Guest guest Posted June 22, 2004 Report Share Posted June 22, 2004 Christi, That was a wonderful post. Said beautifully, shared from your heart, focusing on positives... Thanks for sharing Bette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2004 Report Share Posted June 22, 2004 Christi, Really great post here. Thank you. 175/157.8/130 Re: Re: TORY & OTHERS > When i was growing up, I knew what was beautiful. > Women in the gorgeous paintings tht I loved were > beautiful. The naked women in the magazines lying > underneath my father's bed, they were beautiful. > Barbie, Now, she was beautiful. I thought that when i > grew up, I would be beautiful. And then i sprouted > breasts, and then i was done with that, and I looked > NOTHING like any of those women. I was So. Not. > Beautiful. I didnt look like them, i didnt get to > dress like them, i was some hideous little troglydyte. > And I loathed myself, I felt completely cheated. This > went on for YEARS. > I dont know when i started changing. Part of it was > when i realized that my grandma and grandad were > together for over 50 years and he loved her and she > him, and she didnt look like any of what i have > mentioned before. I had a best friend who outweighted > me by over one hundred lbs, and she had guys hitting > on her. So it had to be soemthing else. it had to be > ATTITUDE. So i got attitude,a nd i got hope, and i > went looking. There had to be a man out there for me. > Adn i found one. He loved me. He loved ME just the way > that i was, fat and chunky. he thoguth i was > beautiful. I had made it. i was a bride, a wife, a > mother at last of three beautiful kids. > And then.. He took it all away. He met someone at > work, who was younger, stupider, and now hes with her, > and two months after he moved out, shes pregnant. so > where do i go from here? I make good choices for > myself. I do good things. I take care of my kids, I > take care of myself, i do things that will take us > ahead in ways he never wanted to do. I celebrate my > curves here, and here, and here, all of them. I see a > woman who is going ahead and doing good things, > because whether or not there is a man out there for me > (and believe you me, ive already met some of them) I > am fine.. just the way i am. > I would say that if you dont love you, nobody's going > to. I didnt love me. When i started loveing me, i > started getting soem attention. I walked down the > street like i was goddess walking, I had attitude, and > when i started putting a high price on me, what i was > worth. guess what.. so did they. its all attitude. > Then you start doing good things for yourself, and > celebrate every good thing you do. you build yourself > up without tearing y ourself down, until you are that > person that you really want to be. > So.. who do you want to be? > Me, i want a college degree. i want a job in something > that i love. im going back to college, im getting that > degree and im going to be a librarian. Iwill be doing > something that i love, taking care of myself and my > kids. > i want to be healthy, so i am exercising, losing > weight so that my diabetes dissipates as much as > possible. > I want a house, so i am going to college, to get the > degree to get a job to get waht i want. > > The big questions you ahve to ask is. .what do you > want?What makes you happy? What is best for YOU? When > you are doing all those things, you love yourself. If > you are stuck in a job you hate, you are going to hate > yourself for having to go there every day. When you > hate your surroundings, ditto. If your life is > overwhelmingly negative, you are going to be that way > also. > whether you are fat or not. That is just one more > problem that you have to deal with. > Okay, i will say just one more thing. When i started > losing weight, it affected me. I began to get more > confident, feeling that if i can do that, i can do > anything. I met a goal, and then anotehr goal, and i > began to feel that if THAT could be dealt with in > small pieces, maybe everything else could too. Maybe > that is a key for you also, maybe not. But i dont look > at myself and say " oh you fat pig, look at you, you > ate a brownie " . I say, " oh, good for you, you ate your > veggies today and drank your water, and had a really > good brownie. NOT three of them, A brownie. it was > only a freakin' brownie!! " and if i had three > brownies, in a pms fit or whatever (and that is, > happily, not happening much at all anymore) I can say, > again, positively-- " Okay, y ou had a bad day. > Tomorrow will be better. But you ate your veggies, you > drank y our water, and you walked some extra today to > try and do better, so good for y ou!! " The point is, > to not shy away from the bad things, but not to wallow > in them either. Okay, i will be quiet NOW. > christi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2004 Report Share Posted June 22, 2004 Christi, Really great post here. Thank you. 175/157.8/130 Re: Re: TORY & OTHERS > When i was growing up, I knew what was beautiful. > Women in the gorgeous paintings tht I loved were > beautiful. The naked women in the magazines lying > underneath my father's bed, they were beautiful. > Barbie, Now, she was beautiful. I thought that when i > grew up, I would be beautiful. And then i sprouted > breasts, and then i was done with that, and I looked > NOTHING like any of those women. I was So. Not. > Beautiful. I didnt look like them, i didnt get to > dress like them, i was some hideous little troglydyte. > And I loathed myself, I felt completely cheated. This > went on for YEARS. > I dont know when i started changing. Part of it was > when i realized that my grandma and grandad were > together for over 50 years and he loved her and she > him, and she didnt look like any of what i have > mentioned before. I had a best friend who outweighted > me by over one hundred lbs, and she had guys hitting > on her. So it had to be soemthing else. it had to be > ATTITUDE. So i got attitude,a nd i got hope, and i > went looking. There had to be a man out there for me. > Adn i found one. He loved me. He loved ME just the way > that i was, fat and chunky. he thoguth i was > beautiful. I had made it. i was a bride, a wife, a > mother at last of three beautiful kids. > And then.. He took it all away. He met someone at > work, who was younger, stupider, and now hes with her, > and two months after he moved out, shes pregnant. so > where do i go from here? I make good choices for > myself. I do good things. I take care of my kids, I > take care of myself, i do things that will take us > ahead in ways he never wanted to do. I celebrate my > curves here, and here, and here, all of them. I see a > woman who is going ahead and doing good things, > because whether or not there is a man out there for me > (and believe you me, ive already met some of them) I > am fine.. just the way i am. > I would say that if you dont love you, nobody's going > to. I didnt love me. When i started loveing me, i > started getting soem attention. I walked down the > street like i was goddess walking, I had attitude, and > when i started putting a high price on me, what i was > worth. guess what.. so did they. its all attitude. > Then you start doing good things for yourself, and > celebrate every good thing you do. you build yourself > up without tearing y ourself down, until you are that > person that you really want to be. > So.. who do you want to be? > Me, i want a college degree. i want a job in something > that i love. im going back to college, im getting that > degree and im going to be a librarian. Iwill be doing > something that i love, taking care of myself and my > kids. > i want to be healthy, so i am exercising, losing > weight so that my diabetes dissipates as much as > possible. > I want a house, so i am going to college, to get the > degree to get a job to get waht i want. > > The big questions you ahve to ask is. .what do you > want?What makes you happy? What is best for YOU? When > you are doing all those things, you love yourself. If > you are stuck in a job you hate, you are going to hate > yourself for having to go there every day. When you > hate your surroundings, ditto. If your life is > overwhelmingly negative, you are going to be that way > also. > whether you are fat or not. That is just one more > problem that you have to deal with. > Okay, i will say just one more thing. When i started > losing weight, it affected me. I began to get more > confident, feeling that if i can do that, i can do > anything. I met a goal, and then anotehr goal, and i > began to feel that if THAT could be dealt with in > small pieces, maybe everything else could too. Maybe > that is a key for you also, maybe not. But i dont look > at myself and say " oh you fat pig, look at you, you > ate a brownie " . I say, " oh, good for you, you ate your > veggies today and drank your water, and had a really > good brownie. NOT three of them, A brownie. it was > only a freakin' brownie!! " and if i had three > brownies, in a pms fit or whatever (and that is, > happily, not happening much at all anymore) I can say, > again, positively-- " Okay, y ou had a bad day. > Tomorrow will be better. But you ate your veggies, you > drank y our water, and you walked some extra today to > try and do better, so good for y ou!! " The point is, > to not shy away from the bad things, but not to wallow > in them either. Okay, i will be quiet NOW. > christi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2004 Report Share Posted June 22, 2004 Christi, Really great post here. Thank you. 175/157.8/130 Re: Re: TORY & OTHERS > When i was growing up, I knew what was beautiful. > Women in the gorgeous paintings tht I loved were > beautiful. The naked women in the magazines lying > underneath my father's bed, they were beautiful. > Barbie, Now, she was beautiful. I thought that when i > grew up, I would be beautiful. And then i sprouted > breasts, and then i was done with that, and I looked > NOTHING like any of those women. I was So. Not. > Beautiful. I didnt look like them, i didnt get to > dress like them, i was some hideous little troglydyte. > And I loathed myself, I felt completely cheated. This > went on for YEARS. > I dont know when i started changing. Part of it was > when i realized that my grandma and grandad were > together for over 50 years and he loved her and she > him, and she didnt look like any of what i have > mentioned before. I had a best friend who outweighted > me by over one hundred lbs, and she had guys hitting > on her. So it had to be soemthing else. it had to be > ATTITUDE. So i got attitude,a nd i got hope, and i > went looking. There had to be a man out there for me. > Adn i found one. He loved me. He loved ME just the way > that i was, fat and chunky. he thoguth i was > beautiful. I had made it. i was a bride, a wife, a > mother at last of three beautiful kids. > And then.. He took it all away. He met someone at > work, who was younger, stupider, and now hes with her, > and two months after he moved out, shes pregnant. so > where do i go from here? I make good choices for > myself. I do good things. I take care of my kids, I > take care of myself, i do things that will take us > ahead in ways he never wanted to do. I celebrate my > curves here, and here, and here, all of them. I see a > woman who is going ahead and doing good things, > because whether or not there is a man out there for me > (and believe you me, ive already met some of them) I > am fine.. just the way i am. > I would say that if you dont love you, nobody's going > to. I didnt love me. When i started loveing me, i > started getting soem attention. I walked down the > street like i was goddess walking, I had attitude, and > when i started putting a high price on me, what i was > worth. guess what.. so did they. its all attitude. > Then you start doing good things for yourself, and > celebrate every good thing you do. you build yourself > up without tearing y ourself down, until you are that > person that you really want to be. > So.. who do you want to be? > Me, i want a college degree. i want a job in something > that i love. im going back to college, im getting that > degree and im going to be a librarian. Iwill be doing > something that i love, taking care of myself and my > kids. > i want to be healthy, so i am exercising, losing > weight so that my diabetes dissipates as much as > possible. > I want a house, so i am going to college, to get the > degree to get a job to get waht i want. > > The big questions you ahve to ask is. .what do you > want?What makes you happy? What is best for YOU? When > you are doing all those things, you love yourself. If > you are stuck in a job you hate, you are going to hate > yourself for having to go there every day. When you > hate your surroundings, ditto. If your life is > overwhelmingly negative, you are going to be that way > also. > whether you are fat or not. That is just one more > problem that you have to deal with. > Okay, i will say just one more thing. When i started > losing weight, it affected me. I began to get more > confident, feeling that if i can do that, i can do > anything. I met a goal, and then anotehr goal, and i > began to feel that if THAT could be dealt with in > small pieces, maybe everything else could too. Maybe > that is a key for you also, maybe not. But i dont look > at myself and say " oh you fat pig, look at you, you > ate a brownie " . I say, " oh, good for you, you ate your > veggies today and drank your water, and had a really > good brownie. NOT three of them, A brownie. it was > only a freakin' brownie!! " and if i had three > brownies, in a pms fit or whatever (and that is, > happily, not happening much at all anymore) I can say, > again, positively-- " Okay, y ou had a bad day. > Tomorrow will be better. But you ate your veggies, you > drank y our water, and you walked some extra today to > try and do better, so good for y ou!! " The point is, > to not shy away from the bad things, but not to wallow > in them either. Okay, i will be quiet NOW. > christi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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