Re: THE PERFECT FIGURE? Please read: IMPORTANT

[Guest guest]

I don't think my getting a perfect figure will solve all my problems,

but I'm willing to give it a try. ;-)

Seriously, you do make a very good point!!! One that is easy to

forget.

Catalina

> Okay,

>

> I think I have a story to share with WLB2. I was just at the post

> office. There was a line of people waiting to be serviced. All

> kinds of people but just about 2 people ahead of me was this lady --

-

> a wild guess about 30-35 years old. You know how when you are

> standing in line you will just look at people? Well, this lady had

> the PERFECT figure. I truly mean that. Not one ounce of fat I

> think. And the PERFECT shape too. She was on the shorter side,

> wouldn't be surprised if she was only 5'3 " or so, but it made

think.

> I watched her for a moment. First off, think she had a skirt on

that

> was too short. She was playing around with her cell phone. She

was

> attractive in the face. Natural looking light brown hair but I

could

> not help but wonder....... How we might ALL look at people that

seem

> to have that PERFECT shape. I asked myself, here was this

extremely

> attractive woman.. is she prettier than I am? I honestly have to

> say.. and I am being completely honest here. I thought she

> definetely had some attributes but I am not sure I would " trust "

this

> person as much as someone else, and I am not sure I would like to

> live with the problems I think she would have to in life.

Meaning...

> she was attractive in a natural way. She struck me as the kind of

> person that did not have to probably work hard at trying to

maintain

> a nice figure, but I could not help but think other people,

> especially men could be attracted to her for the wrong reasons.

> Don't get me wrong, I admire a nice looking woman, but when I tell

> you this lady had the PERFECT figure, I mean it.

>

> I stepped on the scale just about an hour ago and I am @ 229

today.

> Sixty more pounds to go I think. I am 60 lbs away from my goal.

>

> Seeing this lady made me want to tell all in this group, we are all

> people. Yes, it is nice to be in shape but it does not make the

> person entirely. We all sound as though we are struggling alot but

> if we have the will power we will get to where we want to be but we

> must all keep in mind even if we reached our " weight goal " , not

sure

> our problems will all be conquered.

>

> Life can be a struggle sometimes on so many different aspects.

Let's

> try to keep focused. Obviously there is more than one reason to be

> fit, but if we think it will be the answer to all our problems, I

> just think we are setting ourselves up for MORE disappointment,

> perhaps on another level.

>

> Well, I hope many of you will understand what I am trying to say

> here.

>

> Dianne

[Guest guest]

I don't think my getting a perfect figure will solve all my problems,

but I'm willing to give it a try. ;-)

Seriously, you do make a very good point!!! One that is easy to

forget.

Catalina

> Okay,

>

> I think I have a story to share with WLB2. I was just at the post

> office. There was a line of people waiting to be serviced. All

> kinds of people but just about 2 people ahead of me was this lady --

-

> a wild guess about 30-35 years old. You know how when you are

> standing in line you will just look at people? Well, this lady had

> the PERFECT figure. I truly mean that. Not one ounce of fat I

> think. And the PERFECT shape too. She was on the shorter side,

> wouldn't be surprised if she was only 5'3 " or so, but it made

think.

> I watched her for a moment. First off, think she had a skirt on

that

> was too short. She was playing around with her cell phone. She

was

> attractive in the face. Natural looking light brown hair but I

could

> not help but wonder....... How we might ALL look at people that

seem

> to have that PERFECT shape. I asked myself, here was this

extremely

> attractive woman.. is she prettier than I am? I honestly have to

> say.. and I am being completely honest here. I thought she

> definetely had some attributes but I am not sure I would " trust "

this

> person as much as someone else, and I am not sure I would like to

> live with the problems I think she would have to in life.

Meaning...

> she was attractive in a natural way. She struck me as the kind of

> person that did not have to probably work hard at trying to

maintain

> a nice figure, but I could not help but think other people,

> especially men could be attracted to her for the wrong reasons.

> Don't get me wrong, I admire a nice looking woman, but when I tell

> you this lady had the PERFECT figure, I mean it.

>

> I stepped on the scale just about an hour ago and I am @ 229

today.

> Sixty more pounds to go I think. I am 60 lbs away from my goal.

>

> Seeing this lady made me want to tell all in this group, we are all

> people. Yes, it is nice to be in shape but it does not make the

> person entirely. We all sound as though we are struggling alot but

> if we have the will power we will get to where we want to be but we

> must all keep in mind even if we reached our " weight goal " , not

sure

> our problems will all be conquered.

>

> Life can be a struggle sometimes on so many different aspects.

Let's

> try to keep focused. Obviously there is more than one reason to be

> fit, but if we think it will be the answer to all our problems, I

> just think we are setting ourselves up for MORE disappointment,

> perhaps on another level.

>

> Well, I hope many of you will understand what I am trying to say

> here.

>

> Dianne

[Guest guest]

Dianne,

I understand!! I've thought the same thing myself plenty of times. I've

always thought maybe I was jealous, but I don't WANT to be like that. I just

want to be fit and healthy and in the normal weight range for MY body.

Sue

In a message dated 9/24/03 9:59:37 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

writingsbydianne@... writes:

Okay,

I think I have a story to share with WLB2. I was just at the post

office. There was a line of people waiting to be serviced. All

kinds of people but just about 2 people ahead of me was this lady ---

a wild guess about 30-35 years old. You know how when you are

standing in line you will just look at people? Well, this lady had

the PERFECT figure. I truly mean that. Not one ounce of fat I

think. And the PERFECT shape too. She was on the shorter side,

wouldn't be surprised if she was only 5'3 " or so, but it made think.

I watched her for a moment. First off, think she had a skirt on that

was too short. She was playing around with her cell phone. She was

attractive in the face. Natural looking light brown hair but I could

not help but wonder....... How we might ALL look at people that seem

to have that PERFECT shape. I asked myself, here was this extremely

attractive woman.. is she prettier than I am? I honestly have to

say.. and I am being completely honest here. I thought she

definetely had some attributes but I am not sure I would " trust " this

person as much as someone else, and I am not sure I would like to

live with the problems I think she would have to in life. Meaning...

she was attractive in a natural way. She struck me as the kind of

person that did not have to probably work hard at trying to maintain

a nice figure, but I could not help but think other people,

especially men could be attracted to her for the wrong reasons.

Don't get me wrong, I admire a nice looking woman, but when I tell

you this lady had the PERFECT figure, I mean it.

I stepped on the scale just about an hour ago and I am @ 229 today.

Sixty more pounds to go I think. I am 60 lbs away from my goal.

Seeing this lady made me want to tell all in this group, we are all

people. Yes, it is nice to be in shape but it does not make the

person entirely. We all sound as though we are struggling alot but

if we have the will power we will get to where we want to be but we

must all keep in mind even if we reached our " weight goal " , not sure

our problems will all be conquered.

Life can be a struggle sometimes on so many different aspects. Let's

try to keep focused. Obviously there is more than one reason to be

fit, but if we think it will be the answer to all our problems, I

just think we are setting ourselves up for MORE disappointment,

perhaps on another level.

Well, I hope many of you will understand what I am trying to say

here.

Dianne

[Guest guest]

Dianne,

I understand!! I've thought the same thing myself plenty of times. I've

always thought maybe I was jealous, but I don't WANT to be like that. I just

want to be fit and healthy and in the normal weight range for MY body.

Sue

In a message dated 9/24/03 9:59:37 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

writingsbydianne@... writes:

Okay,

I think I have a story to share with WLB2. I was just at the post

office. There was a line of people waiting to be serviced. All

kinds of people but just about 2 people ahead of me was this lady ---

a wild guess about 30-35 years old. You know how when you are

standing in line you will just look at people? Well, this lady had

the PERFECT figure. I truly mean that. Not one ounce of fat I

think. And the PERFECT shape too. She was on the shorter side,

wouldn't be surprised if she was only 5'3 " or so, but it made think.

I watched her for a moment. First off, think she had a skirt on that

was too short. She was playing around with her cell phone. She was

attractive in the face. Natural looking light brown hair but I could

not help but wonder....... How we might ALL look at people that seem

to have that PERFECT shape. I asked myself, here was this extremely

attractive woman.. is she prettier than I am? I honestly have to

say.. and I am being completely honest here. I thought she

definetely had some attributes but I am not sure I would " trust " this

person as much as someone else, and I am not sure I would like to

live with the problems I think she would have to in life. Meaning...

she was attractive in a natural way. She struck me as the kind of

person that did not have to probably work hard at trying to maintain

a nice figure, but I could not help but think other people,

especially men could be attracted to her for the wrong reasons.

Don't get me wrong, I admire a nice looking woman, but when I tell

you this lady had the PERFECT figure, I mean it.

I stepped on the scale just about an hour ago and I am @ 229 today.

Sixty more pounds to go I think. I am 60 lbs away from my goal.

Seeing this lady made me want to tell all in this group, we are all

people. Yes, it is nice to be in shape but it does not make the

person entirely. We all sound as though we are struggling alot but

if we have the will power we will get to where we want to be but we

must all keep in mind even if we reached our " weight goal " , not sure

our problems will all be conquered.

Life can be a struggle sometimes on so many different aspects. Let's

try to keep focused. Obviously there is more than one reason to be

fit, but if we think it will be the answer to all our problems, I

just think we are setting ourselves up for MORE disappointment,

perhaps on another level.

Well, I hope many of you will understand what I am trying to say

here.

Dianne

[Guest guest]

Dianne,

I understand!! I've thought the same thing myself plenty of times. I've

always thought maybe I was jealous, but I don't WANT to be like that. I just

want to be fit and healthy and in the normal weight range for MY body.

Sue

In a message dated 9/24/03 9:59:37 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

writingsbydianne@... writes:

Okay,

I think I have a story to share with WLB2. I was just at the post

office. There was a line of people waiting to be serviced. All

kinds of people but just about 2 people ahead of me was this lady ---

a wild guess about 30-35 years old. You know how when you are

standing in line you will just look at people? Well, this lady had

the PERFECT figure. I truly mean that. Not one ounce of fat I

think. And the PERFECT shape too. She was on the shorter side,

wouldn't be surprised if she was only 5'3 " or so, but it made think.

I watched her for a moment. First off, think she had a skirt on that

was too short. She was playing around with her cell phone. She was

attractive in the face. Natural looking light brown hair but I could

not help but wonder....... How we might ALL look at people that seem

to have that PERFECT shape. I asked myself, here was this extremely

attractive woman.. is she prettier than I am? I honestly have to

say.. and I am being completely honest here. I thought she

definetely had some attributes but I am not sure I would " trust " this

person as much as someone else, and I am not sure I would like to

live with the problems I think she would have to in life. Meaning...

she was attractive in a natural way. She struck me as the kind of

person that did not have to probably work hard at trying to maintain

a nice figure, but I could not help but think other people,

especially men could be attracted to her for the wrong reasons.

Don't get me wrong, I admire a nice looking woman, but when I tell

you this lady had the PERFECT figure, I mean it.

I stepped on the scale just about an hour ago and I am @ 229 today.

Sixty more pounds to go I think. I am 60 lbs away from my goal.

Seeing this lady made me want to tell all in this group, we are all

people. Yes, it is nice to be in shape but it does not make the

person entirely. We all sound as though we are struggling alot but

if we have the will power we will get to where we want to be but we

must all keep in mind even if we reached our " weight goal " , not sure

our problems will all be conquered.

Life can be a struggle sometimes on so many different aspects. Let's

try to keep focused. Obviously there is more than one reason to be

fit, but if we think it will be the answer to all our problems, I

just think we are setting ourselves up for MORE disappointment,

perhaps on another level.

Well, I hope many of you will understand what I am trying to say

here.

Dianne

[Guest guest]

I bet if you talked to her there would be something about her body

she doesn't like. Something she would change. When Dr. Phil was on

dateline with kati there was a plus size model on there(forget her

name) and she said that after she started modeling she realized that

even those stick like models were unhappy with their bodies. I think

there are very few people who have a healthy attitude when it comes

to their bodies. I include myself in that group but I would someday

like to be able to look in the mirror and say I am happy with what I

see.

Rhonda

> Okay,

>

> I think I have a story to share with WLB2. I was just at the post

> office. There was a line of people waiting to be serviced. All

> kinds of people but just about 2 people ahead of me was this lady -

--

> a wild guess about 30-35 years old. You know how when you are

> standing in line you will just look at people? Well, this lady

had

> the PERFECT figure. I truly mean that. Not one ounce of fat I

> think. And the PERFECT shape too. She was on the shorter side,

> wouldn't be surprised if she was only 5'3 " or so, but it made

think.

> I watched her for a moment. First off, think she had a skirt on

that

> was too short. She was playing around with her cell phone. She

was

> attractive in the face. Natural looking light brown hair but I

could

> not help but wonder....... How we might ALL look at people that

seem

> to have that PERFECT shape. I asked myself, here was this

extremely

> attractive woman.. is she prettier than I am? I honestly have to

> say.. and I am being completely honest here. I thought she

> definetely had some attributes but I am not sure I would " trust "

this

> person as much as someone else, and I am not sure I would like to

> live with the problems I think she would have to in life.

Meaning...

> she was attractive in a natural way. She struck me as the kind of

> person that did not have to probably work hard at trying to

maintain

> a nice figure, but I could not help but think other people,

> especially men could be attracted to her for the wrong reasons.

> Don't get me wrong, I admire a nice looking woman, but when I tell

> you this lady had the PERFECT figure, I mean it.

>

> I stepped on the scale just about an hour ago and I am @ 229

today.

> Sixty more pounds to go I think. I am 60 lbs away from my goal.

>

> Seeing this lady made me want to tell all in this group, we are

all

> people. Yes, it is nice to be in shape but it does not make the

> person entirely. We all sound as though we are struggling alot

but

> if we have the will power we will get to where we want to be but

we

> must all keep in mind even if we reached our " weight goal " , not

sure

> our problems will all be conquered.

>

> Life can be a struggle sometimes on so many different aspects.

Let's

> try to keep focused. Obviously there is more than one reason to

be

> fit, but if we think it will be the answer to all our problems, I

> just think we are setting ourselves up for MORE disappointment,

> perhaps on another level.

>

> Well, I hope many of you will understand what I am trying to say

> here.

>

> Dianne

[Guest guest]

I bet if you talked to her there would be something about her body

she doesn't like. Something she would change. When Dr. Phil was on

dateline with kati there was a plus size model on there(forget her

name) and she said that after she started modeling she realized that

even those stick like models were unhappy with their bodies. I think

there are very few people who have a healthy attitude when it comes

to their bodies. I include myself in that group but I would someday

like to be able to look in the mirror and say I am happy with what I

see.

Rhonda

> Okay,

>

> I think I have a story to share with WLB2. I was just at the post

> office. There was a line of people waiting to be serviced. All

> kinds of people but just about 2 people ahead of me was this lady -

--

> a wild guess about 30-35 years old. You know how when you are

> standing in line you will just look at people? Well, this lady

had

> the PERFECT figure. I truly mean that. Not one ounce of fat I

> think. And the PERFECT shape too. She was on the shorter side,

> wouldn't be surprised if she was only 5'3 " or so, but it made

think.

> I watched her for a moment. First off, think she had a skirt on

that

> was too short. She was playing around with her cell phone. She

was

> attractive in the face. Natural looking light brown hair but I

could

> not help but wonder....... How we might ALL look at people that

seem

> to have that PERFECT shape. I asked myself, here was this

extremely

> attractive woman.. is she prettier than I am? I honestly have to

> say.. and I am being completely honest here. I thought she

> definetely had some attributes but I am not sure I would " trust "

this

> person as much as someone else, and I am not sure I would like to

> live with the problems I think she would have to in life.

Meaning...

> she was attractive in a natural way. She struck me as the kind of

> person that did not have to probably work hard at trying to

maintain

> a nice figure, but I could not help but think other people,

> especially men could be attracted to her for the wrong reasons.

> Don't get me wrong, I admire a nice looking woman, but when I tell

> you this lady had the PERFECT figure, I mean it.

>

> I stepped on the scale just about an hour ago and I am @ 229

today.

> Sixty more pounds to go I think. I am 60 lbs away from my goal.

>

> Seeing this lady made me want to tell all in this group, we are

all

> people. Yes, it is nice to be in shape but it does not make the

> person entirely. We all sound as though we are struggling alot

but

> if we have the will power we will get to where we want to be but

we

> must all keep in mind even if we reached our " weight goal " , not

sure

> our problems will all be conquered.

>

> Life can be a struggle sometimes on so many different aspects.

Let's

> try to keep focused. Obviously there is more than one reason to

be

> fit, but if we think it will be the answer to all our problems, I

> just think we are setting ourselves up for MORE disappointment,

> perhaps on another level.

>

> Well, I hope many of you will understand what I am trying to say

> here.

>

> Dianne

[Guest guest]

I bet if you talked to her there would be something about her body

she doesn't like. Something she would change. When Dr. Phil was on

dateline with kati there was a plus size model on there(forget her

name) and she said that after she started modeling she realized that

even those stick like models were unhappy with their bodies. I think

there are very few people who have a healthy attitude when it comes

to their bodies. I include myself in that group but I would someday

like to be able to look in the mirror and say I am happy with what I

see.

Rhonda

> Okay,

>

> I think I have a story to share with WLB2. I was just at the post

> office. There was a line of people waiting to be serviced. All

> kinds of people but just about 2 people ahead of me was this lady -

--

> a wild guess about 30-35 years old. You know how when you are

> standing in line you will just look at people? Well, this lady

had

> the PERFECT figure. I truly mean that. Not one ounce of fat I

> think. And the PERFECT shape too. She was on the shorter side,

> wouldn't be surprised if she was only 5'3 " or so, but it made

think.

> I watched her for a moment. First off, think she had a skirt on

that

> was too short. She was playing around with her cell phone. She

was

> attractive in the face. Natural looking light brown hair but I

could

> not help but wonder....... How we might ALL look at people that

seem

> to have that PERFECT shape. I asked myself, here was this

extremely

> attractive woman.. is she prettier than I am? I honestly have to

> say.. and I am being completely honest here. I thought she

> definetely had some attributes but I am not sure I would " trust "

this

> person as much as someone else, and I am not sure I would like to

> live with the problems I think she would have to in life.

Meaning...

> she was attractive in a natural way. She struck me as the kind of

> person that did not have to probably work hard at trying to

maintain

> a nice figure, but I could not help but think other people,

> especially men could be attracted to her for the wrong reasons.

> Don't get me wrong, I admire a nice looking woman, but when I tell

> you this lady had the PERFECT figure, I mean it.

>

> I stepped on the scale just about an hour ago and I am @ 229

today.

> Sixty more pounds to go I think. I am 60 lbs away from my goal.

>

> Seeing this lady made me want to tell all in this group, we are

all

> people. Yes, it is nice to be in shape but it does not make the

> person entirely. We all sound as though we are struggling alot

but

> if we have the will power we will get to where we want to be but

we

> must all keep in mind even if we reached our " weight goal " , not

sure

> our problems will all be conquered.

>

> Life can be a struggle sometimes on so many different aspects.

Let's

> try to keep focused. Obviously there is more than one reason to

be

> fit, but if we think it will be the answer to all our problems, I

> just think we are setting ourselves up for MORE disappointment,

> perhaps on another level.

>

> Well, I hope many of you will understand what I am trying to say

> here.

>

> Dianne

[Guest guest]

I do understand what you are saying. I had a moment like this the

other day. I was on the elliptical sweating my butt off and working

hard. This incredible woman/girl (I work at a college so she was

probably like 19) walks by. And before I could stop it my brain

says " why can't I look like that " . Then I analyzed that. Well you'd

have stretch me about 5 inches, give me long red curly hair, a teeny

waist and big boobs to start with. Not to mention I'd have to be 19

again and not pregnant 3 times nor nurse 2 babies. LOL I had to

anyalyze that I like me. I wouldn't want to be someone else. Even

though she looks perfect she has her own issues too I bet. Like I

know she's in theatre and I know that's competive and she HAS to look

that good everyday. I can afford not too. LOL people expect to see

me in sweats and sweaty. lol But I do understand what you are getting

at.

> Okay,

>

> I think I have a story to share with WLB2. I was just at the post

> office. There was a line of people waiting to be serviced. All

> kinds of people but just about 2 people ahead of me was this lady --

-

> a wild guess about 30-35 years old. You know how when you are

> standing in line you will just look at people? Well, this lady had

> the PERFECT figure. I truly mean that. Not one ounce of fat I

> think. And the PERFECT shape too. She was on the shorter side,

> wouldn't be surprised if she was only 5'3 " or so, but it made

think.

> I watched her for a moment. First off, think she had a skirt on

that

> was too short. She was playing around with her cell phone. She

was

> attractive in the face. Natural looking light brown hair but I

could

> not help but wonder....... How we might ALL look at people that

seem

> to have that PERFECT shape. I asked myself, here was this

extremely

> attractive woman.. is she prettier than I am? I honestly have to

> say.. and I am being completely honest here. I thought she

> definetely had some attributes but I am not sure I would " trust "

this

> person as much as someone else, and I am not sure I would like to

> live with the problems I think she would have to in life.

Meaning...

> she was attractive in a natural way. She struck me as the kind of

> person that did not have to probably work hard at trying to

maintain

> a nice figure, but I could not help but think other people,

> especially men could be attracted to her for the wrong reasons.

> Don't get me wrong, I admire a nice looking woman, but when I tell

> you this lady had the PERFECT figure, I mean it.

>

> I stepped on the scale just about an hour ago and I am @ 229

today.

> Sixty more pounds to go I think. I am 60 lbs away from my goal.

>

> Seeing this lady made me want to tell all in this group, we are all

> people. Yes, it is nice to be in shape but it does not make the

> person entirely. We all sound as though we are struggling alot but

> if we have the will power we will get to where we want to be but we

> must all keep in mind even if we reached our " weight goal " , not

sure

> our problems will all be conquered.

>

> Life can be a struggle sometimes on so many different aspects.

Let's

> try to keep focused. Obviously there is more than one reason to be

> fit, but if we think it will be the answer to all our problems, I

> just think we are setting ourselves up for MORE disappointment,

> perhaps on another level.

>

> Well, I hope many of you will understand what I am trying to say

> here.

>

> Dianne

[Guest guest]

I do understand what you are saying. I had a moment like this the

other day. I was on the elliptical sweating my butt off and working

hard. This incredible woman/girl (I work at a college so she was

probably like 19) walks by. And before I could stop it my brain

says " why can't I look like that " . Then I analyzed that. Well you'd

have stretch me about 5 inches, give me long red curly hair, a teeny

waist and big boobs to start with. Not to mention I'd have to be 19

again and not pregnant 3 times nor nurse 2 babies. LOL I had to

anyalyze that I like me. I wouldn't want to be someone else. Even

though she looks perfect she has her own issues too I bet. Like I

know she's in theatre and I know that's competive and she HAS to look

that good everyday. I can afford not too. LOL people expect to see

me in sweats and sweaty. lol But I do understand what you are getting

at.

> Okay,

>

> I think I have a story to share with WLB2. I was just at the post

> office. There was a line of people waiting to be serviced. All

> kinds of people but just about 2 people ahead of me was this lady --

-

> a wild guess about 30-35 years old. You know how when you are

> standing in line you will just look at people? Well, this lady had

> the PERFECT figure. I truly mean that. Not one ounce of fat I

> think. And the PERFECT shape too. She was on the shorter side,

> wouldn't be surprised if she was only 5'3 " or so, but it made

think.

> I watched her for a moment. First off, think she had a skirt on

that

> was too short. She was playing around with her cell phone. She

was

> attractive in the face. Natural looking light brown hair but I

could

> not help but wonder....... How we might ALL look at people that

seem

> to have that PERFECT shape. I asked myself, here was this

extremely

> attractive woman.. is she prettier than I am? I honestly have to

> say.. and I am being completely honest here. I thought she

> definetely had some attributes but I am not sure I would " trust "

this

> person as much as someone else, and I am not sure I would like to

> live with the problems I think she would have to in life.

Meaning...

> she was attractive in a natural way. She struck me as the kind of

> person that did not have to probably work hard at trying to

maintain

> a nice figure, but I could not help but think other people,

> especially men could be attracted to her for the wrong reasons.

> Don't get me wrong, I admire a nice looking woman, but when I tell

> you this lady had the PERFECT figure, I mean it.

>

> I stepped on the scale just about an hour ago and I am @ 229

today.

> Sixty more pounds to go I think. I am 60 lbs away from my goal.

>

> Seeing this lady made me want to tell all in this group, we are all

> people. Yes, it is nice to be in shape but it does not make the

> person entirely. We all sound as though we are struggling alot but

> if we have the will power we will get to where we want to be but we

> must all keep in mind even if we reached our " weight goal " , not

sure

> our problems will all be conquered.

>

> Life can be a struggle sometimes on so many different aspects.

Let's

> try to keep focused. Obviously there is more than one reason to be

> fit, but if we think it will be the answer to all our problems, I

> just think we are setting ourselves up for MORE disappointment,

> perhaps on another level.

>

> Well, I hope many of you will understand what I am trying to say

> here.

>

> Dianne

[Guest guest]

Dianne,

I completely understand what you mean and totally agree with you. There

is more to life then " the perfect figure " or being beautiful on the

outside. My daughter Niki is very beautiful. I look at her in

amazement! People tell me all the time so it's not just me, mothers

pride. When she was little I caught her looking at herself in the

mirror and she told me " I'm beautiful, I know I am because people tell

me so. " . I told her it doesn't matter how beautiful you are on the

outside if you are an ugly person on the inside. It is the person you

are on the inside that counts. It must have sunk in somewhere along the

line because she is now completely oblivious to how pretty she is and

doesn't know what people are talking about! As I have mentioned, she is

in the Army and looks definitely don't matter there. They don't care

how pretty you are. You have to pass physical and intellectual tests or

you don't cut it. Dr Phil has talked about this quite a bit and I agree

with what he says. That if you are losing weight because you think it's

going to make problems in your life go away, you are doing it for the

wrong reasons. Thin, beautiful people have problems too. Just look at

celebrities and how many divorces they go through.

I think you make a really good point about that men would probably be

attracted to somebody like her for the wrong reasons. Just because

somebody is thin and attractive and " looks " together on the outside

doesn't mean they are in real life. Real happiness comes from inside,

being happy with who you are. That confidence will show on the outside.

That's why I say, it is more important to be doing this to be healthy

and happy not just for a number on the scale. If you aren't happy with

who you are now, you wont be just because you get thin. We need to love

ourselves for who we are to care enough to take care of ourselves I

think. But, no, you are right, if someone thinks it will magically make

their life wonderful they are sadly mistaken. It is important to do

this for the right reasons to really be successful.

Gena :-)

> Okay,

>

> I think I have a story to share with WLB2.  I was just at the post

> office.  There was a line of people waiting to be serviced.  All

> kinds of people but just about 2 people ahead of me was this lady ---

> a wild guess about 30-35 years old.  You know how when you are

> standing in line you will just look at people?  Well, this lady had

> the PERFECT figure.  I truly mean that.  Not one ounce of fat I

> think.  And the PERFECT shape too.  She was on the shorter side,

> wouldn't be surprised if she was only 5'3 " or so, but it made think. 

> I watched her for a moment.  First off, think she had a skirt on that

> was too short.  She was playing around with her cell phone.  She was

> attractive in the face.  Natural looking light brown hair but I could

> not help but wonder.......  How we might ALL look at people that seem

> to have that PERFECT shape.  I asked myself, here was this extremely

> attractive woman.. is she prettier than I am?  I honestly have to

> say.. and I am being completely honest here.  I thought she

> definetely had some attributes but I am not sure I would " trust " this

> person as much as someone else, and I am not sure I would like to

> live with the problems I think she would have to in life.  Meaning...

> she was attractive in a natural way.  She struck me as the kind of

> person that did not have to probably work hard at trying to maintain

> a nice figure, but I could not help but think other people,

> especially men could be attracted to her for the wrong reasons. 

> Don't get me wrong, I admire a nice looking woman, but when I tell

> you this lady had the PERFECT figure, I mean it. 

>

> I stepped on the scale just about an hour ago and I am @ 229 today. 

> Sixty more pounds to go I think.  I am 60 lbs away from my goal.

>

> Seeing this lady made me want to tell all in this group, we are all

> people.  Yes, it is nice to be in shape but it does not make the

> person entirely.  We all sound as though we are struggling alot but

> if we have the will power we will get to where we want to be but we

> must all keep in mind even if we reached our " weight goal " , not sure

> our problems will all be conquered. 

>

> Life can be a struggle sometimes on so many different aspects.  Let's

> try to keep focused.  Obviously there is more than one reason to be

> fit, but if we think it will be the answer to all our problems, I

> just think we are setting ourselves up for MORE disappointment,

> perhaps on another level. 

>

> Well, I hope many of you will understand what I am trying to say

> here. 

>

> Dianne 

>

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