Guest guest Posted April 12, 2005 Report Share Posted April 12, 2005 Thank you but to tell you the truth that was not the whole story. My mother was a alcholic with mental problems. At the age of 6 my sister and I was taken by children's services to children's home. I was the youngest of 4 children. Not knowing where our family was, 2 years went bye. It was christmas and all the children were being sent to different homes, My sister and I was all we had, we just did not want to be seperated. We was assigned to go to a home of a elderly couple, who we never met. It was a nice home and a big christmas tree. They explained they were our grandparents who we never met, out from behind the tree..out came our brothers. They said we did not have to go back to the children's home, they had got custody of us and we would be together. Over the years I saw my father several times on the street as we passed. My mom was normal,but only saw her 2 times. I never knew where she was or if she was alive. Then on my 37 birthday a simple birthday card came, it had several 6 addresses where I had lived. Some how that simple card found it way to me. The card was for a child and at the end was signed xoxo kissses mommy. I was puzzled by this called the phone number my Mom could only speak two words at a time finally her neighbors got on phone. We made plans for the next day for our reunion, they pulled up, thought I would know my Mother but on the back seat there she was. They came in and the horrible news came. She had only lived about 20 miles from me. She lived with a man he had passed due to cancer, he had shot her 2 times in the chest, she stills has the scars, she was going to the store one day 3 teens tried to take her purse in mugging attempt, she was thrown down hit her head, and that is when she got her brain damage. She was in coma, had to learn and walk and talk again. I was unaware this had happened to her. She was living in a shack, eating bologna and milk. Everybody was taking addvantage of her, now she was even broke. I got her into a nice senior for low income. We sold her shack she lived in for the value of the land. high violence area. I become her caregiver with help from different caring people. We even had a retired school teacher for her she forgot how to add 1+1. I took care of her, none of my brothers or sister wanted to help with her at all, I took care of her till she had a severe stroke with this and her brain damage could not live on her own. Now today she is in a nursing home and does not know me at all. I can't handle she does not know me so I don't go much to see her but I know she is safe where she is. I have not told this to you all..now I am dealing with this pls, I know I might be weak sometimes, I ask God why but know there has to be a reson it must be for the next chapter in our lives..we will fight because we are ALL SURVIVORS RIGHT? from Ohio.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2005 Report Share Posted April 12, 2005 , What a great daughter you were to find the love and forgivness for your mother. You and your family have been through an awful lot in your lives and as you said you SURVIVED. So many people would have just given up and said you know you made my younger years h###, and now you want to be in my life, well just forget it. you are a great person to open your arms to her. Be very proud of yourself, Sandy Diane..my story Thank you but to tell you the truth that was not the whole story. My mother was a alcholic with mental problems. At the age of 6 my sister and I was taken by children's services to children's home. I was the youngest of 4 children. Not knowing where our family was, 2 years went bye. It was christmas and all the children were being sent to different homes, My sister and I was all we had, we just did not want to be seperated. We was assigned to go to a home of a elderly couple, who we never met. It was a nice home and a big christmas tree. They explained they were our grandparents who we never met, out from behind the tree..out came our brothers. They said we did not have to go back to the children's home, they had got custody of us and we would be together. Over the years I saw my father several times on the street as we passed. My mom was normal,but only saw her 2 times. I never knew where she was or if she was alive. Then on my 37 birthday a simple birthday card came, it had several 6 addresses where I had lived. Some how that simple card found it way to me. The card was for a child and at the end was signed xoxo kissses mommy. I was puzzled by this called the phone number my Mom could only speak two words at a time finally her neighbors got on phone. We made plans for the next day for our reunion, they pulled up, thought I would know my Mother but on the back seat there she was. They came in and the horrible news came. She had only lived about 20 miles from me. She lived with a man he had passed due to cancer, he had shot her 2 times in the chest, she stills has the scars, she was going to the store one day 3 teens tried to take her purse in mugging attempt, she was thrown down hit her head, and that is when she got her brain damage. She was in coma, had to learn and walk and talk again. I was unaware this had happened to her. She was living in a shack, eating bologna and milk. Everybody was taking addvantage of her, now she was even broke. I got her into a nice senior for low income. We sold her shack she lived in for the value of the land. high violence area. I become her caregiver with help from different caring people. We even had a retired school teacher for her she forgot how to add 1+1. I took care of her, none of my brothers or sister wanted to help with her at all, I took care of her till she had a severe stroke with this and her brain damage could not live on her own. Now today she is in a nursing home and does not know me at all. I can't handle she does not know me so I don't go much to see her but I know she is safe where she is. I have not told this to you all..now I am dealing with this pls, I know I might be weak sometimes, I ask God why but know there has to be a reson it must be for the next chapter in our lives..we will fight because we are ALL SURVIVORS RIGHT? from Ohio.. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2005 Report Share Posted April 12, 2005 , You are truly a survivor and you will get through this PLS also. Life dishes out so many challenges but we manage to still push forward. Kido you are a strong lady.......Hugs to you, Flora " N. " wrote: Thank you but to tell you the truth that was not the whole story. My mother was a alcholic with mental problems. At the age of 6 my sister and I was taken by children's services to children's home. I was the youngest of 4 children. Not knowing where our family was, 2 years went bye. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 13, 2005 Report Share Posted April 13, 2005 I think we all feel that way! Diane sandy grooms wrote: , What a great daughter you were to find the love and forgivness for your mother. You and your family have been through an awful lot in your lives and as you said you SURVIVED. So many people would have just given up and said you know you made my younger years h###, and now you want to be in my life, well just forget it. you are a great person to open your arms to her. Be very proud of yourself, Sandy Diane..my story Thank you but to tell you the truth that was not the whole story. My mother was a alcholic with mental problems. At the age of 6 my sister and I was taken by children's services to children's home. I was the youngest of 4 children. Not knowing where our family was, 2 years went bye. It was christmas and all the children were being sent to different homes, My sister and I was all we had, we just did not want to be seperated. We was assigned to go to a home of a elderly couple, who we never met. It was a nice home and a big christmas tree. They explained they were our grandparents who we never met, out from behind the tree..out came our brothers. They said we did not have to go back to the children's home, they had got custody of us and we would be together. Over the years I saw my father several times on the street as we passed. My mom was normal,but only saw her 2 times. I never knew where she was or if she was alive. Then on my 37 birthday a simple birthday card came, it had several 6 addresses where I had lived. Some how that simple card found it way to me. The card was for a child and at the end was signed xoxo kissses mommy. I was puzzled by this called the phone number my Mom could only speak two words at a time finally her neighbors got on phone. We made plans for the next day for our reunion, they pulled up, thought I would know my Mother but on the back seat there she was. They came in and the horrible news came. She had only lived about 20 miles from me. She lived with a man he had passed due to cancer, he had shot her 2 times in the chest, she stills has the scars, she was going to the store one day 3 teens tried to take her purse in mugging attempt, she was thrown down hit her head, and that is when she got her brain damage. She was in coma, had to learn and walk and talk again. I was unaware this had happened to her. She was living in a shack, eating bologna and milk. Everybody was taking addvantage of her, now she was even broke. I got her into a nice senior for low income. We sold her shack she lived in for the value of the land. high violence area. I become her caregiver with help from different caring people. We even had a retired school teacher for her she forgot how to add 1+1. I took care of her, none of my brothers or sister wanted to help with her at all, I took care of her till she had a severe stroke with this and her brain damage could not live on her own. Now today she is in a nursing home and does not know me at all. I can't handle she does not know me so I don't go much to see her but I know she is safe where she is. I have not told this to you all..now I am dealing with this pls, I know I might be weak sometimes, I ask God why but know there has to be a reson it must be for the next chapter in our lives..we will fight because we are ALL SURVIVORS RIGHT? from Ohio.. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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