Guest guest Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 , What an absolutely a heart breaking day! And I empathize with you completely! You should know that you're not alone in this and you can make it better. Our son, Ian, had a teacher who told him he would be lucky if he ever managed to graduate high school ... and like you, my heart broke that day. But after you're done with the tears and feeling like you lied to your son (you didn't), you need to get mad and do something about it. You need to send a letter to the principal and the head of the IEP team telling them about the incident. The general rule when dealing with the schools is that unless the complaint is put on paper, they can twist it around since it's just talking over the phone. Once it's on paper it becomes more official. The fact that your child has an IEP and usually has special testing circumstances makes that teacher's behavior unpardonable. Since your child has probably been in this class all year, there is no excuse for the teacher handling things this way. My husband is a teacher and he has torn up plenty of papers for children who have been caught cheating ... but this is a very different thing. In your letter you need to be as factual as you can ... no emotions or venting -- you can do that right here on Listen-Up. You tell about the incident and how his standard testing procedures were not followed. You then ask for a new EIP meeting so that you can address the shortcomings in the IEP and get those testing modifications included. The plan is not working if the testing modifications are not listed and followed. I know that today all you want to do is cry. But make a plan that tomorrow you'll write a letter about it. If you want you can email your letter to me off-list and I'll help you make sure it's not too emotional. You can make this better for him, and in my opinion, that teacher owes your son an apology in front of the entire class. hugs -- Jill Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 , What an absolutely a heart breaking day! And I empathize with you completely! You should know that you're not alone in this and you can make it better. Our son, Ian, had a teacher who told him he would be lucky if he ever managed to graduate high school ... and like you, my heart broke that day. But after you're done with the tears and feeling like you lied to your son (you didn't), you need to get mad and do something about it. You need to send a letter to the principal and the head of the IEP team telling them about the incident. The general rule when dealing with the schools is that unless the complaint is put on paper, they can twist it around since it's just talking over the phone. Once it's on paper it becomes more official. The fact that your child has an IEP and usually has special testing circumstances makes that teacher's behavior unpardonable. Since your child has probably been in this class all year, there is no excuse for the teacher handling things this way. My husband is a teacher and he has torn up plenty of papers for children who have been caught cheating ... but this is a very different thing. In your letter you need to be as factual as you can ... no emotions or venting -- you can do that right here on Listen-Up. You tell about the incident and how his standard testing procedures were not followed. You then ask for a new EIP meeting so that you can address the shortcomings in the IEP and get those testing modifications included. The plan is not working if the testing modifications are not listed and followed. I know that today all you want to do is cry. But make a plan that tomorrow you'll write a letter about it. If you want you can email your letter to me off-list and I'll help you make sure it's not too emotional. You can make this better for him, and in my opinion, that teacher owes your son an apology in front of the entire class. hugs -- Jill Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 , What an absolutely a heart breaking day! And I empathize with you completely! You should know that you're not alone in this and you can make it better. Our son, Ian, had a teacher who told him he would be lucky if he ever managed to graduate high school ... and like you, my heart broke that day. But after you're done with the tears and feeling like you lied to your son (you didn't), you need to get mad and do something about it. You need to send a letter to the principal and the head of the IEP team telling them about the incident. The general rule when dealing with the schools is that unless the complaint is put on paper, they can twist it around since it's just talking over the phone. Once it's on paper it becomes more official. The fact that your child has an IEP and usually has special testing circumstances makes that teacher's behavior unpardonable. Since your child has probably been in this class all year, there is no excuse for the teacher handling things this way. My husband is a teacher and he has torn up plenty of papers for children who have been caught cheating ... but this is a very different thing. In your letter you need to be as factual as you can ... no emotions or venting -- you can do that right here on Listen-Up. You tell about the incident and how his standard testing procedures were not followed. You then ask for a new EIP meeting so that you can address the shortcomings in the IEP and get those testing modifications included. The plan is not working if the testing modifications are not listed and followed. I know that today all you want to do is cry. But make a plan that tomorrow you'll write a letter about it. If you want you can email your letter to me off-list and I'll help you make sure it's not too emotional. You can make this better for him, and in my opinion, that teacher owes your son an apology in front of the entire class. hugs -- Jill Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 Hi - first, big hugs to you. That's just awful - so embarassing for your child and SO, so wrong of that teacher! It makes me angry just reading it... Have you talked with your son's special ed teacher about this? What does his teacher say? Barbara ginaatbeach wrote: > Hi ,, > > Myt name is ...I do not usually post but do read all > your messages.......Today is an exceptionally sad day and as a > mother my heart is broken.....If I may tell what happened.... > > First my child is hearing imparied and central auditory > processing,specific learnind disability.... > When he takes a test he usally is seperated from the class..He needs to > say the word or answers out loud then fill them in on the test.... > Usually this method is successful... > Last Fri....was different, my child had taken his spelling test with > the regular class he was not seperated as it is not IEP'd.... He like > normal said the words out loud even spelling the words .....The teacher > told him to get up rip his paper up throw it in the garbage > she told him it was garbage and that he did not deserve anything.... > > > I cannot write any more my heart is broken for my child.. > I lied to him and told him school is a safe place...and it is not... > > the superintenint you cannot get thru to... > the principal tried to smooth things over..... > > they are trying to cover up.... > > > i do not know what to do. > ..... > > I am sorry for venting .....I prayed so heard for a miracle that they > would stop harrassing my child......thank you for listening.... > > > gina > > > > > > > All messages posted to this list are private and confidential. Each post is the intellectual property of the author and therefore subject to copyright restrictions. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 Hi - first, big hugs to you. That's just awful - so embarassing for your child and SO, so wrong of that teacher! It makes me angry just reading it... Have you talked with your son's special ed teacher about this? What does his teacher say? Barbara ginaatbeach wrote: > Hi ,, > > Myt name is ...I do not usually post but do read all > your messages.......Today is an exceptionally sad day and as a > mother my heart is broken.....If I may tell what happened.... > > First my child is hearing imparied and central auditory > processing,specific learnind disability.... > When he takes a test he usally is seperated from the class..He needs to > say the word or answers out loud then fill them in on the test.... > Usually this method is successful... > Last Fri....was different, my child had taken his spelling test with > the regular class he was not seperated as it is not IEP'd.... He like > normal said the words out loud even spelling the words .....The teacher > told him to get up rip his paper up throw it in the garbage > she told him it was garbage and that he did not deserve anything.... > > > I cannot write any more my heart is broken for my child.. > I lied to him and told him school is a safe place...and it is not... > > the superintenint you cannot get thru to... > the principal tried to smooth things over..... > > they are trying to cover up.... > > > i do not know what to do. > ..... > > I am sorry for venting .....I prayed so heard for a miracle that they > would stop harrassing my child......thank you for listening.... > > > gina > > > > > > > All messages posted to this list are private and confidential. Each post is the intellectual property of the author and therefore subject to copyright restrictions. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 In a message dated 4/5/2006 12:24:36 P.M. Central Standard Time, gina_hly@... writes: He like normal said the words out loud even spelling the words .....The teacher told him to get up rip his paper up throw it in the garbage she told him it was garbage and that he did not deserve anything.... , How heartbreaking! I have had my share of teachers that were not very accommodating while growing up. I can remember leaving a few classrooms in tears. What this teacher did is awful and it is not right for her to be saying things like that. You will want to document this with a letter, leave a paper trail. Find out who the person is on your state board of education that oversees services for deaf and hard of hearing students and send them a letter as well. This teacher and the principal owe you an apology... Putz Illinois Families for Hands & Voices _www.handsandvoices.org_ (http://www.handsandvoices.org/) _www.ilhandsandvoices.org_ (http://www.ilhandsandvoices.org/) Email: support@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 HI Barbara,, Yes I called the teacher ans she at first denied it...2 hours later she called me back to tell me she knows what I am talking about.... She thought he was cheating on the test and in fact that is the way he tests on any other given day.... I told her how aweful it was and how upset he is... she said she is sorry I feel that way.... I told her to stop questioning my son.. I hung up on her...... she went into the classroom and asked him What did you tell your mother???? I am outraged .....I feel a call to the board of education is clearly necessary..... I do not know what elce to do..... gina Barbara Mellert wrote: Hi - first, big hugs to you. That's just awful - so embarassing for your child and SO, so wrong of that teacher! It makes me angry just reading it... Have you talked with your son's special ed teacher about this? What does his teacher say? Barbara > > > gina > > > > > > > All messages posted to this list are private and confidential. Each post is the intellectual property of the author and therefore subject to copyright restrictions. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 HI Barbara,, Yes I called the teacher ans she at first denied it...2 hours later she called me back to tell me she knows what I am talking about.... She thought he was cheating on the test and in fact that is the way he tests on any other given day.... I told her how aweful it was and how upset he is... she said she is sorry I feel that way.... I told her to stop questioning my son.. I hung up on her...... she went into the classroom and asked him What did you tell your mother???? I am outraged .....I feel a call to the board of education is clearly necessary..... I do not know what elce to do..... gina Barbara Mellert wrote: Hi - first, big hugs to you. That's just awful - so embarassing for your child and SO, so wrong of that teacher! It makes me angry just reading it... Have you talked with your son's special ed teacher about this? What does his teacher say? Barbara > > > gina > > > > > > > All messages posted to this list are private and confidential. Each post is the intellectual property of the author and therefore subject to copyright restrictions. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 Jill, You are so right on. Have you considered becoming a professional advocate after Ian flees the nest??? You would be soo good at it. Tracey > > , > > What an absolutely a heart breaking day! And I empathize with you > completely! You should know that you're not alone in this and you can make it better. > Our son, Ian, had a teacher who told him he would be lucky if he ever managed > to graduate high school ... and like you, my heart broke that day. > > But after you're done with the tears and feeling like you lied to your son > (you didn't), you need to get mad and do something about it. > > You need to send a letter to the principal and the head of the IEP team > telling them about the incident. The general rule when dealing with the schools > is that unless the complaint is put on paper, they can twist it around since > it's just talking over the phone. Once it's on paper it becomes more official. > The fact that your child has an IEP and usually has special testing > circumstances makes that teacher's behavior unpardonable. Since your child has > probably been in this class all year, there is no excuse for the teacher handling > things this way. My husband is a teacher and he has torn up plenty of papers > for children who have been caught cheating ... but this is a very different > thing. > > In your letter you need to be as factual as you can ... no emotions or > venting -- you can do that right here on Listen-Up. You tell about the incident > and how his standard testing procedures were not followed. You then ask for a > new EIP meeting so that you can address the shortcomings in the IEP and get > those testing modifications included. The plan is not working if the testing > modifications are not listed and followed. > > I know that today all you want to do is cry. But make a plan that tomorrow > you'll write a letter about it. If you want you can email your letter to me > off-list and I'll help you make sure it's not too emotional. > > You can make this better for him, and in my opinion, that teacher owes your > son an apology in front of the entire class. > > hugs -- Jill > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 Jill, You are so right on. Have you considered becoming a professional advocate after Ian flees the nest??? You would be soo good at it. Tracey > > , > > What an absolutely a heart breaking day! And I empathize with you > completely! You should know that you're not alone in this and you can make it better. > Our son, Ian, had a teacher who told him he would be lucky if he ever managed > to graduate high school ... and like you, my heart broke that day. > > But after you're done with the tears and feeling like you lied to your son > (you didn't), you need to get mad and do something about it. > > You need to send a letter to the principal and the head of the IEP team > telling them about the incident. The general rule when dealing with the schools > is that unless the complaint is put on paper, they can twist it around since > it's just talking over the phone. Once it's on paper it becomes more official. > The fact that your child has an IEP and usually has special testing > circumstances makes that teacher's behavior unpardonable. Since your child has > probably been in this class all year, there is no excuse for the teacher handling > things this way. My husband is a teacher and he has torn up plenty of papers > for children who have been caught cheating ... but this is a very different > thing. > > In your letter you need to be as factual as you can ... no emotions or > venting -- you can do that right here on Listen-Up. You tell about the incident > and how his standard testing procedures were not followed. You then ask for a > new EIP meeting so that you can address the shortcomings in the IEP and get > those testing modifications included. The plan is not working if the testing > modifications are not listed and followed. > > I know that today all you want to do is cry. But make a plan that tomorrow > you'll write a letter about it. If you want you can email your letter to me > off-list and I'll help you make sure it's not too emotional. > > You can make this better for him, and in my opinion, that teacher owes your > son an apology in front of the entire class. > > hugs -- Jill > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 Jill, You are so right on. Have you considered becoming a professional advocate after Ian flees the nest??? You would be soo good at it. Tracey > > , > > What an absolutely a heart breaking day! And I empathize with you > completely! You should know that you're not alone in this and you can make it better. > Our son, Ian, had a teacher who told him he would be lucky if he ever managed > to graduate high school ... and like you, my heart broke that day. > > But after you're done with the tears and feeling like you lied to your son > (you didn't), you need to get mad and do something about it. > > You need to send a letter to the principal and the head of the IEP team > telling them about the incident. The general rule when dealing with the schools > is that unless the complaint is put on paper, they can twist it around since > it's just talking over the phone. Once it's on paper it becomes more official. > The fact that your child has an IEP and usually has special testing > circumstances makes that teacher's behavior unpardonable. Since your child has > probably been in this class all year, there is no excuse for the teacher handling > things this way. My husband is a teacher and he has torn up plenty of papers > for children who have been caught cheating ... but this is a very different > thing. > > In your letter you need to be as factual as you can ... no emotions or > venting -- you can do that right here on Listen-Up. You tell about the incident > and how his standard testing procedures were not followed. You then ask for a > new EIP meeting so that you can address the shortcomings in the IEP and get > those testing modifications included. The plan is not working if the testing > modifications are not listed and followed. > > I know that today all you want to do is cry. But make a plan that tomorrow > you'll write a letter about it. If you want you can email your letter to me > off-list and I'll help you make sure it's not too emotional. > > You can make this better for him, and in my opinion, that teacher owes your > son an apology in front of the entire class. > > hugs -- Jill > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2006 Report Share Posted April 5, 2006 that is insane! My son's teacher only wants to tell me the things that my son is doing poorly in which only happens to be math...but his report card reflects excellence in that. almost making it seem like he is an idiot because he is not " getting " the math!!! well hello,he couldnt hear you and any other teacher for that matter...soo...really...but i am one of those parents like most of you that feel as though you know what, you wont help and you are going to make this hard...well we are going to fix this and ha! to you!!! some teachers, espeically in general ed think are soo not equipped to handle these matters. that probably can be attributed to the training and the lack of teachers period. there is such a shortage of good ones and ones that really care about the students in general. it makes me sad...that is why i am going into teaching...i want to do something about those that are not thought of and often left behind when they are perfectly capable...the teachers just aren't!!! it makes me sick!!! sick to my stomach!!! well there is my rant for the day everyone!!! Parentsofdeafhoh@... wrote: In a message dated 4/5/2006 12:24:36 P.M. Central Standard Time, gina_hly@... writes: He like normal said the words out loud even spelling the words .....The teacher told him to get up rip his paper up throw it in the garbage she told him it was garbage and that he did not deserve anything.... , How heartbreaking! I have had my share of teachers that were not very accommodating while growing up. I can remember leaving a few classrooms in tears. What this teacher did is awful and it is not right for her to be saying things like that. You will want to document this with a letter, leave a paper trail. Find out who the person is on your state board of education that oversees services for deaf and hard of hearing students and send them a letter as well. This teacher and the principal owe you an apology... Putz Illinois Families for Hands & Voices _www.handsandvoices.org_ (http://www.handsandvoices.org/) _www.ilhandsandvoices.org_ (http://www.ilhandsandvoices.org/) Email: support@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2006 Report Share Posted April 7, 2006 Does your son have an Individualized Education Plan (IEP)? If not you need to talk to the director of special ed and get something in place so your child has the right services - and right teacher - to meet his needs. You want to do this now since soon it will be June . Are these behaviors or is she grading his disability??Each and everytime he recieved a behavior sheet it was negitive....yet he got straight s' on report card......I have to look up what " reckless endangerment is " I believe his cival rights have been violated.... > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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