Guest guest Posted January 9, 2009 Report Share Posted January 9, 2009 Caro, I'm reposting this with your name in the subject so that I'm sure you'll see it. Love, MB Caro, CALL THE DOCTOR!!!!! You can't stay in that kind of pain till next Thursday woman. For one thing you could damage your back further by waiting that long. The pain is telling you there's something that needs attention. The other thing to be aware of is this. Pain makes you take rapid shallow breaths. When you aren't breathing as deeply as you can, bacteria can set up housekeeping in your lungs and you could possibly end up with pneumonia. Being in this kind of pain for a long period of time can have serious unintended consequences. Please, please please call the doctor NOW!!! Besides you're too darn nice to be in that kind of pain, treat yourself right, ok? Love, Beth in North Carolina Moderator Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 Dermatomyositis 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2009 Report Share Posted January 9, 2009 Thanks MB -- I think I am going to take your advice, especially with it being Friday. I thought about that and if I don't call today, I will more than likely end up in the ER before the weekend is over.CaroASTHMA 1976,OSTEOARTHRITIS 2002, COPD 02/06, IPF 08/07, UIP 01/08, RHEUMATOID ARTHRITIS 03/08 SJOGREN SYNDROME 07/08Mississippi Subject: CaroTo: Breathe-Support Date: Friday, January 9, 2009, 10:17 AM Caro, I'm reposting this with your name in the subject so that I'm sure you'll see it. Love, MB Caro, CALL THE DOCTOR!!!!! You can't stay in that kind of pain till next Thursday woman. For one thing you could damage your back further by waiting that long. The pain is telling you there's something that needs attention. The other thing to be aware of is this. Pain makes you take rapid shallow breaths. When you aren't breathing as deeply as you can, bacteria can set up housekeeping in your lungs and you could possibly end up with pneumonia. Being in this kind of pain for a long period of time can have serious unintended consequences. Please, please please call the doctor NOW!!! Besides you're too darn nice to be in that kind of pain, treat yourself right, ok? Love, Beth in North Carolina Moderator Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 Dermatomyositis 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2009 Report Share Posted January 22, 2009 Hi MB, Well a lot has been going here. I was debating whether to post or not. Seems like everytime I do, there are a million things going on, but I will try and make is as short as possible. A week ago, my youngest son got arrested for burglary. He has been in trouble before with drugs (I think I told you all that), so this is not his first arrest. He is only 22 years old and will probably be looking at 5 to 10 years in the state prison. I am so heartbroken I could die. My daughter found out she was pregnant right before Christmas (I think I told you all that, too), and they thought last week she had a miscarriage, but I think everything is going to turn out okay so far. She is about 7 weeks but no bleeding for a week and the quantitative HCG she did came back from 1500 3 weeks ago to 4500 last week, indicating the baby is still alive. So we are thinking positive on that. After that, on Friday, I had my appointment for a Pap smear (which I have not had in 8 years). I had a hysterectomy when I was 29 and am now 47, but still have ovaries. I was told to repeat it every 3 years or so, but somehow next thing I know it has been 8 years. Anyhoo, I went for the "as Bruce and I called it last year," the Kentucky Derby leg split, or something similar to that!!. While she is doing the exam she asks me if I said that I still have my ovaries. I said yes. She says, yeah, I can feel that. Does that hurt? I said no, thinking that she probably felt my ovaries. Then she tells the nurse to schedule me for a transvaginal ultrasound with the diagnosis as "ovarian mass." Great!! I wasn't expecting that at all. So, went for the ultrasound on Tuesday. The ultrasound tech said she did not see an ovarian mass but that probe thingy hit something and I felt like I was being stabbed on the inside with it and I nearly jumped off the table. She said, oh, is that a tender spot?, then looked at the monitor, frowned, and started typing in a bunch of stuff. Today, I checked the mail and I have a certified letter at the post office from the OB-GYN office. Now I am really scared. Went to go pick it up and it won't be there until the morning. The postman still has it, so I got back and called the office and am still waiting for them to call me back. The receptionist said today is Medicaid OB day and they schedule around 80 patients, BUUUTTTT "someone WILL call me back!!" Ok, I am still waiting --- Also, Tuesday, before the ultrasound, I had my regular appointment with the pulmodude -- Had to tell him that I tried to get out and walk the track at the park Sunday. 4 laps make a mile. I made it 1 lap fairly well, just a little short of breath. Second lap, I was wheezing aloud by the time I got 3/4 of the way, so I decided I had better go back home. Drove 2 blocks further and by the time I go to the apartment, I was gasping for air. He was going to put me on oxygen with exertion, but decided to try an inhaler first before exercise and let him know how that works, so I am going to try that. Also, he wants me to go next Wednesday for a 2-D echo to rule out pulmonary hypertension (figured I would get that sooner or later!!). All that said, on a good note, I am getting a pretty good chunky tax refund back and I am going to treat myself to something special. Don't know what yet, but SOMETHING!! Now, see why I was trying to decide whether to post or not??!! HEE HEE!! How are all of you guys doing? I think about each and everyone of you everyday. I miss you all so much!! Let me know how you are. I still read everyday!!CaroASTHMA 1976,OSTEOARTHRITIS 2002, COPD 02/06, IPF 08/07, UIP 01/08, RHEUMATOID ARTHRITIS 03/08 SJOGREN SYNDROME 07/08Mississippi Subject: CaroTo: Breathe-Support Date: Wednesday, January 21, 2009, 5:23 PM Caro, Hi there girl! Just wondering how you are doing. Let us know when you have a chance! Beth in North Carolina Moderator Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 Dermatomyositis 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2009 Report Share Posted January 22, 2009 Caro...Ye gads...like I said to you once before, if it weren't for bad luck you'd have no luck at all. I am sorry about your son. I've been there and done that but with a daughter. I know how your heart hurts. Your daughter and you. All hurtful things. Do let us know about the results in the letter at the P.O. God Bless. MamaSher, age 70. IPF 3-06, OR. NasturtiumsDon't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! CaroTo: Breathe-Support Date: Wednesday, January 21, 2009, 5:23 PM Caro, Hi there girl! Just wondering how you are doing. Let us know when you have a chance! Beth in North Carolina Moderator Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 Dermatomyositis 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2009 Report Share Posted January 22, 2009 Thanks Sher!! How have you been? CaroASTHMA 1976,OSTEOARTHRITIS 2002, COPD 02/06, IPF 08/07, UIP 01/08, RHEUMATOID ARTHRITIS 03/08 SJOGREN SYNDROME 07/08Mississippi From: Beth <mbmurtha (AT) yahoo (DOT) com>Subject: CaroTo: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. comDate: Wednesday, January 21, 2009, 5:23 PM Caro, Hi there girl! Just wondering how you are doing. Let us know when you have a chance! Beth in North Carolina Moderator Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 Dermatomyositis 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2009 Report Share Posted January 22, 2009 Caro, Wow I don't even know what to say to you. You are living what I have always feared the most. That my son would make one mistake too many and end up in prison for years. I will keep both of you in my prayers. I'm so relieved though to hear that things are ok with your daughter. Just need to keep that tiny heart beating right? I'm praying that your gyn's office calls you back. Hope that whatever it is, it's something simple and correctable. Please don't stay away from the board. I worry when we don't hear from you and we all miss you! Beth in North Carolina Moderator Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 Dermatomyositis 11/08 To: Breathe-Support Sent: Thursday, January 22, 2009 6:24:46 PMSubject: Re: Caro Hi MB, Well a lot has been going here. I was debating whether to post or not. Seems like everytime I do, there are a million things going on, but I will try and make is as short as possible. A week ago, my youngest son got arrested for burglary. He has been in trouble before with drugs (I think I told you all that), so this is not his first arrest. He is only 22 years old and will probably be looking at 5 to 10 years in the state prison. I am so heartbroken I could die. My daughter found out she was pregnant right before Christmas (I think I told you all that, too), and they thought last week she had a miscarriage, but I think everything is going to turn out okay so far. She is about 7 weeks but no bleeding for a week and the quantitative HCG she did came back from 1500 3 weeks ago to 4500 last week, indicating the baby is still alive. So we are thinking positive on that. After that, on Friday, I had my appointment for a Pap smear (which I have not had in 8 years). I had a hysterectomy when I was 29 and am now 47, but still have ovaries. I was told to repeat it every 3 years or so, but somehow next thing I know it has been 8 years. Anyhoo, I went for the "as Bruce and I called it last year," the Kentucky Derby leg split, or something similar to that!!. While she is doing the exam she asks me if I said that I still have my ovaries. I said yes. She says, yeah, I can feel that. Does that hurt? I said no, thinking that she probably felt my ovaries. Then she tells the nurse to schedule me for a transvaginal ultrasound with the diagnosis as "ovarian mass." Great!! I wasn't expecting that at all. So, went for the ultrasound on Tuesday. The ultrasound tech said she did not see an ovarian mass but that probe thingy hit something and I felt like I was being stabbed on the inside with it and I nearly jumped off the table. She said, oh, is that a tender spot?, then looked at the monitor, frowned, and started typing in a bunch of stuff. Today, I checked the mail and I have a certified letter at the post office from the OB-GYN office. Now I am really scared. Went to go pick it up and it won't be there until the morning. The postman still has it, so I got back and called the office and am still waiting for them to call me back. The receptionist said today is Medicaid OB day and they schedule around 80 patients, BUUUTTTT "someone WILL call me back!!" Ok, I am still waiting --- Also, Tuesday, before the ultrasound, I had my regular appointment with the pulmodude -- Had to tell him that I tried to get out and walk the track at the park Sunday. 4 laps make a mile. I made it 1 lap fairly well, just a little short of breath. Second lap, I was wheezing aloud by the time I got 3/4 of the way, so I decided I had better go back home. Drove 2 blocks further and by the time I go to the apartment, I was gasping for air. He was going to put me on oxygen with exertion, but decided to try an inhaler first before exercise and let him know how that works, so I am going to try that. Also, he wants me to go next Wednesday for a 2-D echo to rule out pulmonary hypertension (figured I would get that sooner or later!!). All that said, on a good note, I am getting a pretty good chunky tax refund back and I am going to treat myself to something special. Don't know what yet, but SOMETHING!! Now, see why I was trying to decide whether to post or not??!! HEE HEE!! How are all of you guys doing? I think about each and everyone of you everyday. I miss you all so much!! Let me know how you are. I still read everyday!!CaroASTHMA 1976,OSTEOARTHRITIS 2002, COPD 02/06, IPF 08/07, UIP 01/08, RHEUMATOID ARTHRITIS 03/08 SJOGREN SYNDROME 07/08Mississippi From: Beth <mbmurtha (AT) yahoo (DOT) com>Subject: CaroTo: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. comDate: Wednesday, January 21, 2009, 5:23 PM Caro, Hi there girl! Just wondering how you are doing. Let us know when you have a chance! Beth in North Carolina Moderator Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 Dermatomyositis 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2009 Report Share Posted January 22, 2009 I have missed you all, too, MB, soOOO much!! I am promising myself and every one of you to keep in touch more often. The thing that got me so bad with my son is that he called me the day before asking me for help with his rent and I told him if he could just hold out a couple of more weeks, I was getting my tax refund and I could help him then. The next night I get a call from my older son thinking he was going to tell me he had gotten kicked out of his apartment, but he said no, I don't think he will be going anywhere for awhile. My heart just dropped. I totally lost it. I think I cried for 3 days straight until I finally made myself sick. I haven't been to see him yet. Have to fill out forms and all to be able to visit and he is about 4 hours away in another county closer to the coast near Gulfport. My old car is so raggedy plus with all the problems I have getting out anyway, I don't know when I will get to see him again. I keep telling myself, if only I would have had the money when he asked me. My oldest son said not to think that, because if he was going to do it, he was going to do it anyway, maybe not that week, but the next week or the next when he got behind on his rent again. I just keep wondering where I went wrong. He lived with me for 19 years and said he finally had a place to go and stay on his own with some friends. After sleeping on a park bench for 2 months, he finally called me and I went and picked him up and it was so awful. I think he probably had not showered in weeks. I got him a room for rent, bought him food, washed his clothes, fixed his raggedier (is that a word??) than mine car, then my oldest son paid for his room the next week because he "still couldn't find a job." When the third week came up, my oldest son let him move in with him on the condition that he had 30 days to get a job or he had to move out. He got a job and eventually got his own apartment when my oldest son moved out into another apartment and he took over the lease on that one. I even told him at Christmas this year how proud I was of him and that he had come so far from where he was 2 years ago sleeping on a park bench. Then this happened. I will probably die while he is prison. So sad. I just wish I could have done something else. My oldest son tells me to stop worrying about him and that if that if that is what he was doing when he was out, he is probably better off in jail. I am just thankful he didn't get killed. They stole guns from a man's house and the man came home early. He ran through the woods and got caught by the K-9's. If he would have been carrying one of those guns instead of leaving them in the getaway car and running, he probably would have been shot. I am just thankful he is still alive. My oldest son told me I need to be worrying about myself, but I just think whatever they say about me, they will say, and I will deal with it and go on. Guess I will have to do the same with my youngest son, but it seems harder to deal with than the illness. CaroCaroASTHMA 1976,OSTEOARTHRITIS 2002, COPD 02/06, IPF 08/07, UIP 01/08, RHEUMATOID ARTHRITIS 03/08 SJOGREN SYNDROME 07/08Mississippi From: Beth <mbmurtha (AT) yahoo (DOT) com>Subject: CaroTo: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. comDate: Wednesday, January 21, 2009, 5:23 PM Caro, Hi there girl! Just wondering how you are doing. Let us know when you have a chance! Beth in North Carolina Moderator Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 Dermatomyositis 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2009 Report Share Posted January 22, 2009 Hang in there, Caro.They say about children: " When they are little they step on our toes,when they are big they step on our hearts. " Peace and blessings,jonsarcoid 1/09-- Two wrongs don't make a right, but two 's make an airplane. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2009 Report Share Posted January 22, 2009 Oh Jon, what a wonderful saying!! and it is so true!! I told my oldest son if he gets to talk to him before I do, just to tell him how much I love him and I always will.CaroASTHMA 1976,OSTEOARTHRITIS 2002, COPD 02/06, IPF 08/07, UIP 01/08, RHEUMATOID ARTHRITIS 03/08 SJOGREN SYNDROME 07/08Mississippi Subject: Re: CaroTo: Breathe-Support Date: Thursday, January 22, 2009, 6:29 PM Hang in there, Caro.They say about children: "When they are little they step on our toes,when they are big they step on our hearts."Peace and blessings,jonsarcoid 1/09-- Two wrongs don't make a right,but two 's make an airplane. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2009 Report Share Posted January 22, 2009 Caro, You are not responsible for this. Don't take it on because it will hurt you and it won't help him. The truth is he made a bad decision and now there will be consequences. Ultimately he can choose to learn from this and get his act together or not. It's up to him. All you can do is love him and I know you do because I know how much I love my 23 year old. Even back when he was doing things that broke my heart into a million pieces....drugs, alcohol etc etc I loved him. In the meantime the best thing you can do for yourself and for him is to take care of you. You may not be able to see him right now but you can most likely write to him. Even if you don't know where to send it right now, write him a letter. Tell him what you're feeling and how much you love him. It's a way to let some of those feelings out instead of holding them all inside. You are in my thoughts and prayers! Beth in North Carolina Moderator Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 Dermatomyositis 11/08 To: Breathe-Support Sent: Thursday, January 22, 2009 7:10:27 PMSubject: Re: Caro I have missed you all, too, MB, soOOO much!! I am promising myself and every one of you to keep in touch more often. The thing that got me so bad with my son is that he called me the day before asking me for help with his rent and I told him if he could just hold out a couple of more weeks, I was getting my tax refund and I could help him then. The next night I get a call from my older son thinking he was going to tell me he had gotten kicked out of his apartment, but he said no, I don't think he will be going anywhere for awhile. My heart just dropped. I totally lost it. I think I cried for 3 days straight until I finally made myself sick. I haven't been to see him yet. Have to fill out forms and all to be able to visit and he is about 4 hours away in another county closer to the coast near Gulfport. My old car is so raggedy plus with all the problems I have getting out anyway, I don't know when I will get to see him again. I keep telling myself, if only I would have had the money when he asked me. My oldest son said not to think that, because if he was going to do it, he was going to do it anyway, maybe not that week, but the next week or the next when he got behind on his rent again. I just keep wondering where I went wrong. He lived with me for 19 years and said he finally had a place to go and stay on his own with some friends. After sleeping on a park bench for 2 months, he finally called me and I went and picked him up and it was so awful. I think he probably had not showered in weeks. I got him a room for rent, bought him food, washed his clothes, fixed his raggedier (is that a word??) than mine car, then my oldest son paid for his room the next week because he "still couldn't find a job." When the third week came up, my oldest son let him move in with him on the condition that he had 30 days to get a job or he had to move out. He got a job and eventually got his own apartment when my oldest son moved out into another apartment and he took over the lease on that one. I even told him at Christmas this year how proud I was of him and that he had come so far from where he was 2 years ago sleeping on a park bench. Then this happened. I will probably die while he is prison. So sad. I just wish I could have done something else. My oldest son tells me to stop worrying about him and that if that if that is what he was doing when he was out, he is probably better off in jail. I am just thankful he didn't get killed. They stole guns from a man's house and the man came home early. He ran through the woods and got caught by the K-9's. If he would have been carrying one of those guns instead of leaving them in the getaway car and running, he probably would have been shot. I am just thankful he is still alive. My oldest son told me I need to be worrying about myself, but I just think whatever they say about me, they will say, and I will deal with it and go on. Guess I will have to do the same with my youngest son, but it seems harder to deal with than the illness. CaroCaroASTHMA 1976,OSTEOARTHRITIS 2002, COPD 02/06, IPF 08/07, UIP 01/08, RHEUMATOID ARTHRITIS 03/08 SJOGREN SYNDROME 07/08Mississippi From: Beth <mbmurtha (AT) yahoo (DOT) com>Subject: CaroTo: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. comDate: Wednesday, January 21, 2009, 5:23 PM Caro, Hi there girl! Just wondering how you are doing. Let us know when you have a chance! Beth in North Carolina Moderator Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 Dermatomyositis 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2009 Report Share Posted January 22, 2009 Thanks MB! That is a great idea, sitting down and writing my feelings down. I will probably bawl my eyes out but will feel much better in the long run. I am trying to take care of me as best I can. Am really anxious right now wondering what the tests are going to show, wondering what is in that envelope in the morning, and still waiting for the office to call me back. It is 7:40 p.m. my time, so I am guessing they are going to call back today. I will be at post office at 8:30 in the morning to get letter and start calling them back as soon as I get back home!! I am trying to think positive, but is hard. At the same time, I am beating myself up for waiting 8 years to go anyway!! It is so good to be able to talk to you guys again! CaroASTHMA 1976,OSTEOARTHRITIS 2002, COPD 02/06, IPF 08/07, UIP 01/08, RHEUMATOID ARTHRITIS 03/08 SJOGREN SYNDROME 07/08Mississippi From: Beth <mbmurtha (AT) yahoo (DOT) com>Subject: CaroTo: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. comDate: Wednesday, January 21, 2009, 5:23 PM Caro, Hi there girl! Just wondering how you are doing. Let us know when you have a chance! Beth in North Carolina Moderator Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 Dermatomyositis 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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