Guest guest Posted April 21, 2001 Report Share Posted April 21, 2001 Kirsten I think you often work out your ideal age gaps by what worked or didn't work in your own family. This at least was how dh and I worked out when we wanted out 2nd child after the first. There is 3 years between my younger brother and me and it really was to large a gap. My parents tended to treat us both as the age of my brother and I found that very frustrating (there is a big difference between being 6 and 9 for example) my older sister is nearly 7 years older than me and while I know my parents found this far easier than the 3 year gap it makes for little contact as a child as you are simply to different Now as a adult I don't notice our age difference but I was in my 20's before my sister and I made friends.. I have 2 sets of friends who has a 4 year and a 5 year gap and both of them says that it works really well as that means they have time for the baby (as older one is in school or playgroup) and then don't feel guilty about paying more attention to oldest child once they get home.. Personally we went with a 23 month age gap and I think it works wonderful the girls at least are getting a lot of enjoyment from each other and I love watching them play and interact with each other... Sorry got very long ;o) Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. ----- Original Message ----- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2001 Report Share Posted April 21, 2001 Kirsten I think you often work out your ideal age gaps by what worked or didn't work in your own family. This at least was how dh and I worked out when we wanted out 2nd child after the first. There is 3 years between my younger brother and me and it really was to large a gap. My parents tended to treat us both as the age of my brother and I found that very frustrating (there is a big difference between being 6 and 9 for example) my older sister is nearly 7 years older than me and while I know my parents found this far easier than the 3 year gap it makes for little contact as a child as you are simply to different Now as a adult I don't notice our age difference but I was in my 20's before my sister and I made friends.. I have 2 sets of friends who has a 4 year and a 5 year gap and both of them says that it works really well as that means they have time for the baby (as older one is in school or playgroup) and then don't feel guilty about paying more attention to oldest child once they get home.. Personally we went with a 23 month age gap and I think it works wonderful the girls at least are getting a lot of enjoyment from each other and I love watching them play and interact with each other... Sorry got very long ;o) Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. ----- Original Message ----- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2001 Report Share Posted April 21, 2001 Kirsten I think you often work out your ideal age gaps by what worked or didn't work in your own family. This at least was how dh and I worked out when we wanted out 2nd child after the first. There is 3 years between my younger brother and me and it really was to large a gap. My parents tended to treat us both as the age of my brother and I found that very frustrating (there is a big difference between being 6 and 9 for example) my older sister is nearly 7 years older than me and while I know my parents found this far easier than the 3 year gap it makes for little contact as a child as you are simply to different Now as a adult I don't notice our age difference but I was in my 20's before my sister and I made friends.. I have 2 sets of friends who has a 4 year and a 5 year gap and both of them says that it works really well as that means they have time for the baby (as older one is in school or playgroup) and then don't feel guilty about paying more attention to oldest child once they get home.. Personally we went with a 23 month age gap and I think it works wonderful the girls at least are getting a lot of enjoyment from each other and I love watching them play and interact with each other... Sorry got very long ;o) Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. ----- Original Message ----- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2001 Report Share Posted April 21, 2001 No doubt there will be lots of other posts, saying that close siblings get along wonderfully and I'm not denying it happens. Its wonderful if two children get on and are companions but IME nature likes to play little tricks!!! I don't actually think when the kids get on or don't get along is much to do with age gap I think it is more to do with personality and temperament.. As I already mentioned earlier we have a 23 m gap and that has worked well but my daughters are very similar in temperament.. with my brother and I (3 years) and my sister and I (7 years) we are all so different that perhaps no matter what kind of age gap would we not have gotten on... (my philosophical through of the day ) Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Digest Number 1002 > > *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** > > Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee > > Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2001 Report Share Posted April 21, 2001 No doubt there will be lots of other posts, saying that close siblings get along wonderfully and I'm not denying it happens. Its wonderful if two children get on and are companions but IME nature likes to play little tricks!!! I don't actually think when the kids get on or don't get along is much to do with age gap I think it is more to do with personality and temperament.. As I already mentioned earlier we have a 23 m gap and that has worked well but my daughters are very similar in temperament.. with my brother and I (3 years) and my sister and I (7 years) we are all so different that perhaps no matter what kind of age gap would we not have gotten on... (my philosophical through of the day ) Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Digest Number 1002 > > *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** > > Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee > > Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2001 Report Share Posted April 21, 2001 No doubt there will be lots of other posts, saying that close siblings get along wonderfully and I'm not denying it happens. Its wonderful if two children get on and are companions but IME nature likes to play little tricks!!! I don't actually think when the kids get on or don't get along is much to do with age gap I think it is more to do with personality and temperament.. As I already mentioned earlier we have a 23 m gap and that has worked well but my daughters are very similar in temperament.. with my brother and I (3 years) and my sister and I (7 years) we are all so different that perhaps no matter what kind of age gap would we not have gotten on... (my philosophical through of the day ) Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Digest Number 1002 > > *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** > > Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee > > Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2001 Report Share Posted April 22, 2001 " " " " " but I was buoyed up by a local librarian who told me when I was at the end of pregnancy that she had two close together (unintentionally) and that it had been wonderful. " " " " " It is SO nice when people are positive about this sort of thing don't you think?? I have lost count at the number of times that I went out with Phoebe and Eloisa in the double buggy (23 month gap) and got told by total strangers.. Double trouble... I know they said it to be nice but ARGH it annoys me.. I did find though that smiling sweetly and saying Twice the joy generally got a very surprised look but then people said Yes that is a far nicer way to look at it... Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Digest Number 1008 *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2001 Report Share Posted April 22, 2001 " " " " " but I was buoyed up by a local librarian who told me when I was at the end of pregnancy that she had two close together (unintentionally) and that it had been wonderful. " " " " " It is SO nice when people are positive about this sort of thing don't you think?? I have lost count at the number of times that I went out with Phoebe and Eloisa in the double buggy (23 month gap) and got told by total strangers.. Double trouble... I know they said it to be nice but ARGH it annoys me.. I did find though that smiling sweetly and saying Twice the joy generally got a very surprised look but then people said Yes that is a far nicer way to look at it... Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Digest Number 1008 *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2001 Report Share Posted April 22, 2001 " " " " " but I was buoyed up by a local librarian who told me when I was at the end of pregnancy that she had two close together (unintentionally) and that it had been wonderful. " " " " " It is SO nice when people are positive about this sort of thing don't you think?? I have lost count at the number of times that I went out with Phoebe and Eloisa in the double buggy (23 month gap) and got told by total strangers.. Double trouble... I know they said it to be nice but ARGH it annoys me.. I did find though that smiling sweetly and saying Twice the joy generally got a very surprised look but then people said Yes that is a far nicer way to look at it... Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Digest Number 1008 *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2001 Report Share Posted April 22, 2001 " " " " " but I was buoyed up by a local librarian who told me when I was at the end of pregnancy that she had two close together (unintentionally) and that it had been wonderful. " " " " " It is SO nice when people are positive about this sort of thing don't you think?? I have lost count at the number of times that I went out with Phoebe and Eloisa in the double buggy (23 month gap) and got told by total strangers.. Double trouble... I know they said it to be nice but ARGH it annoys me.. I did find though that smiling sweetly and saying Twice the joy generally got a very surprised look but then people said Yes that is a far nicer way to look at it... Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Digest Number 1008 *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2001 Report Share Posted April 22, 2001 " " " " " but I was buoyed up by a local librarian who told me when I was at the end of pregnancy that she had two close together (unintentionally) and that it had been wonderful. " " " " " It is SO nice when people are positive about this sort of thing don't you think?? I have lost count at the number of times that I went out with Phoebe and Eloisa in the double buggy (23 month gap) and got told by total strangers.. Double trouble... I know they said it to be nice but ARGH it annoys me.. I did find though that smiling sweetly and saying Twice the joy generally got a very surprised look but then people said Yes that is a far nicer way to look at it... Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Digest Number 1008 *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2001 Report Share Posted April 22, 2001 " " " " " but I was buoyed up by a local librarian who told me when I was at the end of pregnancy that she had two close together (unintentionally) and that it had been wonderful. " " " " " It is SO nice when people are positive about this sort of thing don't you think?? I have lost count at the number of times that I went out with Phoebe and Eloisa in the double buggy (23 month gap) and got told by total strangers.. Double trouble... I know they said it to be nice but ARGH it annoys me.. I did find though that smiling sweetly and saying Twice the joy generally got a very surprised look but then people said Yes that is a far nicer way to look at it... Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Digest Number 1008 *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2001 Report Share Posted April 22, 2001 " Lonnie Fletcher " wrote: have lost count at the number of times that I went out with Phoebe and Eloisa in the double buggy (23 month gap) and got told by total strangers.. Double trouble... I know they said it to be nice but ARGH it annoys me.. That one sends me nuts, I got so that I would push double buggy past inanly smiling old ladies without even acknowledging them. People used to nod, smile and say " Ohh,double trouble! " to me at least 6/7 times a day and I never could think of a reply cos it used to p--- me offf so much , that I couldn't have replied sweetly enuf with anything approaching witty wity repartee. I did think of some but generally coulkdnt be A-- to stop and talk to anybody so dumb , instead I would grit my teeth and grin/snarl inanely back and keep walking. Now they are 5 nobody ever notices . thankfully. . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2001 Report Share Posted April 22, 2001 " Lonnie Fletcher " wrote: have lost count at the number of times that I went out with Phoebe and Eloisa in the double buggy (23 month gap) and got told by total strangers.. Double trouble... I know they said it to be nice but ARGH it annoys me.. That one sends me nuts, I got so that I would push double buggy past inanly smiling old ladies without even acknowledging them. People used to nod, smile and say " Ohh,double trouble! " to me at least 6/7 times a day and I never could think of a reply cos it used to p--- me offf so much , that I couldn't have replied sweetly enuf with anything approaching witty wity repartee. I did think of some but generally coulkdnt be A-- to stop and talk to anybody so dumb , instead I would grit my teeth and grin/snarl inanely back and keep walking. Now they are 5 nobody ever notices . thankfully. . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2001 Report Share Posted April 22, 2001 " Lonnie Fletcher " wrote: have lost count at the number of times that I went out with Phoebe and Eloisa in the double buggy (23 month gap) and got told by total strangers.. Double trouble... I know they said it to be nice but ARGH it annoys me.. That one sends me nuts, I got so that I would push double buggy past inanly smiling old ladies without even acknowledging them. People used to nod, smile and say " Ohh,double trouble! " to me at least 6/7 times a day and I never could think of a reply cos it used to p--- me offf so much , that I couldn't have replied sweetly enuf with anything approaching witty wity repartee. I did think of some but generally coulkdnt be A-- to stop and talk to anybody so dumb , instead I would grit my teeth and grin/snarl inanely back and keep walking. Now they are 5 nobody ever notices . thankfully. . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2001 Report Share Posted April 22, 2001 Double trouble... I know they said it to be nice but ARGH > it annoys me.. Maybe it's cos my daughter and my niece aren't twins but are born 3.5 weeks apart that I don't mind hearing this when I've taken them out, as they are often mistaken for twins. They were definitely double trouble at 18mo but after about 2.5yo have been fab entertainment for each other. --Sue, who used to wish she had twins! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2001 Report Share Posted April 22, 2001 Double trouble... I know they said it to be nice but ARGH > it annoys me.. Maybe it's cos my daughter and my niece aren't twins but are born 3.5 weeks apart that I don't mind hearing this when I've taken them out, as they are often mistaken for twins. They were definitely double trouble at 18mo but after about 2.5yo have been fab entertainment for each other. --Sue, who used to wish she had twins! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2001 Report Share Posted April 22, 2001 Double trouble... I know they said it to be nice but ARGH > it annoys me.. Maybe it's cos my daughter and my niece aren't twins but are born 3.5 weeks apart that I don't mind hearing this when I've taken them out, as they are often mistaken for twins. They were definitely double trouble at 18mo but after about 2.5yo have been fab entertainment for each other. --Sue, who used to wish she had twins! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2001 Report Share Posted April 23, 2001 > You know the comment I hate? I have 4 kids and people always have to > say " haven't you got a telly then, hahahaha " . Never heard that one. I get " kept trying for a girl, did you? " Am always tempted to say that we were hoping for a hippo, but have never done so yet. Lynda SAHM to (8), (5), Fraser (3), Callum (15/5/00) Newsletter editor, Mid-Northumberland Branch Area Rep, Region 7 www.familygarland.co.uk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2001 Report Share Posted April 23, 2001 " " " " " Never heard that one. I get " kept trying for a girl, did you? " Am always tempted to say that we were hoping for a hippo, but have never done so yet. " " " " " Oh that is wonderful please do so ;o) (or else I might steal it when people will start asking me are you hoping for a boy this time) Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2001 Report Share Posted April 23, 2001 " " " " " Never heard that one. I get " kept trying for a girl, did you? " Am always tempted to say that we were hoping for a hippo, but have never done so yet. " " " " " Oh that is wonderful please do so ;o) (or else I might steal it when people will start asking me are you hoping for a boy this time) Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2001 Report Share Posted April 23, 2001 " " " " " Never heard that one. I get " kept trying for a girl, did you? " Am always tempted to say that we were hoping for a hippo, but have never done so yet. " " " " " Oh that is wonderful please do so ;o) (or else I might steal it when people will start asking me are you hoping for a boy this time) Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2001 Report Share Posted April 23, 2001 > " " " " " Never heard that one. I get " kept trying for a girl, did you? " Am > always > tempted to say that we were hoping for a hippo, but have never done so > yet. " " " " " > > Oh that is wonderful please do so ;o) (or else I might steal it when people > will start asking me are you hoping for a boy this time) Whilst I was pregnant people inevitably used to ask 'Do you know what it is?' to which we replied 'A baby' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2001 Report Share Posted April 23, 2001 When people asked me that question, or the inevitable 'What are you hoping for', I used to reply, 'A white rabbit. Far less trouble than children and you can have it put to sleep and get another one when you're fed or bored up of it.' Lesley ------------------- From: Whilst I was pregnant people inevitably used to ask 'Do you know what it is?' to which we replied 'A baby' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2001 Report Share Posted April 23, 2001 When people asked me that question, or the inevitable 'What are you hoping for', I used to reply, 'A white rabbit. Far less trouble than children and you can have it put to sleep and get another one when you're fed or bored up of it.' Lesley ------------------- From: Whilst I was pregnant people inevitably used to ask 'Do you know what it is?' to which we replied 'A baby' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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