with, that she was cold, heartless, and not

compassionate at all. I said it all calmly and I'm glad I said it .... now I

m angry,

but also very very down. It's like I'm being told I'm not good enough to be

worthy of having my life saved so I can just die. The screening doctor told

me

about 10 times I would, which is frightening. I can file a complaint with

the patient advocate for my health plan, but this bariatric group is " out of

network " and I had to have a referral to them, so it carries no weight and

is

meaningless since he's not even in my health plan technically. Though it

annoys

me that HIS site is what comes up on my health plan's website for weight

loss

surgery. I just never anticipated this. They don't like my personality or

that I ask questions, so they can just reject me and let me die. Someone

suggested, maybe very accurately, that maybe he wanted a reason to reject me

as I

have a high BMI and am higher risk so maybe he didn't want his numbers

messed up

cuz he claims such a low complication rate and he's had no deaths. I did

think it was odd that on his website and even in the materials they give out

at

the orientation class, one of the " success stories " includes pictures of a

woman who doesn't look that different before and after ... like she had

maybe 50

pounds to lose ... nowhere near 100. I guess it's easier to have good stats

if

you do that. I don't know ... I hate the feeling of impotence I have. My

health plan is checking to see if there is somewhere else they can refer me

to,

but it's like, well, our top guy hates you, so maybe you can have the grade

Z

guy. It feels like no-win and I feel such despair.

India