Guest guest Posted May 20, 2001 Report Share Posted May 20, 2001 > What about those names you didn`t use, i.e. the boys's names you had > prepared, when the baby turned out to be a girl, or vice versa? A baby girl in this house would have been called Catriona - we kept that decision for nearly 10 years without changing our minds! I would have been called (my younger brother's name) if I had been a boy, my sister would have been Barry. Another name thing - what about babies that you have lost in pregnancy. We lost our first baby, a boy, at 20 weeks and thought long and hard about giving him a name but decided not to in the end. If he had been born when expected, he was to be called but we decided we didn't want to use this name as we wanted it to be there as a tangible hope that there would be a healthy baby in the future (sounds daft, doesn't it). On the other hand, we felt it was disrespectful to him to give him a " second-best " name, so he was, and always will be, " Baby Garland " . All the rest of the boys have been named as soon as they were born so that they never had Baby Garland written on their cot tag. Lynda SAHM to (8), (5), Fraser (3), Callum (15/5/00) Newsletter editor, Mid-Northumberland Branch Area Rep, Region 7 www.familygarland.co.uk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 2001 Report Share Posted May 20, 2001 > What about those names you didn`t use, i.e. the boys's names you had > prepared, when the baby turned out to be a girl, or vice versa? A baby girl in this house would have been called Catriona - we kept that decision for nearly 10 years without changing our minds! I would have been called (my younger brother's name) if I had been a boy, my sister would have been Barry. Another name thing - what about babies that you have lost in pregnancy. We lost our first baby, a boy, at 20 weeks and thought long and hard about giving him a name but decided not to in the end. If he had been born when expected, he was to be called but we decided we didn't want to use this name as we wanted it to be there as a tangible hope that there would be a healthy baby in the future (sounds daft, doesn't it). On the other hand, we felt it was disrespectful to him to give him a " second-best " name, so he was, and always will be, " Baby Garland " . All the rest of the boys have been named as soon as they were born so that they never had Baby Garland written on their cot tag. Lynda SAHM to (8), (5), Fraser (3), Callum (15/5/00) Newsletter editor, Mid-Northumberland Branch Area Rep, Region 7 www.familygarland.co.uk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 2001 Report Share Posted May 20, 2001 > What about those names you didn`t use, i.e. the boys's names you had > prepared, when the baby turned out to be a girl, or vice versa? A baby girl in this house would have been called Catriona - we kept that decision for nearly 10 years without changing our minds! I would have been called (my younger brother's name) if I had been a boy, my sister would have been Barry. Another name thing - what about babies that you have lost in pregnancy. We lost our first baby, a boy, at 20 weeks and thought long and hard about giving him a name but decided not to in the end. If he had been born when expected, he was to be called but we decided we didn't want to use this name as we wanted it to be there as a tangible hope that there would be a healthy baby in the future (sounds daft, doesn't it). On the other hand, we felt it was disrespectful to him to give him a " second-best " name, so he was, and always will be, " Baby Garland " . All the rest of the boys have been named as soon as they were born so that they never had Baby Garland written on their cot tag. Lynda SAHM to (8), (5), Fraser (3), Callum (15/5/00) Newsletter editor, Mid-Northumberland Branch Area Rep, Region 7 www.familygarland.co.uk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 2001 Report Share Posted May 20, 2001 Interesting comment, . I knew someone expecting a baby who was adamant that if a boy, he would be called , after her beloved brother. After the baby was born I was slightly surprised to hear that he had been named , instead. Then, tragically, at about 9 weeks, was found dead in his cot. Three or four years later she had another little boy, this time named , after her brother. I've wondered ever since whether somehow she 'knew' her first son wasn't going to make it. seemed 'other worldly' to me, on the couple of occasions I saw him. He somehow didn't respond as other babies did and looked an unbabyish colour, although no problems were detected at birth or at a PM. So sad, especially when I remember that would be nearly 20, now. Lesley ----------------- From: I do think I understand that name thing - in fact I used to have a feeling that 'less than perfect' living children got names they wouldn't have got had they been perfect :-( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 2001 Report Share Posted May 20, 2001 >> Another name thing - what about babies that you have lost in pregnancy > >I lost my first baby and always wanted a name. DH didn't. Privately I called > " her " Holly - >Sue >apologies if that has made anyone sad, it wasn't meant to I was the same with our first one... " She " is always to me...(not that I even knew the sex, but I dreamt about her) To Dh she is Boris as that was her " bump " (not that I had one!) name, G's Bump name was Bertie and S's was Basil Angi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 2001 Report Share Posted May 20, 2001 Phoebe would have been Maximillian had she been a boy Eloisa well.. We had agreed on either Harold (Harry) or but about 3 weeks before I went off Harold and dh went of so we had NO boy's name. In fact my mw was suggesting boy's names for us while I was in labour. I think she would probably had been as that was the only one we both said Yesss that is quuiiite nice to .... Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 2001 Report Share Posted May 20, 2001 We never did give the baby we lost through m/c a name I just think upon her (always thought it was a girl) as my angel. I planted a rose bush in the garden to remember her by though, and on the Morning Eloisa was born (Jan 6th) it had one single pink rose blossom made me feel like my angel was telling me everything was ok and she was watching over us.. Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 2001 Report Share Posted May 20, 2001 > Phoebe would have been Maximillian had she been a boy Strange- one of my best friends has a Maxim (rather than Maximillian) and a Pheobe..and also (named after Walter ...my friend played Lucy Perks in The Archers) Caroline Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 2001 Report Share Posted May 20, 2001 caroline@... wrote: > -Strange- one of my best friends has a Maxim (rather than > Maximillian) and a Pheobe..and also (named after Walter > ...my friend played Lucy Perks in The Archers) > Wasn't Maxim the Christian name of Mr. DeWinter in (Daphne Du Maurier)? http://www.foxstitch.co.uk/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 2001 Report Share Posted May 20, 2001 < > I do find that a lot of people seem to like the same kind of names. Like I took Phoebe and Eloisa to this indoor play area and got talking to a mum when we realised that her youngest daughter was Phoebe to and her oldest daughter was Elisa (pretty close to Eloisa) Lonnie Mama to Phoebe and Eloisa The answer probably lies some place between chocolate and conversation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 Freya's twin has never had a name. In fact, through the remainder of that pregnancy, I hardly ever thought about him (no idea what gender the baby was but am sure I'd have had mixed twins!), as until we lost him, we had no idea I was pg, and after we knew I'd lost him it was such a relief to find a live baby on the scan that it wasn't until after she was born that it sunk in that she should have been a they. I had a brother, Tom, who was stillborn - placental abruption - and have always felt he was a presence in my life (I was 2 at the time). I hope in some ways that Freya will feel the same about her twin. Anyway, I've always fancied calling a son Tom as a mn, but DH doesn't like it! Vicki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 20/05/01 23:16:03, Dick D@...> wrote: > >Wasn't Maxim the Christian name of Mr. DeWinter in (Daphne Du >Maurier)? yes Angi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 20/05/01 23:16:03, Dick D@...> wrote: > >Wasn't Maxim the Christian name of Mr. DeWinter in (Daphne Du >Maurier)? yes Angi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 > Wasn't Maxim the Christian name of Mr. DeWinter in (Daphne Du > Maurier)? Yes - that's where she got it from (being an Actresssy sort of person!) Caroline Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 > Wasn't Maxim the Christian name of Mr. DeWinter in (Daphne Du > Maurier)? Yes - that's where she got it from (being an Actresssy sort of person!) Caroline Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 I love Maximillian but didn't even suggest it as a name as I had a crush on someone called Max as a teenager and all my friends would have laughed if I'd called my son after him ;-). Kieran could have been a Dominic but I only thought of it after we'd named him, and agreed he liked it as a name as well... maybe next time? Cerys -----Original Message----- From: Lonnie Phoebe would have been Maximillian had she been a boy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 I love Maximillian but didn't even suggest it as a name as I had a crush on someone called Max as a teenager and all my friends would have laughed if I'd called my son after him ;-). Kieran could have been a Dominic but I only thought of it after we'd named him, and agreed he liked it as a name as well... maybe next time? Cerys -----Original Message----- From: Lonnie Phoebe would have been Maximillian had she been a boy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 Of course 'Phoebe' will have been made popular because of TV show 'Friends'. There's also a 'Phoebe' in the TV show 'Charmed' - don't know if they show that in the UK (it's about 3 sisters who are good witches). I worked at a FE College at there were a lot of Lukes. Talking about it with a colleague we realised that it was 17/18 years (at the time) since the release of Star Wars. Janet Re: unused names > took Phoebe and Eloisa to this indoor play area and got talking to a mum > when we realised that her youngest daughter was Phoebe to and her oldest > daughter was Elisa (pretty close to Eloisa) > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 Carys was nearly a Tegan until I discovered there was a character in Home and Away called that and I didn't want people to think I'd named her after a soap character - particularly one I don't even watch!! I used to quite like until I watched Eastenders!! Lesley, Antenatal teacher, trainee breasteeding counsellor. Demented mother of 3. Worthing. " We are born naked, wet and hungry. Then things get worse " . Re: unused names > > > > took Phoebe and Eloisa to this indoor play area and got talking to a mum > > when we realised that her youngest daughter was Phoebe to and her oldest > > daughter was Elisa (pretty close to Eloisa) > > > > > > > *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** > > Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee > > Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 >I love Maximillian but didn't even suggest it as a name as I had a crush on >someone called Max as a teenager and all my friends would have laughed if >I'd called my son after him ;-). Oh you have to be brave to do that... I had a very public crush on someone called from the age of about 13 to 16. Thought long and hard about the implications of calling my son by that name, but at the end of the day, it was my favourite boy's name, and Rob's favourite name too. Anyway, those school friends that I am still in touch with have never even commented (to me anyway) about our choice of name. So keep Max on your list Cerys! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 >I love Maximillian but didn't even suggest it as a name as I had a crush on >someone called Max as a teenager and all my friends would have laughed if >I'd called my son after him ;-). I had it on relatively good authority that I am named after one of my dad's old girlfriends! He says that he just liked 'how the name fitted together'. I do have to admit though, I was a 'Graeme' until I was born My mum had heard of a new zealand jockey called 'Graeme Thorner' and was determined to call me that. She finally managed when my brother was born 7 years later. She really struggled for a name for my sister - she was an Elaine until my mum went to register her and changed her name then and there! My brother was going to be a 'Philip Thorn' until someone pointed out that he initials were 'PG T' and kids just love that sort of thing. He's now a ' Philip' but my mum insisted on calling him 'Philip' - that was until he was 14 when he decided to use . My kids call him 'Uncle Phil' although Phil was determined to be an 'Uncle Steve' but it just confused the issue. My eldest has 3 first names (and his surname can be a forename) and my second has 2 although I did want to add one later, but I can't think of one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 This is another reason why I'm glad Mia was a girl - if she had been a boy she would have been Jake and I would hate people to think my child had been named after a Tweenie! (even though she was born a couple of months before Tweenies started!) > Carys was nearly a Tegan until I discovered there was a character in > Home and Away called that and I didn't want people to think I'd named > her after a soap character - particularly one I don't even watch!! I > used to quite like until I watched Eastenders!! > > Lesley, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 > > > >I love Maximillian but didn't even suggest it as a name as I had a crush on > >someone called Max as a teenager and all my friends would have laughed if > >I'd called my son after him ;-). > > Oh you have to be brave to do that... I had a very public crush on someone > called from the age of about 13 to 16. But I had a very public crush on someone called ce when iI was 16 - he was the prettiest boy in the school! 8 years later (and many miles/relationships etc apart) we married each other! So i am happy to give Sam his middle name. Mind you I could never have a , , Tim....... Caroline Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 > > > >I love Maximillian but didn't even suggest it as a name as I had a crush on > >someone called Max as a teenager and all my friends would have laughed if > >I'd called my son after him ;-). > > Oh you have to be brave to do that... I had a very public crush on someone > called from the age of about 13 to 16. But I had a very public crush on someone called ce when iI was 16 - he was the prettiest boy in the school! 8 years later (and many miles/relationships etc apart) we married each other! So i am happy to give Sam his middle name. Mind you I could never have a , , Tim....... Caroline Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2001 Report Share Posted May 21, 2001 > > > >I love Maximillian but didn't even suggest it as a name as I had a crush on > >someone called Max as a teenager and all my friends would have laughed if > >I'd called my son after him ;-). > > Oh you have to be brave to do that... I had a very public crush on someone > called from the age of about 13 to 16. But I had a very public crush on someone called ce when iI was 16 - he was the prettiest boy in the school! 8 years later (and many miles/relationships etc apart) we married each other! So i am happy to give Sam his middle name. Mind you I could never have a , , Tim....... Caroline Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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