Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 Louise, I will keep you in my prayers as you start your new journey. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Hi, I Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone! Having Breast Cancer was a club that no one wants to joins, but here we are. I'm not excluding other Cancers clubs when I say this. I've probably learned more from the people on this site thant all the nurses, and doctors I've been in contact with. This is a amazing site. Everyone is so warm and caring and I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. I've gone throuh all my surgeries and will be starting my Chemo on Tuesday, even though my breast wound is still quite open and quite large (due to an infection back in September) I'll be starting with FEC 100 which is made up of Florouracil then Epriubicin then Cyclophosphamide Is FEC 100 as stated above a list of drugs used in the USA? Then I believe Taxetere Then Herceptin And then Radiation I'm not sure of length of time, I'm just taking it one day at a time!! Good luck to everyone. You are all in my prayers.. Louise ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.15.3/561 - Release Date: 12/1/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 Thank you nne, I do feel I need all the prayers I get at this time. I'm learning so many things that I never wanted to learn about Cancer and treatments. And I have to say that I'm learning more about the people around me and the human race and love that we all share for people around us whom are in need of support. I find myself changing too, while I take this journey, I'm more thoughtful of others around me. I'm more patient and value life a whole lot more. Hugs to all, you are all Angles here on Earth!!! Louise & nne Svihlik wrote: Louise, I will keep you in my prayers as you start your new journey. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Hi, I Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone! Having Breast Cancer was a club that no one wants to joins, but here we are. I'm not excluding other Cancers clubs when I say this. I've probably learned more from the people on this site thant all the nurses, and doctors I've been in contact with. This is a amazing site. Everyone is so warm and caring and I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. I've gone throuh all my surgeries and will be starting my Chemo on Tuesday, even though my breast wound is still quite open and quite large (due to an infection back in September) I'll be starting with FEC 100 which is made up of Florouracil then Epriubicin then Cyclophosphamide Is FEC 100 as stated above a list of drugs used in the USA? Then I believe Taxetere Then Herceptin And then Radiation I'm not sure of length of time, I'm just taking it one day at a time!! Good luck to everyone. You are all in my prayers.. Louise ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.15.3/561 - Release Date: 12/1/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 Very well said Louise. It is a life changing event as far as I am concerned and I have learned a lot about human nature also. I noticed, for instance that your family as always is the best support you get and that there is a definite silence around you from outsiders. Acquaintances I used to speak with frequently, often do not even greet me. I've discovered that people do not know what to say and to forgive them for that. I used to be one of those people, not contacting persons in sad circumstances, but no more. I will not be a bother, but I will always say something to them now. Elle Louise Krueger wrote: Thank you nne, I do feel I need all the prayers I get at this time. I'm learning so many things that I never wanted to learn about Cancer and treatments. And I have to say that I'm learning more about the people around me and the human race and love that we all share for people around us whom are in need of support. I find myself changing too, while I take this journey, I'm more thoughtful of others around me. I'm more patient and value life a whole lot more. Hugs to all, you are all Angles here on Earth!!! Louise & nne Svihlik wrote: Louise, I will keep you in my prayers as you start your new journey. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Hi, I Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone! Having Breast Cancer was a club that no one wants to joins, but here we are. I'm not excluding other Cancers clubs when I say this. I've probably learned more from the people on this site thant all the nurses, and doctors I've been in contact with. This is a amazing site. Everyone is so warm and caring and I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. I've gone throuh all my surgeries and will be starting my Chemo on Tuesday, even though my breast wound is still quite open and quite large (due to an infection back in September) I'll be starting with FEC 100 which is made up of Florouracil then Epriubicin then Cyclophosphamide Is FEC 100 as stated above a list of drugs used in the USA? Then I believe Taxetere Then Herceptin And then Radiation I'm not sure of length of time, I'm just taking it one day at a time!! Good luck to everyone. You are all in my prayers.. Louise ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.15.3/561 - Release Date: 12/1/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 Louise, So glad you're getting so much out of the group! Stay with us, and we'll get you through! " When you discover your mission, you will feel its demand. It will fill you with enthusiasm and a burning desire to get to work on it. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 Louise, So glad you're getting so much out of the group! Stay with us, and we'll get you through! " When you discover your mission, you will feel its demand. It will fill you with enthusiasm and a burning desire to get to work on it. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 Louise, So glad you're getting so much out of the group! Stay with us, and we'll get you through! " When you discover your mission, you will feel its demand. It will fill you with enthusiasm and a burning desire to get to work on it. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 hi all, i have found that a friend whom i thought was a good friend can not cope with the fact that have had bc problems, sadly this has put a gap between us, hmm not sure how i can talk to her now, i decided during my treatment i needed a lot of rest to have a break from my friend and her problems, and yes the expericnce has been very life changing, sometimes it is a day at a time , and at the start i can say sometimes a breath at a time., and a lot of meditation. tc sandy Elle Pea wrote: Very well said Louise. It is a life changing event as far as I am concerned and I have learned a lot about human nature also. I noticed, for instance that your family as always is the best support you get and that there is a definite silence around you from outsiders. Acquaintances I used to speak with frequently, often do not even greet me. I've discovered that people do not know what to say and to forgive them for that. I used to be one of those people, not contacting persons in sad circumstances, but no more. I will not be a bother, but I will always say something to them now. Elle Louise Krueger wrote: Thank you nne, I do feel I need all the prayers I get at this time. I'm learning so many things that I never wanted to learn about Cancer and treatments. And I have to say that I'm learning more about the people around me and the human race and love that we all share for people around us whom are in need of support. I find myself changing too, while I take this journey, I'm more thoughtful of others around me. I'm more patient and value life a whole lot more. Hugs to all, you are all Angles here on Earth!!! Louise & nne Svihlik wrote: Louise, I will keep you in my prayers as you start your new journey. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Hi, I Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone! Having Breast Cancer was a club that no one wants to joins, but here we are. I'm not excluding other Cancers clubs when I say this. I've probably learned more from the people on this site thant all the nurses, and doctors I've been in contact with. This is a amazing site. Everyone is so warm and caring and I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. I've gone throuh all my surgeries and will be starting my Chemo on Tuesday, even though my breast wound is still quite open and quite large (due to an infection back in September) I'll be starting with FEC 100 which is made up of Florouracil then Epriubicin then Cyclophosphamide Is FEC 100 as stated above a list of drugs used in the USA? Then I believe Taxetere Then Herceptin And then Radiation I'm not sure of length of time, I'm just taking it one day at a time!! Good luck to everyone. You are all in my prayers.. Louise ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.15.3/561 - Release Date: 12/1/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 Sandy, I went through the same thing with friends. All but 2 dumped me when I was diagnosed. I have since found TRUE friends. You will be in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Hi, I Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone! Having Breast Cancer was a club that no one wants to joins, but here we are. I'm not excluding other Cancers clubs when I say this. I've probably learned more from the people on this site thant all the nurses, and doctors I've been in contact with. This is a amazing site. Everyone is so warm and caring and I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. I've gone throuh all my surgeries and will be starting my Chemo on Tuesday, even though my breast wound is still quite open and quite large (due to an infection back in September) I'll be starting with FEC 100 which is made up of Florouracil then Epriubicin then Cyclophosphamide Is FEC 100 as stated above a list of drugs used in the USA? Then I believe Taxetere Then Herceptin And then Radiation I'm not sure of length of time, I'm just taking it one day at a time!! Good luck to everyone. You are all in my prayers.. Louise ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.15.3/561 - Release Date: 12/1/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 I was working at the time when I found out I had cancer...I did take a week off when I had my chemo treatments to rest and girls in the office did not understand...I was told that I was taking off too much time and making some of the girls in office work a little harder...Other people said to me glad it is you and not me ...I could not deal with the cancer and then loosing your mom 4 months after my operation... I was living alone and really did not have that much support...had someone to take me to the rest of my chemo treatments but that was all...It is hard sometimes but it has been over 4 yrs now and I take one day at a time...have a boyfriend but no really close friends...Have one friend dont talk to her much... Most people say to you you are doing great . retired and moved to another state in 2004. Betsy Note: forwarded message attached. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 Elle I know what you mean, people in my local corner market which would normally chat with you for 15 minuted when you dropped in to do your shopping, now actualy avoid me. And I'm still the happy go lucky person, my personality hasn't changed however theirs have. And like you say... I can't blame them, I'm sure they are just afraid of what to say. One of my girlfriends was the greatest.. She just came out and said... I have NO IDEA what you are going through but I'm here for you.. if you need me to drop off a Girly gift box, chocolates, girly movies, bubble bath.... I think I liked her response to my illness the best... She certainly knew at first not to say.. I'm sorry you are not feeling well, because I feel fine. I might not say that next week when I start my Chemo.. but most of the people around me have been great. You ladies are the best... I'm truly bless to have found this site so early in my treatments. Bless you all, LK Elle Pea wrote: Very well said Louise. It is a life changing event as far as I am concerned and I have learned a lot about human nature also. I noticed, for instance that your family as always is the best support you get and that there is a definite silence around you from outsiders. Acquaintances I used to speak with frequently, often do not even greet me. I've discovered that people do not know what to say and to forgive them for that. I used to be one of those people, not contacting persons in sad circumstances, but no more. I will not be a bother, but I will always say something to them now. Elle Louise Krueger wrote: Thank you nne, I do feel I need all the prayers I get at this time. I'm learning so many things that I never wanted to learn about Cancer and treatments. And I have to say that I'm learning more about the people around me and the human race and love that we all share for people around us whom are in need of support. I find myself changing too, while I take this journey, I'm more thoughtful of others around me. I'm more patient and value life a whole lot more. Hugs to all, you are all Angles here on Earth!!! Louise & nne Svihlik wrote: Louise, I will keep you in my prayers as you start your new journey. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Hi, I Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone! Having Breast Cancer was a club that no one wants to joins, but here we are. I'm not excluding other Cancers clubs when I say this. I've probably learned more from the people on this site thant all the nurses, and doctors I've been in contact with. This is a amazing site. Everyone is so warm and caring and I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. I've gone throuh all my surgeries and will be starting my Chemo on Tuesday, even though my breast wound is still quite open and quite large (due to an infection back in September) I'll be starting with FEC 100 which is made up of Florouracil then Epriubicin then Cyclophosphamide Is FEC 100 as stated above a list of drugs used in the USA? Then I believe Taxetere Then Herceptin And then Radiation I'm not sure of length of time, I'm just taking it one day at a time!! Good luck to everyone. You are all in my prayers.. Louise ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.15.3/561 - Release Date: 12/1/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 A well know DR here in Canada wrote a book, Dr Marla Shapiro, she stated how some of her girls friends had arguments with her, stating... how dare Marla not respond to their emails or return their phone call and that She was rude. Dr Shapiro says, you're friends will just have to understand that this time IS ALL ABOUT YOU. You need to take the time to heal and you know when you are up to visitors or talking on the phone or writing letters... If your girls friends can't handle at this time, you may need to just say OH WELL and hope that you can mend the gap between you once you are well again. I guess some people just are totally freaked out about it. It may be that they are just so frightened that they might lose us... or it might be hard for them to see you so sick... It's hard to tell.... as long as we don't take it personally... I know when I was going through my divorce.. None of our friends would call me anymore, I was no longer invited to gatherings.... neither was my EX .. but it was really sad to lose some really close friends because they felt uncomfortable about the current situtation.. It seems so juvenile.. Hopefully your friendship will ride out your journey and mend when you are well again.. LK sandy lawson wrote: hi all, i have found that a friend whom i thought was a good friend can not cope with the fact that have had bc problems, sadly this has put a gap between us, hmm not sure how i can talk to her now, i decided during my treatment i needed a lot of rest to have a break from my friend and her problems, and yes the expericnce has been very life changing, sometimes it is a day at a time , and at the start i can say sometimes a breath at a time., and a lot of meditation. tc sandy Elle Pea wrote: Very well said Louise. It is a life changing event as far as I am concerned and I have learned a lot about human nature also. I noticed, for instance that your family as always is the best support you get and that there is a definite silence around you from outsiders. Acquaintances I used to speak with frequently, often do not even greet me. I've discovered that people do not know what to say and to forgive them for that. I used to be one of those people, not contacting persons in sad circumstances, but no more. I will not be a bother, but I will always say something to them now. Elle Louise Krueger wrote: Thank you nne, I do feel I need all the prayers I get at this time. I'm learning so many things that I never wanted to learn about Cancer and treatments. And I have to say that I'm learning more about the people around me and the human race and love that we all share for people around us whom are in need of support. I find myself changing too, while I take this journey, I'm more thoughtful of others around me. I'm more patient and value life a whole lot more. Hugs to all, you are all Angles here on Earth!!! Louise & nne Svihlik wrote: Louise, I will keep you in my prayers as you start your new journey. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Hi, I Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone! Having Breast Cancer was a club that no one wants to joins, but here we are. I'm not excluding other Cancers clubs when I say this. I've probably learned more from the people on this site thant all the nurses, and doctors I've been in contact with. This is a amazing site. Everyone is so warm and caring and I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. I've gone throuh all my surgeries and will be starting my Chemo on Tuesday, even though my breast wound is still quite open and quite large (due to an infection back in September) I'll be starting with FEC 100 which is made up of Florouracil then Epriubicin then Cyclophosphamide Is FEC 100 as stated above a list of drugs used in the USA? Then I believe Taxetere Then Herceptin And then Radiation I'm not sure of length of time, I'm just taking it one day at a time!! Good luck to everyone. You are all in my prayers.. Louise ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.15.3/561 - Release Date: 12/1/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 Besty, you'll have a lot of friends here... Thanks for sharing... I was working up until my surgeries starting in September and haven't been back since. There was only myself and one other sales rep... he just handed in his resignation.... SO my office now has no one in our Sales department and I start Chemo Tuesday... Kind of makes me feel like there will be pressure for my to hurry back to work... My office and all of the staff have been amazingly supportive.. my boss hasn't asked even once.. when I would be returning. I wish you well. LK Betsy Reading wrote: I was working at the time when I found out I had cancer...I did take a week off when I had my chemo treatments to rest and girls in the office did not understand...I was told that I was taking off too much time and making some of the girls in office work a little harder...Other people said to me glad it is you and not me ...I could not deal with the cancer and then loosing your mom 4 months after my operation... I was living alone and really did not have that much support...had someone to take me to the rest of my chemo treatments but that was all...It is hard sometimes but it has been over 4 yrs now and I take one day at a time...have a boyfriend but no really close friends...Have one friend dont talk to her much... Most people say to you you are doing great . retired and moved to another state in 2004. Betsy Note: forwarded message attached. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 Well, my friends don't call or email. Well, the ones I was talking about. It is not that I don't respond, they don't put forth the effort. Louise Krueger wrote: A well know DR here in Canada wrote a book, Dr Marla Shapiro, she stated how some of her girls friends had arguments with her, stating... how dare Marla not respond to their emails or return their phone call and that She was rude. Dr Shapiro says, you're friends will just have to understand that this time IS ALL ABOUT YOU. You need to take the time to heal and you know when you are up to visitors or talking on the phone or writing letters... If your girls friends can't handle at this time, you may need to just say OH WELL and hope that you can mend the gap between you once you are well again. I guess some people just are totally freaked out about it. It may be that they are just so frightened that they might lose us... or it might be hard for them to see you so sick... It's hard to tell.... as long as we don't take it personally... I know when I was going through my divorce.. None of our friends would call me anymore, I was no longer invited to gatherings.... neither was my EX .. but it was really sad to lose some really close friends because they felt uncomfortable about the current situtation.. It seems so juvenile.. Hopefully your friendship will ride out your journey and mend when you are well again.. LK sandy lawson wrote: hi all, i have found that a friend whom i thought was a good friend can not cope with the fact that have had bc problems, sadly this has put a gap between us, hmm not sure how i can talk to her now, i decided during my treatment i needed a lot of rest to have a break from my friend and her problems, and yes the expericnce has been very life changing, sometimes it is a day at a time , and at the start i can say sometimes a breath at a time., and a lot of meditation. tc sandy Elle Pea wrote: Very well said Louise. It is a life changing event as far as I am concerned and I have learned a lot about human nature also. I noticed, for instance that your family as always is the best support you get and that there is a definite silence around you from outsiders. Acquaintances I used to speak with frequently, often do not even greet me. I've discovered that people do not know what to say and to forgive them for that. I used to be one of those people, not contacting persons in sad circumstances, but no more. I will not be a bother, but I will always say something to them now. Elle Louise Krueger wrote: Thank you nne, I do feel I need all the prayers I get at this time. I'm learning so many things that I never wanted to learn about Cancer and treatments. And I have to say that I'm learning more about the people around me and the human race and love that we all share for people around us whom are in need of support. I find myself changing too, while I take this journey, I'm more thoughtful of others around me. I'm more patient and value life a whole lot more. Hugs to all, you are all Angles here on Earth!!! Louise & nne Svihlik wrote: Louise, I will keep you in my prayers as you start your new journey. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Hi, I Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone! Having Breast Cancer was a club that no one wants to joins, but here we are. I'm not excluding other Cancers clubs when I say this. I've probably learned more from the people on this site thant all the nurses, and doctors I've been in contact with. This is a amazing site. Everyone is so warm and caring and I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. I've gone throuh all my surgeries and will be starting my Chemo on Tuesday, even though my breast wound is still quite open and quite large (due to an infection back in September) I'll be starting with FEC 100 which is made up of Florouracil then Epriubicin then Cyclophosphamide Is FEC 100 as stated above a list of drugs used in the USA? Then I believe Taxetere Then Herceptin And then Radiation I'm not sure of length of time, I'm just taking it one day at a time!! Good luck to everyone. You are all in my prayers.. Louise ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.15.3/561 - Release Date: 12/1/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 Well, my friends don't call or email. Well, the ones I was talking about. It is not that I don't respond, they don't put forth the effort. Louise Krueger wrote: A well know DR here in Canada wrote a book, Dr Marla Shapiro, she stated how some of her girls friends had arguments with her, stating... how dare Marla not respond to their emails or return their phone call and that She was rude. Dr Shapiro says, you're friends will just have to understand that this time IS ALL ABOUT YOU. You need to take the time to heal and you know when you are up to visitors or talking on the phone or writing letters... If your girls friends can't handle at this time, you may need to just say OH WELL and hope that you can mend the gap between you once you are well again. I guess some people just are totally freaked out about it. It may be that they are just so frightened that they might lose us... or it might be hard for them to see you so sick... It's hard to tell.... as long as we don't take it personally... I know when I was going through my divorce.. None of our friends would call me anymore, I was no longer invited to gatherings.... neither was my EX .. but it was really sad to lose some really close friends because they felt uncomfortable about the current situtation.. It seems so juvenile.. Hopefully your friendship will ride out your journey and mend when you are well again.. LK sandy lawson wrote: hi all, i have found that a friend whom i thought was a good friend can not cope with the fact that have had bc problems, sadly this has put a gap between us, hmm not sure how i can talk to her now, i decided during my treatment i needed a lot of rest to have a break from my friend and her problems, and yes the expericnce has been very life changing, sometimes it is a day at a time , and at the start i can say sometimes a breath at a time., and a lot of meditation. tc sandy Elle Pea wrote: Very well said Louise. It is a life changing event as far as I am concerned and I have learned a lot about human nature also. I noticed, for instance that your family as always is the best support you get and that there is a definite silence around you from outsiders. Acquaintances I used to speak with frequently, often do not even greet me. I've discovered that people do not know what to say and to forgive them for that. I used to be one of those people, not contacting persons in sad circumstances, but no more. I will not be a bother, but I will always say something to them now. Elle Louise Krueger wrote: Thank you nne, I do feel I need all the prayers I get at this time. I'm learning so many things that I never wanted to learn about Cancer and treatments. And I have to say that I'm learning more about the people around me and the human race and love that we all share for people around us whom are in need of support. I find myself changing too, while I take this journey, I'm more thoughtful of others around me. I'm more patient and value life a whole lot more. Hugs to all, you are all Angles here on Earth!!! Louise & nne Svihlik wrote: Louise, I will keep you in my prayers as you start your new journey. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Hi, I Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone! Having Breast Cancer was a club that no one wants to joins, but here we are. I'm not excluding other Cancers clubs when I say this. I've probably learned more from the people on this site thant all the nurses, and doctors I've been in contact with. This is a amazing site. Everyone is so warm and caring and I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. I've gone throuh all my surgeries and will be starting my Chemo on Tuesday, even though my breast wound is still quite open and quite large (due to an infection back in September) I'll be starting with FEC 100 which is made up of Florouracil then Epriubicin then Cyclophosphamide Is FEC 100 as stated above a list of drugs used in the USA? Then I believe Taxetere Then Herceptin And then Radiation I'm not sure of length of time, I'm just taking it one day at a time!! Good luck to everyone. You are all in my prayers.. Louise ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.15.3/561 - Release Date: 12/1/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 Well, my friends don't call or email. Well, the ones I was talking about. It is not that I don't respond, they don't put forth the effort. Louise Krueger wrote: A well know DR here in Canada wrote a book, Dr Marla Shapiro, she stated how some of her girls friends had arguments with her, stating... how dare Marla not respond to their emails or return their phone call and that She was rude. Dr Shapiro says, you're friends will just have to understand that this time IS ALL ABOUT YOU. You need to take the time to heal and you know when you are up to visitors or talking on the phone or writing letters... If your girls friends can't handle at this time, you may need to just say OH WELL and hope that you can mend the gap between you once you are well again. I guess some people just are totally freaked out about it. It may be that they are just so frightened that they might lose us... or it might be hard for them to see you so sick... It's hard to tell.... as long as we don't take it personally... I know when I was going through my divorce.. None of our friends would call me anymore, I was no longer invited to gatherings.... neither was my EX .. but it was really sad to lose some really close friends because they felt uncomfortable about the current situtation.. It seems so juvenile.. Hopefully your friendship will ride out your journey and mend when you are well again.. LK sandy lawson wrote: hi all, i have found that a friend whom i thought was a good friend can not cope with the fact that have had bc problems, sadly this has put a gap between us, hmm not sure how i can talk to her now, i decided during my treatment i needed a lot of rest to have a break from my friend and her problems, and yes the expericnce has been very life changing, sometimes it is a day at a time , and at the start i can say sometimes a breath at a time., and a lot of meditation. tc sandy Elle Pea wrote: Very well said Louise. It is a life changing event as far as I am concerned and I have learned a lot about human nature also. I noticed, for instance that your family as always is the best support you get and that there is a definite silence around you from outsiders. Acquaintances I used to speak with frequently, often do not even greet me. I've discovered that people do not know what to say and to forgive them for that. I used to be one of those people, not contacting persons in sad circumstances, but no more. I will not be a bother, but I will always say something to them now. Elle Louise Krueger wrote: Thank you nne, I do feel I need all the prayers I get at this time. I'm learning so many things that I never wanted to learn about Cancer and treatments. And I have to say that I'm learning more about the people around me and the human race and love that we all share for people around us whom are in need of support. I find myself changing too, while I take this journey, I'm more thoughtful of others around me. I'm more patient and value life a whole lot more. Hugs to all, you are all Angles here on Earth!!! Louise & nne Svihlik wrote: Louise, I will keep you in my prayers as you start your new journey. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Hi, I Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone! Having Breast Cancer was a club that no one wants to joins, but here we are. I'm not excluding other Cancers clubs when I say this. I've probably learned more from the people on this site thant all the nurses, and doctors I've been in contact with. This is a amazing site. Everyone is so warm and caring and I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. I've gone throuh all my surgeries and will be starting my Chemo on Tuesday, even though my breast wound is still quite open and quite large (due to an infection back in September) I'll be starting with FEC 100 which is made up of Florouracil then Epriubicin then Cyclophosphamide Is FEC 100 as stated above a list of drugs used in the USA? Then I believe Taxetere Then Herceptin And then Radiation I'm not sure of length of time, I'm just taking it one day at a time!! Good luck to everyone. You are all in my prayers.. Louise ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.15.3/561 - Release Date: 12/1/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 Yeah, that's what I'm talking about Louise. You just want to say, " I'm not contagious! " I am also blessed to have found this group so early. Louise Krueger wrote: Elle I know what you mean, people in my local corner market which would normally chat with you for 15 minuted when you dropped in to do your shopping, now actualy avoid me. And I'm still the happy go lucky person, my personality hasn't changed however theirs have. And like you say... I can't blame them, I'm sure they are just afraid of what to say. One of my girlfriends was the greatest.. She just came out and said... I have NO IDEA what you are going through but I'm here for you.. if you need me to drop off a Girly gift box, chocolates, girly movies, bubble bath.... I think I liked her response to my illness the best... She certainly knew at first not to say.. I'm sorry you are not feeling well, because I feel fine. I might not say that next week when I start my Chemo.. but most of the people around me have been great. You ladies are the best... I'm truly bless to have found this site so early in my treatments. Bless you all, LK Elle Pea wrote: Very well said Louise. It is a life changing event as far as I am concerned and I have learned a lot about human nature also. I noticed, for instance that your family as always is the best support you get and that there is a definite silence around you from outsiders. Acquaintances I used to speak with frequently, often do not even greet me. I've discovered that people do not know what to say and to forgive them for that. I used to be one of those people, not contacting persons in sad circumstances, but no more. I will not be a bother, but I will always say something to them now. Elle Louise Krueger wrote: Thank you nne, I do feel I need all the prayers I get at this time. I'm learning so many things that I never wanted to learn about Cancer and treatments. And I have to say that I'm learning more about the people around me and the human race and love that we all share for people around us whom are in need of support. I find myself changing too, while I take this journey, I'm more thoughtful of others around me. I'm more patient and value life a whole lot more. Hugs to all, you are all Angles here on Earth!!! Louise & nne Svihlik wrote: Louise, I will keep you in my prayers as you start your new journey. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Hi, I Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone! Having Breast Cancer was a club that no one wants to joins, but here we are. I'm not excluding other Cancers clubs when I say this. I've probably learned more from the people on this site thant all the nurses, and doctors I've been in contact with. This is a amazing site. Everyone is so warm and caring and I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. I've gone throuh all my surgeries and will be starting my Chemo on Tuesday, even though my breast wound is still quite open and quite large (due to an infection back in September) I'll be starting with FEC 100 which is made up of Florouracil then Epriubicin then Cyclophosphamide Is FEC 100 as stated above a list of drugs used in the USA? Then I believe Taxetere Then Herceptin And then Radiation I'm not sure of length of time, I'm just taking it one day at a time!! Good luck to everyone. You are all in my prayers.. Louise ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.15.3/561 - Release Date: 12/1/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2006 Report Share Posted December 1, 2006 Yeah, that's what I'm talking about Louise. You just want to say, " I'm not contagious! " I am also blessed to have found this group so early. Louise Krueger wrote: Elle I know what you mean, people in my local corner market which would normally chat with you for 15 minuted when you dropped in to do your shopping, now actualy avoid me. And I'm still the happy go lucky person, my personality hasn't changed however theirs have. And like you say... I can't blame them, I'm sure they are just afraid of what to say. One of my girlfriends was the greatest.. She just came out and said... I have NO IDEA what you are going through but I'm here for you.. if you need me to drop off a Girly gift box, chocolates, girly movies, bubble bath.... I think I liked her response to my illness the best... She certainly knew at first not to say.. I'm sorry you are not feeling well, because I feel fine. I might not say that next week when I start my Chemo.. but most of the people around me have been great. You ladies are the best... I'm truly bless to have found this site so early in my treatments. Bless you all, LK Elle Pea wrote: Very well said Louise. It is a life changing event as far as I am concerned and I have learned a lot about human nature also. I noticed, for instance that your family as always is the best support you get and that there is a definite silence around you from outsiders. Acquaintances I used to speak with frequently, often do not even greet me. I've discovered that people do not know what to say and to forgive them for that. I used to be one of those people, not contacting persons in sad circumstances, but no more. I will not be a bother, but I will always say something to them now. Elle Louise Krueger wrote: Thank you nne, I do feel I need all the prayers I get at this time. I'm learning so many things that I never wanted to learn about Cancer and treatments. And I have to say that I'm learning more about the people around me and the human race and love that we all share for people around us whom are in need of support. I find myself changing too, while I take this journey, I'm more thoughtful of others around me. I'm more patient and value life a whole lot more. Hugs to all, you are all Angles here on Earth!!! Louise & nne Svihlik wrote: Louise, I will keep you in my prayers as you start your new journey. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Hi, I Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone! Having Breast Cancer was a club that no one wants to joins, but here we are. I'm not excluding other Cancers clubs when I say this. I've probably learned more from the people on this site thant all the nurses, and doctors I've been in contact with. This is a amazing site. Everyone is so warm and caring and I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. I've gone throuh all my surgeries and will be starting my Chemo on Tuesday, even though my breast wound is still quite open and quite large (due to an infection back in September) I'll be starting with FEC 100 which is made up of Florouracil then Epriubicin then Cyclophosphamide Is FEC 100 as stated above a list of drugs used in the USA? Then I believe Taxetere Then Herceptin And then Radiation I'm not sure of length of time, I'm just taking it one day at a time!! Good luck to everyone. You are all in my prayers.. Louise ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.15.3/561 - Release Date: 12/1/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 4, 2006 Report Share Posted December 4, 2006 Thank you , everyone here is so amazing!!! Chemo starts tomorrow... I'm getting nervous... I wasn't worried about the surgeries... The CHEMO I think is what is making this all so real... Bless all of you for all of the support you give both me and everyone else here.. Hugs LK ssist@... wrote: Louise, So glad you're getting so much out of the group! Stay with us, and we'll get you through! " When you discover your mission, you will feel its demand. It will fill you with enthusiasm and a burning desire to get to work on it. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 4, 2006 Report Share Posted December 4, 2006 Maybe we should have T-shirts printed up that say that... I have Cancer, I'm not Contagious...... I'm still ME Elle Pea wrote: Yeah, that's what I'm talking about Louise. You just want to say, " I'm not contagious! " I am also blessed to have found this group so early. Louise Krueger wrote: Elle I know what you mean, people in my local corner market which would normally chat with you for 15 minuted when you dropped in to do your shopping, now actualy avoid me. And I'm still the happy go lucky person, my personality hasn't changed however theirs have. And like you say... I can't blame them, I'm sure they are just afraid of what to say. One of my girlfriends was the greatest.. She just came out and said... I have NO IDEA what you are going through but I'm here for you.. if you need me to drop off a Girly gift box, chocolates, girly movies, bubble bath.... I think I liked her response to my illness the best... She certainly knew at first not to say.. I'm sorry you are not feeling well, because I feel fine. I might not say that next week when I start my Chemo.. but most of the people around me have been great. You ladies are the best... I'm truly bless to have found this site so early in my treatments. Bless you all, LK Elle Pea wrote: Very well said Louise. It is a life changing event as far as I am concerned and I have learned a lot about human nature also. I noticed, for instance that your family as always is the best support you get and that there is a definite silence around you from outsiders. Acquaintances I used to speak with frequently, often do not even greet me. I've discovered that people do not know what to say and to forgive them for that. I used to be one of those people, not contacting persons in sad circumstances, but no more. I will not be a bother, but I will always say something to them now. Elle Louise Krueger wrote: Thank you nne, I do feel I need all the prayers I get at this time. I'm learning so many things that I never wanted to learn about Cancer and treatments. And I have to say that I'm learning more about the people around me and the human race and love that we all share for people around us whom are in need of support. I find myself changing too, while I take this journey, I'm more thoughtful of others around me. I'm more patient and value life a whole lot more. Hugs to all, you are all Angles here on Earth!!! Louise & nne Svihlik wrote: Louise, I will keep you in my prayers as you start your new journey. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Hi, I Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone! Having Breast Cancer was a club that no one wants to joins, but here we are. I'm not excluding other Cancers clubs when I say this. I've probably learned more from the people on this site thant all the nurses, and doctors I've been in contact with. This is a amazing site. Everyone is so warm and caring and I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. I've gone throuh all my surgeries and will be starting my Chemo on Tuesday, even though my breast wound is still quite open and quite large (due to an infection back in September) I'll be starting with FEC 100 which is made up of Florouracil then Epriubicin then Cyclophosphamide Is FEC 100 as stated above a list of drugs used in the USA? Then I believe Taxetere Then Herceptin And then Radiation I'm not sure of length of time, I'm just taking it one day at a time!! Good luck to everyone. You are all in my prayers.. Louise ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.15.3/561 - Release Date: 12/1/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 4, 2006 Report Share Posted December 4, 2006 LK its normal to be nervous. Fear of the unknown is the worst part. Be sure to ask the onc for something for nausea and also depending on what chemo you are getting sucking on ice helps prevent mouth sores. I didn't know this at the time I got my chemo but luckily I never had mouth sores. Just be sure to listen to your body and if you get tired rest. You will be in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Re: Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Thank you , everyone here is so amazing!!! Chemo starts tomorrow... I'm getting nervous... I wasn't worried about the surgeries... The CHEMO I think is what is making this all so real... Bless all of you for all of the support you give both me and everyone else here.. Hugs LK ssist@... wrote: Louise, So glad you're getting so much out of the group! Stay with us, and we'll get you through! " When you discover your mission, you will feel its demand. It will fill you with enthusiasm and a burning desire to get to work on it. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 4, 2006 Report Share Posted December 4, 2006 There is just so much to learn isn't there. Great advise... I already know where the ice machine is near the " SUN ROOM " there is what they've named the room where they do the chemo treatments... I was given information on the ANTI nausea drug which is I believe $25 per pill, and have checked and my drug plan will cover the cost!!! Which I'm greatful for. Again, you are so helpful... thanks again and God BLess you XOXO LK & nne Svihlik wrote: LK its normal to be nervous. Fear of the unknown is the worst part. Be sure to ask the onc for something for nausea and also depending on what chemo you are getting sucking on ice helps prevent mouth sores. I didn't know this at the time I got my chemo but luckily I never had mouth sores. Just be sure to listen to your body and if you get tired rest. You will be in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com Re: Just wanted to say Thank You to Everyone Thank you , everyone here is so amazing!!! Chemo starts tomorrow... I'm getting nervous... I wasn't worried about the surgeries... The CHEMO I think is what is making this all so real... Bless all of you for all of the support you give both me and everyone else here.. Hugs LK ssist@... wrote: Louise, So glad you're getting so much out of the group! Stay with us, and we'll get you through! " When you discover your mission, you will feel its demand. It will fill you with enthusiasm and a burning desire to get to work on it. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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