Thanks for letting me join your group

[Guest guest]

I might be in wrong group. If I am please advise.

My DD age 38 was diagnosed with BC at the end of Oct. She has had to

surgeries in as many weeks. The first a lumpectomy with removal of

one lymph node. The node showed cells, so she went in the following

week for removal of more nodes. The pathology report from that showed

that 7 of the 12 removed were positive. Tuesday of this week she had

a Pet Scan and we should have those results tomorrow.

My DD is so upbeat, positive and very proactive about this whole

thing. She told me that it's like she is in a dream world and reality

has not hit her yet.

Reality has hit me right smack in the face and I am the one having the

hard time dealing with this.

I was looking for a group, just to vent and learn, or whatever I need.

I don't even know at this point what I need. I just want to be able

to help her and be supportive of her, which I have been. She don't

see my tears...

Anyway, if this is not that type of group please let me know,,,

Dramaw

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the group. You came to the right place for support and information.

Everyone handles their diagnosis differently. My diagnosis didn't bother me one

bit. My Father and sister had already died of cancer and I felt it was just a

matter of time before it was my turn. I decided cancer got them it was NOT going

to get me. That was over 16 1/2 years.

Please remember that breast cancer is not the death sentence it was once thought

to be. Many women live long productive lives. One of the most important things

is for her to keep a positive attitude and take charge in the decision making.

Please feel free to ask any questions you may have or if she has any please let

us know. We would love to have her join us. I will keep you both in my prayers.

Hugs

nne

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Thanks for letting me join your group

I might be in wrong group. If I am please advise.

My DD age 38 was diagnosed with BC at the end of Oct. She has had to

surgeries in as many weeks. The first a lumpectomy with removal of

one lymph node. The node showed cells, so she went in the following

week for removal of more nodes. The pathology report from that showed

that 7 of the 12 removed were positive. Tuesday of this week she had

a Pet Scan and we should have those results tomorrow.

My DD is so upbeat, positive and very proactive about this whole

thing. She told me that it's like she is in a dream world and reality

has not hit her yet.

Reality has hit me right smack in the face and I am the one having the

hard time dealing with this.

I was looking for a group, just to vent and learn, or whatever I need.

I don't even know at this point what I need. I just want to be able

to help her and be supportive of her, which I have been. She don't

see my tears...

Anyway, if this is not that type of group please let me know,,,

Dramaw

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[Guest guest]

Welcome to the group and know that Moms are a breed of people unto

themselves! From the moment we give birth we worry! I'm glad to hear

your daughter is so upbeat. Back in my day (21 years ago) my surgeon

told me " it's not a death sentence today " , so today years later, it's

just plain normal to go on and have a rich, full life. Again welcome.

--

Angel (A.K.A. Mari)

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[Guest guest]

Thanks to all of you for the warm welcome. I really didn't want all my

postings to be about me,,,but it seems like they are turning into that. I

just am not doing well with this...I am sinking into a deep depression and

am fighting that with everything in me.

I suffer from Fibro, which I have daily constant pain from throughout my

body, no matter what meds the docs put me on, the pain does not go away. I

can't remember a pain free day. Anyhoo, I try to keep this away from my

kids. I try not to let them see the pain. I am very upbeat when they call,

although sometimes I feel like throwing the phone...I have always taken care

of everything for my family,,and I mean everything and now with this

condition/disease whatever it's classified as, I can no longer do that. For

me that's hard. I had to give up my job 3 years ago due to the pain and

it's way of affecting my memory.

I helped Jami take a shower because she couldn't use her arm..I bent over a

little bit to reach her and I could not straighten back up, sew not wanting

her to know this, I picked up the towels and stayed bent over until I could

get out of her site and hold the walls to find a place to sit down.

I cry, just cry,,,by myself...no matter what I am doing the tears just

flow. My world has stopped. I am so happy for the state of mind she is in

and I don't want to do or say anything that will change that for her.

I don't know what to do...I don't know how to get a grip on this...

Thanks for listening...

Dramaw

O

[Guest guest]

Welcome,

I am 41 and was diagnosed with IDC last July. This has been much

harder on my Mom than it has been on me. She has been such and angel

for me. Each chemo week she is here (5 hours from her house) and

taking care of me, making me food, cleaning my house etc. I had

surgery two weeks ago and she was here again.

She tries hard to stay upbeat around me but I know she worries a

lot. In some ways it is easier that those going thru it than those

that love them.

>

> I might be in wrong group. If I am please advise.

>

> My DD age 38 was diagnosed with BC at the end of Oct. She has had

to

> surgeries in as many weeks. The first a lumpectomy with removal of

> one lymph node. The node showed cells, so she went in the following

> week for removal of more nodes. The pathology report from that

showed

> that 7 of the 12 removed were positive. Tuesday of this week she

had

> a Pet Scan and we should have those results tomorrow.

>

> My DD is so upbeat, positive and very proactive about this whole

> thing. She told me that it's like she is in a dream world and

reality

> has not hit her yet.

>

> Reality has hit me right smack in the face and I am the one having

the

> hard time dealing with this.

>

> I was looking for a group, just to vent and learn, or whatever I

need.

> I don't even know at this point what I need. I just want to be able

> to help her and be supportive of her, which I have been. She don't

> see my tears...

>

> Anyway, if this is not that type of group please let me know,,,

>

> Dramaw

>

[Guest guest]

> >

> > I might be in wrong group. If I am please advise.

> >

> > My DD age 38 was diagnosed with BC at the end of Oct. She has

had

> to

> > surgeries in as many weeks. The first a lumpectomy with removal

of

> > one lymph node. The node showed cells, so she went in the

following

> > week for removal of more nodes. The pathology report from that

> showed

> > that 7 of the 12 removed were positive. Tuesday of this week she

> had

> > a Pet Scan and we should have those results tomorrow.

> >

> > My DD is so upbeat, positive and very proactive about this whole

> > thing. She told me that it's like she is in a dream world and

> reality

> > has not hit her yet.

> >

> > Reality has hit me right smack in the face and I am the one

having

> the

> > hard time dealing with this.

> >

> > I was looking for a group, just to vent and learn, or whatever I

> need.

> > I don't even know at this point what I need. I just want to be

able

> > to help her and be supportive of her, which I have been. She

don't

> > see my tears...

> >

> > Anyway, if this is not that type of group please let me know,,,

> >

> > Dramaw

> >

>

Good Morning everyone,

It is 5:28am in Los Angeles

You're in the right group. Keep venting crying and asking...

Nobody expects to be that 1 out of 9 women to be diagnosed...

I couldn't overlook that cells(cancer)seem to run riot in my family:4

Lung,2 Multiple mylemas(Bone)1 Postrate, 1 Liver now me.

I'm thinking about my sons 19 and 15...Trying to turn our eating

habits around, seem s a bigger task than the BC! Anyway, just

trying to show you, it's okay to talk about anything you want. My

other than cancer business,is getting my business started for June

2007. It's a 3-bed residential facility for the developmentally

disabled and the funding agency turned down the house i'd found, this

past Tuesday(Wowwwww, House hunting under chemo, Imagine

that)...Something Like " Molasses running uphill in the wintertime " ...

Everyone have a great day!

Sandy from Los Angeles

[Guest guest]

You need to go to the dr and get something for your depression. You are running

yourself down more trying to put on a good front when the kids call etc. Its OK

to cry and be upset. You have to take care of YOU. Is there anyone else that can

help Jami? I am sure if she knew what happened in the bathroom she wouldn't want

you there in such pain. I will keep you both in my prayers.

Hugs

nne

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http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html

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Re: Re:Thanks for letting me join your group

Thanks to all of you for the warm welcome. I really didn't want all my

postings to be about me,,,but it seems like they are turning into that. I

just am not doing well with this...I am sinking into a deep depression and

am fighting that with everything in me.

I suffer from Fibro, which I have daily constant pain from throughout my

body, no matter what meds the docs put me on, the pain does not go away. I

can't remember a pain free day. Anyhoo, I try to keep this away from my

kids. I try not to let them see the pain. I am very upbeat when they call,

although sometimes I feel like throwing the phone...I have always taken care

of everything for my family,,and I mean everything and now with this

condition/disease whatever it's classified as, I can no longer do that. For

me that's hard. I had to give up my job 3 years ago due to the pain and

it's way of affecting my memory.

I helped Jami take a shower because she couldn't use her arm..I bent over a

little bit to reach her and I could not straighten back up, sew not wanting

her to know this, I picked up the towels and stayed bent over until I could

get out of her site and hold the walls to find a place to sit down.

I cry, just cry,,,by myself...no matter what I am doing the tears just

flow. My world has stopped. I am so happy for the state of mind she is in

and I don't want to do or say anything that will change that for her.

I don't know what to do...I don't know how to get a grip on this...

Thanks for listening...

Dramaw

O

[Guest guest]

You need to go to the dr and get something for your depression. You are running

yourself down more trying to put on a good front when the kids call etc. Its OK

to cry and be upset. You have to take care of YOU. Is there anyone else that can

help Jami? I am sure if she knew what happened in the bathroom she wouldn't want

you there in such pain. I will keep you both in my prayers.

Hugs

nne

Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life

http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html

BreastCancerStories.com

http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/

Angel Feather Loomer

www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com

Check out my other ornaments at

www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html

Lots of info and gifts at:

www.cancerclub.com

Re: Re:Thanks for letting me join your group

Thanks to all of you for the warm welcome. I really didn't want all my

postings to be about me,,,but it seems like they are turning into that. I

just am not doing well with this...I am sinking into a deep depression and

am fighting that with everything in me.

I suffer from Fibro, which I have daily constant pain from throughout my

body, no matter what meds the docs put me on, the pain does not go away. I

can't remember a pain free day. Anyhoo, I try to keep this away from my

kids. I try not to let them see the pain. I am very upbeat when they call,

although sometimes I feel like throwing the phone...I have always taken care

of everything for my family,,and I mean everything and now with this

condition/disease whatever it's classified as, I can no longer do that. For

me that's hard. I had to give up my job 3 years ago due to the pain and

it's way of affecting my memory.

I helped Jami take a shower because she couldn't use her arm..I bent over a

little bit to reach her and I could not straighten back up, sew not wanting

her to know this, I picked up the towels and stayed bent over until I could

get out of her site and hold the walls to find a place to sit down.

I cry, just cry,,,by myself...no matter what I am doing the tears just

flow. My world has stopped. I am so happy for the state of mind she is in

and I don't want to do or say anything that will change that for her.

I don't know what to do...I don't know how to get a grip on this...

Thanks for listening...

Dramaw

O

[Guest guest]

You need to go to the dr and get something for your depression. You are running

yourself down more trying to put on a good front when the kids call etc. Its OK

to cry and be upset. You have to take care of YOU. Is there anyone else that can

help Jami? I am sure if she knew what happened in the bathroom she wouldn't want

you there in such pain. I will keep you both in my prayers.

Hugs

nne

Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life

http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html

BreastCancerStories.com

http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/

Angel Feather Loomer

www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com

Check out my other ornaments at

www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html

Lots of info and gifts at:

www.cancerclub.com

Re: Re:Thanks for letting me join your group

Thanks to all of you for the warm welcome. I really didn't want all my

postings to be about me,,,but it seems like they are turning into that. I

just am not doing well with this...I am sinking into a deep depression and

am fighting that with everything in me.

I suffer from Fibro, which I have daily constant pain from throughout my

body, no matter what meds the docs put me on, the pain does not go away. I

can't remember a pain free day. Anyhoo, I try to keep this away from my

kids. I try not to let them see the pain. I am very upbeat when they call,

although sometimes I feel like throwing the phone...I have always taken care

of everything for my family,,and I mean everything and now with this

condition/disease whatever it's classified as, I can no longer do that. For

me that's hard. I had to give up my job 3 years ago due to the pain and

it's way of affecting my memory.

I helped Jami take a shower because she couldn't use her arm..I bent over a

little bit to reach her and I could not straighten back up, sew not wanting

her to know this, I picked up the towels and stayed bent over until I could

get out of her site and hold the walls to find a place to sit down.

I cry, just cry,,,by myself...no matter what I am doing the tears just

flow. My world has stopped. I am so happy for the state of mind she is in

and I don't want to do or say anything that will change that for her.

I don't know what to do...I don't know how to get a grip on this...

Thanks for listening...

Dramaw

O

[Guest guest]

<In some ways it is easier that those going thru it than those

that love them.>

I found that for my family as well. My daughter lives 12 hours away (by car) and

kept telling me...'just say the word, Mom, I'll be there.' I finally told her to

come as she needed to be here more than I needed her. Also find that when I cry,

my dh cries, and makes me feel terrible. When I'm in pain, he cries.... much

harder for him, I think, than for me.

So glad your Mom is there for you. It certainly is a time when having your Mom

there is important. My Mom has Alzheimers and we have not told her. Now she just

thinks I went in for a funny haircut. Sure miss her.

Barb

Michigan

Re: Thanks for letting me join your group

Welcome,

I am 41 and was diagnosed with IDC last July. This has been much

harder on my Mom than it has been on me. She has been such and angel

for me. Each chemo week she is here (5 hours from her house) and

taking care of me, making me food, cleaning my house etc. I had

surgery two weeks ago and she was here again.

She tries hard to stay upbeat around me but I know she worries a

lot. In some ways it is easier that those going thru it than those

that love them.

>

> I might be in wrong group. If I am please advise.

>

> My DD age 38 was diagnosed with BC at the end of Oct. She has had

to

> surgeries in as many weeks. The first a lumpectomy with removal of

> one lymph node. The node showed cells, so she went in the following

> week for removal of more nodes. The pathology report from that

showed

> that 7 of the 12 removed were positive. Tuesday of this week she

had

> a Pet Scan and we should have those results tomorrow.

>

> My DD is so upbeat, positive and very proactive about this whole

> thing. She told me that it's like she is in a dream world and

reality

> has not hit her yet.

>

> Reality has hit me right smack in the face and I am the one having

the

> hard time dealing with this.

>

> I was looking for a group, just to vent and learn, or whatever I

need.

> I don't even know at this point what I need. I just want to be able

> to help her and be supportive of her, which I have been. She don't

> see my tears...

>

> Anyway, if this is not that type of group please let me know,,,

>

> Dramaw

>

[Guest guest]

<In some ways it is easier that those going thru it than those

that love them.>

I found that for my family as well. My daughter lives 12 hours away (by car) and

kept telling me...'just say the word, Mom, I'll be there.' I finally told her to

come as she needed to be here more than I needed her. Also find that when I cry,

my dh cries, and makes me feel terrible. When I'm in pain, he cries.... much

harder for him, I think, than for me.

So glad your Mom is there for you. It certainly is a time when having your Mom

there is important. My Mom has Alzheimers and we have not told her. Now she just

thinks I went in for a funny haircut. Sure miss her.

Barb

Michigan

Re: Thanks for letting me join your group

Welcome,

I am 41 and was diagnosed with IDC last July. This has been much

harder on my Mom than it has been on me. She has been such and angel

for me. Each chemo week she is here (5 hours from her house) and

taking care of me, making me food, cleaning my house etc. I had

surgery two weeks ago and she was here again.

She tries hard to stay upbeat around me but I know she worries a

lot. In some ways it is easier that those going thru it than those

that love them.

>

> I might be in wrong group. If I am please advise.

>

> My DD age 38 was diagnosed with BC at the end of Oct. She has had

to

> surgeries in as many weeks. The first a lumpectomy with removal of

> one lymph node. The node showed cells, so she went in the following

> week for removal of more nodes. The pathology report from that

showed

> that 7 of the 12 removed were positive. Tuesday of this week she

had

> a Pet Scan and we should have those results tomorrow.

>

> My DD is so upbeat, positive and very proactive about this whole

> thing. She told me that it's like she is in a dream world and

reality

> has not hit her yet.

>

> Reality has hit me right smack in the face and I am the one having

the

> hard time dealing with this.

>

> I was looking for a group, just to vent and learn, or whatever I

need.

> I don't even know at this point what I need. I just want to be able

> to help her and be supportive of her, which I have been. She don't

> see my tears...

>

> Anyway, if this is not that type of group please let me know,,,

>

> Dramaw

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks to all of you for your kind words of wisdon. It is true Jami does

not want to see me in pain and she does worry about me. I don't want her to

do that. There is no one else around to help..Her husband works nights and

is home on the weekends...Jami has a 16 year old son who is very helpful

with what he can do and she also has a 3 yr old daughter. I keep her most

of the time right now. We have no family in this town and my other 2

children live 2 1/2 hours away...

I do take pain and depression medication but it doesn't seem to be

working...LOL I have put a call into my doctor..This is so totally not

me,,,not being on top of things...I am so different than I was 4 years

ago,,it doesn't seem like me...

I do have a question. Is it necessary at this point to get a second opinion

on tx? Chemo is suppose to start December 26. The surgeon told Jami he

would personally set her up with the doc of her choosing if she would let

him know who she wanted to see, but in no way could she delay the start of

Chemo. So I am wondering since she has already had the 2 surgeries, is a

second opinion for tx necessary?

Is there more than one type of Chemo tx?

Dramaw

>

> You need to go to the dr and get something for your depression. You are

> running yourself down more trying to put on a good front when the kids call

> etc. Its OK to cry and be upset. You have to take care of YOU. Is there

> anyone else that can help Jami? I am sure if she knew what happened in the

> bathroom she wouldn't want you there in such pain. I will keep you both in

> my prayers.

> Hugs

> nne

> Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life

> http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html

> BreastCancerStories.com

> http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/

> Angel Feather Loomer

> www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com

> Check out my other ornaments at

> www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html

> Lots of info and gifts at:

> www.cancerclub.com

>

> Re: Re:Thanks for letting me join your group

>

> Thanks to all of you for the warm welcome. I really didn't want all my

> postings to be about me,,,but it seems like they are turning into that. I

> just am not doing well with this...I am sinking into a deep depression and

> am fighting that with everything in me.

>

> I suffer from Fibro, which I have daily constant pain from throughout my

> body, no matter what meds the docs put me on, the pain does not go away. I

> can't remember a pain free day. Anyhoo, I try to keep this away from my

> kids. I try not to let them see the pain. I am very upbeat when they call,

> although sometimes I feel like throwing the phone...I have always taken

> care

> of everything for my family,,and I mean everything and now with this

> condition/disease whatever it's classified as, I can no longer do that.

> For

> me that's hard. I had to give up my job 3 years ago due to the pain and

> it's way of affecting my memory.

>

> I helped Jami take a shower because she couldn't use her arm..I bent over

> a

> little bit to reach her and I could not straighten back up, sew not

> wanting

> her to know this, I picked up the towels and stayed bent over until I

> could

> get out of her site and hold the walls to find a place to sit down.

>

> I cry, just cry,,,by myself...no matter what I am doing the tears just

> flow. My world has stopped. I am so happy for the state of mind she is in

> and I don't want to do or say anything that will change that for her.

>

> I don't know what to do...I don't know how to get a grip on this...

>

> Thanks for listening...

>

> Dramaw

>

> O

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks to all of you for your kind words of wisdon. It is true Jami does

not want to see me in pain and she does worry about me. I don't want her to

do that. There is no one else around to help..Her husband works nights and

is home on the weekends...Jami has a 16 year old son who is very helpful

with what he can do and she also has a 3 yr old daughter. I keep her most

of the time right now. We have no family in this town and my other 2

children live 2 1/2 hours away...

I do take pain and depression medication but it doesn't seem to be

working...LOL I have put a call into my doctor..This is so totally not

me,,,not being on top of things...I am so different than I was 4 years

ago,,it doesn't seem like me...

I do have a question. Is it necessary at this point to get a second opinion

on tx? Chemo is suppose to start December 26. The surgeon told Jami he

would personally set her up with the doc of her choosing if she would let

him know who she wanted to see, but in no way could she delay the start of

Chemo. So I am wondering since she has already had the 2 surgeries, is a

second opinion for tx necessary?

Is there more than one type of Chemo tx?

Dramaw

>

> You need to go to the dr and get something for your depression. You are

> running yourself down more trying to put on a good front when the kids call

> etc. Its OK to cry and be upset. You have to take care of YOU. Is there

> anyone else that can help Jami? I am sure if she knew what happened in the

> bathroom she wouldn't want you there in such pain. I will keep you both in

> my prayers.

> Hugs

> nne

> Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life

> http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html

> BreastCancerStories.com

> http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/

> Angel Feather Loomer

> www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com

> Check out my other ornaments at

> www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html

> Lots of info and gifts at:

> www.cancerclub.com

>

> Re: Re:Thanks for letting me join your group

>

> Thanks to all of you for the warm welcome. I really didn't want all my

> postings to be about me,,,but it seems like they are turning into that. I

> just am not doing well with this...I am sinking into a deep depression and

> am fighting that with everything in me.

>

> I suffer from Fibro, which I have daily constant pain from throughout my

> body, no matter what meds the docs put me on, the pain does not go away. I

> can't remember a pain free day. Anyhoo, I try to keep this away from my

> kids. I try not to let them see the pain. I am very upbeat when they call,

> although sometimes I feel like throwing the phone...I have always taken

> care

> of everything for my family,,and I mean everything and now with this

> condition/disease whatever it's classified as, I can no longer do that.

> For

> me that's hard. I had to give up my job 3 years ago due to the pain and

> it's way of affecting my memory.

>

> I helped Jami take a shower because she couldn't use her arm..I bent over

> a

> little bit to reach her and I could not straighten back up, sew not

> wanting

> her to know this, I picked up the towels and stayed bent over until I

> could

> get out of her site and hold the walls to find a place to sit down.

>

> I cry, just cry,,,by myself...no matter what I am doing the tears just

> flow. My world has stopped. I am so happy for the state of mind she is in

> and I don't want to do or say anything that will change that for her.

>

> I don't know what to do...I don't know how to get a grip on this...

>

> Thanks for listening...

>

> Dramaw

>

> O

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks to all of you for your kind words of wisdon. It is true Jami does

not want to see me in pain and she does worry about me. I don't want her to

do that. There is no one else around to help..Her husband works nights and

is home on the weekends...Jami has a 16 year old son who is very helpful

with what he can do and she also has a 3 yr old daughter. I keep her most

of the time right now. We have no family in this town and my other 2

children live 2 1/2 hours away...

I do take pain and depression medication but it doesn't seem to be

working...LOL I have put a call into my doctor..This is so totally not

me,,,not being on top of things...I am so different than I was 4 years

ago,,it doesn't seem like me...

I do have a question. Is it necessary at this point to get a second opinion

on tx? Chemo is suppose to start December 26. The surgeon told Jami he

would personally set her up with the doc of her choosing if she would let

him know who she wanted to see, but in no way could she delay the start of

Chemo. So I am wondering since she has already had the 2 surgeries, is a

second opinion for tx necessary?

Is there more than one type of Chemo tx?

Dramaw

>

> You need to go to the dr and get something for your depression. You are

> running yourself down more trying to put on a good front when the kids call

> etc. Its OK to cry and be upset. You have to take care of YOU. Is there

> anyone else that can help Jami? I am sure if she knew what happened in the

> bathroom she wouldn't want you there in such pain. I will keep you both in

> my prayers.

> Hugs

> nne

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> Re: Re:Thanks for letting me join your group

>

> Thanks to all of you for the warm welcome. I really didn't want all my

> postings to be about me,,,but it seems like they are turning into that. I

> just am not doing well with this...I am sinking into a deep depression and

> am fighting that with everything in me.

>

> I suffer from Fibro, which I have daily constant pain from throughout my

> body, no matter what meds the docs put me on, the pain does not go away. I

> can't remember a pain free day. Anyhoo, I try to keep this away from my

> kids. I try not to let them see the pain. I am very upbeat when they call,

> although sometimes I feel like throwing the phone...I have always taken

> care

> of everything for my family,,and I mean everything and now with this

> condition/disease whatever it's classified as, I can no longer do that.

> For

> me that's hard. I had to give up my job 3 years ago due to the pain and

> it's way of affecting my memory.

>

> I helped Jami take a shower because she couldn't use her arm..I bent over

> a

> little bit to reach her and I could not straighten back up, sew not

> wanting

> her to know this, I picked up the towels and stayed bent over until I

> could

> get out of her site and hold the walls to find a place to sit down.

>

> I cry, just cry,,,by myself...no matter what I am doing the tears just

> flow. My world has stopped. I am so happy for the state of mind she is in

> and I don't want to do or say anything that will change that for her.

>

> I don't know what to do...I don't know how to get a grip on this...

>

> Thanks for listening...

>

> Dramaw

>

> O

>

>

[Guest guest]

Now it is your turn! Now it is all about you! That does not make you

weak it makes you human. See your doctor, ask him for the name of a

psychologist. You cannot do this alone. Let your children know what

is going on. Mine would have been very put out, with me, if I hadn't

allowed them to help. It made them feel useful and needed, which they

were and are. You are the top priority right now. Take care.

Ruth

>

> Thanks to all of you for the warm welcome. I really didn't want all my

> postings to be about me,,,but it seems like they are turning into

that. I

> just am not doing well with this...I am sinking into a deep

depression and

> am fighting that with everything in me.

>

> I suffer from Fibro, which I have daily constant pain from throughout my

> body, no matter what meds the docs put me on, the pain does not go

away. I

> can't remember a pain free day. Anyhoo, I try to keep this away from my

> kids. I try not to let them see the pain. I am very upbeat when

they call,

> although sometimes I feel like throwing the phone...I have always

taken care

> of everything for my family,,and I mean everything and now with this

> condition/disease whatever it's classified as, I can no longer do

that. For

> me that's hard. I had to give up my job 3 years ago due to the pain and

> it's way of affecting my memory.

>

> I helped Jami take a shower because she couldn't use her arm..I bent

over a

> little bit to reach her and I could not straighten back up, sew not

wanting

> her to know this, I picked up the towels and stayed bent over until

I could

> get out of her site and hold the walls to find a place to sit down.

>

> I cry, just cry,,,by myself...no matter what I am doing the tears just

> flow. My world has stopped. I am so happy for the state of mind

she is in

> and I don't want to do or say anything that will change that for her.

>

> I don't know what to do...I don't know how to get a grip on this...

>

> Thanks for listening...

>

> Dramaw

>

> O

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

hi linda,

good news about the pet scan and yeah i cannot recall the last time i slept

all night ugh, i know what you mean about being a beached whale, i have many

weeks i am on my back and cannot move also i do not have support of any type so

therefore always life is a struggle.

I had in the yr 2005 a r/kidney removed, then this yr my lumpectomy and rads

yet somehow we get through, sure the added health made things worse with the f/m

and some times it can be very hard, the last thing i do is try not to cry too

much as this really puts me in a flare-----wow the deep breathing is a blessing

calms my body right down.

from one beached whale to another take care and you will get there in the end,

i am now thinking about starting a little walking as my legs are like jelly.

wrote:

Hi Sandy,

It is so hard for me to put myself first,,it really is...I am suppose to be

on bed rest because of my ankle. They have it in a cast boot and I am

walking with a cane but the doc says the only way it will get better is bed

rest. I can't do that. The pain from Fibro is so bad a times that my DH

helps me to the shower and turns the hot water on...I take so much

medication including for depression but right now nothing is working...

You are right about the music, I have been turning that on at night real low

and it really seems to help me relax and get a little sleep. I tend to

sleep in short intervals due to the pain. I feel like a beached whale

flipping and flopping in the bed...Plus I have gained sew much weight due to

the inability to exercise...talk about depression...

We did get good news today though,,the petscan showed that the " C " was

localized to the breast and not anywhere else in the body...I am so thankful

for that...

I would like to just get away for a couple of days,,,not to run from

problems but just to re-group, but I feel like that would be selfish of me

so have to think more on it...

Thanks for your words of encouragement..Seems like no one understands Fibro

except a sufferer of it...Plus it sounds like you have a double whammy...I

am so sorry about that...I will keep you in my prayers.

Dramaw

>

> hi linda and welcome.

>

> i am a newbie here to this fine group my name is sandy and i also suffer

> from fibro and yes it can be a curse, i have not been able to work for 10yrs

> due to this condtion and like you i have not found any meds that seem to

> help.

> One thing i have learnt i have to pace myslef to cope with the f/m and

> when we get extra stress on us because of cancer it is so easy to get into

> what i call a flare up and this can make things worse.

>

> I found at the momment i had to put myslef first to get through my cancer

> problems and just having to do rads every day burnt me out so tired as we

> get chronic fatigue also.

>

> One thing i have found that helps is medition i put my fav music on relax

> and think of myself in a raft, just driting in the sea, no pain , warm sun,

> i put into my mind a place where i would love to be. we do get depressed a

> lot as it had changed our life so much .. but on my down days i tell myself

> it will pass and it usually does, i cannot take anti depressants maybe they

> would help you short term i am not sure???

> hope in time u can get by, like we all say one day at a time, tc sandy

>

>

>

>

> > wrote:

> Thanks to all of you for the warm welcome. I really didn't want all my

> postings to be about me,,,but it seems like they are turning into that. I

> just am not doing well with this...I am sinking into a deep depression and

> am fighting that with everything in me.

>

> I suffer from Fibro, which I have daily constant pain from throughout my

> body, no matter what meds the docs put me on, the pain does not go away. I

> can't remember a pain free day. Anyhoo, I try to keep this away from my

> kids. I try not to let them see the pain. I am very upbeat when they call,

> although sometimes I feel like throwing the phone...I have always taken

> care

> of everything for my family,,and I mean everything and now with this

> condition/disease whatever it's classified as, I can no longer do that.

> For

> me that's hard. I had to give up my job 3 years ago due to the pain and

> it's way of affecting my memory.

>

> I helped Jami take a shower because she couldn't use her arm..I bent over

> a

> little bit to reach her and I could not straighten back up, sew not

> wanting

> her to know this, I picked up the towels and stayed bent over until I

> could

> get out of her site and hold the walls to find a place to sit down.

>

> I cry, just cry,,,by myself...no matter what I am doing the tears just

> flow. My world has stopped. I am so happy for the state of mind she is in

> and I don't want to do or say anything that will change that for her.

>

> I don't know what to do...I don't know how to get a grip on this...

>

> Thanks for listening...

>

> Dramaw

>

> O

>

>

[Guest guest]

hi linda,

good news about the pet scan and yeah i cannot recall the last time i slept

all night ugh, i know what you mean about being a beached whale, i have many

weeks i am on my back and cannot move also i do not have support of any type so

therefore always life is a struggle.

I had in the yr 2005 a r/kidney removed, then this yr my lumpectomy and rads

yet somehow we get through, sure the added health made things worse with the f/m

and some times it can be very hard, the last thing i do is try not to cry too

much as this really puts me in a flare-----wow the deep breathing is a blessing

calms my body right down.

from one beached whale to another take care and you will get there in the end,

i am now thinking about starting a little walking as my legs are like jelly.

wrote:

Hi Sandy,

It is so hard for me to put myself first,,it really is...I am suppose to be

on bed rest because of my ankle. They have it in a cast boot and I am

walking with a cane but the doc says the only way it will get better is bed

rest. I can't do that. The pain from Fibro is so bad a times that my DH

helps me to the shower and turns the hot water on...I take so much

medication including for depression but right now nothing is working...

You are right about the music, I have been turning that on at night real low

and it really seems to help me relax and get a little sleep. I tend to

sleep in short intervals due to the pain. I feel like a beached whale

flipping and flopping in the bed...Plus I have gained sew much weight due to

the inability to exercise...talk about depression...

We did get good news today though,,the petscan showed that the " C " was

localized to the breast and not anywhere else in the body...I am so thankful

for that...

I would like to just get away for a couple of days,,,not to run from

problems but just to re-group, but I feel like that would be selfish of me

so have to think more on it...

Thanks for your words of encouragement..Seems like no one understands Fibro

except a sufferer of it...Plus it sounds like you have a double whammy...I

am so sorry about that...I will keep you in my prayers.

Dramaw

>

> hi linda and welcome.

>

> i am a newbie here to this fine group my name is sandy and i also suffer

> from fibro and yes it can be a curse, i have not been able to work for 10yrs

> due to this condtion and like you i have not found any meds that seem to

> help.

> One thing i have learnt i have to pace myslef to cope with the f/m and

> when we get extra stress on us because of cancer it is so easy to get into

> what i call a flare up and this can make things worse.

>

> I found at the momment i had to put myslef first to get through my cancer

> problems and just having to do rads every day burnt me out so tired as we

> get chronic fatigue also.

>

> One thing i have found that helps is medition i put my fav music on relax

> and think of myself in a raft, just driting in the sea, no pain , warm sun,

> i put into my mind a place where i would love to be. we do get depressed a

> lot as it had changed our life so much .. but on my down days i tell myself

> it will pass and it usually does, i cannot take anti depressants maybe they

> would help you short term i am not sure???

> hope in time u can get by, like we all say one day at a time, tc sandy

>

>

>

>

> > wrote:

> Thanks to all of you for the warm welcome. I really didn't want all my

> postings to be about me,,,but it seems like they are turning into that. I

> just am not doing well with this...I am sinking into a deep depression and

> am fighting that with everything in me.

>

> I suffer from Fibro, which I have daily constant pain from throughout my

> body, no matter what meds the docs put me on, the pain does not go away. I

> can't remember a pain free day. Anyhoo, I try to keep this away from my

> kids. I try not to let them see the pain. I am very upbeat when they call,

> although sometimes I feel like throwing the phone...I have always taken

> care

> of everything for my family,,and I mean everything and now with this

> condition/disease whatever it's classified as, I can no longer do that.

> For

> me that's hard. I had to give up my job 3 years ago due to the pain and

> it's way of affecting my memory.

>

> I helped Jami take a shower because she couldn't use her arm..I bent over

> a

> little bit to reach her and I could not straighten back up, sew not

> wanting

> her to know this, I picked up the towels and stayed bent over until I

> could

> get out of her site and hold the walls to find a place to sit down.

>

> I cry, just cry,,,by myself...no matter what I am doing the tears just

> flow. My world has stopped. I am so happy for the state of mind she is in

> and I don't want to do or say anything that will change that for her.

>

> I don't know what to do...I don't know how to get a grip on this...

>

> Thanks for listening...

>

> Dramaw

>

> O

>

>