RE: stuffing feelings with food

[Guest guest]

susan,

hello, i must say i do feel for you. it is never easy to deal with those

kinds of emotions, but to feel unsure of how to deal with the situation makes

things even harder. one thing i do when something is bothering me is write that

person a letter. write it, and go over it, change things and really get it

down how you feel. you can either send it or not, but somehow just putting it

down is theraputic. i had a situation with my mil a few years ago and that is

how i dealt with it after stewing over and over it for months...i felt instant

relief and really put the ball in her court as to how it would be resolved.

she could either be ticked at me forever, or apologize and move on. needless

to say, she was very sorry and we've patched it and have moved on for the

better. when the everyday stuff is bothering me, or when i feel that i can't

put

my finger on what is exactly bothering me, i go for a long walk, a very fast

walk, and try and think things through. many times i won't exactly find out

what the primary thing is that is bothering me, but i will change my focus on to

things not being as bad as i think they are. i tend to make mountains out of

molehills...i'm working on it. lol. any form of exercise that makes me sweat

is wonderful therapy for me when i feel things aren't going well. i think

the extra oxygen to my brain clears things up!! : )

i hope this helps. hang in there!!! : )

heidi xo

[Guest guest]

susan,

hello, i must say i do feel for you. it is never easy to deal with those

kinds of emotions, but to feel unsure of how to deal with the situation makes

things even harder. one thing i do when something is bothering me is write that

person a letter. write it, and go over it, change things and really get it

down how you feel. you can either send it or not, but somehow just putting it

down is theraputic. i had a situation with my mil a few years ago and that is

how i dealt with it after stewing over and over it for months...i felt instant

relief and really put the ball in her court as to how it would be resolved.

she could either be ticked at me forever, or apologize and move on. needless

to say, she was very sorry and we've patched it and have moved on for the

better. when the everyday stuff is bothering me, or when i feel that i can't

put

my finger on what is exactly bothering me, i go for a long walk, a very fast

walk, and try and think things through. many times i won't exactly find out

what the primary thing is that is bothering me, but i will change my focus on to

things not being as bad as i think they are. i tend to make mountains out of

molehills...i'm working on it. lol. any form of exercise that makes me sweat

is wonderful therapy for me when i feel things aren't going well. i think

the extra oxygen to my brain clears things up!! : )

i hope this helps. hang in there!!! : )

heidi xo

[Guest guest]

susan,

hello, i must say i do feel for you. it is never easy to deal with those

kinds of emotions, but to feel unsure of how to deal with the situation makes

things even harder. one thing i do when something is bothering me is write that

person a letter. write it, and go over it, change things and really get it

down how you feel. you can either send it or not, but somehow just putting it

down is theraputic. i had a situation with my mil a few years ago and that is

how i dealt with it after stewing over and over it for months...i felt instant

relief and really put the ball in her court as to how it would be resolved.

she could either be ticked at me forever, or apologize and move on. needless

to say, she was very sorry and we've patched it and have moved on for the

better. when the everyday stuff is bothering me, or when i feel that i can't

put

my finger on what is exactly bothering me, i go for a long walk, a very fast

walk, and try and think things through. many times i won't exactly find out

what the primary thing is that is bothering me, but i will change my focus on to

things not being as bad as i think they are. i tend to make mountains out of

molehills...i'm working on it. lol. any form of exercise that makes me sweat

is wonderful therapy for me when i feel things aren't going well. i think

the extra oxygen to my brain clears things up!! : )

i hope this helps. hang in there!!! : )

heidi xo

[Guest guest]

,

Here is my advice - my humble advice.

One thing I've found helpful when involved in a work situation. You must

remove any emotion from the decision. In other words, the friendship has to

be separate from the job. When you approach your friend, she should be a

fellow employee and not a friend at that point, and if you have to remind

your friend at that point so be it. If your friendship is damaged because

of your decision, then you have two options: Wait for your friend to cool

off, or realize that your friend isn't such a good friend. That is all you

have control over.

I know about eating because I'm emotional. I'm having a tough time also.

My husband is in Iraq, and although he is in a relatively " safe " place, I

worry about him and our relationship every day. I am lonely, even though I

have friends and my two teenagers to keep me busy. Its not the same, so I

overeat at times because I'm lonely. WW has some good tools, like

" Reframing " that may help. Your leader in your meetings should have

worksheets. If not, here is an outline:

What is the behavior you want to change?

emotional eating

What does the behavior get for you?

relieves stress

How else can you get that benefit?

Make a list, be it a hot bath, a good book, a walk, writing in your

journal all that self talk that you want to quiet, whatever you can think of

to relieve the stress. You might even write down how you think the meeting

will go with your friend when she returns. I took a class in College, I was

a psychology major, that took us through a 3 step process. Its very helpful

in situations like this. The short of it goes like this:

1. Write down a conversation you recently had with someone that didn't go

well. Write it down, word for word as you remember it, from YOUR viewpoint.

2. Rewrite that same conversation, only look at the conversation from the

participants viewpoint. Put yourself in their shoes, including how they

felt, how they heard what you said, etc.

Now, this is the hard part:

3. Pretend that you are a director, sitting in a corner of the same room

where this conversation took place. Now, you have full control over what is

going on, what is being said, how it is said, what is felt. How would you

change the conversation? What would you do different? Would you wear

different clothes? Would you hold a different posture? What would your

tone be?

Practice with conversations you have had, and then, practice with hard

conversations you are going to have. You will be surprised at how helpful

this can be at calming your emotions. You will also be surprised at how

easy it can be to influence the direction of a conversation.

Then keep that list handy in places that you go when stressed, like the food

pantry, or even the refrigerator.

OK, that's my humble advice. A bit long, I know, but I hope its helpful.

Good luck! Keep your chin up!

stuffing feelings with food

Hello all...

I'm struggling right now with overeating.

I've used all my flex points and it's day 2 of my week. (I usually don't

use all my flex points in a whole week...let alone two days!)

I know why I'm doing what I'm doing....I'm stuffing my

feelings...avoiding dealing with some hurt and anger. It's right under

the surface and I've been trying to keep it at arm's length. I feel like

if I let it come to the surface...let it erupt...I'll be overwhelmed by

pain and I'm afraid of that. So I'm trying really hard to control all of

it...but I'm slowly losing my grip.

Without going into all the details, which you may find very

boring....let me just ask for help.

How do YOU deal with ugly feelings?

When you find yourself in the throes of ugly feelings (betrayal, anger,

hurt, confusion, frustration, etc...) and go off program, what do you do

to get back on track?

I would appreciate every bit of feedback I can get!

Thanks in advance!

in CO

ps - one detail that probably needs to be shared is that the feelings

I'm going through are connected to a *current* situation with a friend

of mine...and she is currently on vacation and I have no ability to

resolve any of this in the next week (or possibly longer).

Unfortunately, I work with this person and probably have to remove this

person from our leadership team. So, there are some hard decisions

coming up that will no doubt sever our working relationship and possibly

our 3 year friendship. I thought I should let you know that...because

there are certain things I can't control about this situation (which

makes me uncomfortable)...and it's ongoing...so I need some strategies

to stay on program throughout what could be a very stressful time in the

next couple of weeks. Thanks again!

[Guest guest]

,

Here is my advice - my humble advice.

One thing I've found helpful when involved in a work situation. You must

remove any emotion from the decision. In other words, the friendship has to

be separate from the job. When you approach your friend, she should be a

fellow employee and not a friend at that point, and if you have to remind

your friend at that point so be it. If your friendship is damaged because

of your decision, then you have two options: Wait for your friend to cool

off, or realize that your friend isn't such a good friend. That is all you

have control over.

I know about eating because I'm emotional. I'm having a tough time also.

My husband is in Iraq, and although he is in a relatively " safe " place, I

worry about him and our relationship every day. I am lonely, even though I

have friends and my two teenagers to keep me busy. Its not the same, so I

overeat at times because I'm lonely. WW has some good tools, like

" Reframing " that may help. Your leader in your meetings should have

worksheets. If not, here is an outline:

What is the behavior you want to change?

emotional eating

What does the behavior get for you?

relieves stress

How else can you get that benefit?

Make a list, be it a hot bath, a good book, a walk, writing in your

journal all that self talk that you want to quiet, whatever you can think of

to relieve the stress. You might even write down how you think the meeting

will go with your friend when she returns. I took a class in College, I was

a psychology major, that took us through a 3 step process. Its very helpful

in situations like this. The short of it goes like this:

1. Write down a conversation you recently had with someone that didn't go

well. Write it down, word for word as you remember it, from YOUR viewpoint.

2. Rewrite that same conversation, only look at the conversation from the

participants viewpoint. Put yourself in their shoes, including how they

felt, how they heard what you said, etc.

Now, this is the hard part:

3. Pretend that you are a director, sitting in a corner of the same room

where this conversation took place. Now, you have full control over what is

going on, what is being said, how it is said, what is felt. How would you

change the conversation? What would you do different? Would you wear

different clothes? Would you hold a different posture? What would your

tone be?

Practice with conversations you have had, and then, practice with hard

conversations you are going to have. You will be surprised at how helpful

this can be at calming your emotions. You will also be surprised at how

easy it can be to influence the direction of a conversation.

Then keep that list handy in places that you go when stressed, like the food

pantry, or even the refrigerator.

OK, that's my humble advice. A bit long, I know, but I hope its helpful.

Good luck! Keep your chin up!

stuffing feelings with food

Hello all...

I'm struggling right now with overeating.

I've used all my flex points and it's day 2 of my week. (I usually don't

use all my flex points in a whole week...let alone two days!)

I know why I'm doing what I'm doing....I'm stuffing my

feelings...avoiding dealing with some hurt and anger. It's right under

the surface and I've been trying to keep it at arm's length. I feel like

if I let it come to the surface...let it erupt...I'll be overwhelmed by

pain and I'm afraid of that. So I'm trying really hard to control all of

it...but I'm slowly losing my grip.

Without going into all the details, which you may find very

boring....let me just ask for help.

How do YOU deal with ugly feelings?

When you find yourself in the throes of ugly feelings (betrayal, anger,

hurt, confusion, frustration, etc...) and go off program, what do you do

to get back on track?

I would appreciate every bit of feedback I can get!

Thanks in advance!

in CO

ps - one detail that probably needs to be shared is that the feelings

I'm going through are connected to a *current* situation with a friend

of mine...and she is currently on vacation and I have no ability to

resolve any of this in the next week (or possibly longer).

Unfortunately, I work with this person and probably have to remove this

person from our leadership team. So, there are some hard decisions

coming up that will no doubt sever our working relationship and possibly

our 3 year friendship. I thought I should let you know that...because

there are certain things I can't control about this situation (which

makes me uncomfortable)...and it's ongoing...so I need some strategies

to stay on program throughout what could be a very stressful time in the

next couple of weeks. Thanks again!

[Guest guest]

,

Here is my advice - my humble advice.

One thing I've found helpful when involved in a work situation. You must

remove any emotion from the decision. In other words, the friendship has to

be separate from the job. When you approach your friend, she should be a

fellow employee and not a friend at that point, and if you have to remind

your friend at that point so be it. If your friendship is damaged because

of your decision, then you have two options: Wait for your friend to cool

off, or realize that your friend isn't such a good friend. That is all you

have control over.

I know about eating because I'm emotional. I'm having a tough time also.

My husband is in Iraq, and although he is in a relatively " safe " place, I

worry about him and our relationship every day. I am lonely, even though I

have friends and my two teenagers to keep me busy. Its not the same, so I

overeat at times because I'm lonely. WW has some good tools, like

" Reframing " that may help. Your leader in your meetings should have

worksheets. If not, here is an outline:

What is the behavior you want to change?

emotional eating

What does the behavior get for you?

relieves stress

How else can you get that benefit?

Make a list, be it a hot bath, a good book, a walk, writing in your

journal all that self talk that you want to quiet, whatever you can think of

to relieve the stress. You might even write down how you think the meeting

will go with your friend when she returns. I took a class in College, I was

a psychology major, that took us through a 3 step process. Its very helpful

in situations like this. The short of it goes like this:

1. Write down a conversation you recently had with someone that didn't go

well. Write it down, word for word as you remember it, from YOUR viewpoint.

2. Rewrite that same conversation, only look at the conversation from the

participants viewpoint. Put yourself in their shoes, including how they

felt, how they heard what you said, etc.

Now, this is the hard part:

3. Pretend that you are a director, sitting in a corner of the same room

where this conversation took place. Now, you have full control over what is

going on, what is being said, how it is said, what is felt. How would you

change the conversation? What would you do different? Would you wear

different clothes? Would you hold a different posture? What would your

tone be?

Practice with conversations you have had, and then, practice with hard

conversations you are going to have. You will be surprised at how helpful

this can be at calming your emotions. You will also be surprised at how

easy it can be to influence the direction of a conversation.

Then keep that list handy in places that you go when stressed, like the food

pantry, or even the refrigerator.

OK, that's my humble advice. A bit long, I know, but I hope its helpful.

Good luck! Keep your chin up!

stuffing feelings with food

Hello all...

I'm struggling right now with overeating.

I've used all my flex points and it's day 2 of my week. (I usually don't

use all my flex points in a whole week...let alone two days!)

I know why I'm doing what I'm doing....I'm stuffing my

feelings...avoiding dealing with some hurt and anger. It's right under

the surface and I've been trying to keep it at arm's length. I feel like

if I let it come to the surface...let it erupt...I'll be overwhelmed by

pain and I'm afraid of that. So I'm trying really hard to control all of

it...but I'm slowly losing my grip.

Without going into all the details, which you may find very

boring....let me just ask for help.

How do YOU deal with ugly feelings?

When you find yourself in the throes of ugly feelings (betrayal, anger,

hurt, confusion, frustration, etc...) and go off program, what do you do

to get back on track?

I would appreciate every bit of feedback I can get!

Thanks in advance!

in CO

ps - one detail that probably needs to be shared is that the feelings

I'm going through are connected to a *current* situation with a friend

of mine...and she is currently on vacation and I have no ability to

resolve any of this in the next week (or possibly longer).

Unfortunately, I work with this person and probably have to remove this

person from our leadership team. So, there are some hard decisions

coming up that will no doubt sever our working relationship and possibly

our 3 year friendship. I thought I should let you know that...because

there are certain things I can't control about this situation (which

makes me uncomfortable)...and it's ongoing...so I need some strategies

to stay on program throughout what could be a very stressful time in the

next couple of weeks. Thanks again!

[Guest guest]

This is the time to definitely attend meetings and you can attend as many as

you need in a week on one fee. There you find support and friendship. Many

people there have suffered or are suffering similar things to you. You

learn many techniques that others use to help situations like this.

Also the " 10 tools for living " address emotional and stress eating and

provide real helps to stop that. I use those a lot and being able to keep

off this weight and continue losing slowly I attribute in part to the 10

tools for living!

Sue

stuffing feelings with food

> Hello all...

>

> I'm struggling right now with overeating.

> I've used all my flex points and it's day 2 of my week. (I usually don't

> use all my flex points in a whole week...let alone two days!)

>

> I know why I'm doing what I'm doing....I'm stuffing my

> feelings...avoiding dealing with some hurt and anger. It's right under

> the surface and I've been trying to keep it at arm's length. I feel like

> if I let it come to the surface...let it erupt...I'll be overwhelmed by

> pain and I'm afraid of that. So I'm trying really hard to control all of

> it...but I'm slowly losing my grip.

>

> Without going into all the details, which you may find very

> boring....let me just ask for help.

>

> How do YOU deal with ugly feelings?

>

> When you find yourself in the throes of ugly feelings (betrayal, anger,

> hurt, confusion, frustration, etc...) and go off program, what do you do

> to get back on track?

>

> I would appreciate every bit of feedback I can get!

>

> Thanks in advance!

>

> in CO

> ps - one detail that probably needs to be shared is that the feelings

> I'm going through are connected to a *current* situation with a friend

> of mine...and she is currently on vacation and I have no ability to

> resolve any of this in the next week (or possibly longer).

> Unfortunately, I work with this person and probably have to remove this

> person from our leadership team. So, there are some hard decisions

> coming up that will no doubt sever our working relationship and possibly

> our 3 year friendship. I thought I should let you know that...because

> there are certain things I can't control about this situation (which

> makes me uncomfortable)...and it's ongoing...so I need some strategies

> to stay on program throughout what could be a very stressful time in the

> next couple of weeks. Thanks again!

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

This is the time to definitely attend meetings and you can attend as many as

you need in a week on one fee. There you find support and friendship. Many

people there have suffered or are suffering similar things to you. You

learn many techniques that others use to help situations like this.

Also the " 10 tools for living " address emotional and stress eating and

provide real helps to stop that. I use those a lot and being able to keep

off this weight and continue losing slowly I attribute in part to the 10

tools for living!

Sue

stuffing feelings with food

> Hello all...

>

> I'm struggling right now with overeating.

> I've used all my flex points and it's day 2 of my week. (I usually don't

> use all my flex points in a whole week...let alone two days!)

>

> I know why I'm doing what I'm doing....I'm stuffing my

> feelings...avoiding dealing with some hurt and anger. It's right under

> the surface and I've been trying to keep it at arm's length. I feel like

> if I let it come to the surface...let it erupt...I'll be overwhelmed by

> pain and I'm afraid of that. So I'm trying really hard to control all of

> it...but I'm slowly losing my grip.

>

> Without going into all the details, which you may find very

> boring....let me just ask for help.

>

> How do YOU deal with ugly feelings?

>

> When you find yourself in the throes of ugly feelings (betrayal, anger,

> hurt, confusion, frustration, etc...) and go off program, what do you do

> to get back on track?

>

> I would appreciate every bit of feedback I can get!

>

> Thanks in advance!

>

> in CO

> ps - one detail that probably needs to be shared is that the feelings

> I'm going through are connected to a *current* situation with a friend

> of mine...and she is currently on vacation and I have no ability to

> resolve any of this in the next week (or possibly longer).

> Unfortunately, I work with this person and probably have to remove this

> person from our leadership team. So, there are some hard decisions

> coming up that will no doubt sever our working relationship and possibly

> our 3 year friendship. I thought I should let you know that...because

> there are certain things I can't control about this situation (which

> makes me uncomfortable)...and it's ongoing...so I need some strategies

> to stay on program throughout what could be a very stressful time in the

> next couple of weeks. Thanks again!

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

This is the time to definitely attend meetings and you can attend as many as

you need in a week on one fee. There you find support and friendship. Many

people there have suffered or are suffering similar things to you. You

learn many techniques that others use to help situations like this.

Also the " 10 tools for living " address emotional and stress eating and

provide real helps to stop that. I use those a lot and being able to keep

off this weight and continue losing slowly I attribute in part to the 10

tools for living!

Sue

stuffing feelings with food

> Hello all...

>

> I'm struggling right now with overeating.

> I've used all my flex points and it's day 2 of my week. (I usually don't

> use all my flex points in a whole week...let alone two days!)

>

> I know why I'm doing what I'm doing....I'm stuffing my

> feelings...avoiding dealing with some hurt and anger. It's right under

> the surface and I've been trying to keep it at arm's length. I feel like

> if I let it come to the surface...let it erupt...I'll be overwhelmed by

> pain and I'm afraid of that. So I'm trying really hard to control all of

> it...but I'm slowly losing my grip.

>

> Without going into all the details, which you may find very

> boring....let me just ask for help.

>

> How do YOU deal with ugly feelings?

>

> When you find yourself in the throes of ugly feelings (betrayal, anger,

> hurt, confusion, frustration, etc...) and go off program, what do you do

> to get back on track?

>

> I would appreciate every bit of feedback I can get!

>

> Thanks in advance!

>

> in CO

> ps - one detail that probably needs to be shared is that the feelings

> I'm going through are connected to a *current* situation with a friend

> of mine...and she is currently on vacation and I have no ability to

> resolve any of this in the next week (or possibly longer).

> Unfortunately, I work with this person and probably have to remove this

> person from our leadership team. So, there are some hard decisions

> coming up that will no doubt sever our working relationship and possibly

> our 3 year friendship. I thought I should let you know that...because

> there are certain things I can't control about this situation (which

> makes me uncomfortable)...and it's ongoing...so I need some strategies

> to stay on program throughout what could be a very stressful time in the

> next couple of weeks. Thanks again!

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

I don't know how much got from your advice, all I can say is Thank you

from my heart. You touched home to me! I will try really hard to remember

this advice and see how it works for me! I have got to keep trying on my

inner self more and the advice that I received from Troy and yourself keeps

me going and thinking about me!

This is a great group!!

Sincerely,

Kim R. from WI

-- stuffing feelings with food

Hello all...

I'm struggling right now with overeating.

I've used all my flex points and it's day 2 of my week. (I usually don't

use all my flex points in a whole week...let alone two days!)

I know why I'm doing what I'm doing....I'm stuffing my

feelings...avoiding dealing with some hurt and anger. It's right under

the surface and I've been trying to keep it at arm's length. I feel like

if I let it come to the surface...let it erupt...I'll be overwhelmed by

pain and I'm afraid of that. So I'm trying really hard to control all of

it...but I'm slowly losing my grip.

Without going into all the details, which you may find very

boring....let me just ask for help.

How do YOU deal with ugly feelings?

When you find yourself in the throes of ugly feelings (betrayal, anger,

hurt, confusion, frustration, etc...) and go off program, what do you do

to get back on track?

I would appreciate every bit of feedback I can get!

Thanks in advance!

in CO

ps - one detail that probably needs to be shared is that the feelings

I'm going through are connected to a *current* situation with a friend

of mine...and she is currently on vacation and I have no ability to

resolve any of this in the next week (or possibly longer).

Unfortunately, I work with this person and probably have to remove this

person from our leadership team. So, there are some hard decisions

coming up that will no doubt sever our working relationship and possibly

our 3 year friendship. I thought I should let you know that...because

there are certain things I can't control about this situation (which

makes me uncomfortable)...and it's ongoing...so I need some strategies

to stay on program throughout what could be a very stressful time in the

next couple of weeks. Thanks again!

[Guest guest]

,

I don't know how much got from your advice, all I can say is Thank you

from my heart. You touched home to me! I will try really hard to remember

this advice and see how it works for me! I have got to keep trying on my

inner self more and the advice that I received from Troy and yourself keeps

me going and thinking about me!

This is a great group!!

Sincerely,

Kim R. from WI

-- stuffing feelings with food

Hello all...

I'm struggling right now with overeating.

I've used all my flex points and it's day 2 of my week. (I usually don't

use all my flex points in a whole week...let alone two days!)

I know why I'm doing what I'm doing....I'm stuffing my

feelings...avoiding dealing with some hurt and anger. It's right under

the surface and I've been trying to keep it at arm's length. I feel like

if I let it come to the surface...let it erupt...I'll be overwhelmed by

pain and I'm afraid of that. So I'm trying really hard to control all of

it...but I'm slowly losing my grip.

Without going into all the details, which you may find very

boring....let me just ask for help.

How do YOU deal with ugly feelings?

When you find yourself in the throes of ugly feelings (betrayal, anger,

hurt, confusion, frustration, etc...) and go off program, what do you do

to get back on track?

I would appreciate every bit of feedback I can get!

Thanks in advance!

in CO

ps - one detail that probably needs to be shared is that the feelings

I'm going through are connected to a *current* situation with a friend

of mine...and she is currently on vacation and I have no ability to

resolve any of this in the next week (or possibly longer).

Unfortunately, I work with this person and probably have to remove this

person from our leadership team. So, there are some hard decisions

coming up that will no doubt sever our working relationship and possibly

our 3 year friendship. I thought I should let you know that...because

there are certain things I can't control about this situation (which

makes me uncomfortable)...and it's ongoing...so I need some strategies

to stay on program throughout what could be a very stressful time in the

next couple of weeks. Thanks again!

[Guest guest]

,

I don't know how much got from your advice, all I can say is Thank you

from my heart. You touched home to me! I will try really hard to remember

this advice and see how it works for me! I have got to keep trying on my

inner self more and the advice that I received from Troy and yourself keeps

me going and thinking about me!

This is a great group!!

Sincerely,

Kim R. from WI

-- stuffing feelings with food

Hello all...

I'm struggling right now with overeating.

I've used all my flex points and it's day 2 of my week. (I usually don't

use all my flex points in a whole week...let alone two days!)

I know why I'm doing what I'm doing....I'm stuffing my

feelings...avoiding dealing with some hurt and anger. It's right under

the surface and I've been trying to keep it at arm's length. I feel like

if I let it come to the surface...let it erupt...I'll be overwhelmed by

pain and I'm afraid of that. So I'm trying really hard to control all of

it...but I'm slowly losing my grip.

Without going into all the details, which you may find very

boring....let me just ask for help.

How do YOU deal with ugly feelings?

When you find yourself in the throes of ugly feelings (betrayal, anger,

hurt, confusion, frustration, etc...) and go off program, what do you do

to get back on track?

I would appreciate every bit of feedback I can get!

Thanks in advance!

in CO

ps - one detail that probably needs to be shared is that the feelings

I'm going through are connected to a *current* situation with a friend

of mine...and she is currently on vacation and I have no ability to

resolve any of this in the next week (or possibly longer).

Unfortunately, I work with this person and probably have to remove this

person from our leadership team. So, there are some hard decisions

coming up that will no doubt sever our working relationship and possibly

our 3 year friendship. I thought I should let you know that...because

there are certain things I can't control about this situation (which

makes me uncomfortable)...and it's ongoing...so I need some strategies

to stay on program throughout what could be a very stressful time in the

next couple of weeks. Thanks again!

[Guest guest]

First off let me tell you one great thing you have already done this week and I

am going to shout it to you, because it's so great!~~ YOU KNOW THAT YOU HAVE

USED UP ALL YOUR FLEXPOINTS!!! Yes that is GOOD NEWS!!!!! Why is that good

news? Because you have kept track of your points even through the stress of your

worrying!! You did not just mindlessly say. " the heck with this I am going to

eat! " You kept track of what you ate, even though you did go through your

flexpoints in two days. So I really don't consider you to be OP....OP would be

just eating and not counting points and not caring. You cared enough to count

the points. BRAVO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I love to worry (not really, but it's just my thing in life) a dear friend of

mine has told me over the years...Worrying does not solve any problems, it is

wasted effort and energy. Give yourself 15 minutes each day to think about the

problem/situation and then move on. You can worry about it for 15 min tomorrow.

I had heard about this from a leading conservative psychologist on his talk

radio program. People would call in with all sorts of things that they were

worrying about that was causing them to overeat, not sleep etc. He told them

that early on in his practice he worked at a mental hospital and many people who

were there were chronically worrying about something and it was causing physical

illness, depression, overeating etc. and he said that as part of the therapy

they were told that they had 15 minutes per day to worry about any and all

problems they had, then they had to stop. They were reminded that they could

worry the next day for 15 min. It helped them alot......and I try to use this

also in my life and wow does it work! I think that worrying is really

accomplishing something and it is not, it's not the same as finding a solution

to the problem etc. It is just idle brain junk flying around inside of your

head. Have you tried to write down exactly what your worried about regarding

the employment situation, then separate that out into the worries about the

friendship? Sometimes it's easier when we see it in print. Work/personal

relationships are really hard. And sometimes others can take advantage of that

working relationship and it makes it very difficult for the ones in charge of

them.

I hope things work out for you and your friend. Remember a true friend is there

no matter what, even if you have to correct them when they err.

As for the going OP, start back at your next snack or meal and just go from

there. Since you have used all your flex points, you will need to get the most

from the points you have to use each day. I would plan your meals this week and

don't skimp on quality, since good quality foods will make you feel satisfied

even though you don't have the extra points to play with. I am not sure how to

explain what I mean by quality foods, but I will try to explain, try not to just

force feed yourself salad all week, just because you ate your flexpoints

already. If you want turkey, stuffing and mashed potatoes (lol......my favorite

meal!) then have it......in moderation staying within points of course. Have

some of your favorite veggies on hand since you might be a bit more hungry or

just munchie between meals.

Good luck!

Moe

[Guest guest]

* I agree w Moe! Don't give up, you care and can do it :-)

* You cared enough to count the points. BRAVO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Guest guest]

Glad I could help someone, even with all my hot air. After all is said and

done, we are all in the same boat.

Let's make it a good day!

stuffing feelings with food

Hello all...

I'm struggling right now with overeating.

I've used all my flex points and it's day 2 of my week. (I usually don't

use all my flex points in a whole week...let alone two days!)

I know why I'm doing what I'm doing....I'm stuffing my

feelings...avoiding dealing with some hurt and anger. It's right under

the surface and I've been trying to keep it at arm's length. I feel like

if I let it come to the surface...let it erupt...I'll be overwhelmed by

pain and I'm afraid of that. So I'm trying really hard to control all of

it...but I'm slowly losing my grip.

Without going into all the details, which you may find very

boring....let me just ask for help.

How do YOU deal with ugly feelings?

When you find yourself in the throes of ugly feelings (betrayal, anger,

hurt, confusion, frustration, etc...) and go off program, what do you do

to get back on track?

I would appreciate every bit of feedback I can get!

Thanks in advance!

in CO

ps - one detail that probably needs to be shared is that the feelings

I'm going through are connected to a *current* situation with a friend

of mine...and she is currently on vacation and I have no ability to

resolve any of this in the next week (or possibly longer).

Unfortunately, I work with this person and probably have to remove this

person from our leadership team. So, there are some hard decisions

coming up that will no doubt sever our working relationship and possibly

our 3 year friendship. I thought I should let you know that...because

there are certain things I can't control about this situation (which

makes me uncomfortable)...and it's ongoing...so I need some strategies

to stay on program throughout what could be a very stressful time in the

next couple of weeks. Thanks again!