Re: Re: Nilsa !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! POST AND REPLIES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Guest guest]

A little OT ,here, but I once belonged to a list that was soooooooo

clique-y, that they would rarely, if ever, reply to anyone else. (An

X-Files list that turned into a DD worship list, at which point I bowed

out.) From this exclusion, another girl and I developed a very close

email friendship, and have been communicating for 2 years now. She is a

brilliantly talented 20 yr old from Canada. We talk on the phone and

exchange bday and Christmas gifts and we plan to visit in person some

day. So, out of the list snobbery came a wonderful friendship.

Okay, back on topic, Nilsa, I feel you were justified from what I can

ascertain from the story. But did she posts *lots* of things and never

get an answer? If not, I guess she's a bit insecure. I always try to

post to as many as I can because I get nervous that someone may feel left

out. I've replied to posts on many lists about things I wasn't

interested in, or know little about, just to make that person happy. Of

course I can't do it all the time, I do work and have some sort of

pseudo-life. LOL! I was the one who always picked the girl for a team

who I knew wouldn't get picked by anyone else, because it broke my heart

to see her standing there while the other kids said, " YOU take her. " No,

YOU take her. " It's happened to me, so I know the feeling. Of course,

if this woman was being an obnoxious brat, I wouldn't have replied!

Autumn

On Fri, 5 Sep 2003 13:11:49 -0800 Gena Grunwald

writes:

Nilsa,

I'm not sure I understand what you are asking but I can say this,

nothing you have said here is rude and when you reply to a post that

was to somebody else it is not " sticking your nose in " . All these Yahoo

groups are open to everyone. When a person posts anyone can read and

reply if they so desire. It is all totally voluntary and free. Here in

WLB I have always felt that there should be no obligation to post. Some

people like to just read for the info and may not need the feedback or

verbal support.

[Guest guest]

A little OT ,here, but I once belonged to a list that was soooooooo

clique-y, that they would rarely, if ever, reply to anyone else. (An

X-Files list that turned into a DD worship list, at which point I bowed

out.) From this exclusion, another girl and I developed a very close

email friendship, and have been communicating for 2 years now. She is a

brilliantly talented 20 yr old from Canada. We talk on the phone and

exchange bday and Christmas gifts and we plan to visit in person some

day. So, out of the list snobbery came a wonderful friendship.

Okay, back on topic, Nilsa, I feel you were justified from what I can

ascertain from the story. But did she posts *lots* of things and never

get an answer? If not, I guess she's a bit insecure. I always try to

post to as many as I can because I get nervous that someone may feel left

out. I've replied to posts on many lists about things I wasn't

interested in, or know little about, just to make that person happy. Of

course I can't do it all the time, I do work and have some sort of

pseudo-life. LOL! I was the one who always picked the girl for a team

who I knew wouldn't get picked by anyone else, because it broke my heart

to see her standing there while the other kids said, " YOU take her. " No,

YOU take her. " It's happened to me, so I know the feeling. Of course,

if this woman was being an obnoxious brat, I wouldn't have replied!

Autumn

On Fri, 5 Sep 2003 13:11:49 -0800 Gena Grunwald

writes:

Nilsa,

I'm not sure I understand what you are asking but I can say this,

nothing you have said here is rude and when you reply to a post that

was to somebody else it is not " sticking your nose in " . All these Yahoo

groups are open to everyone. When a person posts anyone can read and

reply if they so desire. It is all totally voluntary and free. Here in

WLB I have always felt that there should be no obligation to post. Some

people like to just read for the info and may not need the feedback or

verbal support.

[Guest guest]

A little OT ,here, but I once belonged to a list that was soooooooo

clique-y, that they would rarely, if ever, reply to anyone else. (An

X-Files list that turned into a DD worship list, at which point I bowed

out.) From this exclusion, another girl and I developed a very close

email friendship, and have been communicating for 2 years now. She is a

brilliantly talented 20 yr old from Canada. We talk on the phone and

exchange bday and Christmas gifts and we plan to visit in person some

day. So, out of the list snobbery came a wonderful friendship.

Okay, back on topic, Nilsa, I feel you were justified from what I can

ascertain from the story. But did she posts *lots* of things and never

get an answer? If not, I guess she's a bit insecure. I always try to

post to as many as I can because I get nervous that someone may feel left

out. I've replied to posts on many lists about things I wasn't

interested in, or know little about, just to make that person happy. Of

course I can't do it all the time, I do work and have some sort of

pseudo-life. LOL! I was the one who always picked the girl for a team

who I knew wouldn't get picked by anyone else, because it broke my heart

to see her standing there while the other kids said, " YOU take her. " No,

YOU take her. " It's happened to me, so I know the feeling. Of course,

if this woman was being an obnoxious brat, I wouldn't have replied!

Autumn

On Fri, 5 Sep 2003 13:11:49 -0800 Gena Grunwald

writes:

Nilsa,

I'm not sure I understand what you are asking but I can say this,

nothing you have said here is rude and when you reply to a post that

was to somebody else it is not " sticking your nose in " . All these Yahoo

groups are open to everyone. When a person posts anyone can read and

reply if they so desire. It is all totally voluntary and free. Here in

WLB I have always felt that there should be no obligation to post. Some

people like to just read for the info and may not need the feedback or

verbal support.