Guest guest Posted February 14, 2004 Report Share Posted February 14, 2004 dear group...you convinced me and i am off to belgium post haste...NOW..let's hear the real scoop... WILL I EVER BE ABLE TO LOOK INTO MY LOVER'S EYES WHILE DOING THE DEED, AGAIN?? I DON'T WANT TO HEAR LONG DRAWN OUR EXPLANATIONS ABOUT HOW THERE ARE SO MANY ALTERNATIVE FUN POSITIONS...I WANT STRAIGHT ANSWERS TO TWO QUESTIONS..IF I'M ON TOP AM I GONNA SPREAD MY HIPS SO FAR APART THAT I WILL RIP MY HIPS TO SHREADS....AND IF I AM ON THE BOTTOM...AM I GONNA WISH I STILL HAD MY SEMI-DEFLATED WATER BED UNDER ME BEARING HALF THE BRUNT?? WILL I STILL BE ABLE TO WRAP MY LEGS AROUND MY LOVER'S WAIST AFTER YEARS OF HIS AFFAIR WITH THE BUDWEISER BUNNY??? I DON'T KICKBOX, BUNGEE JUMP, MOUNTAIN CLIMB, OR RUN THE NY MARATHON..BUT, FOR 13K I WOULD STILL LIKE TO MAKE LOVE...SO, LET'S HEAR IT. WILL I HAVE TO INVEST IN A MIRROR COMPANY TO EVER LOOK INTO MY LOVER'S EYES AGAIN? THANKS, M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2004 Report Share Posted February 15, 2004 Dear M, My thoughts exactly, T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2004 Report Share Posted February 15, 2004 - no prob! Jude WHAT ABOUT SEX dear group...you convinced me and i am off to belgium post haste...NOW..let's hear the real scoop... WILL I EVER BE ABLE TO LOOK INTO MY LOVER'S EYES WHILE DOING THE DEED, AGAIN?? I DON'T WANT TO HEAR LONG DRAWN OUR EXPLANATIONS ABOUT HOW THERE ARE SO MANY ALTERNATIVE FUN POSITIONS...I WANT STRAIGHT ANSWERS TO TWO QUESTIONS..IF I'M ON TOP AM I GONNA SPREAD MY HIPS SO FAR APART THAT I WILL RIP MY HIPS TO SHREADS....AND IF I AM ON THE BOTTOM...AM I GONNA WISH I STILL HAD MY SEMI-DEFLATED WATER BED UNDER ME BEARING HALF THE BRUNT?? WILL I STILL BE ABLE TO WRAP MY LEGS AROUND MY LOVER'S WAIST AFTER YEARS OF HIS AFFAIR WITH THE BUDWEISER BUNNY??? I DON'T KICKBOX, BUNGEE JUMP, MOUNTAIN CLIMB, OR RUN THE NY MARATHON..BUT, FOR 13K I WOULD STILL LIKE TO MAKE LOVE...SO, LET'S HEAR IT. WILL I HAVE TO INVEST IN A MIRROR COMPANY TO EVER LOOK INTO MY LOVER'S EYES AGAIN? THANKS, M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2004 Report Share Posted February 15, 2004 mary three weeks post-op........no problem on top ..........6 weeks post op anyth8ing involving jumping off tops of wardrobes.......probably best to wait for 6 month check-up......teehee honestly without being too graphic its fine and if you were in a lot of pain before it will more likely be much easier....... good luck sarah lou (32 years old, sexually active since july!! RBHR) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2004 Report Share Posted February 15, 2004 , I came at this (oops, sorry) from the other, male, point of view. Would I still be able to pump my iron? Would I still, in fact, have a pumpable iron? Looking into my Hip Replacement book for reference I was told that sexual desire would diminish during the operation (duh) and afterwards. But then it would return. However, due to my age, it would not such an issue as before. That was rubbish. So I applied exercise principles. What were the movements I needed to make? What were the loads I had to bear? Then I worked out a carefully graduated series of exercises making minimal versions of these movements at first and then, as I got stronger and more flexible, more pronounced versions. You could do this too! Simulate a Budweiser bunny with a very large pillow or a nightdress stuffed with old clothes and blankets. Lie on your back and spread your legs a little - listen to your body though. If you hear a squeak it means the new joint needs oiling or you accidentally put your pet cat into the nightdress. Practise these movements and postures twice a day for nineteen weeks. If you still have sexual desire at this time book yourself into a nunnery for a period of spiritual isolation and deep soulful cleansing. Alternatively go to it. Such determination is incredible and you get an award. Ignore the ribald and discouraging comments of your partner. You will have the last laugh (ha ha). To simulate being on top you just lie down atop the stuffed nightgown and make the usual semi-flapping motions that females make in such circumstances (in my experience, but hey, I last had it thirty three years ago. What do I know? I'm talking theoretically here.) For versimilitude it's best to provide your own sound effects. (Think Harry met Sally and that restaurant scene.) I found my partner was so-o-o-o very sympathetic that I was able to experience all sorts of odd and very interesting new things. Unhappily she soon realised that I was milking the situation and it became much less one-sided. My BHR is so very good that I'm looking at other things that could be resurfaced. Chris. > dear group...you convinced me and i am off to belgium post > haste...NOW..let's hear the real scoop... > > WILL I EVER BE ABLE TO LOOK INTO MY LOVER'S EYES WHILE DOING THE > DEED, AGAIN?? > I DON'T WANT TO HEAR LONG DRAWN OUR EXPLANATIONS ABOUT HOW THERE ARE > SO MANY ALTERNATIVE FUN POSITIONS...I WANT STRAIGHT ANSWERS TO TWO > QUESTIONS..IF I'M ON TOP AM I GONNA SPREAD MY HIPS SO FAR APART THAT > I WILL RIP MY HIPS TO SHREADS....AND IF I AM ON THE BOTTOM...AM I > GONNA WISH I STILL HAD MY SEMI-DEFLATED WATER BED UNDER ME BEARING > HALF THE BRUNT?? WILL I STILL BE ABLE TO WRAP MY LEGS AROUND MY > LOVER'S WAIST AFTER YEARS OF HIS AFFAIR WITH THE BUDWEISER BUNNY??? > > I DON'T KICKBOX, BUNGEE JUMP, MOUNTAIN CLIMB, OR RUN THE NY > MARATHON..BUT, FOR 13K I WOULD STILL LIKE TO MAKE LOVE...SO, LET'S > HEAR IT. WILL I HAVE TO INVEST IN A MIRROR COMPANY TO EVER LOOK INTO > MY LOVER'S EYES AGAIN? > > THANKS, > M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2004 Report Share Posted February 15, 2004 Dear M, Using several Belgian chocolate covered strawberries on strings to determine your relative bearings during rapid position change induced vertigo should reduce if not totally eliminate the need for a mirror! SV P.S. You're welcome! You'll not regret a single moment!! > dear group...you convinced me and i am off to belgium post > haste...NOW..let's hear the real scoop... > > WILL I EVER BE ABLE TO LOOK INTO MY LOVER'S EYES WHILE DOING THE > DEED, AGAIN?? > I DON'T WANT TO HEAR LONG DRAWN OUR EXPLANATIONS ABOUT HOW THERE ARE > SO MANY ALTERNATIVE FUN POSITIONS...I WANT STRAIGHT ANSWERS TO TWO > QUESTIONS..IF I'M ON TOP AM I GONNA SPREAD MY HIPS SO FAR APART THAT > I WILL RIP MY HIPS TO SHREADS....AND IF I AM ON THE BOTTOM...AM I > GONNA WISH I STILL HAD MY SEMI-DEFLATED WATER BED UNDER ME BEARING > HALF THE BRUNT?? WILL I STILL BE ABLE TO WRAP MY LEGS AROUND MY > LOVER'S WAIST AFTER YEARS OF HIS AFFAIR WITH THE BUDWEISER BUNNY??? > > I DON'T KICKBOX, BUNGEE JUMP, MOUNTAIN CLIMB, OR RUN THE NY > MARATHON..BUT, FOR 13K I WOULD STILL LIKE TO MAKE LOVE...SO, LET'S > HEAR IT. WILL I HAVE TO INVEST IN A MIRROR COMPANY TO EVER LOOK INTO > MY LOVER'S EYES AGAIN? > > THANKS, > M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2004 Report Share Posted February 15, 2004 This was so funny! Thanks for starting off my day with a good laugh. > > dear group...you convinced me and i am off to belgium post > > haste...NOW..let's hear the real scoop... > > > > WILL I EVER BE ABLE TO LOOK INTO MY LOVER'S EYES WHILE DOING THE > > DEED, AGAIN?? > > I DON'T WANT TO HEAR LONG DRAWN OUR EXPLANATIONS ABOUT HOW THERE ARE > > SO MANY ALTERNATIVE FUN POSITIONS...I WANT STRAIGHT ANSWERS TO TWO > > QUESTIONS..IF I'M ON TOP AM I GONNA SPREAD MY HIPS SO FAR APART THAT > > I WILL RIP MY HIPS TO SHREADS....AND IF I AM ON THE BOTTOM...AM I > > GONNA WISH I STILL HAD MY SEMI-DEFLATED WATER BED UNDER ME BEARING > > HALF THE BRUNT?? WILL I STILL BE ABLE TO WRAP MY LEGS AROUND MY > > LOVER'S WAIST AFTER YEARS OF HIS AFFAIR WITH THE BUDWEISER BUNNY??? > > > > I DON'T KICKBOX, BUNGEE JUMP, MOUNTAIN CLIMB, OR RUN THE NY > > MARATHON..BUT, FOR 13K I WOULD STILL LIKE TO MAKE LOVE...SO, LET'S > > HEAR IT. WILL I HAVE TO INVEST IN A MIRROR COMPANY TO EVER LOOK > INTO > > MY LOVER'S EYES AGAIN? > > > > THANKS, > > M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2004 Report Share Posted February 15, 2004 Amen to that. Des Tuck In a message dated 2/15/2004 3:41:36 PM Pacific Standard Time, mledirect@... writes: Personally, I would say that having a resurfacing is good for your sex life; besides removing the pain component, you just generally feel better so you're more likely to feel " in the mood " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2004 Report Share Posted February 15, 2004 It's like any other sport: if you could do it before your hip went wonky, you'll be able to do it again, except that post-op you won't be deterred by hip pain. Personally, I would say that having a resurfacing is good for your sex life; besides removing the pain component, you just generally feel better so you're more likely to feel " in the mood " , you get more exercise so you feel more confident about your shape sans clothes, and your increased energy makes you more attractive. However, I did find that my incision (which is sideways across one buttock) and thigh were too painful for about two months after the operation to contemplate any banging on them... (sorry about the pun). Once you recover from post-op pain, it just depends on how much range of motion you can achieve. The UK hospital did assign one exercise where you lie on your back with your knees bent, and drop your knee sideways towards the bed as far as you can, then squeeze it back up... They didn't specify that you had to practise that one all by yourself! n rBHR Oct.17/03 McMinn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2004 Report Share Posted February 15, 2004 Hi, I suspect from a females point of view this is the real argument FOR a Resurface............ As it is known to be pretty near impossible to dislocate a Resurface there is no worry about what happens during the moments of passion............smile. As you will have noted this is often left off the lists of positives........with just a reference to better for not getting dislocations.............. with noone stating that sex is one of those activities where dislocation has a higher risk.......... Edith LBHR Dr. L Walter Syd Aust 8/02 > dear group...you convinced me and i am off to belgium post > haste...NOW..let's hear the real scoop... > > WILL I EVER BE ABLE TO LOOK INTO MY LOVER'S EYES WHILE DOING THE > DEED, AGAIN?? > I DON'T WANT TO HEAR LONG DRAWN OUR EXPLANATIONS ABOUT HOW THERE ARE > SO MANY ALTERNATIVE FUN POSITIONS...I WANT STRAIGHT ANSWERS TO TWO > QUESTIONS..IF I'M ON TOP AM I GONNA SPREAD MY HIPS SO FAR APART THAT > I WILL RIP MY HIPS TO SHREADS....AND IF I AM ON THE BOTTOM...AM I > GONNA WISH I STILL HAD MY SEMI-DEFLATED WATER BED UNDER ME BEARING > HALF THE BRUNT?? WILL I STILL BE ABLE TO WRAP MY LEGS AROUND MY > LOVER'S WAIST AFTER YEARS OF HIS AFFAIR WITH THE BUDWEISER BUNNY??? > > I DON'T KICKBOX, BUNGEE JUMP, MOUNTAIN CLIMB, OR RUN THE NY > MARATHON..BUT, FOR 13K I WOULD STILL LIKE TO MAKE LOVE...SO, LET'S > HEAR IT. WILL I HAVE TO INVEST IN A MIRROR COMPANY TO EVER LOOK INTO > MY LOVER'S EYES AGAIN? > > THANKS, > M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2004 Report Share Posted February 23, 2004 thanks for being on my side will keep you posted destuck@... wrote: > I think this was misdirected. It was supposed to go to the Dear Abby > chat > group. . > > PLease let us know what they say. > > Des Tuck > > In a message dated 2/22/2004 12:48:40 AM Pacific Standard Time, > desertman@... writes: > I just met a foxy new womAN > we just had our second date > a nice girl she is > things are going nice and slow but nice. > sure id like to jump her bones but im happy as they are. > well im 5 weeks away from my bionic hip > i havent told her yet for fear i'd scare her away > sex has never been a problem with my OA > ahh the power of pleasure and romance. > well when should i tell her > now, before, after, > the morning of surgury?? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 24, 2004 Report Share Posted February 24, 2004 In a message dated 2/23/2004 10:39:16 PM Pacific Standard Time, desertman@... writes: thanks for being on my side will keep you posted I have to admit it's because I like the first three letters of your screen name. Des Tuck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 24, 2004 Report Share Posted February 24, 2004 Dear DM - People will take their cues about your op/condition based on the attitude you project. I would bring it up now and be very matter of fact and cheerful about it, perhaps when talking about future plans, explaining you will be out of commission for a little while. Girls like to be kept apprised of guys' travel plans (it explains why they're not around) and take most confidences as a sign of intimacy. (So long as a guy isn't a Vesuvius of complaints, kvetches, blame and " poor me " victimology.) And if she likes you, she will welcome intimacy. By all means tell her, but don't make it seem like some horrible thing: Present it in the course of a conversation as a case of you solving a long standing problem and something you're anticipating that will allow you to be more active (not, necessarily, in the bedroom). You might ask her playfully if she might come visit you during your recuperation or be willing to share activities that don't include bungee jumping. This will also give you a chance to see how she responds to you during times of adversity and whether she's a nurturing caretaker. You guys have more options than we do when it comes to swiftly resuming such activities of daily life post-op, due to anatomical differences. Anyway, don't worry about it. If you have consummated your relationship before your op, you can explain that you may have to hit the pause button for a bit or your range of activities may be limited for a little while. If you haven't, just affirm your continuing interest in her and spend time getting to know each other better, building up the tantalizing suspense. . . . Second date? Boy - you really like to plan ahead! Best, Sheila > > > I think this was misdirected. It was supposed to go to the Dear Abby > > chat > > group. . > > > > PLease let us know what they say. > > > > Des Tuck > > > > In a message dated 2/22/2004 12:48:40 AM Pacific Standard Time, > > desertman@e... writes: > > I just met a foxy new womAN > > we just had our second date > > a nice girl she is > > things are going nice and slow but nice. > > sure id like to jump her bones but im happy as they are. > > well im 5 weeks away from my bionic hip > > i havent told her yet for fear i'd scare her away > > sex has never been a problem with my OA > > ahh the power of pleasure and romance. > > well when should i tell her > > now, before, after, > > the morning of surgury?? > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 24, 2004 Report Share Posted February 24, 2004 -desesertman@e... writes: > > > I just met a foxy new womAN > > > we just had our second date > > > a nice girl she is > > > things are going nice and slow but nice. > > > sure id like to jump her bones but im happy as they are. > > > well im 5 weeks away from my bionic hip > > > i havent told her yet for fear i'd scare her away > > > sex has never been a problem with my OA > > > ahh the power of pleasure and romance. > > > well when should i tell her > > > now, before, after, > > > the morning of surgury?? Dear Deseretman: By all means tell her. If she sticks by you, she's a keeper. If she runs for the hills, you might as well find out now (before a breakup requires legal assistance). Make sure the implants are covered by your pre-nup. ;-) Your pal, Ann Landers (the nom-de-plume of a well-known US advice columnist, for those of you outside North America) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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